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Foundations of Leadership
Stuart A. Youngblood
Dan Rogers Hall, Room 166D
Phone: 817-257-7562
E-Mail: s.youngblood@ tcu.edu
The 7 Habits
Private Victories (Leading Self)
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Be proactive
Begin with the end in mind
Put first things first
Public Victories (Leading Others)
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Think win-win
Seek first to understand, then to be
understood
Synergize
Sharpen the saw
Agenda
Habit 1: Be Proactive (I am the programmer)
• Maturity Continuum
• Principle Centered Leadership
• Law of the Harvest: Paradigms
• Circle of Concern/Influence
• Effectiveness: P / PC Balance
• Path to Action/Ladder of Inference
• Clever Stories
Maturity Continuum
• Dependence – my welfare depends
mainly on YOU
– Habits 1,2, & 3 help you move from
dependence to independence
• Independence – my welfare depends
mainly on ME (private victories)
– Habits 4,5, & 6 help you move from
independence to interdependence.
• Interdependence – my welfare depends
mainly on US (public victories)
Principle Centered Leadership
• Your behavior is based on PRINCIPLES that
govern interpersonal relationships, not
social values
• Why? Principles are objective, timeless, and
universal in relationships
• Align behaviors & values with principles
• Example: Law of the Harvest
Law of the Harvest
What is the key idea?
A CSA Farm
Prepare the Field
Investments
Leadership Development, like the CSA
Farm, requires an investment of time and
effort to build the skills needed to produce
the fruits of your labor.
An Exercise
In your notes, write down a story of when you
became very angry. What happened? Who
or what was it that made you angry?
… record what you really felt and thought about the
other person.
…and what you might have said if you let your
guard down!
What happened to make you so angry?
If:
“Experience is half the Experience!”
What is the other half?
A Paradigm: How You See the
World
SEE
GET
DO
Paradigm
• SEE – You are a product of your choices
• DO – The behaviors that you engage in
based on your choices
• GET – The results that you earn from
your behaviors
See-Do-Get
We each have our own See-Do-Get models.
How you engage your ‘see-do-get’ model is
how you choose to be proactive.
Habit 1: Be Proactive
• Definition: Your life is a product of your
values (based on principles), not your
feelings or your external environment
• Proactive mindset – You have the
ability & freedom to choose how you
will respond
• Reactive mindset – You are controlled
by outside influences (moods, feelings,
circumstances, other people)
Stimulus > Response
• Healthy adults have the capacity to
pause and exercise the FREEDOM TO
CHOOSE their responses to stimuli
• Four Human Endowments
– Self-Awareness (Who I am?)
– Imagination (What can I be?)
– Conscience (What are my
values/principles?)
– Independent Will (What is best for me?)
Stimulus  Response
• Covey asserts that for humans, there is a
small space between the S and R, where
you can choose your response.
S
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• What do you choose?
R
The Power of CHOICE
• You can claim (reclaim) your power by
recognizing that you can choose…and
have more control over your destiny than
you ever imagined
• Remember:
You either act or the world acts on you.
You either choose or let others choose
for you.
Path to Action
We all make sense of experience.
Crucial Conversations calls this our path
to action.
Chris Argyris calls this a ladder of
inference.
We each have our own path-to-action!
Where Emotion Comes From
(Observe  Feel  Act)
Action
Event
Observe Conclusion
Judgment
Story
Feel
Act
On The Wall at Mother Theresa’s
Childrens’ Homes in Calcutta
• People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered, so
Love them anyway
• If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives,
so Do good anyway
• If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies,
so Succeed anyway
• Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable, so Be honest and
frank anyway
• People really need help but may attack you if you help them, so
Help them anyway
• Give the world the best you have & you’ll get kicked in the teeth,
so Give the world your best anyway
Circle of Concern, Influence
• Who is in your circle of
concern?
• Who is in your circle of
influence?
Circle of Influence
Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence
What’s the most important thing within the Circle of
Influence?
Paradigms and Circle of
Influence
Anger Story Revisited
Look Back At Your “Anger” Story
• Who made you mad?
Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence
The Power of Language
• Proactive Language
– I can, I will, I choose, Let’s look at the
alternatives, I will take responsibility for
that, Let’s get organized, You can count on
me ….
• Reactive Language
– I can’t, I won’t, It’s up to you, There is
nothing I can do, That’s the way I am, You
make me so mad, They won’t listen to me, I
don’t have time, That’s not my thing ….
What Will You Change?
• Pick one relationship in your current life
that you want to improve most…by making
new choices (family member, friend,
colleague, boss, girl/boy friend, other …)
• In your private notes, write down the
proactive choices that you need to make for
this to be possible?
• Now, will you act on these choices? When?
Language of Proactive Person
“You can only stop sabotaging yourself if you
don’t think you were someone else’s victim.”
Rosabeth Moss Kanter, New York Times, September 19, 2004,
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“A victim is a person who suffers a loss because
of the actions of others. Victims believe
salvation comes only from the actions of others”
Robert E. Quinn, Deep Change, 1997, p. 21
Things To Do
Watch for three clever stories:
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Victim Stories - What am I pretending not
to know about my role in this story?
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Villain Stories - Why would a reasonable,
rational and decent person do or say that
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Helpless Stories - What could I do right
now to move toward what I really want?
What Is Most Important About
Habit 1?
YOU ARE THE
PROGRAMMER!
You can’t “fix” someone else,
but you can fix yourself!
The door to proactive personal change
is locked from the inside.
What is Effectiveness?
• P / PC BALANCE
– Production – Getting What You Want
– Production Capacity – Getting What You
Want Again and Again
• Example: Aesop’s Fable of the Goose that
Laid the Golden Egg
• Assets: Physical, Financial, & Human
Habit 1: You write the Program
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