Premarital Personal Evaluation
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Take several minutes when you are able to get alone, without your fiancé, to fill out this form.
Please read over it carefully and fill it out using much thought. Please do not wait until the night
before our session to fill this out. We will be using parts of this form to help us understand each
other better. The form and any of its contents will not be shared with anyone but us.
1. I know that I am in love because ....
2. I know my future partner loves me because ....
3. My future partner and I differ in the following areas ....
4. My future partner and I am alike in the following areas ....
5. I am bringing these strengths into our marriage ....
6. My future partner brings these strengths into our marriage ....
7. I am bringing these weaknesses into our marriage ....
8. My future partner is bringing these weaknesses into our marriage ....
9. I plan to keep romance alive in our marriage by ....
10. When my future partner (write a positive action) ....
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I feel (write a positive response or emotion) ....
11. When my future partner (write a negative action). ...
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I feel (write a negative response or emotion) ...
12. It is easiest to talk to my future partner when ....
13. It is most difficult to talk to my future partner when ....
14. I have been reluctant to talk to my future partner about.. ..
(if desired this will not be discussed unless it may cause problems for the marriage)
15. The most difficult area for me to allow my future partner freedom in is ....
16.Some areas where I feel a lack of freedom with my future partner are ....
17. Major sources of conflict in our money matters are related to ....
18. We will demonstrate the importance of religious beliefs and practices by ....
19. I like the following things about my future partner's parents ....
20. I dislike the following things about my future partner's parents ....
21 We may experience in-law problems because ....
22. My future partner would make a great parent because ....
23. I would make a great parent because ....
24. My parents best prepared me for marriage by ....
25. I will have a happy marriage if.. ...
26. Why have you decided to get married now?
27. Why do you desire a Christian, church wedding?
Premarital Questions for Second Marriages
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In addition to the Premarital Personal Evaluation in the case where children are involved or either fiancé has been
involved in a divorce situation I like to have both parties fill out this extra questionnaire. This gives us some things
to think about that will come up in the marriage sooner or later. If a question is not pertinent to you (ie. you were
never married before) no need to answer it.
1. What do you think went wrong in your previous relationship?
2. What was your part in it?
3. Why should this marriage be any different?
4. What will you do to protect this relationship from falling apart?
5. Who is going to control the finances?
6. Who is going to control the kids? Will you and your spouse have equal control over all
children involved? If no, why not?
7. Who is going to be the leader of the home? Will their word stand for all in the house or will
some be exempt? Why or why not?
8. What will you do to protect this relationship from the children?
I know several of these questions seem harsh but most marriages that occur when children are involved fall apart over one
of these issues. As you enter into this relationship with your future mate you are committing to put that person higher than
any other person on earth including your children and when this Biblical formula is followed a happy home is the promised
result! Everyone, including your children, needs to know that your future husband/wife comes first and by this you will be
insuring them of a happy future home together!