Forgiveness Affirmations To be useful in changing long‐held thoughts, follow Jeff’s counter‐intuitive steps for using these affirmations. Cross out any affirmation that is comfortable for you to believe. You are now left with affirmations that are uncomfortable or illogical to you. These are the ones to read and reflect upon daily; each of these affirmations are true, right and wholesome. Regular reflection on these “uncomfortable truths” will allow you to begin to integrate these thoughts into your belief system. Forgiving my offender is a gift to myself. I’m the one most hurt by my anger and frustration. People who forgive generally have better relationships with others, feel happier and more hopeful Forgiveness can be learned The rewards of practicing forgiveness are powerful I acknowledge that I am fully responsible for my long‐term attitude I forgive myself for doing wrong, not being wrong When I behave badly, it is because of deep feelings of pain I must self‐forgive for the many ways I have failed to be the best version of my self I can give up all hope for a better past To forgive is to let go of the extra suffering I have imposed on myself after the normal cycle of grief has run it’s course I want to waste as little of my life as possible in the pain caused by anger and hurt Love comes with positive and negative experiences. I can’t expect to have only good things come my way I forgive myself for letting my grudges temporarily sidetrack me from appreciating life I understand that everyone, myself included, operates primarily out of self‐interest. I expect that sometimes, in my own self‐
interest, I will be hurt by my partner’s own expression of self‐interest