Beth
A lenerto Ben,Sam,Jakeand Nick
fom GrandmaPany
BethLolaireBknchette
1959- 1981
Arthor\ Nok
It ba!tal<ztt
rreMrerleery)ean
nMeBeth\deathtnfttd nteereryta
tti
"ri/e
tua af6erlife.Behgfttiftdhehed!
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'tary
J,t ofa htlarlah'rfon Qkys, lbetqiecttaakat a 4rt aJraavr'.1ftad
lishftd /n,Irakenat,a"daatcbe.d
e'Erytbi"glha'.eft/a,i'19/0
BelhI lfe. It has
been
a kryjaJa$, pai'f , c/thaftb,ftafrrninspnce$,a I a,, ,ery?nnd aJ
tbefrralbnd d.
I ewcialbaitb tot a"k te, *^efutu aulfan;!,nentet
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i ttb hficr- RnaGai&Sanb,Nary,
learie,CiaaMa*ne4I uilk andJoht
Ab|, I uib tathattkAhxa Ml:rea yhataak4t Micft'\t' ll/ad nfui
"'itb
n0tict retandf,'rralbdit, ,,i/b i,tnedibb
?die cr,;ntotbit k4 d0 ne"t,
A,'d I pt" tatba"AJ',rJf0rbb emtrageneat,
Wort, anl atuin or ixf*at
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2724Banga'Dire
Apla, CA 9500.1
Derenber
t998
Tonlsa
boy - Bcx,Szn lahe ad Ni.k,
lr hs bcn svcnren yeaEsnEerour Amt Bdh died. I tnow the four of),ou haveh€rd
her mN many tim$ bur I alsoImw you do not /.,/4 know ndch about hd - ts
$senccandhd spnir,I am hopingthn httd will propedyindoduceher to tou.
For somenr*plicablc rson, Bdh qDE honc fron speakingto a Dedh and Dying ddr
r Cabrillo and sid shd6 dnid she\lould beforgotren.Afaid thrt ve {outd ptrt xway
ali picnu€sofft! dc. Hd ldr dtrn{hih ftier& rnd frmil},ftmed in b nisn,l Nenr
rhroush aUou slid$ and phob nbums alld clos rhe pi.tures for c huse picrure
colhse h si,rg on $"ill in n) hone. Shekrs I w6 doins rhis.ltlough shedid,it live
long .noush ro se rhe 0nishedprodtrd tharjudy Stenovichpur togshd for s. And hq€
vc all aE, s*enreen I eas larer,csilr EnembdrS h* in wods io shtuewnh the four or
l.ledrLotrkevas bon rt l13l in rheDorningon Fridat April lT, r959 in a por6nolrh,
Ne\{ Hdnpshirehosptul.sheveished7 tbs.3 oz andv4 21" tong.Shcv4 born on
Gnndna Marior Bhnchctrc'sbnrhdar Tlq' wsc borh Aies ald left-landed. Someof
the Afts oais dnr fir !trh sde 'unusually fliedly with foretul mannci, a firn fiand"
claspandan in$ant smile....wil gghtvhd ftey fel is aninjutice andnor bebshtul
aboutvoi.ingopinions...verydnect,
bhnt...beableto dran theinpo$ible dreamdd
(&om
nake ir ohe tue.'
Linda Goodnd's sn s,r,t
CEndpa Ror and I had be€nn{rGd rlmos four ),€rs ryhenBdh rvasborn. \ve Mned
unril he had ecived ln bacheloriidesree{ the Uniyqsiq, ofNew Hanpshirc. we wtre
very happy to havehcr cone into ou liys and sddl). I Ered . snl bedK I'd had rhe
nanc Bdh picked our for a long dm€. Prcbablr Eading abour B erh i^ Lnde Wahe"
nJlucn-d me(hen I ws young. Her middle mne tnuisc wd Gnndna Eyeb,nBailey:
sugE$tion,
td'm)'AuntLouise(Prok p).
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ldh ws chi$enedii r rddborough, Neq HahpshiE,
Unit{hn Churh rndvore xchrnreninggownwon bymr
lirher Crardpr L$er LlailetI nill hrve lhc gownhcr. in !,),
bedoom closeLif-eran' ofFtr...
V/ctivcdin trtrups.i.aprrtmentni Drhan, Ncw Hrmp
shnc,duing her llr$ rtr. I was. say-r hone nom trnd
Gnndpr RoDsorLcdin Po(snouth trsleuidan.c c.unelor
while geftiDgiris Mr$€rl' degree.Cnig wasborn I 3 nrondr
lac rnd we allmo!.d b r abin on a ltrtewh*c cnndpi
ms a tifcgurd rnd .trnpgroundnantrgerfor dr sunmr, lr $is idyllicercn bush ve
hrd to divc 15 mihs io rvsh diapcafor $o babis (no disposablc
dhpds h tlos. dqsr!.
In Augrs of 1960wc put I 6 DrotrtlloldBdh on ar inphn€ vdr cftdmr RlaNherc
rndput2{ord!ol.l Crtrigin a honenadc.r bedo driv. b Oceuid., our tl6r lbnlc
in Ctrlitonia.LledrandCnig r€rc pla]nxa rnd buddics\Vs ln€d ,i Llods &on rlr
bcr.h r.d ihadvasd,c b.sinninBoi dtn bvc trrliirvith rh o.an
C/dis ant. tbk fo/ xoa bot'.
r wishi rcntd rend .r ntre orD',lifewith q,sjsd Berh,butwft n€ Lhir
n a wa] o hclp Krll d,os n.ndries trndto dr. theD rvith Lhc}';us
pcoplcin ou hmil] who did not htrvedE opporiuniy ro havedme {nir Lr{ii
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cones and shcthrs a softb.il faith$ than an',onc.!c rt thc !.!oo! ma,eor
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p a d , - b h o ih ,.n 1q. m,do \ . $ o r \ d d ,'a- nr :e- , ' . or{ l r - . r n .
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lovcrdr rerrninsrvassogr3trtthd slles{ involved
iD a $ic;fctrb,iuo
collesefield
kipsin theSiems,
orc bcinsnvowels Lcfortshedied.Th{
sbor.low inpotunr nrarpairof htr liiew$ rohc.
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Beth hade and had 2 larsesroup oFfriedr in hcr lhoa 22 yea$. Man), are
sill h our 1iv6 todal. I lovc thc pictue ofhd and hq ftiends cltins a hike in
thc nounbins, dl with novss in rheir hai and snil6 on their ftas. \ftat a
suic all rhc rih6 w€En'r grar. Hq ilhss dd deatl rook us all to a pla@ I
wish no pe6on or Annr would haveto go.Yd, {e lerned sonkh frc; hd.
Hcr .ourrge in d€,lins vnh hs own noralig' is r lcson I will neverforget.
Sheneversaid\vlryme or "whari|..", sheju$ livedherlile fullr with so
In closing, I would lile to sy, I lovedmy sisrr v€ry much. I hope shc knew
lhh. I think ir is hud for children dd rlung aduls ro *pr6s that lovea rhe
':n e .'rrh " e ,o , l d h "a8r o{ nolde,oga} .,..o",( ohJ\emof ,h.r o
shde in eachothdl felngs, bu olien life dos nor tum out thc my wewie\.
Nobod). h* tle "pdftd liE- or n the pde( pdson, dd Berhws no dcption. Shehad hs fa ts, swe all do, but I havealw.rs appeciaied rhd wnh
the shon rinc shchadvith r, shechos ro look at the g.od dd lerve rhe e$
A I'ar laer we moved io L HabE
rnd bousht ou ftst homc. Y.e had
r r4 fbotUdo sailboaidd wenrto
th€ ocan s much 6 we codd.
A(oding to her baby book, &F
ing thor ye{s he! livodre bool6
werenu4ery rhyme books, Czt t,
th.Eztid
10t Dalndtiaa. Ott
pds wd€ Tindn (a niniatu€
Da.hshmd) dd cali G cad. \qhen
Bethw6 5 y.ais old, sheftIl md
fractud he! skul while wc vdc
vhitinssirh ftiendsin LkAlowhad. ThdM El sarybut slE
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\ic livcdin i ncighborh.od ntrlb,|opuhcd vith yolng frmiliessollerh dd crlis hrd
o$ofplxrmaks ill dr dn.. Thg' did .ot atend pr{chool. It vrs notconhon in lhose
dars.v/c did bddng b rBtrb Sn Chb {her all rherounglimilis iook,urnscriDsfol
\{/c krc lirinC in Lr Hrbn ivhen lleth nared lind.garten. ft rvasrcrt .r.iting ro send
dufiNbornolltorhool. FoduDarehthesclool\
fin.ipalras linnrfiicnd Dous Ch.k
Uakc,room mncd for Dors who diedjLrrbeforeyourarc bo.nl drd oncofh*
ddindcrvrsMn.hcll chrk, Dougrnd slirleeison.
l\.lissKi$sbury, hd linddgartcn &trchd, vroc on hd Eport .d: A$ds: sood hrnd
eyecoordinatior-nus.ularc.odinrion follownrsdneciionsbeginDingdrdnnnhingro,kprcnprt
trunbd andrddins ietrdi.$s longfur onrprn Needsto grolv
in,trc.spb.ceofturtuadon-happinssandpideinvoLk .ounq,andrlf.onuol...
rfshe.rn 6nd thereson rorsonedriigshcisquncwilli.gto coifom. Bcthnvery..e
fivc md wiltingto hetpoth{s { al rs."
sanh w6 bom inhHibnFhen Llethe?salndssix
116 old rnd cnig rvrsfour ud a hilri Ttcr w{e both
\€.r,helptutFirh drerry bibyand lovcdhtrving
sneoneb bo$.TinoD,our D{[shud,wsllc
c,addpaandr wan,cd10livc ncrd rheoean sohe
toud ajob d sclDolpsy.hobsntin srnhcNzandwe
movedAuBu$ 196t. ve Ercd a l,o!s on ther€n
sideofsrntaCruz udh {rended [Ergnder Natural
BidgcsS.hool,x{ichras abrandncwscho.lhuiltjn
Lhcrcund.I.Ierrerclerws Ms. Cokon,whovrce on
htr cpo( d : "Bdh hasdone top flN giadeFollt r1l
ye2i . ft wasin M^ Colton's.lss ilD! l{h dew rhc
solrporrrnwilh tu redhadbxnd thri),ou seeLanginsor r hewsllglingourm m) de.l .
