Jessica Patton March 11, 2012 English 11 P.4A Research Essay Relationships and the Great Gatsby Have you ever wondered why people stay in bad marriages? In The Great Gatsby Tom and Daisy’s marriage is a prime example of “bad.” Tom has a lot of money and they live in East Egg (old money). He cheats on Daisy with a lower class woman named Myrtle. Neither Tom nor Daisy is happy, but they have a child together and for some reason both of them continue to stay in the marriage. I think people stay in bad marriages out of fear, reputation, and money. Some believe people stay in bad marriages because of fear of the unknown. Patricia Wall, a journalist, said: “The reasons that people give for staying in a marriage are almost always a lie. They stay because they’re afraid of the unknown—of change.”(Shannon) I completely agree with this, because everyone always makes up excuses for staying in their marriage when it is really fear. I think this is partially the case for Tom and Daisy because they have been married for a couple of years, and they are comfortable. Not only would divorce be uncommon, but it would also completely disrupt their lifestyle. It is clear Daisy is not happy and knows Tom is cheating. ‘Go ahead,’ answered Daisy genially. ‘And if you want to take down any addresses here’s my little gold pencil. . . ‘ (Fitzgerald 112). But despite the cheating and the spite she feels towards him, she still stays with him. I think she is afraid of what will happen if she leaves him. It is hard to break old habits, and for Daisy, Tom is like a habit. People like normalcy and routine. Another reason people stay in bad marriages is to withhold social reputations. “People getting divorced are looked down by the society and some religions. So many pretend that they have a happy marriage even if they are suffering”(Animika). I also agree with this, because people look at divorce as an embarrassment, or at least the people in bad marriages believe others will think of them as an embarrassment if they get a divorce. This was especially true in the 1920’s (when the novel takes place). In the 1920’s it was not against the law to get a divorce, but it was extremely uncommon. Daisy and Tom are considered upper class. They come from old money and both of them tend to be rather vain. “Oh, I’ll stay in the East, don’t you worry,’ he said, glancing at Daisy and then back at me as if he were alert for something more. ‘I’d be a God Damn fool to live anywhere else” (Fitzgerald 15). They care about how society perceives them. I think a divorce would be a major embarrassment to them. Daisy and Tom want to be viewed as perfect. Finally, my last reason people stay in bad marriages, and perhaps the most pertinent to the novel is money. Finances can be a stress in any marriage but more so when it comes to divorce. I think money can be a big factor if you have a child because you don’t want your child to go without. This isn’t so much a problem for Tom as it is for Daisy. She wants to stay with Tom because he is rich and his family always has been which is respectable in this time period. If she left Tom she would have no money. There is the possibility of her turning to Gatsby, but he is new money and I think for her social standards that would be a step down on the latter. For Tom’s point of view if he left Daisy he could turn to Myrtle, but she is considered lower class and lives in the Valley of the Ashes. She is broke and even though Tom has money, I don’t think it is reason enough to leave Daisy. Throughout The Great Gatsby, nothing about the marriage of Tom and Daisy can be considered good. There is cheating going on, and neither of them are happy. Also they have feelings for other people. They have been together for five years and have a child together, but is that enough to stay together and to stay miserable? I think people stay in bad marriages out of: fear, reputation, and money.