Objective:
Students will identify the warning signs of dating
violence and understand how they can protect themselves by
taking notes and participating in a class discussion
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What does the word
Monogamous mean?
◦ Partners are only
intimate with each
other
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Three C’s in
Relationships =
◦ Communication
◦ Commitment
◦ Compromise
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(Review from Relationship Unit)
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What is Love?
◦ Strong feelings of
affection
◦ Action showing a
commitment
◦ Expressions of ones
inner most
thoughts/feelings
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Statistics from the CDC:
◦ 1in 11 teens report being a victim of physical
dating violence each year.
◦ 1 in 4 teens report verbal, physical, emotional, or
sexual violence each year.
◦ 1 in 5 teen reports being a victim of emotional
abuse.
◦ 1 in 5 high school girls has been physically or
sexually abused by a dating partner.
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The physical, emotional, verbal, or sexual
abuse of one partner by the other in a current
or former relationship
WHO ARE THEY?
POWER
CONTROL
◦Is dating violence normal?
Isolation
 Emotional Abuse
 Sexual Abuse
 Threats
 Bossy
 Intimidation
 Stalking
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Hurt you
 Attempt to hurt you
 Force you to have sex
 Threaten you with weapons
 Harass you on the telephone or email
 Stalk you
 Destroy your property
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Warning signs of dating violence:
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Jealousy
Controlling Behavior
Quick Involvement
Unfair Expectations
Isolation
Blame others for
problems
Overly Sensitive
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Forced sex
Verbal Abuse
Rigid Sex Rules
History of Battering
Threats of Violence
Forced Used During
Argument
Could you identify a friend or family member
was in a dating violence situation?
Weight change
 Headache
 Anxious
 Nervous
 Confused
 Worthlessness
 Suicide
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Sad
 Guilty
 Shame
 Mistrust
 Depressed
 Bruises
 Terror
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LOVE
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FEAR
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DOUBT
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EMBARRASSMENT
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Brittany’s Story –
◦ http://www.oprah.com/media/20090312-tows-brittanyabuser
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Talk
Express concern and be supportive
Be non-judgmental
Support your friend’s strengths and
weaknesses
Encourage friend to get help
Work on safety plan
Be there. Stay there
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Know the person before you say yes
Review warning signs
Did any good friends warn you about the
person?
Are they afraid for your safety?
Double date with trusted friends or
group
 Go to public places
 Do not be pressured by your date
 Have a cell phone
 Know exit doors
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End relationship over the phone
 Stay with the group of people
wherever you go
 Do not let abuser in home
 Call police anytime
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What are your thoughts on MEN being victims
of Dating/Domestic Violence?
What are some stereotypes about abuse
related to gender?
http://www.batteredmen.com/dateviol.htm
◦ Charlie Sheen
◦ Singers:
 Tina & Ike Turner
 Dr. Dre
 Big Pun
 James Brown
 Chris Brown
 “Vanilla Ice”
 Eminen
 Bobby Brown
◦ Athletes:
 OJ Simpson
 Sugar Ray Leonard
 Darryl Strawberry
 Jason Kidd
 John Daly
 Dennis Rodman
 Tanya Harding
 Evel Knievel
 Brett Myers (Phillies)
 Moses Malone
 Mike Tyson
 Chad Johnson
 Oscar Pistorius
 Floyd Mayweather
http://www.dosomething.org/issues/dating-abuse