Ahcispcndingmonthsvnh r real6brcn"n,ve fo!.d ihe hoLreor Borcgs Divc in
Aproswhdc r htrvenoN lined for dirry{rvo ),cr6. rve moyedin AugN and Bdh r_
erded $cod Ender Mr vnu sdrool,ishr rrcs the (rk.Ioryeds we hadd bridgc
&os drc.tuchinour btr.k)rfd {nh r pd lcrdinsdosn t. thecEek md rp ro rhe
rhoolard. Allthc ncighborioodkidsrsd rhn prh.
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Tbsed n.,tbhtM
\tnd tud.ho:uillsiuettua" i.!.d oftuhzthi"t1ofntudat Bdh
Ms. Mulhn, FcoMgnde: "Bethisapldsurtb havein dss. BdhnstsopsoNofhd
'visilios duinB dss. Shemu$ alsoledr tiar shcha thc rbiliq-b do exdl.nt vorL trnd
should not ytth for s.ond nte. A 1€.r nice dd wet likcd lidc snl.,
Ms. Mord, rhnd gnde: Bethdid r finejob d clss presidcnt.
Bdh hm donenuch
b{td in hd to.htrins duing d6s dnB'
Mr HonqunLfodth gnde:allAt nr Kno*lcdgc
drd Skillsmd .ll si\ in \{o* andStudyHibil\.
"...d lerewehdvc,pssiblrthecounuyilrr
hdt presiddtrin rhchakingl"
Mns GtrnsFdq nfrh gndc: trlI-& rnd so Bt (in
scicnft)for rh€wholel4r. All st in GcreralBeh:v
Mr. Detrso.,sixthgrade!+ in Or:l Lrngutrgeand
Grddpr Ron andIx€re dnored in 1970vhen
Boh vs €levenreu otd. Even ough cRndpa
Rondid nd livein thehome,hecorrinlcdb do tr
loi oftbine5wnh Ddh, Cnig d sanl.
GtundpaRo" ar.t. thit fat )aL
Bd[ ws a vdy bodng, bibr. she rns the fiN bom and $€ had to dpdime n i rl o rvn h h a svewer etr otsur ofwhxr iodo.Thcolddchildiaa
tumilyse$*pftinmrd rvid, dr mo$ lilc Nith Benmd Sm in fiei. |amilis.
BedrhuEhr N a lo! shcv* :lwr),s curious.Sheliked ffgurnrg out dings and
krning abouteyeryhhg. Htr curiosityws a big inflknce in lerming rbour
people,science,
dregov$nhcnt, th€enviroDment
andrhedd Lr{h always
dralLengcd
nc on q, iderstrndpoin6 ofyie$ and ir rvd fu' dncusing rhings
vnh hei !0hen ldh disagreedwirh nc or gd nad r me, shetold !E sone.J,
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s ,}oots atj tor B e t h r r c J , o . n llh n g in s o . o u . " r \ e t iie d
r o d o , o we i j .
,,ril'.""Tiit'r].'"'_.#Ltffi:il,_*mru:.t:
p'o;nn*
Lhe6'rc'
m-'rd
;.i;T;i::l:trXT"::'lili@p'cn
BedrMasEr hv€ln Shchetp.dusrtoron
her whesh
tll
w-odd
Rronhna\Lh ned*.r.*
Y. @ud r{8r dd dpre$ io) .1.'
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hany d'fieFnr rhings ws itM),s very
Berh-Lked
roks, u,Ptr6dd
o ta _ l,"ut ro oo ,o
funnr4r,
n6. inewo'idwerwcird h a B . n d mrd e i
mdk to foolpeple. one dayalituer! she
ewwhar I B wairg md sh. sid, "Did
you&.]lyk{ rha o eru Did youE,lly
kiirhrrcohb,nrion
of @lob ; work,i
5heB sh,tinBherh.ad.nd hushinea!
tu in disbelief$ r bld hd lhe n; r"trk
I lom€d a lor from B.d, od mi$ ler moE
rd moreed appreci?ie
her more.nd
Doreaudre me.I dink of htr a Lo,and
nryeblk5witi hsud klthshownu.tl
lorenq,nd misrher Shegj€smeaood
rd.6dd vie 5dU{d IJi5Rnrc he.n_
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16ory.,n,n"H.rheyp,,unp4ed
:ncoor'ins
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" ,n r ytn e t.sh etuaer
d n e d b i \.u i \and br n.,,nd.iTr non J- d,.u^,
attend.d&tosJmior Hish f@n 1971-1973.
SheE€iyeda1lAt defl B s
Aw'dsofRemsnirion
fo, outsiandins
:1':-3::.^:,::*,ln
:* j"ceikd
ot in Soci,lStudis,Enslis!,
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Aft Achievdnerrin Jme 1973{
cndof8" ghde.Bdh andhd.ltr$nnis weregivenrhc optionofqrolltng in an exp{inonhl:lgebn.ltrssrjuniorhish offeEdfor thelnr dhc b. Rang,Snid,. sh€loyedrlr
.hJhngc and tu*iycd r11As. Cnis Ms rble io pdticipdrc ths follovhg I,ef
SheitrerdedAprosHigh s.hool toh 1973ro 1t77. Sle$as dirgnosd with Hodgki$
Disesen, Dccenbeofhd&6hn]n]ertrndras
hone tuorcdrhe rer of dr sclool
}earbrDiana KJuse.InDecenbeshchadmrjorsurse,ratSh.Iod MedicalCdrer
The d.r' Gina,Sanha, I $€re o bing hc hone we nn iNo a snow$om on thesumnn of l-ligh{tr)- 17 2nd warched8 nrhs ofsnov &unuhF on the cd Wc h]d to
abaddonthc a andtheCrlihrnir Higbwaylarol hclpcdusEtiiere it re nextday.Bcrh
vs ,trof dciLcd b nndly s. trs.AfE bs reconeq,fron, n$dy shemtrdedail), aips ro
sunfo for ndhdon rcrnenrs forfou. months.Artlxr dnc hu dn$s $as .onsid*cd
obc rnnsion.shcgotHodskinsrgrininlebruaryolhdjuniory€arburray€dtn
Khool.shcwodldonlymnaa d"r, someriaes6vo,whetrshercc.ivcdhd che,notlEnpr
Ba{Ne of d,echcnoihdp), shc1ontrllhd hril ShepurcIsedx vis, bui leyerworeit.
Shefek it $as too fila]ooltin8. Innnd shes$veda sdf to nakh d.h outfi!.
B{h hrtred n, cnnis and rcccivcdthn rde &om her coach,Cad,erinc Mtrm)l I wrs
gladyoudecidedto phr.ends rhisse$on.Thcrc\som<hins
$otrryourxdtudc bstrrd
peoFleanddre
srne and,owelf rlDr mk6 ir.njd),abl€b berroundyou-{in orl$c.
yery
Youare
grc\'n up in a ]ot ofwa] s - I rc.llr.tu:pe.r tlu dsire ro liugh ar tourelf
orrleatmjq-thosemisftkes whorrotrhadto."
shcmrrdiveinAm{ican Fieldseflne ctub lhrisponsoredfocisn studertslivingin
AptosanddtcndingAptos
High, Bdh {rnded ld 1976JuniorSeniorhomwirh
lenjanin Hohd shc vore a dF$ ihd I servedfor her And shc dtended hd I t77 ftotrr
withMichrl Riorde, vdins r bo'io{ed bhck dr$.
Bdh ghdurEdsdubtorianofher clas wirh r 3.97gBdepoinr enge.Her only B ws
in Biolog]l.
rnalefterto mefton ltandrsnirh, h( ndh krchs injuniorand sdor high
\ h o o t.l e vd . r\ ..,8 - t \ ^. e,,or . A.,,o I igl.\1.!\ o,"dn.,- nr ) .e,,
bookthrnldng nc for u.hins hei f;r conyderions our ofchs, lor sans ofb&ksaDl
hdn, lor bdry tlt€. Blt I thank htr for nl drosethings drd more. I nay havcbccn hcr
brtl @cher,butsleaugh,nc somlchrbolt life....
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l fourd. mlgh dnft ofrn sslshew.tc, probab!,rrcd
6r appll-ingfoi rholaships:'S.cial Scienarnd l-Ierlth
Sciencmbothidds of inteEs.rone.Thnqbourny
rd6 h highschool,so.irltu4..h$s irrd.scd rnd
chrllengedlre dre mon rvlile nI Croving mpcd lirr
StantodHospiralhasnnerescdhc in theHerlth S.icncc
arcr.Bc.au:€ofihisconflicr,1pltu!ro rEnd Crbrillo
collcgcfor a rsr, Ekins r snrdhg ofcltrsrsin dr
hopcofcnhd.onbinins theovo A a pNibh deer or
dddhgon andlunhrins q- studcsnr oncof the n€lds.
