by Shinta Prastyanti

INTERPERSONAL
ATTRACTION

WHAT ATTRACTS YOU TO ANOTHER PERSON???

 Is the attraction between people which leads to friendship and romantic relationship?
 What attracts?
a function of socially shared norms, along with preferred characteristic derived from people’s learning histories

 Familiarity
- proximity
 Reciprocity
- I like him because he likes me

 Reward theory
Liking those whose behavior is rewarding or who are associated with rewarding situations
 Attitude similarity more attracted to people who hold similar attitude to our own than dissimilar to others

 Physical attractiveness
- good looking
- body shape
- voices
- style or fashion sense
- smell

 FAMILIARITY
 RECIPROCITY
 WHAT DO WE WANT FROM OUR MATE?
MEN
-KINDNESS
-LOYALTY
-EMOTIONAL STABILITY
-YOUTHFULNESS
-SEX
WOMEN
-KINDNESS
-LOYALTY
-EMOTIONAL STABILITY
-EDUCATION
-EARNING POTENTIAL
-STATUS
-AMBITION

 LIMERENCE/PASSIONATE
- intense longing for the person
- much more emotionally volatile
- motivate sexual activity

 COMPANIONATE LOVE
- feelings of mutual respect and trust
- less emotionally volatile
- establish firm emotional bond between the partners that will motivate them to remain together

Strenberg’s tripartite theory of love
 Passion: motivational component
 Intimacy: emotional component
 Commitment: cognitive component

FUNCTION OF ROMANTIC LOVE
WHAT THE MEANING OF……
I LOVE YOU?

FUNCTION OF ROMANTIC LOVE
 THE 3 BASIC BEHAVIORAL SYSTEM THAT BOND
COUPLES TOGETHER (SHAVER)
1. LOVE AS ATTACHMENT
2. LOVE AS CAREGIVING
3. LOVE AS SEXUAL ATTRACTION

 As a good barometer of how close individuals feel to their partners
 Can communicate that one truly cares about a partner and a relationship

LOVE HAS TAUGHT US THAT LOVE DOES NOT CONSIST
IN GAZING AT EACH OTHET, BUT IN LOOKING
OUTWARD TOGETHER I N THE SAME DIRECTION
ANTOINE DE SAINT-EXUPERY