Chapter 6, 8, 9
Communication
Peer Pressure
Conflict
Communication Styles
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Aggressive- overly forceful, pushy, or hostile
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Passive- unwilling or unable to express thoughts
and feelings in a direct or firm manner
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Assertive- expressing your views clearly and
respectfully
Ways to Communicate
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Speaking
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Listening
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Nonverbal
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What are other ways of communicating?
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Which ways do you communicate the most?
Speaking Skills
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The key to good communication is to say what you mean
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To ensure you do not sound disrespectful use “I” messages
 “I”
message- a statement that focuses on your feelings
rather then on someone else’s behavior
 They
help you communicate your feelings in a positive
way without placing blame
 EX:
YOU- Why can’t you ever show up on time?
I- I really don’t like to be left waiting- it makes me feel like
you don’t think I’m important
YOU TRY!
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Change the “YOU” messages into “I” messages:
1.
You never listen to anything I say
2.
I said I’d take out the trash, and I will! You don’t have
to nag on me every five minutes!
3.
You are always taking my clothes without asking.
4.
You always ignore me when your other friends are
around.
5.
Why do you always have to bring that up? You always
have to talk about the past, just end it!”
Listening Skills
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Active listening- paying close attention to what
someone is saying and communicating
 Don’t
interrupt
 Show
interest
 Restate
 Ask
what you heard
questions
 Show
empathy
Nonverbal Communication

Body language- nonverbal communication through
gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and posture
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Other ways of nonverbal communication?
Stack the Deck
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For this exercise, you will need a regular pack of playing cards and a
lot of moving–around space. Blindfolds are optional (it takes a little
longer).
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1. Shuffle the deck of cards well and walk around the room to give
each student a card.
2. Instruct the students to keep their cards a secret. No one can see
the type or color of another's card.
3. Make it clear to students that they will not be able to talk during
this exercise.
4. Instruct students to assemble into 4 groups according to suits
(hearts, clubs, diamonds, spades) using nonverbal communication.
5. It's more fun to blindfold every student during this exercise.
6. Once students get into those groups, they must line up in order of
rank, from ace to king.
7. The group that lines up in proper order first wins!
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HEADS UP!
Peer Pressure
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Peer pressure- the influence that people your age may have on you
 Can
have a positive or negative influence on your actions and behaviors
 POSITIVE:
peers may inspire you to try a new activity, encourage you to
participate in community projects, involves not participating in risky behaviors
or activities
 NEGATIVE:
may be disrespectful towar people they do not consider acceptable
to their group.
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Harassment- persistently annoying others; may include hurtful behaviors such as name calling, teasing,
or bullying.
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Engage in behaviors that go against their values
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Manipulation- an in direct, dishonest, way to control or influence other people
-Making threats
-Mocking or teasing
-Black mail
-Bargaining
-Bribing
-Guilt Trips
-Flattery
Resisting Negative Peer Pressure
Develop friendships with people who share your values
and interests
 Friends who have respect for your health and well-being
will be less likely to pressure you into doing something
that goes against your values
 You will also find that it is much easier to resist negative
peer pressure when you have supportive friends who stand
by you and respect your decision.
 Refusing to go along with a group may make them appear
“uncool”
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Assertive Refusal
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Refusal Skills Steps
1.
State you position- say no, and state your position
simply and firmly
2.
Suggest alternatives
3.
Stand your ground- make it clear that you mean what
you say, use strong body language, and maintain eye
contact. If that still doesn’t work- walk away
Practicing assertive communication is the most effective
way to deal with peer pressure
PRACTICE REFUSAL SKILLS
Conflict
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Refers to any disagreement, struggle, or fight
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Conflicts between people or groups of people are known
as interpersonal conflict
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Common causes:
 Power
struggles
 Personal
loyalties
 Jealousy
and envy
 Property
disputes
 Conflicting
 Lack
attitudes and values
of respect
Responding to Conflict
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Compromise-an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached
by each side making concessions.
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Negotiation- the use of communication and, in many cases, compromise
to settle a disagreement
1.
Take time to calm down and think over the situation
2.
Let each person take turns to express how they feel
3.
Ask for clarification
4.
Brainstorm solutions to the conflict
5.
Discuss advantages and disadvantages to both sides
6.
Agree on a solution
7.
Follow up to ensure the solution has worked
Preparing for Negotiation
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Choose the time and place carefully
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Check your facts
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Plan what you will say
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TIPS
-Stay calm
-Listen to each other
-Attack the problem not each other -Take responsibility
-Avoid blame or name calling
-Open minded
-Find a solution