Af6.olkgc, r hopeto udtizeq-sudicsbywo,kinsfor
enhd xpubk or soEnnenhl rgdrcr I f.clrhd a arcer
in ihir ncuwould bodr inrEs and.htrlhngene dd
fro ,i dei P Lc s t€re1.outdbc ofgturt helpto th€public.
Na,cr Ihlt, afii.nd B.th nct in high
urot. thit far roa.
'choa/,
I am soghd ilnr I ws privileg.d b ldow Bdh. she h4 had d, nlpxc, on m),
lifc Id bc] ond rhe sdcn )fd thn ve kls ad, othcr
Iwa dAptos HishSchoolwithBerhforthrcc
j,66.\vecudu{ed rogcLhci
sittnrgn{ o eac[orhd $ vrl.Llictoi]nrndsalusrorian.sl:cwr son€dur
ins mr.freshmrnr€r of hiBh$hool becrbeshcvrs snt. Blt I hnrd about
h{ th{ rar fton ffttrds wholos h{ in jlnio. hish rhool. sllc hadb€n
dhgnosd $ith Hodgkins Disdsc. Ths min tlirg I rememb.r haing abour
Bcth thn ),car16 adniErion .dniffion in hd fticndi loics. I diddt
herrs ne$ or piry I leamedonccI md Bdh rhr dDis bec{se shcdid not
inspi€sdrBsoipqhd rctrngernd animatiotralwaysinspncdrdm irr
I onnot €nember low or wh.n Bdh trndI flK mq, but sc soonbccane
do$ &iends.!{/e Femed to [ive r lo, in connor
*r vd€ good $uddrs
vho liked shool dd wee collcg.-bound, ve hd pre,rs wlb rvo&ed r
cabillo collc8c,wehad@ sibtinss.
ve rvdr to cou'd6s baltdball sams
tosether,
atecreanclese pie ad dllsortsofdh{ rich food while odEs
wondsed$4dc wc prt n, bllcd2hourschool,bq,s,movles,mdplans for
rl I'u e
1 e o q r'.Jr ' ir a r t' . , . o,el p.i
,' "\fer F.e
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Bethhadr ?etrlrnd anendrusisndDrwsnnpo$ibh ro marchdd hardb
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r also hrw Bedr du g ou .oll.gc yerr. she ],rs uNbLe ro go N4- ro
.ollese,thoushsh€pnbrbly.ouldhavegotreto anynunbu ofunivdsnGs
ofherclone, b<a,seshews $il figfuingthcHodgkins.Durins thoe yG.,
I sdwl* mos whcn shcws coning b Sbnfod for ft{nerr.
shc alw}s
mainuinedrnincEdibleitiittrdeofopdninninspiteof herillnss dtlr
Mr oyeralldperience of ledis life [$ bccn d cnduing Fns ofjor Erati(de,wholends.r t,avcoficn thaughtofhtrrvhenmI tifeFens.onfusd or
empryandI ztunl' endup stuhg perpectnr fton.flrtingon her h!6
if shc is in rhc roon ,nd we ft htkins trbou! rlfiss dd sheis giyiry me
dyiceon ho{ to lookat thingsdifferctrd}.
I oftendrink I dn($ expqienced
onb'a perolwho Bdhws, becrEeshe
andrdidnorshrcilotoftincrcfl
ir mu$ haneben like to bow d,r -tingontheancerhhsbodyxndwhrt
slt had a chind illn6r. rqhaps slE feh
shelad to keepup somekid ofchaful frFde, or p{haps I rvs mconfonrbG pr.ing belov hn upbea nuftce.\VedFelt n, rhcpccnt andimnedi
{e futu€ lor dre no{ pxn. L wsn't likc Bdh rax sulqficial, thoughj ror
Mshcan uncritnalpeson.shc couldr:g on:n unpopularrercrerorcvcnt
o! p{son wirh rhebst ofus. I suppos I ve dbH on sonc lcvcl b rememb{
her cheefulms, hs opdnistic oudook, hd pdnive endey nrllei rhan rencnbcring motu mudanc .handdistics, b us shehs tumed inro ruch
an amazi4 force in mr tife she hs dearh.r hcrn, vhen r rhink or B{h
now' a vholc ..lnnAs rnd bnrnc .ons over me so itt ldd to rcJl hd A
rnrthinsshoftof an incdible beirg.
Todan$rencen ycan aftd hd durh, shehelpsne jur like slle would ifsl,c
rkre my closr liiend livins trst door Anyonc sho ldovs n€ knNys thr I
rn not a €ligious pcNn r all, but I fel !dh! presne. I krlow d,at shct
ihdc, in th€ uniws, not &r a{ar accesibte to ne Ni.h llcr ncsxgcs of
rcepene, sntittrde, jor and bJancdhrnory,.
Ber[sil a.tift in sevenlpoliticalcaDpaigns,
actn€ astcasrrcr on Clhnntcs ro Ue.t
Manuelosolio to rajarcvnlel s.hoor Dissict Bodd ofTrufes. He won. shelvasespe,
ciallyintdsrd in libeBl rnd eniinnmenhl .auss.
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'llmughotrthigh rchooldd collcscBdh vorked itvriousrobs shedidrlot ofbaLry
sncnre,
cleancdtuomsrthe DrFiew Horl in AprosVilhge,{rs a.ashie.at K-M]rt, ud
volked nr Jcnni.: dtrlEnr.
Salab ulot
thi fi, roL
Y&cn I thinhoam)'sntentlkc qurhies.omer. nind: compasn,n,
comnnHnrena*able.onptrsi.n, asit€hrcsbme, nbstillunBred byadentoD
shcmdc in her 20s.in herLs *o ).eas,Irofr ages20 to 22, shetook c
time o nuruE ha
ionship wirl tu, ]young, nsc.uE and probtrbb_
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sr.ng si$e' to sisrerrel$ion$ip. I hrve a*,onddtul (m$rc tuve ofnerbies, lioD nedr.orhingneqhilephdningdriviisr
rhcCtrbillo College
pa,kinglor,to nq la/ns or he Lod,in lhedorvrtrknsrprden!while Deah
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t.- .h.r ahd )dng' sxYtq,sisd apiorig.spqls to howhuch sh; valkd tmjh
Berhwasconnntcd to pohicsrnd th. eniiroDmerrBcthk.ewhow Loin
.-e l o ya,.8€: a- .tor ,E.o.".t,o.r ." oo, .n1.tr r ol
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cai ecen canoldars.
Be&t senseofhn didnt rlErs coftldr vidr mire. Two cxtrnptei fi61, wh€n
Ivrs 13 orso, Bcth sood outsidcrhc brhroon $indo\a;nding dn rhe
deck,kitins rof me o nnish n), shorver'wtcn r openedth. sho;r door,
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The secondinvolresrnodrertoucly e4. ee,DEeabjrt
nensru{ion.
Vncn in Ns Hinpslirc wnh B{h andCinaones!m'ner,ldh tunm€ed
thrclgh ny iulT, mdfound rbigbox ofntTrnpons. SnrccI wasonlyls,
thisdnc subjc.rembunsFd rnc.s0hr did Bdh deidc b do?QuGrlyptrl
thc hnpons back?No, BcGvrs neyeroneto lcr anopportunirl,pa$,so
shc
boh thebox,rumedir oki rnd spreidabolt 30 tampoDs
allovd nr.bed,
duLingwhicl Bdh andcim lxughedupoaiouslr,.Did I join int Oh no, r
.'.n o'edodl .,.l -e.r n , t o n \ A q d , r J \r p o . . , r - k . w. , l' " d u n ' - o u . '
of tv e,rol ddi Si aw t u . B . r , - d c r n . , lo r , r n u ""d, 8 h - s f . e p i r u e
or tnatdenr mry ire \u^ n e d
As I srs olds, lsh and I sharcdhtrtu:llr'tun exp*ienc6. Bdht love o[
eduation andbeingourdooB led her to enoll in a suhns biolo8r,field.l*
in rhe SGur. lu$ weels befo€ slE died, shc invned ne b join htr d rhis
.. r" t.rn rn g u w o .d 4 l' .1o r +_o,n I n "d' tr L"o".kr d
o J.' r o' l.e
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enjoyedw{.ltng
hd, wrh\'
sredns neF rquaintdfts rnd old fricnds,
thdvingon the mtunr sesins,enjolirg cd.hhdmen!.Thse areny.ndu!
,n eme mo n eo f B e ' l ovi S.h o,r doo.. bqnEqid pFope.,.d. I.o- ,8
AsI reed leftqs andjoumals.hs. pdt f$ monrhs,I ws renindcd asri! how nuch
rhoughtrnd loneDethpurintoh*gifcgiving.Onesp{idgift to me},isrhispormnof
ld andy.urnom anddad.Shehrdwonit inr bfne,nd {rnrd o prtofhrvinsrhe
adml pi.tuE ralenunriller hangr* ba . Brt, wnh ModB s Dayrpprorchins,
slE
dc.idcd ro so aherd.r nqsure it.
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Hd gif6 vce ofkn hdd-nadc. This indtrded dorh$, Chrisds rcc ollmen$, cnf6,
andpictue fton !d own phorognphy. A her disde proeressd and sheM unable b
partniprtc in adncLic Ghclovcd o ph) vollerbJl and ennis) sle turncd to phorognphy.
