Communication

advertisement
Communication
Obstacles to effective
communication



Anxiety
Lack of suitable language
Ethnic group differences
Reasons for difficulty


Lack of role models
Lack of comfortable language


Clinical VS slang
Men & women have different communication
styles
How to get started



Talk about talking
Reading and discussing
Mutual empathy & understanding


Each partner cares for the other
Sharing sexual histories

Be careful
Communication techniques



Active listening
Paraphrasing
Giving permission


Reassure partner, encourage talk
Unconditional positive regard

“No matter what happened, I still love you”
Types of questions

Open ended questions


Closed ended questions


How are you feeling?
E.g. “Yes” or “no”
Be very specific when asking for what you
want
“I” statements vs “you”
statements

“I” statements


Express feelings without blaming the other person
“You” statements

Tend to be interpreted as attacks on the other
Validating

Indicating how reasonable the other person’s
position may be.
Criticism

Delivering criticism




Combine praise with criticism
Express anger appropriately
Nurture small steps toward change
Receiving criticism


Focus on the future changes both can make
Provides closure
Download