The differences between the expectations & feelings that girls & guys have when going through a dating relationship.

Social development of Relationships
List the 4 levels of relationships:
1.
4.
Acquaintance
2.
Casual
3.
Close
Intimate

– Females:
 Mature earlier
 Focus on warmth, closeness, security
 Express their feelings & emotions through words
– Males:
 Respond more strongly to visual stimulation
 More easily and quickly aroused
 Express their feelings & emotions through actions

Because…
Men don’t feel it necessary to confront a friend whose attitudes or behaviors bother them. Many times because they don’t feel it’s worth the conflict.
Women are typically pickier about their friends attitudes and behaviors being the same as their own.

1. Relationships are based on shared conversations.
2. Relationships are more intense, more valued, more intimate and more dependant than guy relationships.
3. Girls are often more critical of their friends & significant others and less satisfied with them than guys.
1. Relationships are based on shared activities.
2. Guys like relationships that are low key and center around activities they do together.
3. Relationships move on a surface level…not around the feelings of like/love, etc.

All that being said,in a building relationship, who moves from
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How does a high school dating relationship start?
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What single need is being met in the beginning of a high school dating relationship? Why?
– Emotional?
– Social?
– Physical?

When dating begins both genders have different needs:
From the “Acquaintance” to “Close” relationship stages…
…Females have more:
EMOTIONAL NEEDS o Girls are more likely to... o Show affection by sharing their feelings, emotions, etc o Do certain behaviors (can be sexual) in order to please their significant other o Defend their significant other when others put them down o
…Males have more:
PHYSICAL NEEDS
Boys are more likely to...
o Show affection through physical contact with their significant other o Want to move quickly through the different levels of physical closeness (sexual behavior) o Put on a front about their true feelings about their significant other

As relationships develop from the needs for girls & guys shift...
In the move from a “Close” relationship to an “Intimate” relationship… o
…FEMALES will have more:
PHYSICAL NEEDS
More likely to...
o Show affection through physical contact with their significant other
…MALES will have more:
EMOTIONAL NEEDS o More likely to... o Show affection by sharing their feelings, emotions, etc o Defend their significant other when others put them down o Want to move quickly through the different levels of physical closeness

As a relationship becomes more intimate, both guys & girls will become more accustomed to...
• Sharing feelings & emotions with each other
• Passion (emotional & physical)
– strong feelings or emotions
– being intensely emotional
– a feeling of strong sexual desire
– any object of warm affection or devotion

GIRLS
1.
Social Needs
BOYS
1.
Social Needs
2.
Emotional Needs 2.
Physical Needs
3.
Physical Needs
MARRIAGE
3.
Emotional Needs
MARRIAGE
What do you think happens once each of these needs are met in the correct order ?

Individual Reflection: in your notes, write your answer to the following…
What might a girl do to make the:
Social  Emotional  Physical change to
Social  Physical  Emotional
Why?
&
What might a boy do to make the:
Social  Physical  Emotional change to
Social  Emotional  Physical
Why?