The $nned glas in ny ftonr dodr is my dbue !o Ddh and it ws tdlan ftom a photo she
roohat thc sann cruz YachtHrbo. The phorognphhangsh theh,ll, nmr the $ined
A letrer from EuniceAndeson, a closcfmi\' &cnd, qpifis rhe med,ingtulns ofBdh's
gifc: Dear6r Beth, How car I dsdibc ro rotr whl it wa 1iLeio se a fiail old nan's 6ce
lighr up with a snile at dE sight ofthe pEtry omancni that rived rrom )'ou?Thar n
whr I sawdrd Drd venr inmediaev to his room ,o hrng n whd€ rhe lisht would srile
it.lt hangsth{e $illandl beli{e itwillcmain tl]e€.Thank}'ou,Bdhl"
A lcrtd fron Bdry Buder roth{ dos finib' rriend,wriftenfor Berlt l0r,yearnemo
rialseryice,1991:r remenberlE gendoN andlovinsnture by rherhoughttulgifts
tlar d,e gaveto me. 1sill clerish a litde seagullpin thf shebrcughr to me frcn otreof
h{ rips. SIE alsogrve me a gif. of lutr ard laughd onc of h)' fond$ nenoli$ is of
Ddh ud ne sn,giryr du{ rvith decd ndio swc drovc.ftw6 rsonsofrlre 60t or 70\
lhrt Bah andIjoined in sinBinswhenserwe heardit. one linc wA l love)o!, babl
ind we Gall)' hii hdd on that one. Bdhl brighr, fun bvnrg pdson:liry sill shiH brishr.
Anazing GEce m seenrhrough Beth for mrnl, ofus. I feelAmazing chce liy* on in
Sanh andCnig rnd throughftem b dejoyofBd mdSan." Udie,nd Nick,Iou
wse notbornvhen thllett{16vrirEn.l
BcLhsewed
alnosallofldclothc orboughtth€na theReanrker. Sdn andNnk,
Mom and Dad havea p{chwork quih sfEd b} Bdh rnd finished b} me after h{
''ou
derh. Ifyou look{ photoalbum from ihoscyes, youwill $e Bdh dEsd in ourfl$
rhri mtch sqlaB in lour palens quilt. Ard B andJake,you Mom dnd Dad havc a
dochded sBrny sque afshansElted br lerh and finished by ne afrer hd death. I gave
th€s€so nemsto your prrenh a veddine sifrs fom Ddh and me.
e12.1
onc ofhr joun,t, datedDedbe! 30, 192, shelists "con&r6
Bdh lokd nsi.lln
he ben bl" [Rememb{, sheis 18ra6 old at this dme.]
Ma6halLTuck{,Oudas
Journer Sonsofchaplin
Pad Mccrtney rnd \ifings
Lynardsk] nd, oud,s
Perdrlupton - FleeeoodMac- cary'Wrishr Eagles
- Loggirs
andMesira-LindaRon$rdr-B€rchBoysAmericalohnsebALjr -El\in B,top-H.d,- Fo r8r,n ar i-uRnrhm
Srtion SewMilhr
San]os Cente! for PqforninsArts
Harry Bclafont
Lindiids
Papadoo run run
HNard Sbdium - Bob "Rosmad' Madel
As a l$r sili Berh amnged tickes for Gmdpa Ror md m€ (ou birthdirs aE r 2 dars
apart) b atend Coocod Outdoo! lavilion to hed Peer, ?ad md Mary Shehad capecEd ro arfld fid, u bur shedied a nonlh befoE. $re Eavehd ticlet ro Gna dd
vith Cdg and Sai,I, we enjoyeda very specialbnrhday gifr.
l.nsi. Dotutini, B.tbI tuond norh.t uroE ,ht fot ro .
\tln
I ihink ofBerh, the rhEe adjectivs rh* @ne b nind are
Bed, rm $ dftlt
amusing* dms that jN rhi.ling about ii now
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nak6 me laugh ad snile.
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shelad awonddfrrl headandw€hrd somewond€!tuItalkr abour
f€€linss6r orhss
"nd
Hedsjrong- Shc@ dednined b do myrling d sheplsed md M very
eqdlg
cring
One ofm/ mos vivid ncmone is ofBdh md cim wttins ousidein &onr
ofrhe ddvcMy vnh rheirbackprckson, g.iting Fa4, to beclen to SaliB
ro crEhAm@k b rour$e UniredSnes fo! Mo montls. Thq-wE smiling,
dciied, mticiprtingrwonde!tul nip.
leth loredro uvel. Shews *ren.ly inquisirir and
sm@d ro exp{ierce eveqrhing.Shcdid tun things
slch d toyeling byAmtuI wi$ cim, sEline wirh
rcladves
dd in rruth ho$elsall overrheUnitedSbes.
ShesuiprisedGinain Prk Ciq', U@h,onewinter she
andAnnie Lilietrthalwem to Ns YorkCiq, for orc
vek on . Cabdllo{pomoEd .ultuhl dp. EveryniEht
rher-*ended sonetlirg diffdnt-Bbadmy phF,
srnphonr ballet,atropera-in un6ln Cenrerad
C2rnegieHall. shetnveledto Mdi.o ndy dns.
Lor ofsrori$ fton Hu$ongt Gniina in Ensenrda.
sh€ft*led wnh Gnndpa Rons*dal iim6 theyearbeforeshedicd.Ther wen! to New
Hdpshne, Mexico,Canadaad aI rhJolghtheNo(hwe$. \i/e thveledd a family o
Europedd Hamii andNs Hrnpslirc dd rbida. Shewen o Nw Hanpshires
ofrns posiblc.shefelte conncredto fanilr,dd hmil/fiiods backrhere.
Bethdid not tolente rudenssveq'wel. Thh js a dnectquoe [slishily€dnedby me] frcm
Berhtjourml writrn whd sheandAmie wde in NeYo* Ciqt Januty 1979."1 an
pissdl I jus gor to en@uer anabsolureftor a bs dive. He wouLlnt i'k r dolla!
bill for bothAnnie andmc dd thenold usb sd offihe busif* didnt hav€coi's.
Then herook o6beforeI lad a chanc b look.\vhd m sshole-"
G;tu Dondti,i. fi.nd fon .hitdhood,utuk thit fat Jo, bot!
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n i i d .J.i n e r\.rq rgL' o' lg\ - or ltr -' Jr
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n e ..,crts,\ ." r" 1 . r . d L r ,t o i r d .J. , . e ." s r ,) ,t.oL\..n.
diftcult 6r ne io sn dorv' andvrire, how{er inpofunr to shaiettc menorie\ oas\o ]ou!g girls{ho shred h rhcjoyoftrnevdlstingGGndslip.
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diarel)'srry ro beconc frinds lrietrds th,t;re dE sne clotting, the sanc
oll]is thd our mofies nade, loincd i\e sN 4-H dNes, ne dE s;nc gilhd
.hccsc,tomro ard Da),onninc andwichs. \vc *!uu nnish thc nnk;t n ,
momt lousc and rhenso ro hs lonc ifve vse nill .]i$qr we conriNad ;
., .t vet,"d
" ,,o e -h e ^L A f ,J,L.o, t,s!d..L. ,' 01,ol,al
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My mos falornc mcmorGswirh B{l! dft. . .
Thc tine sh€Nrprised rE in tudr Ciry Uuh, rvhec I ry$ Iiving. I kllt€d
into a deli.fd sking to st somelulch dd shcas siitinsthcc :t a oble s
ifshe jst sopped bl I ms oveshdned o se htu smile,i{ fae, tud loow
shehld hken dre tnnc b com€andvisir nc. Then she$rled abou fou. da],s,
acqurintinshsFlfiround rown,socialirnswirhny iiends asifs!. h:d
known rhem for yeas. r had to ou aiound ali{ work ro find hd so th* I
ould joinn.thetun.slE{sk.yb6),enjoyinSrewfricn.L\hipsd d,fins
\h- r t",, ad .!
B,
'u J e o o .sd . ,le,L,r .dn,,i.!Fine
h o ,,3 n o r, . J, i " d c,,.e tor u,,.\
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r€ ti€sh bluebdry mulllns in NeF' 'HdnpshiE oyded h honrnddc buitol
We arrived in P.erboolgh s ifrvc rvcft movie sa6 visitin8. Locls would
honL then ho'ns6 we ps$d on thesreecj shngss wouldwve anddli
_1t-
r in d dicle in rhe loc.l ncsspaper Bdh
and I enjored lhe popuhritl and Ler fani\' in rcrc$orcush. We then &veled ro Ncw Yo& Ciry, \vshinston D.C., on to Floridr dd rdo$ to TM
d home after No monl\s. Thoughodt ou journe] w madencw frie'ds
ThrouBhout her illnss, I $uck br h* sidelilk glu€on papenThis is d qualiry
B{h had-fteng.h-the
$rength to nsht md fishr asah foi hd h€rlth. I
vd lhde ro hoid hd hand,laughand ro alvars be!d friend. On onevisit to
Sftnford I wA lring h bed ncxi o Beth rnd ve wqe soofing offwnh nl rhe
gadgcsslrounding hs hospnrlbed. Hs dodor rvalkedin md eid Y4icI
oneoflou is lhe pdienti" \(/ell, I suppos m), f.an shorved6 I lerpr fton the
bcdshorting'Not ncll' andB€thshouringlis hdllll" !/c da.ted up s the
dodor pob$ly sw rhe ftighr we borh shdrcddd the con$rnt gootncs of
Thrcughourrh€ ma9, hospnalsErr, l would be ther to enrtuin Bd[
HNsq
shegot me to do somecnzy things to enrctuin lsFli I wouLl jog
. o rn d .h e t,oo kl .o i i :do^w kB- Lh\o- .1r ' - i- b.d |\ r ,. mp, ) g,o
get my hdit htc up while Beth rmned for mI ctun h !d bcd wnh r $ehosope. I would comeback to the room, .h6t poundins md we would plaft
rhc$crho$pc on h). haft rd narclin the q ck bets dd tle lotrd rhunping sound.:fho BdL would encolhge he o so and jos fsd this dhe.
v.ell, )'d kndy jogsins rcund tlle coddos of a hospftl E:lb, is rot il'
Iowed, so I rvould run w[en ir loold safe,slow down whar people wde
tumd, nn rsrin, slow down rnd the! reetrterBelhii moh on\- ro naNel
asainin rhe loud dunp ofmy han. Thee vde rhines Berhand I did to pds
thetine dudnglospiial$a/s.
