THE LEADERSHIP
TRIANGLE
SERVANT LEADERSHIP
Authority based on influence
Service and Sacrifice
Love – the verb
Will
LEADERSHIP
 Leadership - The skill of influencing people to work
enthusiastically toward goals identified as being for the
common good.
 The key to leadership is accomplishing the tasks at hand while building
relationships. All of life is relational.
 There is an opportunity for leadership when two or more people are
together.
 Think of a time when you have been a leader. Describe.
TRUST
 The most important ingredient in a successful relationship is trust.
Without trust, it is difficult, if not impossible, to maintain a good
relationship.
 Who do you trust? How was that relationship created? Describe. Why
is trust important in leadership?
INFLUENCE
 Influence - The skill of getting people to willingly do your will
because of your personal influence.
 Influence is about who you are as a person, your character, and the
influence you've built with people.
 Is there someone who you willingly do something for them? How did
they create influence with you?
POWER
 Power: The ability to force or coerce someone to do your will,
even if they would choose not to, because of your position or
your might. Power erodes relationships. Power erodes trust.
 Compare a time where you have led trough influence and a time where
you have led with power. Describe.
 What is you natural tendency?
SERVICE AND SACRIFICE
 Service and Sacrifice - What you do when you have made the
choice to identify and meet the legitimate needs of others,
when you have made the choice to love.
 Service and sacrifice are what authority is built upon. It just makes
sense. you reap what you sow - The Law of the Harvest. You serve me,
I'll serve you. You go to the wall for me, I'll go to the wall for you.
When someone does us a good turn, don't we naturally feel indebted?
 Describe a time where you have sacrificed in order to serve.
LOVE THE VERB
 Love, the verb - The act or acts of extending yourself for others by
identifying and meeting their legitimate needs, not wants. Love is
not how you feel toward others, but how you behave toward others.
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Agape - the love of behavior and deliberate choice. I cannot
always control how I feel about other people, but I certainly am in control
of how I behave toward other people.
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When we choose to love, to extend ourselves for others, we will be
required to be patient, kind, humble, respectful, selfless, forgiving, honest, and
committed. These behaviors will require us to serve and sacrifice for
others. We may have to sacrifice our egos or even our bad moods on a
particular day. We will have to sacrifice by loving and extending ourselves
for people we may not even like.
LOVE THE VERB AND SACRIFICE
 Describe a time where you have chosen to be patient, kind ,
humble, respectful , selfless forgiving, honest or committed.
 Describe a time where you have willingly sacrificed.
WILL
 Will - Our unique ability as human beings to align our intentions
with our actions and choose our behavior. With the proper will, we
can choose to love, the verb, which is about identifying and meeting the
legitimate needs, not wants, of those we lead. Will is the choices we make
to align our actions with our intentions.
 Intentions minus Actions = Squat
= Will
Intentions plus Actions
 Describe a time where something has been successful because of your
WILL.
 Describe a time where something has been unsuccessful because of your
LACK of WILL.
SUMMARY
 Summary:
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Leadership begins with the will, which is our unique ability
as human beings to align our intentions with our actions and
choose our behavior. With the proper will, we can choose to
love, the verb, which is about identifying and meeting legitimate
needs, not wants, of those we lead. When we meet the needs
of others, we will, by definition, be called upon to serve and
even sacrifice. When we serve and sacrifice for others, we build
authority or influence,The Law of the Harvest. And when we
build influence with people, then we have earned the right to
be called a leader.
WHO ARE OUR GREATEST LEADERS?
 The ones who have served the most!
 Make a list of the greatest leaders of all time.
 What do they have in common?
WHO ARE THE WORST LEADERS OF ALLTIME?
 Make a list of the worst leaders of all time.
 What do they have in common?
DISCIPLINE
 Being a leader requires change. We can change our nature through our
deliberate choices. It is human nature to be self-centered.
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Discipline - teaching ourselves to do what is not natural.
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Paradigms - our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs greatly influence
behavior.
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Praxis - our behavior influences our thoughts and feelings. So, if I
make a commitment to love and extend myself for those I serve, and align
my actions and behaviors to that commitment, positive regard for those
people will follow over time.
IT TAKES TIME 
 The Four Stages of Building Character:
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Stage One - Unconscious and unskilled
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Stage Two - Conscious and unskilled
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Stage Three - Conscious and skilled
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Stage Four - Unconscious and skilled