Integrated Communication Notes Chapter 11 The importance of communication in close relationships: ~Close relationships are distinguished by their frequency, intensity, and diversity of contact as well as their level of intimacy, importance and satisfaction. Close relationships and the individual: ~1/3 of first marriages end in divorce or separation within 10 years ~Attraction theory -three forces that draw people together to form relationships: Proximity, interpersonal attractions, and similarity -Proximity: the easier it is to interact with someone, the easier it is to develop and sustain a relationship -Attractivness: matching hypothesis (the tendency to develop relationships with people who are approximately as attractive as we are) -Similarity: The more similar=the more likely the attraction levels rise ~Social Penetration Theory -communication, self-disclosure is key to relationship development -Self-disclosure has three dimensions: Breadth, depth, and frequency -Breadth: number of different topics dyads willingly discuss. -Depth: how deep or personal communication exchanges are -Frequency: how often self-disclosure happens ~Uncertainty Reduction Theory -much of the interaction when we first meet someone is dedicated to reducing uncertainty and determining whatever we wish to interact with them again. ~Predicted Outcome Theory -an attempt to explain how reducing uncertainty can lead to attraction or repulsion -three primary dialectical tensions exist in relationships: Autonomy/connection, expressiveness/privacy, and change/predictability ~Stage models of relationship developments -Knapps stage model conceptualizes relationship development as a staircase. - up: initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, and bonding -down: differentiating, circumscribing, staging, avoiding, and termination -relational trajectory model: view relationship development as more variable that previously thought. ~Turning point model of relationship development -non linear model that best captures the fact that relationship development can be bidirectional (couples both move toward and away from commitment over the course of the relationship) Communicating in friendships and romantic relationships: ~When initiating a potential romantic/sexual relationship, women are typically more active than men; they use more eye contact, smiles, brief touches, and grooming behavior to signal interest and attraction.. ~Some scholars and journalists suggest that dating no longer exists. Traditional dating has been replaced by group dating, hook ups, friends with benefits, and celibacy. ~initiating a conversation is perhaps the most crucial communication skill in developing friendships -The idea is to ask questions that can’t be answered with a yes or no or with only brief responses ~in general studies of relationship maintenance indicate that specific communication patterns such as joking, spending time talking about one’s day, encouraging self-disclosure, and expressing commitment to the relationship may help couples. ~Relational maintenance: behaviors that couples perform that help maintain their relationships ~Two basic trajectories from ending romantic relationships as well as friendships are called sudden death and passing away. ~Termination of relationships: 1. Negative identity management, 2. De-escalation, 3. Justification ~ 5 factors that could end a friendship:lack of communication, rule breaking, deception, boredom, or other reasons ~relationship dissolvement stragegies: withdrawal/avoidance, Machiavellian tactics, positive tone, and openness ~Men are more likely to consider leaving the relationship and to become involved with other women in an attempt to repair their self-esteem; women are more likely to focus on repairing the relationship ~truth bias: the tendency to not suspect ones intimates deceptions ~sexual coercion: physically nonviolent pressure to engaged in unwanted sex ~marriages typically occur between people of similar religious backgrounds, age, economic status, weight, education, class, and appearance. Ethic and close relationships: ~Authentic communication is connected to intimacy ~3 pitfalls of authentic communication: topic avoidance, meaning denial, and disqualification Chapter 12 ~Conversational learning skills -listening in conversations requires some strategies… Conversations should be two sided Don’t assume Before speaking ask yourself what message is needed ~Organizing ideas -chronological order -spatial orders ~Its is theorized that by the age 2, US American children tend to display basic empathetic responses through touching, crying, and verbalizing ~Causes for Conflict -goals to be pursued -Allocation of resources -decisions to be made -behaviors that are considered inappropriate ~Levels of conflict 1. No conflict 2. Latent conflict 3. Problems to solve 4. Dispute 5. Help 6. Flight or fight 7. Intractability ~Conflict smoothing over: seeks above all else to preserve the image that everything is okay. ~Nonassertive acts: avoidance, accommodation, and soothing over. Persons needs are not met ~Competition: aggressive act. Person gets what they want at the expense of someone else ~interrogation: assertive. Getting what you want but not at the expense of someone else ~Compromise: assertive or