Or ve would get B€th inro lhe wheelchanatrdventurc throughouftlE enrire
hospitd, dploing ftw s{ions, tnding phcs !o si! outside and €njoy the
wdmth of the sun, or ju$ seftn€ out of htr room to forset whl, we rvde
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d Beih ghddat€d froh hish rchool, sheeeived ihc solAlexands Mmorial Rserye
scholaiship.Thc rdtr of this $holadhip wse ro enouhg€ hq b arend cabnlo for
so ),trs dd then wh€n she@nsfned to a fouF)'ar uivemity, shewodd aeive
$ 1,000for eachofld jdnior and rnior ie*s Shegndua&d &om Cabrillo on ]une 7,
1t79 wirh m A.A. degreevith "HonoB'. Hs najor wd envnonnenbl science.
Oneofthe d6ss shetook at Crbdlo ws va1u6 claincadon. Tln is froh Behi joulnal:
"To.ishr in q-Valus Cladfferior ch$
vdb€njsht r paperbrgwithvrluable
thingson i. I loyednakjng minebecruse
h),ErB wffen'tndelialistic o! hsvilt
innolyedvith noney.Ther-waedownto
drl - comon in mrnyMts, I discovered
nmymluablc things addidonro rhe
bsi6: family,lc,1th, ftidrL, sooddms,
I knowI sonetins gcrbunned abourthe
Don{inn md 3ll rh€&ni\. theyaresuts
rounddl b)r Blr I rhink a 1orofir is rhe
hueeNnbes ofrehivs. v/hat ve five
dont havein volumewecdainly havein
Afrr Bcthdied,rheso eaches ofrhe Valus clss wbte this dedicarionfor thesyllabus
D€diaed ro BerhBlu.hdr
AP " | . t r < o lu l/ 2 t . lq 8 .
''an djannq ofa thoAdd nikr, th. ndr irybbnt thksi tbefD&?. To renemberthe
rcps ihr Bethtook duins herjoumerwith rheValua d$ brinssu pl*ure. Bethws
krown for purting hd foo! doM andmrching oIr in thc dirccdonorh{ choice.!/e
reall lE sdching for alEmdiws rnd makingclbi.$ whict bbtrght ha jojr Iq the
couseof theem6kr, M sav hff ad, nor only ro bing valueinto hd en life but also!o
_t7_
F
embleorhe6to rouchrh. impo'tanceofbcingrlive.'tbsc.
thenke,rrives Ertisddlly
andinhin rhe.onGxtof hopcful"di.n, !flIl;viNs nrd jounc),rLewovcnrhbugh
dscPrgcs.
rnjo] ns tudid."
TRDi.kron, r ftrmil]r'.iendandchcmnt.rerchdr CtrbLilto,
wrore:,,Shewan),kindof
pe6or A.Lutrll).ifrve hadmt bccnsettrraied
bl dne rnd cir.uhrtrnesshcw6 rhekind
ofpflror I wouldhrvc likedto shxrclif!. I .ould Rl, lhr thechsnistryvs rjgh, LcMrn
usbut I wor r I lokd htr munth, [d scNsofhumor,hu snse oftrdven(,r, h* sh],
p?rt,hereaseofbeing,huquesrioniisnind lnd speciauyhs jorforlifc...."
shcMs tr.cepred
at d,eUnive(itrofCditornia, SdaB'bra, dr.l turnstuGdrltic in
lxll1r79. Bur,afcr oncrkek in SdraBrbtrE, shecahc home$idr rncdiQlprcblchr.
Shnfordquicklydiagnosedllodgkim
Discrseagiin.Thcrcl;re,
Uettrcn.ottedarUnivcrrirf oi Ctrliiirnir, Saru Cruz,soslrecouldrcciaeraodcnr r Shnfod r rcrd
collcg.at thesxDre re. Ac,ualll Bethdandcd bdh UCsc hd Crbrillo duing thoF
hn Nlo lctrn orheL1ife.Her imlcPA dCibrillo wd 1.8 for i rohlof L04unib. She
rtuticipa,cdin mln] biolos/tclddps, oDeto dic si(ns ioJulr 1981, orveehsbcfoE
wlcn ldh F6 origimllt dngnosedwirl Hddgkins s a frshntrn i! tigh s.hool, dE
p$ph r ShDfordsidshc htrdtrItolo .hxn.. .f roht Gcol€rj,Bu! rhentllc HodBkins
r.un.d No /eN latervhcnshe\m rjunio. nd nov n
.r. .l , oo . ..- o
DurinsrhefollorvingMo rear unrilhdd*drshelivcd
'
rem*able life.shc boka fuu loadoI.ollegecou6s,uN
dcd e*ensinely,
resuncdh{dremod,cEp},trndwasan
nspimrionincotrtugci. ereq'oreinhulife.
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Mawcca O'IIata, Bcth\ rtt!. d"Afri.d
zt Sta{o/d Uni,.ftiq M.d;ccl
,, btot. thi!
fot ro4 b.t!.
I had the udque priyileBe
ofl.rorvirg Bethin a delml....sdins
s her
ndse, ad tho fion ihc bcgiming rnd rhmughrhe re{s ofh* illn6r,
expdldhs that rcle into thar ofa very specialfriend.
I nN n{ her when sllems t4 and dirgnosd with Hodghns Disae, and I
bok cG of hd on Ssnford Univdsirl' HospnJ's in palienr oncology unit
krown s CRC wlEn sheuftleffent rbdomin.l surgcryand ienor ofh{
o \1 l :3 ' r sor r r p A"nJ m ,dd.eJEem enor y' cJ
r." a r'p r
D e ,t rJ" d mi .re d ,o .R .,ot' tr ,Te
of,,h- .o,Feof\,1J .. ",' - oI
Grd for hd duing thos dn6 vhen shehadshinsl€s,
when shelad to
undeqoche$surserytodocumenra
Ecuretre ofthe HodgltinsDis€dein
ld lung, and ro bemnslusd with blood, afid gdtins short of bEdh while
pla)'ins aollelhnl ry r the r?te Tahoeaca. Dlt our reltionslip grw with
nuruallovedd resp<td Iwouldseeherinrheourpaticntonolos/clinic
wha, shewould gd hd clEmothdapy odor shcand hn fmilr wolld $op
bycRCwhenevsshewouldneeda checkup.
Ard no€ hpordth
I gofto krlow ler *en bdc whcn I vould vnir hd
inApios andse hd in ft etins th* dennedher...surcundedby lovins
fdmitr and fticn.ls. . .for dr nevd ld ihc HodgLins &nne htr life. I ws *
her high rhool g-d"do" p-ry, sh{ed in the tun a rdvdruE ofhd
(os{ountry tiip wnh Cina throughtheporcddsshcscnime,smil€dwnh
cv.ryonc d shc hcddcdoff ro .oll.gc, dd, nn,lly, ws privireBedro bewidr
hs or the nisht thd shedied at home, sutrouMed by !s loving fanilr and
fticnds, .ight yes dli* fiist nccdng ler
\\/iEn I drink of8dh, I drinkofa numbd ofwor.ls dDr dgoibc hd. . .psion,
wisdon, sieryd,, sde oftunor, gnc(:' md.o!ftge. r firr nd 2 &ishened
14 rr-old, and ye ho coumEeousnght agrilr a lif.drerening
illnds
naurcd ho qui.kty bcyondhd , cad. ft vas prinftl 2nd inspnins ro warch
Bdh thloush h$ lons2nd diflicult bdde Firh encer The dhse ad its
tough teamers would clain !d hair, saphe ncngth, for@ hc b chmse
lif.go,ls. . .but n NE\TR laid a sloveon the sRG rnd vibnncy lhat deffned
Le \ t p d :o I" r L.
heb oug r .hr .p. { on Intoefe4'-a
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ding shedid, irduding hd nght agiitrt HodgLinsDiscsc. But d I eid
bcfore,Bdh refusd b lefth€ ctrncddefile hq life...andin the mid$ ofit
:ll, her vn, inrelled, elegrnce,trnddep andabidnrglotaltl !o rhos sheloved
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Vho i! becme dar thd shewould
die ftom hd dnese, shefred it wiih
the wisdom, cou'.ge, ."d *.e"gth of
a pdson Nia h* age.Ard h death,
shewo the enbodi-""tofd*s
gne...andbecus ofth*, death""d
did
not vin odt. . .Bcth did. Shctauglt s
aI whar it msns io be wis, what it
ncm to bc pasiomte, what it nes
to be coungeous,what it meansb be
gndful, and aboveall, wlut it neus
But I also feel the n.ed to ur a fv
things about Betlt fanily dd frisds,
for without them, n rvould havebeen
vet difocult for Beth to beihe p.6on
shewd throushout hq 8 rss offisht
ing cmar. Pa! Ron, Cnig, Sanh and
all of the close* lii"ds of ,li of th"
Blan.hdtd fomed the richet soil in
whnh lfe w6 rooed for Bsh. Shewd suroundedbr ontinuous love,suppo,,.hrmo, {fn8,h. a n de i1 8 . . . a n d .o n lyp , " " , L r w} d i, . o n A m )
turn ro havethisvodd, thI I m smoundedby rhelov€wnh whichyou all
i haves:id n before,a"d I will sa/ir asain.. .it m apdyilesefo! ne ro know
aDdloverd sre for Bdh md aI ofthe Bluchab. The sdms is not for
thos of !s *ho lod hd. . .for shevil alvrr. be a pd of ou livs. The
sadn6s,rhen,b to! thos who nser will hav€rhechane ro know h-. - .and
hopetuIy,thse slu€d vods md mflois wil helpmaken* peson come
rlive @h{ 6u nephtu. I l6v€}ou all.
