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Destiny Robinson
K.Turner
English 111
29 September 2014
A Love Affair
Many relationships and marriages deals with love affairs. It’s estimated that roughly 30 to
60% of all married individual’s will engage infidelity at some point during thing their marriage
(‘Truth About”). “A love affair is a romantic or sexual relationship between two people,
especially one that is outside of marriage” (Google). Cheryl Scruggs, a divorce supporter gives
some viewpoint of love affairs.
According to Cheryl Scruggs, the fatal blow to any marriage and relationship is called an
adulterous affair where one or both spouses think they finally found his or her soul mate (1).
Scruggs also states, “A love affair starts many times by the sudden emotional or physical
connection deceived us into thinking we had known them all our life….This new love was the
missing puzzle to our happiness or so we thought” (1). We become vulnerable with the other
person not becoming cautious of the relationship that is beginning to happen. “The emotional
and physical disconnect is subtle and sometimes goes unnoticed until we find ourselves in the
arms of another person” (Scruggs). Which symptoms starts to forms that are not easy to point out
but, when expose to reality are easy to recognize.
However,” love affairs could be easy to maintain the illusion and romanticize a
relationship if the relationships are based on secret….It gives the other person the object of
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desires, that they are wanted based on the fact that they fulfil someone’s need to be “in love” not
based on who they actually are” (Cathy Meyer). Love affairs keep others from thinking and
acting in a different sense of manner. It becomes a sense of intoxication and addictive as alcohol
or drugs due to the good feeling they illicit in the cheater; the chemical high of being “in love”
(Meyer). They start to form a few characteristics of love affair such as, they feel as they can’t
live without each other, a fear they will have to fall apart emotionally, deep feeling of anxiety,
and ability to find comfort when they are not with the affair partner (Meyer ).
Which, getting at the root of infidelity can be a problem; for, instance someone who has
been in unhappy relationship for a long time may use affair as a way to finally exit the
relationship (Goff). Therefore, the spouse is faced with knowledge of their spouse
cheating….Creating different emotions such as, denial refusing to believe that their spouse is
cheating, anger they didn’t know they were capable of, and rejection personally rejected when
they find that their spouse had replaced them with another (Meyer). “It can symptomatic the
person inability to master a particular developmental life task or crisis” (Bagarozzi3). That would
cause an experience of wide range of emotions; therefore, imperative to develop good coping
skills (Meyer). But, therapist asses’ numbers of inter elated factors in the relationship….”The
degree of disaffection present in the spouse to improve the relationship, and the capacity and
desire of both spouses to grant forgiveness” (Bagarozzi14).
Which, due to statics 30 to 60 % shows once again; how many relationships and
marriages are affected by the difference between marriages, relationships and love affairs. A
relationship is when two people are connected to each other. The word marriage means a
commitment between two people that are joining together. A love affair is intimate or strong
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relationship with someone other than their spouse; that some relationships and marriages may
struggle with day to day.
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Works Cited
Meyer, Cathy. “Why Is A Love Affair So Intoxicating?”
DivorceSupport.com. DivorceSupport.com, 2014.Web.
Goff, Keli. “What Turns A Love Affair Into A Relationship That Actually Last?”
FocusOnTheFamily.com. FocusOnTheFamily.com, 14 Jan. 2014. Web.
Scruggs, Cheryl. “An Affair: The Beginning of the End”
TheDailyBeast.com. TheDailyBeast.com, 1997. Web. 2014.
Sr. Bagarozzi, A. Dennis. “Understanding and Treating Marital Infidelity: A Multidimensional
Model.” Family Therapy 36 (2008): 1-17. Ebsco. Web.2008.
“Love Affair.” Google Online. Google Online, 2014. Web.