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Barry Gane
(Thank You Wayne French)

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Mentoring is a dynamic, intentional relationship of trust where one person enables another to maximise the
Grace of God in their life and service.

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 In Homer's Odessey , the Greek warrior
Odysseus leaves his wife and his young son, Telemarchus, at home while he journeys to fight in the Trojan War. To ensure that his son is adequately cared for, Odysseus appoints a teacher named
Mentor to tutor the boy and act as a guardian and friend while he is way.

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The privilege of having a mentor is to know I do not run alone.
Someone is barracking for me
Heb 10:24,25…spur one another on towards love and good deeds…encourage one another

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 Of 400 leaders in the Bible only 100 finished well.
 10,000 ex-pastors in Australia!
(Rowland Croucher, - John Mark Ministries in Melbourne
Research)

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Pressure of Public Life
Compulsive competitive behavior
Irresistible forces of power(pride), wealth(greed), sex(lust).
Few meaningful relationships
Neglect of friends, spouse and family
Cynical spirit of Today’s media and society
Little or no intimacy with Christ
Difficulty in breaking one’s isolation and becoming transparent and vulnerable even within a caring group.

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 Latch-Key kids and Working
Parents
 Lifestyle Changes
 Adolescent Isolation

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The International Youth Foundation put it this way;
" Every young person needs at least one adult who is irrationally committed to their wellbeing. Millions of children grow up virtually alone - disconnected from adults. No love. No supervision. No positive role models. Yet these people must still find their way - they still grow up to become adults. Children can endure the most miserable conditions - even thrive in the midst of them when - if they have at least one loving adult committed to their success.
p66 New Directions

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The peer group exerts a powerful influence on millions of kids today, but it's only influence by default. It's influence given to it by a culture that has abandoned its young.
But when parents are there for their kids - and when young people are surrounded by adults who truly care about them - the peer group is virtually defanged…
Kids really do want guidance and direction from people who are older and wiser than they are.
New Direction p68

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 What the studies tell us is that teenagers do look first to significant adults in their lives for influence. They look to their parents, then to other family members, then to other adults who are "irrationally committed" to them. p67 New Directions

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 Christ centered
 Passionate
 Relational
 Affirming
 Trusting and Trustworthy

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 Available
 Open and Transparent
 Prayerful
 Self Aware

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 Adolescents need oases
- places where they can go and make mistakes and be imperfect
- places where they can test themselves in the presence of safe, caring, and accepting adults and peers.
An adolescent who is given the zip-it silencing treatment, learns quickly not to experiment or trust himself
Starting Right .308

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But suppose that they look at the model and find a person with whom they can truly identify.
Suppose they find a warm, loving, accepting, compassionate heart. Suppose they find high personal standards coupled with a great understanding of human weakness in others.
Suppose they find one who has purpose in life, who knows where he is going, and who journeys on his way with a song on his lips and a radiance on his face because God is with him.
Will they not say, " That's what I want let me follow you.
Teach me how to find the richness of life that you have found.”

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Jean E. Rhodes , A Critical View of Youth Mentoring:
New Directions for Youth Development,
Carol A. Mullen , Dale Lick , New Directions in
Mentoring: Creating a Culture of Synergy
Randy D. Reese , Keith R. Anderson , Spiritual
Mentoring: A Guide for Seeking and Giving
Direction
Cathi Basler , New Directions for Youth Ministry
“Intensive Caring: Practical ways to Mentor Youth” by
Group Publishing
“Successful Youth Mentoring” Group Publishing
“One Kid at a Time” Wayne Rice and Miles Mc Pherson

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Charles Kishpaugh & Barbara Bruce, Friends in
Faith: Mentoring Youth in the Church, 1993
Discipleship Resources, Nashville
Sharon Reed (ed.), Guides to Youth Ministry -
Pastoral Care, 1993 Don Bosco Multimedia, New
Rochelle
Sondra Higgins Matthaei, Faith Matters: Faith-
Mentoring in the Faith Community, 1996,Trinity
Press International, Valley Forge

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Cheryl Lawrie, (ed.), The Belonging Kit, 1998
Uniting Education, Melbourne
Devo'Zine Small Group an Mentor's Guide, Upper
Room, Nashville
John A Vitek, A Companion Way Mentoring Youth in Searching Faith, 1992 Saint Mary's Press,
Winona
William H. Willimon, Makin Disciples - a new approach to confirmation, 1990 Logos
Productions