Berhnade a huge oddbution to the Ddth dd Dying d6se r Crbrillo duins rhis
tihe b- b€ins a sust speakr eachsns€i
This is fion 2 $udentt nn,l paperin rhd
dN: "lMrryimprNcdwithBcth:odookonl&in&cnilstofhdNndying-hd
psitivE g@d-natuEl, level-hadedwy ofdelingwith Hdlgkitr Dis6e laa, whd I mr
he nother, I M egurlly mo!€d;wlnt wondeftL pople theJ,aE ro shaEthiswith me. '
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Beth3lso.h6se@raketheHospiccvolurteerraining.ouse. Onlerapplication,d{ed
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lave had crncd for 7 )'eds - 4 ofwhich I wA in Fmission. My curent siturtion
'l
enftils.hchorhenp) at SRnfordforcnq dratappartndyisrtgoinsarvalrn d),iqs I
loo{ d,ar and I think I ye acepGd ir blt moc imponang. I m living a life I feetvery
goodaboui dd prctrd oi At tin$ I h sd but co,eblly I dql Firh my situnriotr in a
positive,
corsrucd!. tuhion.
M).vies or dad\- ny ddih de tharir wonr beu endbut Erhera.ontinuatio, of
nylile In nor scared-in$cadlndpectdt. Hospicewasinroducedto ncrr time
,vhm I ryd lielins low Firs n % a friend ro Elk wirh and a chancero slar q, *peri_
cs and rhen n tufned nro d oppofrunirl, for ne o hopefullt grcq beconc nore
conscioNoln) situdionandto driE,ml,felings.Thenai ngforne mayormr1not
hrd to nisniry dying/gieving people.lln not sue if I dn ierdy foi th{t ltind ofconrad,
$pecirlrr otr a regularbasis.r vould like ro be pft of Hospne for llle suppon n ofIss and
thc$ppor I atr ollel' bui I'm norsuEnrwhIaprciry Hopotullydrerainingvi hetp
nc $nishren otrtsomcin.onsi$eDciest
ftdy, thdtcdr bc r resuhrvolunicd'
Sh3vrote rhn nr [er Chrnda leftr, 1980:
" i'[is fall I hrve ben feeh]g quir vell so{hen I wcr o Ssntord the wek beforc
Thankgilins I rv$ surprhedwhcn n). dodor, S?ndyHorning, saidlhe .hemo wdn t
donrgwhatitshouldbe rh{nconhininsq,anar
M).blood6unr m a otrrof
rvbrk drd ny doctor n posilive that I lave acive dGesc in my bone mdtuv asain.The
dodo( a,€loping to findrnoth{.onLinrioq ofdrugsihrviltconhin the an€rbut
buuse I haveahcadr hten sonany thc), mn t confidcn hd anra[ing witl ,tud tlr
.trn.eror eyenconhin n til more d rfsoonths. sdd), ftetsdDr dc).rvillbe tucb,
Lravhile and rhcntheyvont. t hadafewveryhail ddF r.ceptirg this I trmdl,ing.
Lst sorner whenprdscdby my prcns for rone kind oftinc ommirmdr, DL
HorningsaidNolea6. rrn rcatrlry for De andtor q, familyandfri€nds.somflinesI
ge loNly, dcprsFd ald sared - nd4, scrred.otls tines I feetlucky to be
siven dc
$rength, rnne and suppor ro prparc for ml, dadr Right now Fe arc all gcfting read)'for
chrinm6. A big pmy is rheduledfor the l9,hplusSar.l is turnins l6 on tlc 166sorlt
fesiyc rmospherc hd cnreredour [ou(. tne enjoy is dne ofrhe )'er and arelook
ing lonvrd to a nicefanily Chisrnm."
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I lcpt a diary du ,g dbs hs. mo ,rds. ft nosdy dcalt wlth dps ro Sbnford, g?e of
rarnen! :nd whd !he),hrd to say.'Dr Hornins roldldh shelad monrhs'b liye.
Bah 6ked vhd monthsmsnt 1€$rhanI'e Bdh sked howshe'ddie irErnal
breedinsor infe.tion coma. sho wr intredible shehad to kllow rh6c
rnd
'nrwas
six montb6tan r rror "Berh ffr !p$ vnh new nrys bur realsoon had ifull in
pcspcctivc.
Bnhi colM
late wd afu 7 Ican
thismrnr!ins, thenervsisnt
"nd
Onluly 8, $o monthshei ny diaD-srs i$d ler wo tiips ro lhc sirrs and
p,oblemswith altitude,wentup for cguld ch(k{p. Sle feh kriblc. we ued
vhehhrnandshehid do{n jn Oncolo$ Aduallrtalk,€ abourdyins.wondere
ytr{e, whelr,how and{ho. ve lerrsRnford @3,dove dp and
Hry t2 to
"ao$
FrrlfMoon B2),rnd downcotr$.Beaurituldar"
A wel hei onJd), 15,1More'RontrndI tookldh up - fuiiherchemorulcdour
ownvhelning
od& n vo dnthelp.HodskinssoinsfN anonth{rhcnon
Bdh drcd Di Hordng oukighi Sh. na), heno rgeinternJlt Shehs codein.
dnddccping
piils.weie io c.llin No rcckr.Mrnytca*. D. HorninshuggedB{h.
CruedMaureen
dd weklkedouside.Slealways
sabilizsur.,\ter TGI Fidarr.
Iun. Goodfood.ldh haded at otr$in NewYo* Ciry"
BeGdiedovedayslacl' jur aftd nidnishi onTusd2r luly 21, 198r, surcundedby
thifte! loviry frnily membdsandtidds - GEndpr Ron,Craig,Sarah,Gina,
M{tren, Jennie,Lucille, Annie LiliodMl, Hd Hoch, Randr H€lmonds, Lna
One ol Defit fqrc ws ihri sllervould bebed{idden for d long tihc. she died sosoon
xfrdD. Hominseid a nonrh athe nos" fu iict it w6 nvedayo thdLsonconc
onnenred hd handsshowedtan lins fton $dde we took olThd ings - shc
wcn't bed-iddenlonsenolshtolos h{6n.
ry22,n
*r,-
I dked John Stnoyich, a ldng{ime ftDilI liiend, !o exphin for ]ou thc m.rning b.hind
thehunnirgbid vnbol d,at [s conreto €pnonia B.tht 6soa. Johrt $ory ws a
@Elr& {or everyoner&nding lhe nHrorial srvicq This will h.lP ),otrundcchnd wh),
th&rcso ninyhtrnningbnds inmyhome.
My mne js]ohn smovicL and I haveben r fri€nd ofthc Blmch(k fmily
for man),yea6.I hr€ fou giovn .hildEn, bu whenthe)'{se I'oungour
eo frmili6 sharednany hrppyrimerrogcthcr'w!er q€ Ilst met onean
othd, ourchildrenwdcjus abourrheaseslhst;urof),ouarat thcvriiing
B{h ws trdelighdulpdsor.Shewsaery bisht ad fun 10bc wi.h, gunk
$nh [er snile aDd:]Mrs rddy Io havea sood tnne. SheIovsdlife, w* a dcd
fr ,
t' r ^.' d r r we- \en loe f_1,
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\tlen shc b(dN i1l,ve {d€ dl hoping shervould ed bdd soon Durins
hs iun$s shers very bnve .nd non .onphining It w6 hard to believeshe
vs r si.h asshexls sheEusht.llolussonudr $ou!fortitude rnd sR.c
1 enemb{ vell r dccp sa nshins tip sherook vnh me dnd Iny clildren.
r'
.1 tu' Ip' otko,' hebo.r r _eg",ng
|* :'x..." .q ,o .e 1 .
si.k. hr nor Bdhl shejus kepr on fishing,rnd crtching i,lsh,until it wN tnne
pidure of rh€ dp trbovcny
l;r thc bo{ .o so in, I $illhanc a cherGhed
drsar wnh h.itur snilins t me :cos the ycaa.
ldi us, I went to visit Bdh. Shei6 vcry incd, for she
illnss lir so nany yds. AJ rve ulked tlDt la{ dtr} in
hd bedrooB a nashofbisht color{ h* whdow
sGpcndcdi!
