Speaking different languages makes good communication difficult
How was love expressed in your family?
If we want to communicate effectively with our spouses, we may have to learn their Love Language .
When the emotional tank is low, feelings of love go away
When I feel loved by my spouse, I feel secure and my sense of self-worth is fed.
If she/loves me, I must have significance .
“I can live for two months on a good compliment.”
Verbal compliments are far greater motivators than nagging words
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse’s perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse.
Emphasis is not on what you’re doing but on why
Togetherness is focused attention, not proximity
Doesn’t matter what you do
Gifts are visible symbols of love that have emotional value.
You can learn to be a proficient gift giver
Doesn’t have to be expensive or often.
It has nothing to do with monetary value and everything to do with love!
There’s presents and then there’s presence
The gift of self
The Gift of Self
Doing things you know your spouse would like you to do
Requires thought, planning, time, effort, energy… and a positive spirit
Need to learn their dialect so we can do the right things!
Some people emotionally yearn for their spouses to reach out and touch them physically
Which love language does your spouse speak?
When an action doesn’t come naturally to you, it is a greater expression of love
Just do it, whether you understand it, like it, or want to.
Love is a choice
If I know their primary love language and choose to speak it, her/his deepest emotional need will be met and she/he will feel secure in my love.
Each partner holds the key to changing the emotional climate of the marriage.