Forgiveness Affirmations
To be useful in changing long-held thoughts, follow Jeff’s counter-intuitive steps for using these affirmations.
Cross out any affirmation that is comfortable for you to believe. You are now left with affirmations that are
uncomfortable or illogical to you. These are the ones to read and reflect upon daily; each of these
affirmations are true, right and wholesome. Regular reflection on these “uncomfortable truths” will allow
you to begin to integrate these thoughts into your belief system.
Forgiving my offender is a gift to myself. I’m
the one most hurt by my anger and
frustration.
People who forgive generally have better
relationships with others, feel happier and
more hopeful
Forgiveness can be learned
The rewards of practicing forgiveness are
powerful
I acknowledge that I am fully responsible for
my long-term attitude
I forgive myself for doing wrong, not being
wrong
When I behave badly, it is because of deep
feelings of pain
I must self-forgive for the many ways I have
failed to be the best version of my self
I can give up all hope for a better past
To forgive is to let go of the extra suffering I
have imposed on myself after the normal
cycle of grief has run its course
I want to waste as little of my life as possible
in the pain caused by anger and hurt
Love comes with positive and negative
experiences. I can’t expect to have only good
things come my way
I forgive myself for letting my grudges
temporarily sidetrack me from appreciating
life
I understand that everyone, including myself,
operates primarily out of self-interest. I
expect that sometimes, in my own selfinterest, I will be hurt by my partner’s own
expression of self-interest
© 2016 Jeffrey Harris, MFT, PCC, CEAP