.rught hI clc. lt Ms a humnringbnd,
i6 gnetul flisht ner thc flowdi As I $atched rhri
bsuriful doue $ith ns nidscnt fcdthds md
quicliilvernodon,I wasremildedof Bdh'ssoul,
dDr Ddrofhs lhr madch* Beth,hoverinernd
inpai:cnt o bc fiee oih{ &ril b"d). dd aEerc be
offotr dre nrstcrioc ndt adventur€thrt awdi6 all
of N whenousouhm$ftcc.
To rlis ldy dqt whenmr I :c d hunmiigbid drrt
ins in the sippng lrom a fl@ei or hovdiLg with
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it! feaih.$ splodent in the sun,I think of Bedr I how her rcul is *ill
rishp quick od agilc* **, dd I mnq ftcling ble$edfor iaving kndn
'Witli memd6 of Bctl, md lm,
John
incedlblv bcautitulmmorial senie elled a "celebntion ofBetlrt ufe'ws heldthe
llmins Saturdali! th. backlzrd ofou homeotr BorEgs Dlive. The su cm€ out
iis befoE lhe rdic
h
,o bcSin. alie! a morning of foE.Thse mus havebd
imdrd peopktm.Thoem
etl wFd.
ovd M
nuscud hrrngandgoodfood.Thi'
s *rtlywhat
Shebrd IndicEd in q'idns thrr 5h. wr,.d \n sai." @ ber'p"ry'
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Hds leddE sri.e *Ling peopleto slnc thetdroushs trndmenories.Isked evqrone
to Mhe dovn vhat rherhrd sh{ed andthls I M rble to put togethdr be iitul quihed
menoftl FNic book. Rlchel Chrk quilied the Tre oflii€ on the @ner Followins de
sone *crpts fon rhc bool:
Wethoush! abolt Bdh trndhtr liith sovtrnEd to
D|ryCktk, Lnst;he fn1"i4fie,/
th"* *"
sbareourthoushs,bout herandherchance' by. phy
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B
for be ritul, indkd Bdh ws a beautifullady
forarduune, trftnshs:lvq,s cxhibird
I
for tu$, [truu$ in Ssnfod, htr dodo6 ]nd nuss, f2nilr,
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forhope,wlich Ddh continuedb haycthrcughou h*shortlifc
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for fanib,, vho wec Jways dEE for bvnrg support
Ior dnbitious, alFaysa bury gr1doing nerningful things
f.r intdligcn-, Bed, xlwaysusd [q .biliry in meaninsful
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*adds for doughtful, her thoushs ofren fo.lsd on ),ou .on.chs rnd
n€edsnthd thdn hd owr
siudsforhelptul,she.onsncndrwdshaingh*tnneandtaldswnh
CanhM.Gtundhzr,.othge
Jikd afBahi ...\x$,en\o.nry.ltroughBcd's.lbumIn
ofthe fullncs of hhllife. Pictures
ofhtryisningnanydiffdnrpla6. SLe
renrind€d
rcrins sonetiner d lhe .lown, sonetimespenstue,sonetines vnh a $r[on her had,
somerimesvnh .udy liin r€t ilwr6 s ith tr tuIl snile shoving h( lole for life. . .
...Thcreatund/noriesabouttheroon [sn,dioap$Nnt
RalfhCdnq, fannlft.,d
undd my deckl thrt q?iry Beih for ne hd Endkrble patiena wnh the iiu$Erions and
delarsandherpenetntinghlnor whichmde upledantthinss ersi€.I Enehber thc
secondsorkins ofthe tug when Jende, lat and I weF shovelingmud rt didnighr to
divq!lhe run ofr andBcrhsoodatthewhdowe$ins ne abotrtnor bringingh(abo*
io ,€scueh{ ftoh lhc eda€ening hke. . .
"...tinn wny, ftrn loving,hon6t...andeveno(aionnll
l1d!Skn'nh,fdni\Jiid
slr.trri., Fung rvonnn....Shehtrdtrdslighdulsen$ol humorrnd a dnedhonesg'thdr
w$ dnunrsh mr!re for hd €c. Hd wry connetrs abourthepolidd ofolrcourtry
h{long inEre$in thc outdoosandn{uE, hs s,€d lovefor hci fmily.nd ftiends,rnd
rbovcall,lE bnveryd sus tbrcughthep6! €ishty.ds, wereall equalpartsof Beth
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And.fcodse, !tr loveofspots;whdhqplayi.s a hard
srno ofvoleyballor rcotinsfo. rb4ebrllErm (pcEF
rbly thc Bo{on RedSox). . .i tibue ro a hushins,
hunobus urchinnmed l.ldh. Didsheeverredizehow
adohblcshelookedhrhossrfres?lThose bis€]rs
looking{rorvilh su.hdn€dn$. .ddthf rdkof
hds.Nobodrmlksd iikc Bdli son ofa swn€ingnrol
nn,tt HdnnA, dn.g.lic"llafBnh!
l..Shes6rhe
bouty md tlrezst ofaspinedal...Berh rus intelligenr
or
andguick-Fitcdrnd we oftenencrs€din dis.ussion
rgundr I gncfullyadDnslrersualllwon...
kutst
o,nh,f.ani,Jb,d
Villige
Crm€ridinsthtuughApros
on hdnotolbike
Likersbot.f sln righroutofNcwHanpshnd
t lovedrvtcbiDsher
Herdbcnt,body$might,
Hd $ondefuldichotonr:
Lookinglilc i QuaLerwomd, on herwar to prayer
thatimage
Ard thenblorving
\tnh a big grin lllr na.te !d sen like thebiddry kid.
Thn d"r sh. vrncd ne al over
Her sreetnrgdro\€ the lbs awtrr.
Theyoungmd nandinsnextto ne
Likedthc f.ding, too,
ndhc."
Sohesid, vloithr,lan,lmntb
.That\ Berh,"I eid, ind suE)'oudo,
butnotrightnorv
bemuse
shetdennielrotrherwar."
srtahKrdbn.h, tttg.j/t,.! afBet i - 1..Lst SepenrbdwheDI foundout I hadr lifcthretuning disds I .onlidcd to hd my feds dd ftu$mlions. Bahi wordsto ne vd€ ro
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And ol.o!6e, hd love ofspotsj qhsh{ rlains a hard
or rooinrgfbr I b$eballEao (prefir
srmcolivolleyball
ablyrlc Bosor RedSox)...rtuibuteto a lalBhins,
hunoros ui.hin ndred llqh. Did nE $€r realte how
rdoHbleshelookedin drorrams?lThose big syes
lookl4atyouxithsu.h dn-hs:...andthIvrlkof
hds. Nobodrvrlked litc Bcd; sortofi s*ingingsroll
Rh"tHdnd,li
alkge lika.l ofB.t l "...Sherrurhe
beautyanddEk$of a sprhgdat,,,Retbims inrelligenr
in dis.usionor
andquich.vned andwe otGnengaged
]lglncnt I glace|ulvadnitsheusurllyvon.. "
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d st.nnb, frni0 fin,t
Crme idins thbughAprosvillagc
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1 lovedw{chins ho:
I_Ierdben! bodyncight,
Hd wonddful dichotomr
Lookins liltc a Qml{d wonDn or her q.y o prayer
AId thenblowinglhr imrge
wnh a big gdn |h{ m.de hs seen like dE biddar kid.
This dq. shcwancd nc Jl ovcr
Hd ffetins drcve the fog avar.
Theyourg nan sandingnexio me
Lik€dihe f€ling, too,
S o l re Mi d ,v/h o tth r,Jr n,Ivr nr r omeeth€.
.Thart
Bdh, l sid, rnd$reyotrdo,
not
Lrur righrnov
bGNe slis delnitelyon hs$?y."
sztuht:rdbndt,tulhs fin.l of Berri- :..LN seprenbtr$henI loundour I htrd2lilerhctcnins discdc I .onfidcd o hd ny fcrs and fru$ntions. Saht woft\ ro me Rre to
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rloowledge Fhri happedng for )ou rnd thcn sinply let it so. It seenedroo ery dd so
.I bcli*e
bad but thrcush Bcdi lorins and conset suPPoit,rll the fiisht ebbedrhy
that !dh, wirh hd IM snse of rining, los th{ tu tine hrd cone vher 3ll of uswee
srory enonshwirhir ou6e1v6, rnd soshelet so, doins sowith all ihc Pcdcctior and
grce ofrle worddtul cl6yn th{ slE ws. . .
Au vcryspshl, \€ry pivak ecmonl kd by
M{q-Kcftcman lBen md Jake,tour Unde
Mrryl, we pur Bdh's shc in.o dE sound r
the SoquclCemeteryWe chosethis spot
busc ir resmbhd thc back ,€d on
'wc a-Uieceivedsol-c &on the maln mant
slnprhr crds wc Eeived. A tlw danPles:
''BethalFaysrholght ofothes 66t how
well I renenb{ hd coughins r night and
bcingvoried she{s bodEring us {hen I
rns soconcencd about her sfth a lovelt
p{son.l'n gladwe kns hcr.Otrrlivesale
And ftom soneoncin !s Hospicernining
group: Berhrs e draofd;ntrryPcson.I
ws inspnedb)'hd and shall :rv4,s tmdn'
bd h{ couiage,!q honsv rd hd seNiriviry Havinshrd to f(e dt qustion oflifc
ofothss, ycryrolermr' I felt shews like a
rnd derh 60rsolory madehd ncryacceprin8
othds
light,brinsinsthse quGriomoutoftheddn6s dndhelPing
shining
And fiom n)' Aunr lnlise riokop, "shesavenc lcsoN rbout livine my life bmN of
whatsft hadlexn€d anddore d bcone in hd life - and I tholsht I hada lor of
thisioumelalRdt "
sne6 abour'doing'
And Gon SandraHorning,MD, S€nfoid Urivesig' Medi.:l CentenAs )otr know Beth
wrsaeryspccialto me.All of usfdt iNpned by the mturiry andz$t fo! life sh€dcnon'
.Allofusr ShdLd shallmissber"
$hrd in thetuceorsdiolsdise6e..
