2/6/2014
Fostering Your Child’s Development
Kelly Pelzel, PhD
UIHC Center for Disabilities and Development
2/11/14
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Overview
 Promoting Healthy Social Development
 Behavior Management
 Resources
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“There are only two lasting bequests
we can hope to give our children.
One of these is roots, the other, wings.”
 Wings - A safe base from which to explore
 Roots – Safe haven to which to return
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMOG4G3tXPM
&feature=youtu.be
– Behavior is a form of communication.
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 Support my exploration – Example: unstructured, child-led play time is a good
thing
– Why?
• Contributes to healthy cognitive, physical, social,
and emotional development
• Allows children to try out many roles
– Make time for play
• Reduce screen time
• Balance with scheduled/extracurricular activities
• Provide access to “true toys” (e.g., blocks, dolls)
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Words and actions that you can use when following
your child’s lead during unstructured play*:
*taken from: http://www.medicine.uiowa.edu/psychiatry/parentchildinteractiontherapy/
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 Safe haven
– “Fill my (emotional) cup”
– “Being with”
• Feeling and holding of the emotion
 Still face experiment http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hh_fW69
QkqY
 We differ in what emotions are easy to “be
with”
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Behavior Management
 Find/develop a plan/system (“script”).
 Set clear expectations (“brick wall”) and
consistently follow through (“robot”).
 Use positive reinforcement when
expectations are met.
 Revise plan and/or get help from others
when needed, especially if you feel scared
or appear scary when disciplining.
 Support a child’s growing self-management.
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Resources
Where can I go if I have concerns?
 Primary care provider
– screening measures (e.g., ASE:SE)
 School staff, daycare providers, AEA, Early
ACCESS
 A trusted and knowledgeable relative
 Research-based books and websites (i.e.,
usually cite peer-reviewed published
research)
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Resources
A couple of my favorite books:
Socioemotional development matters (Heckman):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSmG87MOyV0
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