Ayahs 221 – 228
Ayah 221
And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe.
And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist,
even though she might please you. And do not marry
polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And
a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though
he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but
Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His
permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people
that perhaps they may remember.
Beauty
Money
Intellect
Status
Why is a Believer Better?
Ayah 222
And they ask you about menstruation. Say, "It
is harm, so keep away from wives during
menstruation. And do not approach them
until they are pure. And when they have
purified themselves, then come to them from
where Allah has ordained for you. Indeed,
Allah loves those who are constantly
repentant and loves those who purify
themselves."
Prayer
Tawaf
Prohibited
Marital
Relationship
Fasting
Dhikr
Staying
near
someone
praying
Rites of
Hajj
Permissible
Attending
Eid
Prayer
Recite
Qur’an
Listening
Qur’an
Women
Physical
Emotional
Spiritual
Physical
Emotional
Psychological
Bloating
Depressed mood
Difficulties
concentrating
Weight Gain
Abdominal Pain
Muscle and joint pains
Breast pain and swelling
Headache
Fatigue
Difficulty sleeping
Dizziness
Anger
Irritability
Forgetfulness
Confusion
Feeling of loss of control
Tension
Restlessness
Anxiety
Food cravings
Lack of sexual interest
Decreased efficiency
Source: The College of Family Physicians of Canada
Eat whole grains
Take low fat, high fiber meals
Avoid refined sugar
Cut back on salt
Cut back on caffeine
Opt for organic products
Build up your stores of calcium and magnesium
Do not overcook the vegetables, eat lots of fresh Salad
Drink plenty of water
Evening
Primrose
Oil (500
mg – 3X)
Calcium
(1200 mg)
Vitamin B6
(50 mg)
Magnesium
(360 mg)
Source: The College of Family Physicians of Canada
How to Attain Allah’s Love
Love of
Allah
Tawbah
Purity
Purify
Limbs
Purify
Heart
Purify
Inner Self
Purify
Physically
[Source: Mukhtasar Minhaaj al Qaasideen : P. 31, Author: Ahmad ibn ‘Abdur Rahmaan Al Maqdisee]
Track your Menstrual Cycle: Apps
Ayah 223
Your wives are a place of sowing of seed for
you, so come to your place of cultivation
however you wish and put forth
[righteousness] for yourselves. And fear
Allah and know that you will meet Him.
And give good tidings to the believers.
Similarly a man takes care of his wife
Any
Time
Any
Position
Any
Manner
Do Good
Deeds
‫َوقَ ِّد ُموا‬
Say Bismillah
Before the act
Focus on
Having
Children
Abide by the
Instructions
given by Allah
Obey Allah’s
Commands
Stay Away
from
Prohibitions
‫هللا َواعلَ ُموا َأنَّ ُُك م ََالقُو‬
َّ ‫َوات َّ ُقوا‬
Husband &
Wife not
giving rights
to each other
Forgetting
Allah’s
Commands
Before Marriage
After Marriage
Focus on Akhirah!
Focus on Spouse
Ayah 224
And do not make [your oath by] Allah an
excuse against being righteous and
fearing Allah and making peace among
people. And Allah is Hearing and
Knowing.
Oaths to
Prevent from
Doing Good
Oaths
claiming we
will Do Good
‫َ َِّسيع‬
• Your Oaths
‫عَ ِّلي‬
• Your Deeds
Ayah 225
Allah does not impose blame upon you
for what is unintentional in your
oaths, but He imposes blame upon
you for what your hearts have earned.
And Allah is Forgiving and Forbearing.
Allah will not call you
to account for the
oaths that you made
unintentionally
Intention
Emotions
Speaking while
Thinking
Speaking while
not Thinking
The reward for each is different
Ayah 226
For those who swear not to have sexual
relations with their wives is a waiting
time of four months, but if they return
[to normal relations] - then indeed,
Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.
Ilaa.
A specific oath
when the man
swears that he will
not have any sexual
relations with his
wife for a certain
time period.
Swearing
Ilaa
Maximum
Four
Months
Swearing Ilaa
for more than
4 months
Four Months
Passed
Separation
Matter will go
to the Court
Ayah 227
And if they decide on divorce
- then indeed, Allah is
Hearing and Knowing.
Ayah 228
Divorced women remain in waiting for three periods, and
it is not lawful for them to conceal what Allah has
created in their wombs if they believe in Allah and the
Last Day. And their husbands have more right to take
them back in this [period] if they want reconciliation.
And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of
them, according to what is reasonable. But the men
have a degree over them [in responsibility and
authority]. And Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise.
Menstruation
‫ُق ُروء‬
Tuhr
Divorcee
Pregnant Divorcee
• Three Menstrual Cycles
• Until she delivers the baby
Female after Menopause
• Three Lunar Months
Female before Menstruation
• Three Lunar Months
Slave Girl
Widow
When Women asks for Divorce
• Two Lunar Months
• Four Months & 10 Days
• One Lunar Month
Its a Warning!
If you believe then don’t
hide and lie about
pregnancy
Mahr
Food
F
M
Financial
Clothing
Rights of a Wife
Accommodation
Fair Treatment
Non Financial
No Harm
N
F
o
Obligation of
Obedience
Availability
Rights of a
Husband
Non Financial
Protecting His
Privacy
Not Letting his
disliked ones
come
Not going
anywhere without
his permission
Rank in Responsibility and
Rank in Authority
Authority
Responsibility
But Fear Allah and do NOT use
this authority for your own
purposes