Foster Carer Induction Worksheets Standard Five Worksheets Understand the development of children and young people 1. Attachment and stages of development 2. Resilience 3. Transitions 4. Supporting play, activities and learning 5. Supporting educational potential 6. Understanding contexts 7. Promote positive sexual health and sexual identity 8. Supporting disabled children and children with special educational needs Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 1. Attachment and stages of development Attachment and bonding Please fill in the gaps from the selection of words below. Attachment is the feeling or need that a _______ has for a particular adult and eventually a _________ group of adults. _______ is the complicated process by which ______ grow to love their child. What is believed to be essential for good _______ health is that an infant and young child should experience a ______, intimate and continuous relationship with their parents in which both find satisfaction and ________. The ability to bond with a child may be considerably _______ by a parent’s own _______ needs. A _______ attachment will enable a child to reach their potential. affected enjoyment bonding warm child mental unmet secure parents small Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Can you suggest some emotions that enable us to be social beings? Write your answers in the balloons below. Why are human beings born with a brain that hasn’t finished developing? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 What does a child need to develop emotionally? At 4 months old At 12 months At 2 ½ years Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Emotional difficulties Where a child has experienced dysfunctional parenting and has not developed a secure attachment, what emotional and social difficulties do you think they may have? Give an example in each. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Understanding how a child may feel. It is important for Foster Carers to be able to put themselves in the shoes of a child and imagine how they feel so they can understand what the child may need. It starts with thinking about your own feelings. Please don’t feel obliged to write anything too personal or difficult for you to share. Can you think of a time when you felt powerless and not in control. Can you describe this feeling in three words. Case study - Martha Martha is living with you and you want to take her on a holiday abroad with the rest of your family. However, her birth parent won’t sign the form for the passport. The Social Worker feels that this is because the birth parent is jealous and doesn’t want Martha to have such a good time. This makes planning the holiday difficult. How would you feel? How do you think Martha would feel? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Attachments Can you think of what makes you feel insecure? Write down three words to describe this feeling. Case Study - Tommy You are caring for Tommy who has not seen his father for a month because his father has been too drunk to make arrangements or meet with the Social Worker. Eventually the Social Worker manages to arrange a contact session and his father has assured he will go. His father does not turn up. Afterwards Tommy’s behaviour is erratic and hyperactive. He keeps on asking questions such as, ‘When are we having tea?’ and ‘Where are you going?’ How would you feel? How do you think Tommy is feeling? What do you think you could do to help Tommy? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Seeking Support What makes you feel secure? Give three examples. Who do you go to or where do you go when you feel insecure? Write three words to describe what it feels like to be secure. Children with attachment difficulties can cause a Carer to become exhausted, angry and hostile towards the child. A Carer needs to be able to recognise this and seek support to manage their feelings. What would you do if you started to feel like this about a child in your care? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Give examples of ways a Foster Carer can encourage a child to develop a secure attachment with them. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 What motivates a child with attachment difficulties and how do you respond? A seven year old boy is aggressive to his peers at home and at school. Why might he behave like this? How could you respond? Consider one child in your care. What sort of attachments do you think they have and why do you think this, e.g. what is it about their behaviour, etc.? Stages of development Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Gathering information There are several ways to gather information about children in your care on a day-to-day basis. Observation Watch and listen during an activity. Focus on specific things that stand out. Matt looks like he’s having trouble holding the scissors. How are you getting on, Matt? Question the child. You do it for me. Matt was having trouble cutting out earlier. Have you noticed anything similar? Speak to colleagues. Have you seen the way he grips his pencil? And I have noticed that he often swops hands when colouring in. Keep a note as a reminder. Matt – 15/03/05 probs holding scissors – cutting-out activity. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Gathering information Where else might you gather information about a child’s development? Recorded information such as registration forms, profiles and assessments Parents commented on possibility of Matt being left-handed. Profile – noted he’s not achieving milestone of fine motor skills. Matt - 17/03/05 Colouring activity – took offered crayon in right hand. Playtime – kicked ball with left foot. Talking to parents Information from training materials and notes made in training fine motor skills acts: Cutting (use thick black line) Placing/pasting Tracing & colouring Self care (e.g. zips) Matt - 18/03/05 now uses spoon in left hand at home. Parents not noticed preference otherwise. Further observation with notes made on a key development area Tips Keep a pad of sticky notes with you so that you can quickly jot down information that might be useful. You can put them in the child’s profile to write up later. Keep notes short and relevant. Make sure you can read them. Relevant child development information from publications or websites Sharing observations and suggestions in team meetings or with a supervisor Keep notes on Matt’s use of hands in activities. Check: which hand used (offer choice) fine motor skills. Note any concerns. Info from ‘Sure Start’ – develop fine motor skills: pouring water into cups, finger games, setting out cutlery. Can you think of any more? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Gathering information Task 1 Choose one of your children or young people to observe how well he or she shares things with other children or young people. Make notes from different sources and show where the information came from. Instructions 1 Use sticky notes to jot down useful information. 2 Write up the information as notes in the coloured boxes. 3 Write where the information came from in the white boxes. Tip Keep notes short and relevant. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Stages of Development Describe some of the skills you would expect a child who is developing typically to demonstrate at the following ages; Age Such as; Posture and large movements Vision and fine movements Communication Social behaviour and play 1 month 6 months 9 months 12months 18 months 2 years 3 years 4 years 5 years Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Describe some of the learning that is typical of the following ages and how they might differ for boys and girls; 8 years 11 years 14 years 17 years Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Observation and judgment Why is it useful to observe children’s behaviour? To check if an activity is suitable Why is it important to remain objective when observing children? Avoid jumping to the wrong conclusion How can you ensure you make objective observations? Give examples to illustrate your judgments Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Development charts Why are charts of developmental milestones useful? They help us to predict a child’s needs When comparing children today with those in the 1950s, can you suggest reasons why children today develop much earlier in their vision and fine motor skills? More toys available – better variety and more fun Why do some children not develop according to the milestones? They have been deprived of opportunities to stimulate their development Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Development and growth Is he? Ben is very active. We taught him to sit when he was 2 months. Oh my! We put him on solid food after 3 weeks. Gosh! Ben’s a good dog! Dog? Recording development Child’s name Stands holding on Moves around or crawls Age: Age Stands alone date : Walks holding on Age: Walks alone Age First outdoor walk was to- Age: Age : Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Developmental chart Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.1 Consider a child or young person in your care and describe in what ways their development is not typical of their age. In what ways do you record and share information about developmental milestones? Ensure that information is recorded in the Red Book and it is available to others e.g. Health Visitor Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.2 2. Resilience What helps children and young people to become more resilient? How have you encouraged a child or young person to raise their self-esteem? Give an example where you have worked with others to help a child or young person to develop a more positive view of themselves? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.3 3. Transitions Describe a transition you experienced as a child. What happened? What age were you? Did you lose out in anyway? How did it feel? How did adults respond to you at the time? What helped you to cope or feel safe? Did it affect you in the long term? How? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.3 Children’s transitions List three transitions that you might expect a child to go through at some point in their childhood. Describe what they may lose in the process, how it might feel and what you could do to help them to cope. Transition Loss Affect on the child How could you help? Give an example of a child or young person in your care who is going through a significant period of change. What support will they need? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.3 Preparing for a placement In the following case study about Tiffany, she is very anxious on her first night in a new placement. Tiffany Imagine you are Tiffany, aged 5, who was moved as an emergency yesterday… It’s morning. As you awaken, you look around. It is an unfamiliar room. You slept little last night. You’ve always been warned about strangers and here you are, with no one else you know, in the midst of them. You hear people up and about. What are you supposed to do? Lie in bed until someone comes and tells you to get up? Get up, get dressed and go downstairs on your own? Did anyone tell you last night what was expected? Your memory is fuzzy. You’re not sure where your clothes were put. You need the loo but where is it? Will someone shout if you get up? Will they be angry if you don’t? You sob but quietly so no one will hear. What will they do if they get angry – will they hurt you? Where are your parents? When will you see them again? Do they know where you are? You feel overwhelmed and pull the covers over your head to block out the questions. You can’t hold on anymore and wet the bed. What do you do now?? You can hear someone coming. You are very scared… Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.3 If she had been placed with you, what could you have done to help her cope better with her first night? What might have helped? Why? What pre-placement information might you need about a child or a young person? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.3 How could you involve a child in planning the move to your home? How could you ensure you helped a child to settle in if they have a different cultural background or religion to yourself? How could you communicate to them the guidelines and boundaries in your family? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.3 Managing moving on - adoption If a child who had been in your care were to move on to an adoption placement, how could you support this move and help the adopters to take over the parenting role? What might be some of the difficulties for you in moving a child on? How would you and your family feel and how might you cope with this? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.3 Managing moving on - independence What helped you to prepare for adulthood and to live independently of your family? List some skills that are needed to live independently? What might be the difficulties facing young people? How would you prepare a young person to live independently? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.4 4. Supporting play, activities and learning Give examples of when you have encouraged a child or young person in activities. How did you ensure it was fun and a positive experience? At home? Sporting or outdoor activity? With friends? After school activity? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.4 Book Review Choose a book appropriate for a child or young person in your care. For a young child it could be a picture book and for a baby or disabled child, it could even be a toy. Share this with the child or young person and think about the following; a. What is the book about? / Can you describe the toy? b. What did you like about it? c. Was it enjoyed or useful to the child or young person? Why do you think this? d. What was not so good about it or would have been better if different? Why? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.4 Development through play For each of the pictures of a toy can you write underneath what area of development you think it would assist in a child or baby. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.4 Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.4 Varied play opportunities - SPICE This is an example of a physical play activity that helps children to develop in many areas. Physical Releases energy. Promotes health and well-being. Tones muscles. Gross and fine motor skills Social Turn-taking Interacting Working together Negotiation Sensory Touch Smell Sight Creative Imaginative ideas. Creating and making things. Practical skills Emotional Enjoyment Fear Confidence Empathy for others Language New terms Special terms Discussion Moral Consideration for others Acceptable behaviour. Intellectual Concentration. Curiosity Observation. Abstract thinking Problem-solving Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.4 Can you think of an activity that would encourage development in any three of the SPICE areas? Activity Developmental Categories Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.4 Give an example of a game for a small group of children or young people. What age is it for? How would you ensure the game encouraged a child or young person to interact better with their friends. Give examples of toys that would encourage a 5 year old boy to develop an open mind to what boys and girls can do. Cooking or playing with toy kitchen equipment Why are play, hobbies and interests important? Can you give examples to illustrate? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.4 Routines Why are routines important for children and young people? What routines do you have in your family and why? What are the main difficulties in maintaining routines with a child or young person? How do you help children or young people to manage routines? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 5. Supporting educational potential Give two examples of ways you have encouraged a child or young person to believe they can achieve at school. Give examples of how to encourage a pre-school child to learn something new. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Can you give some examples where you have made learning fun for a child or young person in your care. Singing a song to learn the days of the week What are the skills needed to encourage a child or young person to learn and achieve their potential? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Give an example of when you have worked with others to support a child or young person’s education. How could you support a child or young person who is not attending school? What support is available to help maintain a child or young person in school? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 What does ‘social exclusion’ mean? Give an example of working with others to support a young person in planning to leave school. What were the difficulties? How did you support them? List the support and resources available to support a young person who has left school. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 How can you help a young person to attend school and achieve their potential? What skills do you need? Give an example when you have advocated for a child or young person to ensure their educational needs are met. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Identifying learning opportunities in books What can a child learn from sharing a book with you? Think about the learning opportunities that can come out of sharing a book. An opportunity to develop listening skills An opportunity to develop speaking skills An opportunity to develop knowledge of the world An opportunity to contribute to personal, social and emotional development An opportunity for creative and imaginative development Sharing a book An opportunity to develop writing skills An opportunity to develop reading skills An opportunity for mathematical development Mathematical development Count the creatures that chase the gingerbread man. Count the eyes on a tray of gingerbread men before they are baked. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Identifying learning opportunities in books Task 1 Think about the learning opportunities that can come out of sharing a book. Make a list below of your ideas. Development of listening Development of knowledge of the world Development of speaking Creative and imaginative development Personal, social and emotional development Mathematical development Development of writing Development of reading Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Choosing a book to share What skills do you use when choosing a book to share with a child? What will the children get out of it? What’ s the cover like? What’s the whole story? How can I help the childre n get the most out of it? Does it link with our current activity plannin g?Who’s it for? What does it say in the blurb? What kind of thing is it abou t? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Spidergram Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Choosing a book to share Task 1 Use the information to choose a book to use with each child. Write the title in the space under the picture and explain why you choose each book. Laura is 8 months old. She can sit without support, and is beginning to shuffle on her bottom. She makes repeated sounds such as ‘da da da’. Mark is three. He lives in the country. He enjoys spotting cars when he is out with his mum. He is just starting to count. Tariq is seven. He has been reluctant to read to himself. He is developing a keen interest in playing and watching football. Kayley is five. She has been an only child, but her mum has remarried and is going to have a baby soon. Task 2 Observe a child choosing a book. Make a note of the skills they use. A list has been started for you. Add your own observations to it. Examples; Your list; Looks at the cover? Looks at the blurb? Looks at the illustrations randomly throughout the book? Starts at the beginning and turns the pages methodically? Treats the book with respect? Spends time looking at the text? Is confident about reading aloud to themselves or their friends? Copies what you do? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Book review Title of the book Author What age child do you think would like this book? (Tick one or more) __ 0–1 __ 1–3 __ 3–5 __ 6–8 __ 8–10 __ over 10 Tick the type of book __ story __ picture __ interactive __ information __ poetry _other Briefly what is the book about? What do you like or dislike about this book? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Getting ready to read Make it fun Plenty of variety Read anywhere/any time Help children to join in Let your child choose Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Developing mathematical language For children to develop a rich mathematical language, it is important that they hear mathematical language being used correctly and have opportunities to practise using it. Use the correct mathematical language to describe things. Use a wide range of maths language. What is the difference between 6 and 3? Take 3 away from 6. 6-3 How many fewer is 3 than 6? How many left over? Leaves how many? Here’s a pentagon 6 minus 3. Avoid ambiguities that can lead to misunderstandings . The first hand is pointing to 12. Which number is the second hand pointing to? Subtract 3 from 6. 3 less than 6. How can I help children to use mathematical language? Encourage children to talk about what they are doing. Why are these shapes good for building with? Model language by describing what children are doing. How are the red and blue shapes different? How are they the same? Look, you’ve made a pattern with the cylinders and cubes. It repeats itself: red, yellow, blue, red, yellow, blue. What shall we put on next? Value what children say and extend their vocabulary. My shape has three pointy bits. Yes. It’s got three corners. Tip If there are any maths words or phrases you’re not sure of, check the meaning in a dictionary. You can also ask your child’s teacher for some information. The National Numeracy Strategy lists words and phrases that children need to understand in order to make good progress in maths. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Developing mathematical language Task 1 Many practitioners find it useful to have a checklist of maths vocabulary and ideas. Fill in the missing parts on this checklist for encouraging children to talk about the properties of 3D shapes. 3D shape Name of shape Number of edges Number of corners cube 12 8 Task 2 You can encourage children to use mathematical language by modelling it to them first. Describe these 2D shapes using the language modelled and Year 2 mathematical vocabulary from the National Numeracy Strategy. This regular hexagon has 6 straight sides and 6 corners. It has 6 lines of symmetry. This _______ has ___ _______ ______ and ___ ________. It has ___ lines of ________. This _______ has ___ _______ ______ and ___ ________. It has ___ lines of ________. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Choosing activities to develop numeracy skills Much of children’s learning occurs through talk and play. It is up to you to provide experiences and activities that promote children’s learning. Making a shopping list reading and writing numbers using vocabulary for weights and liquid measures At the shops practising mental maths skills counting money selecting and counting produce Cooking together Washing up sorting items by shape and size measuring liquids estimating amounts Presenting the food decorating using repeating patterns or symmetry cutting into halves and quarters (fractions) sharing into equal amounts (division) calculating how many will be left (subtraction) setting the table, counting out cutlery, placements, etc. Making the recipe counting weighing comparing amounts comparing sizes discussing shapes Cooking the food looking at clocks counting minutes forwards and backwards setting timers discussing temperature Consider Are there more numeracy skills that could be practised or learned in a structured cooking activity? Consider other numeracy skills you could teach or practise with the children you work with. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Choosing activities to develop numeracy skills Task 1 1 Think of an activity that you could do with children (for example, a teddy bears’ picnic, an outing to the park, gardening). 2 Think of the opportunities that the activity provides for children to practise, learn or extend numeracy skills. 3 Draw a spidergram (like the one on choosing a book). Put your activity in the centre below and arrange the opportunities for developing numeracy skills around it. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.5 Choosing activities to develop numeracy skills Task 2 Here are the key objectives in relation to measure for Reception, Year 1 and Year 2. Think of some practical activities that offer the chance to practise, learn or extend the numeracy skills. List your ideas below. Reception Use language such as more or less, heavier or lighter, to compare two quantities. Year 1 Suggest suitable standard units and measuring equipment to measure a length, mass or capacity. Activities Activities Year 2 Read a simple scale to the nearest labelled division, including using a ruler to draw and measure lines to the nearest centimetre. Activities Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.6 6. Understanding contexts What is meant by a wider family, caring or social network? Consider one child, young person or sibling group in your care and describe as many differences as you can between their previous family, cultural and social networks compared to those in your family. Previous Current Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.6 Who is included in these networks for one of the children or young people you care for? Why is it important to see the children and young people you work with as part of a wider family, caring or social network? How do these networks affect development? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.6 Give an example of how family, caring or social networks can assist and impede the development of a child or young person. Assist Impede How would you prepare a child to move to a lesbian or gay family (or different to your own in some other way)? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.6 Supporting transitions between cultural and family networks. In the following Case Study about Satnam, she has contact with her previous Foster Carers that becomes difficult and upsetting. Please answer the following questions. a.) How do you think Mrs. Fletcher felt about Satnam moving to live with her aunt? b.) Why do you think it was in Satnam’s best interest to move back to her family? c.) What are the ‘mixed messages’ that Satnam is hearing about living with her aunt? d.) What could Mrs. Fletcher do differently to make the contact visits more manageable for Satnam? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.6 Satnam Satnam, aged 10, had been fostered by the Fletchers for four years whilst plans to move her back with her birth parents had been attempted and failed. The Fletchers had grown very close to Satnam and wanted to adopt her. Despite Satnam’s long placement and strong attachment to the Fletchers, she needed to live within her own family and culture. Eventually, she was placed with a maternal aunt. It was planned that she would have regular contact with the Fletchers following her move. However, at each contact visit, Mrs. Fletcher would start crying and tell Satnam how much she missed her. She would quiz Satnam about the care she was receiving and imply that it was not good enough. Her departing comment was typically, “If you have any problems or if things aren’t going well for you, you can always ring us. You know that you are always welcome to come back and live with us.” These contact sessions were confusing for Satnam. Although she looked forward to them, afterwards she became very upset. Following the last visit, she had begun to deliberately hurt herself. The Fletchers’ Social Worker would need to talk with them about the affect of their visits and the mixed messages Satnam was getting as a result. He would also need to support them with their painful feelings of loss around Satnam. Ultimately, if Mrs. Fletcher could not change her behaviour, then the contact visits would need to be stopped as Satnam’s self-harming behaviour outweighed any long-term benefits gained by maintaining the contact. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.6 Identifying the support needs of grieving children a.) What are the four stages in the process of grieving? Loss Resolution / moving on b. Describe how a child might behave and feel at each stage and what support they would need. Stage: Behaviour Feelings Support needs Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.6 Stage: Behaviour Feelings Support needs Feelings Support needs Feelings Support needs Stage: Behaviour Stage: Behaviour Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.6 Enabling children to manage separation and loss List three things you could do to help a child to express their feelings and three things you would avoid doing. Dos Show you care Don’ts Change the subject when they mention loss What factors may affect how a child reacts to loosing their parents? Why is the period between the ages six months to four years the most difficult age to move children? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.7 7. Promote positive sexual health and sexual identity What information and advice should children and young people have about their sexual health at the following ages; 9 years 11 years 15 years Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.7 How would you ensure you were able to pass on accurate and up-to-date information? How would you open up a discussion about sex and related issues with a child or young person? Give examples of things you use. In what ways is sex education more complicated with a Looked After child who may have been sexually abused? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.7 How would you respond to a 15 year old in your care who wanted to start a sexual relationship with their partner? Would it make a difference if it were a young woman or man? How would you respond to a 16 year old who wanted to start a sexual relationship with their partner and asked if their partner could stay the night in your house? Would gender or sexuality make a difference? What would you do if a 14 year old girl in your care disclosed that she had started a sexual relationship with her 21 year old boyfriend? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.7 What help do children and young people need to develop their sexual identity in positive ways? How would you respond to a child or young person telling you that he or she is gay/lesbian or bi-sexual or who was unsure of their sexual identity? What is your understanding of homophobic bullying in schools? How would you support a young person through this? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.8 8. Supporting disabled children and children with special educational needs Explain what is meant by ‘social and medical models of disability’. Medical model Social model Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.8 What is your own attitude to disability? Give three examples of needs which may be specific to children and young people who are disabled or have a learning disability. Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council Foster Carer Induction Worksheets 5.8 How can you help meet these needs? Think of a game you use that you might adapt so a disabled child or young person can join in? Think of an example of a special educational need. How could this be addressed at home and at school? Heather Roberts and Jayne Bacon Workforce Development Unit, Derbyshire County Council