Hong Rong Wu
Family Argument
In my mind, the families are not only consist with happiness and supportive, also
with many disputes. The happiness will make us feel comfortable and relax to stay in
families. The strong supportive make us lay down the burden from the school and
society. Beside the positive side, all the members in a family always have some
arguments, even fighting. Sometime the argument or fight would destroy the family,
but it could not cut off the relationship with each family member. Moreover, the small
argument would make us have tightly relationship.
There are many arguments in my family. In the young age, I always made a
argument or even fight with my sister. When I knew something which my sister liked,
I would fight with her, even I did not like it at all. The arguments and fight did not
destroy the relationship between my sister and me. After a while the argument and
fight, we would forgive each other soon. Then we would play together. That seemed
the arguments and fights were never happened. With the argument, I really felt I had
tightly relationship with my sister. Maybe in the young age, the argument and fight
was one of the common ways to communication. Until now, I still have some small
argue with her. From the long time argument and fight experiences, we know each
other well. Sometime, I do not need to talk; my sister will know what I need. The well
understanding is from life argument and fully forgiveness. No matter how terrible of
the argument, the family always would forgive it. Like in the article “My Father's Life”
by Raymond Carver, his mother forgave his father when his father got sick. Also his
mother paid full attention to take care him. The reason for his mother to do that is,
because they are a family, a union. We would supply fully supportive to our family.
Beside my sister, I often have argument with my father. For all the children, they
would deference to their parents on their early age. When they have their own
opinions about lives, they begin to argument or fight with parents for their freedom
and opinions. In my case, I do not have a lot of communicate with my father, because
we did not live together for five years. My father arrives America first, the rest family
member came five years later. Because of five years bland life experience, we missed
many valuable things and time. Then my father is a stubborn person. He does not
accept my idea at all. Many times, I keep my mouth close. If I talk something
different with him, the argument will be created. The main reason for argument is we
accept different culture. My father trust Chinese culture and I learn the western
education and culture. When two different types culture crash together, the fire come
out. Beside argument, my father asks me to do something or help; I always do my best
to help him. In my mind, that's son responsibility. Moreover, my father does his
responsibility well for our family. In “Notes From A Son To His Father” by Russell C.
Leong, he did not know and like his father at all. It seemed he did not have father. But
when Leong was in the middle of father and son, he knew his responsibility to be a
father and son.
Family is a union. Every people play their own role in family. Each role has own
responsibility for the family. Each role can create happiness and argument. Many
times, the happiness is come after the argument and forgiveness. The argument makes
people understand deeply the happiness. Finally, argument makes people feel tightly.
The family relationship cannot cut off by the family argument.