How to Use Body Language for a
Happy Life at Home Worldwide
Birgit Kuschel--Cross Culture & Communication Trainer – www.theconnectconcept.com
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Importance of Body Language
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What is communication?
• “communes” (latin) means having something
common
• Non verbal and verbal exchange of
information, messages, ideas, thoughts,
feeling and emotions through speech signals,
writing or body language
• Most communication is non-verbal
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Communication verbal and non-verbal
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Exercise
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Types of non verbal communication
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Touch language
Space language
Atmosphere
Time Language
Silence
Sign Language
Paralanguage
Body language
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The link between verbal and nonverbal
communication
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Repetition
Contradiction
Substitution
Complementing
Accenting
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Role of Non Verbal communication
and body language
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Identity Management (image, personality, role)
Expressing feelings, emotions, mood
Show understanding of others
Getting others to do what we want
Provide information
Regulate interaction
Express power and control
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Types of body language
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Facial Expressions
Head and Eye Movement
Gestures and Postures
Shape of body
Personal Appearance Adornment
All influenced by gender, personality, role, image,
culture, education
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Exercise
• Please show the following words by your body
language!
• Happiness
• Sadness
• Anger
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Facial impressions
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6 Universal facial expressions
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Smile!
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Eye contact
Looking at another person can indicate a range
of emotions and varies between cultures.
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Short eye contact (interest, love)
Serious eye contact (anger, danger)
Long eye contact (attention)
Avoiding eye contact (lying, no interest)
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Head Movement
Moving the head has different meanings:
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Nodding: yes, agreeing
Shaking: no, disagreeing
Turning away: frustrated
Head tilting: interested
Touching/fidgeting the head/hair:
nervousness, lack of confidence
Source: www.mindbodychanging.com
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Gestures
Illustrators
Adaptors
Manipulators
Emblems
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Body movements and posture
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Exercise
• How do you communicate the following words
by your body language?
• You don’t know
• You’re tired
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Exercise
• How do you communicate the following words
by your body language?
• You won the race!
Source:www.winner.com
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Your body language shapes who
you’re!
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Amy Cuddy - at TEDGlobal 2012 in Edinburgh, Scotland,
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High and Low – Power Poses
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Amy Cuddy- at TEDGlobal 2012 in Edinburgh, Scotland,
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Body language doesn’t match words..
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Body language matches words..
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Teach children that body language
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shows emotions
speaks before speaking
shows up in friends
can hurt
speaks without words
sends messages out
helps to get better along
with friends/family
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Awareness of body language helps
• to understand your own and others body
language signs and meanings
• to avoid misunderstandings in communication
• to increase communication and
understanding in different cultures
• to transform your mind to positive moods
• to influence other people and their thinking
and behaviour
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Tips for reading body language
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What is the face showing?
What kind of eye contact?
How is the voice/posture?
What gestures/poses are used?
Are there any inconsistencies?
Trust your instincts!
Look at signals as a group!
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Lie detection is impossible
Mind reading is impossible
You can not read people like a book
Know your own body language
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Family Body Language
• Family systems interact verbally and non
verbally with each other
• Parental body language influences children’s
thinking, emotions and behavior
• Children know what body language to expect
at home and know how to influence parents
• Family specific communication style
• Communication should be two way
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Family move from A to B
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New, unknown…
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Identity loss and unstable roles
Source: www.gigamon.com
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When the soul arrives slower than the body..
Culture shock and lack of:
routine, identity, security,
consistency, self esteem…
Source:www.suebrazee.com
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Manifestations: acting out, self doubt,
depression, sadness, denial, guilt,
sorrow, stress, grief, silence,
restlessness, sleeplessness, anger,
homesickness, frustration…
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Tools for stress reduction
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Breathe!
Take a time out!
Listen and let them talk!
Meditate!
Sleep and Eat well!
Exercise!
Go for a run or walk!
Smile!
Laugh at yourself!
Hug! Cuddle! Kiss!
Do whatever you love!
Take a shower!
Listen to music!
Find the excitement!
What’s your best
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Create a positive atmosphere
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Be there, be present!
Make quality time for family members!
Relax!
Be kind to yourself!
Contact new neighbors!
Join a newcomers club!
Talk and look at your loved ones!
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Tips for positive body language
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Welcome posture (open your body, hands, torso)
SMILE and keep a sense of humor! Laugh at yourself!
Use Power Pose!
Touch! Cuddle! Hug!
Get down to child’s level
Move with your torso toward your partner/child
Mirror the child’s facial expressions or tone of voice
Watch the body language of other people and yourself:
Eye contact, facial expressions, voice, posture, gestures…
• Teach the children how to use body language!
• Trust your instincts!
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Positive use of body language helps
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to read and respond to the emotions of your family
to create trust in relationships by sending nonverbal signals that match words
to transform your mood, feeling and physical health in a positive way
to understand your own and others body language signs and meanings
to avoid misunderstandings in communication
to influence your family members and their thinking and behavior
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Thank you!
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Questions and Answers
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How to Use Body Language for a
Happy Life at Home Worldwide
Birgit Kuschel, www.theconnectconcept, office@theconnectconcept.com, Cell: 248 633 4479
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