COMMUNICATION: FOR
BETTER OR FOR WORST
Family Life Week 2015
Sunday February 1, 2015
COMMUNICATION
A DEFINATION
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Communication is the process of exchanging
information and feelings between two or more
persons
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It is verbal; this is what we say
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Its is also non verbal; this is the message about the
message.
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Communication is one of the most important
features of a happy marriage and family!
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HOW DO WE COMMUNICATE FOR BETTER
COMMUNICATION
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In marriage and the Family Communication should
be:
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People expressing themselves in a caring and
concerned manner
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When one talks the other listens
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In communication you will want the best for others
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When differences occur they will be delt with by
respecting the other person’s needs and desires
COMMUNICATION
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There will be an effort to understand each other’s
point of view and to respond with empathy
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There will be an attitude of submission and a
willingness to consider giving up your own needs and
desires for the sake of others and the relationship
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All will work together to get solutions through
mutual acceptance, commitment, forgiveness, and
servanthood
COMMUNICATION
SECRETS
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THE WAYS WE COMMUNICATION
Every message has three components
1.
The actual content
2.
The tone of voice
3.
The nonverbal communication
COMMUNICATION
Every message has three components
1.
The actual content = 7%
2.
The tone of voice = 38%
3.
The nonverbal communication (gestures) = 55%
COMMUNICATION
Communication Components
Verbal
Communication
Tone of Voice
Non-verbal
Gestures
COMMUNICATION
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We can tell
1. sincerity or insincerity
2. conviction or lack of conviction
3. truth or falsity
Of statements we hear by
RATE OF SPEECH, VOICE PITCH, LOUDNESS,
AND VOICE QUALITY
COMMUNICATION
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Faulty communication practices Eph. 4:25,29
1.
Criticism/quarreling
2.
Lying
3.
Faultfinding
4.
Silent treatment
5.
Talking too much
6.
Bad joking
7.
Cursing
COMMUNICATION
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Learn to Listen - James 1:9
1. Listening means you are not thinking about what you
are going to say - Pro. 18:13
2. Listening means that you are accepting of what is
being said without judging the other person or what
the person is saying
3. Listening means being able to repeat what your
sweetheart has said, and be able to express what the
other person is feeling. This is called reflective
listening.
COMMUNICATION
SECRETS
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1. Make communication a priority
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2. Establish and maintain eye contact
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3. Ask open ended questions
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4. Use reflective listening
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5. Use “I” statements
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6. Touch
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7. Use “soft” emotions
COMMUNICATION
SECRETS
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8. Avoid negative expressivity
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9. Say positive things about your spouse
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10. Tell your partner what you want
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11. Stay focused on the issue
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12. Make specific resolutions to disagree
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13. Give congruent messages
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14. Keep the process communication going
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15. Keep God in your communication
COMMUNICATION
SECRETS
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At the end of the day family members should be
specialists at communication.
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It should be made priority
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It should be family friendly
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Communication should be redemptive, we do it not
just for earthly harmony and joy, but also for
heavenly harmony and joy.
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While it should be self focused, it must also be other
focused.