nonassertive ~Communitive approaches to managing conflict are assertive communication, negotiation, arbitration, litigation, and mediation. ~Principles of assertiveness people are not mind readers habit is no reason for doing something you cannot make others happy disapproval has nothing to do with who you are take action do not be victimized action will only change something do the best you can assertiveness comes with consequences ~3 types of assertive response Simple assertion Empathetic assertion Follow up assertion ~DESC: Describing, Expressing, Specifying, and stating Consequences ~Negotiation: the act of bargaining to reach an agreement with at least two people working on a mutual problem ~4 principles of negotiation: Prepare in advance Reframe the questions and the arguments Respond, don’t react Identify and alter tactics ~Apologizing repair the damage take responsibility use good timing show your regret choose an appropriate conduit its not about who won or lost Chapter 13 What makes a group? 1. the number of people must be small enough for everyone to actively participate 2. the people must be interacting together to achieve common goals 3. the people should be interacting face to face e 4. People should have a number of meetings over an extended period of time ~4 factors that can affect a groups outcome are CULTURE, GENDER, TECHNOLOGY, and ETHICS. Types of groups… 1. Learning groups: groups who are involved in collaborative learning are more motivated to get involved and tend to learn more info from each other 2. Self maintenance groups: groups that work together to maintain their understanding and use of communication, interpersonal skills and conflict skills 3. Problem solving groups: group is used regularly by people in business, education, and healthcare Individual decision making: ~when fast decisions are needed ~when decisions are fairly simple or will affect only a few people ~When working with others is difficult Group decisions work best… ~when quality is essential ~when acceptance by a large number of people is needed ~when accuracy is crucial ~when tasks are complex or difficult ~When differing strong opinions and conflicts exist Optimum group size is considered at maximum participation of 5 people Decision making methods 1. decision by vote 2. decision by compromise 3. decision by consensus Group Cohesiveness: quality that causes members of the group to be attracted to the group and willing to endure despite challenges 1. shared goals 2. group diversity 3. enduring bonds/limited membership 4. competition with another group Groupthink: members of the group refrain from expressing divergent viewpoints for fear of being sanctioned or because they the group so much that they don’t want to risk causing the group any discomfort Phases: 1. Orientation phase 2. Conflict phase 3. Emergence phase 4. Reinforcement phase Group processes step 1: Identify the problem ~Question of facts: seeks to determine what the present situation ~Question of conjecture: ask what can be anticipated in the future ~Question of value: evaluating what course of action is best or most worthy ~Question of policy: determine what course of action should be taken Group processes step 2: Analyze the problem Force field analysis 1. make a list of pros and cons of specific group idea, decision, desired action, or plan. 2. Assign points to each force based on its strength 3. Totally the scores to determine if the driving forces or the restraining forces predominate and discuss what insight they offer to the group and its problem Group processes step 3: Establish and Rank Criteria Group processes step 4: Generate possible solutions ~a method of generating ideas that assure equal participation from all members is called nominal group technique Group process step 5: Apply criteria to select best solutions Group process step 6: Implement and follow up Chapter 14 Characteristics of effective group members 1. Keep an open mind 2. Preparing and participating effectively 3. Using the problem solving procedures effectively 4. Handling conflicts effectively Effective member roles ~group roles: are categories of behaviors enacted by individules Formal roles: 1. agenda setter 2. recorder Task roles: 1. information/ opinion seeker 2. analyze 3. expediter 4. clarifier Maintenance Roles: 1. supporter 2. harmonizer 3. tension reliever 4. gate keeper Dysfunctional roles: 1. Dominator 2. Deserter 3. Blocker and Aggressor 4. Showboat Power: 1. reward power 2. coercive power 3. legitimate power 4. expert power 5. referent power Leadership power: process whereby an individual influences a group of individuals to achieve a common goal Nominal leader: a person who has been formally designated as the leader or chairperson Emergent leader: who acquires influence by performing task or maintenance roles as needed Leadership styles: 1. authoritarian leader 2. democracy leader 3. laissez-faire leader Fred Fiedler came up with the contingency model: Leader member relations Task structure Position power Hersey and Blanchard came up with the situational model: When a group is up and and up wolling= Delegate When a group is up but down unwilling=participant When a group is down unable but up willing=sell When a group is down unable and down unwilling =tell