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lor:lq rndinesirydrdoth*things
AIdfi nJlr "She{* buttrflicsandpconicsand
L'ci c vad d kns-nnefd8ilr fi."d, u/oE thi! fol rat bor'.
rtn r fornidrblc $ignnol lo cn.rlstrhtuthcspnnolBdh trndsotrpologizein a.tvinc for tullinsshotroIihe fisignmdn.
Itw$difi.ult to pid.lh. djcdivc thr mo$dsdibs B{h formeburafcr
mdr
ought, dre onetui kept conins to mird rvrs dur Beth wa a pn.ti
alp{sn. On thcsur|]( rhi nirkm faintpnis, bu lom thennugeof
t6 ),es,1tJow thh to beauE &n nr onesoyouryindelusivc.vcni(,rhe
narc dpcricn.cdpcopL ny lilc.I w.uld d!:cibc rpncti.al l,eroD as
onevho deak ilh all facesofdEirlife in a realhticFayiworlirg rhroush
thcpruLlcnssihcy.oncxndrclirhingca.ryblcsing.
I rhinkth€etironreol
rh€pn.ti.:l pcrsonn ancvho, *nh slvl€and grtrc, conrinurlll and diligendy{ofts{i!h dreLtrnddIt dre)'harebeendeilt.
Two,ndmris surftce.'lhenstrs a rip to Sranfodfor taoftn, xndGts.
The re$ Esulisrverenor soodj .an.er.elh werecoxdins nno her bore
nrro\r learirg les d,.t les rcon for "good ells s Mamen &rclullr crrlained.Bdh rbs$edrhisnss qded). finishedthe riertmen!andw rcticarcdto lhe Grfor the ide honE.In rlE qllGrof dr cd, shedied rnd so
didL ft vdBdhRho$oppedn6L.shcblcwhdno$Mdnid, "ltell...Lti
gotoMcDonalds ju.kfoodu rhurme. Shes.vethetrss i6 due d
navcd dn for bod, olus. tuothd tine, B{h{oppcdr lhcho6c shchad
beenup ro UCSC.n herMopedtrndsheMs mrd. Sh€€s mein thekitchen
windorv,walkedn, rinring du, soneonehadconc inro rhcbnydc hns rnd
xl!,o$hnhe.Therirvrsbhe rs\hehsFdonnnm oDrhemnt herir.ge,
lis ntreligena dd hG ddvn,g skills. Mid{entnc,
shenotcd rhc. * rc
cookia oDcooli.smcks.Ooooo,shesFwithdrbiggsiof smiles,
cookiel
B{h lully unds$ood d,e trss tu rceived { s anford ard alsok rw how
erq.n vould havebtrn 6los hdlife inrhrbikeLne.She.hoeosn€s.h
i .ci d e rri tsd o e rn d moaeon
Bethwis irNigh!tul.On ore visitto ou house,sbews carchingup on the
nc* s about ou lid. I .drlogucd r$at crch onc wrs doing, how thcr lv.tu
doing.Shevas ptrticuhdt ifteEsed nr hov'l'Lichwrs nanagin8wnhhe.
bne. Sle sridslE feltsorrrfor'liich dd rvst on to dphin. Shesid dutat
l.at shchrd Id privicy.shc couldpi.k and.hoorcvlo vould lo.w ibool
heriunesstrndthetiningof
thishnovledgerrtrshe6.Tri.itr,shesrid,{oreher
t.o b l e m o n h e rb r.k a ndnwasightr her eoutinr eopenfbr ever yoneto
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h e o h v.i Gl .o n d n ,on
r o,- "r ouou.r - qInq\ w. BeL\..tuid;, Jtded m r
to bc hore empaih€ticwjttr nicir and I an sndut ro he! fo; ihat gift.
B " d h 6 o yru rd i ,-6.o) b8i"b
tLl eaLh4 io) b,ou8\r p- oph,o=r
ndrova r\ den e oflh . q6 ne,gifi o.ho\pibliry.how rij.i \d; okd,o
d o l o ' o " e ' .'h ro w " puR, br [- a ue- . n r k I s t,. Cr r ' ent er cjnu l
$mcs, it vould havebcd ersj, to be orhedse bu;ed wouldn t s€EIefor
" .. TLe s,nd"),b.ioE5he di.d.I .,opp-d ol wiil rr' ora6 $ hat Lne,
u l d tJke r,.-u o
, f tFgatr a Tnev;;n.ou,ide,ot;okJ. heg3d.,
"nl
I n :'e d fl L B e L \..reE\.n,Le.r chen
n bleii} ne..bo,;. m J.ne
p o r" ro .'l Jd sh . h rd inviedr f$ Ir dd, ( o
6,e h"r n shLr nd,L ;
va prepuinS the food. r beli$e $ar n ws this- omsns of ioy thrt;Ioved |{
to squeeu so nuch out of, ad pu somuch inb, her sh;r life.
My ravofite imagcofBdh ws the easi6t.. .n ws Betl oq herMoped,a rior
oibr(M .u,ls u roundins ey6 frrt ofjfe,
tr smirethrcould met(rhepoLr ke cp.
slewsreadrro
de to vlaistr rhe r;d
altad held for hc. This imas€ is stil fry
$ons6t mmory oflcr Sse$l nondB
trso{ lh€ @rner ofBrommer dd 38d, ai
thctoursr yitop.l encouner edr
youns
umin on r Moped.The in.LdenrtrisEeredthar nemory ofBed and I Iausha
ou!ioudinthejoyofit.
Orc ofBdht redrcnt wonies M tha
shervould nor beEmchbqed. Tl6e line
ftom a poem,I tiink by Enil]- DictiNn,
@mind ne of Bet!. It so€s.. ."Tl*€ is a
holein my life whe lou ued o be.I walk
atuhd ir in the drr. Fal inio ir d
tr
'iqli.
hufrslit. h"ll "
'l :m. d o tuh .a l ..rd p e,hJp.h{ lo.' no
lor eo _t' tu lik. h.I HNev- ,,ne
h o e {.e E \fr -kn ro be
lor h- ,.ndt n.u e tormr v or r tr ,.
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Menori2l Schohslip va seblisted a Cabrilo Coll%e_Donarions
elgn,g toh $3 o $ 1,000wercinnhlb acivcd. Ovq they€6 Crmd!2 Ro,, chie
{ T*ri, sahh
Ed, Crudpa Jerr andr haveconriburd o makea smnd toi,l in
"nd
r996of$10,000.Ttarprincipal
guamres anannftl shohship ofarledr g5ooach
The Cabrillo Collegcloundfiion adniniseN dreshohFhip and N€d dns for publicity
purposes: Berh di.d ar the aseof22 of HodskiN Dncae. S[e bart€d tllh dise4e for
nin€ , ed. Shegnduakd fron Apros High Schools s,lublorian dnd Eeived rlc So1
,Alexrnd{ Resefleschohchip fron cabillo CoUegeFomddior Beth dredcd Cab lto
Collcge,UC Sme Barbra rnd UC SantaCruz,majoringinenvironheMl$udi6. Beth
\rs 2 couREeous
younswomn rvnotolchedmni,people.ft ws hq decisionto haye
this s.hohirlip awrdcd b l $udent urnsr{ring to a foF),eu ictiturion majorin€ in a
life scicnc. D{ht fahily and frieds nad. this sholaship possibte.Her pdens, r,'t rnd
Ron, and brother, Caig, and si$er, Seal, m prcud and gntined that er.h
)'eara
Cabrillo$udqr Is dn opportuniryro rccciyeencouagcnenfto
pus&hisorheicolese
educrtidnin Belht nanc."
EachMal w havc thc oppoftunity to aftend lhe Schohdhip Awadr C€Fmony at
crbrillo and meet thc scholaship recipienr.ft itways Mns q, haft @ nE{ then rnd
h.r trbou hen baclground and goals.
Tlc fift rholarhip F.ipient in I t82 wrote',{s . ftll tine sll suppoiting
sudar, I havc
ben faline worked to capa.iq, (and then s.he) q' my conbinedwork andnhoot sclEd,
ule. I cf€cialll apprecidtcth"(hh scholaBhipis sensitivet. studensoffinancialneednr
thehumds.i€ncearea.YouisuppodofsudcnBin tbisareaisaveryposidve
prc-lili
${dndi
vlich is a f€ling thar is hsrtfelt in he."
Another rvrotc, At the rine rlat I s$miftd n/ applicaion, r w6 tryins to decidebcMeen an esier ccrtiticare prog.rn and a moE ruggednseis prognn. pd of my
decision to m.d the challetrgeof r h6Er\ proglfr is due ro l]le ranins ofm/ oM self
drem s a resuhofrecsnins this award.. .Crbillo h6 :lso ben nlporrdr in prcyiding
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-*f,-d oppo!turig' 16rme to ledn fon thetifc dpederce of oihs.
etr dkrd aboutwh
clas I fomd mosr i6p;ins to me, r EteI the $ents that happeGt in L)n Deleldeis
Death dd Dying couis€.Borh Beth hd h{ nother spokein rhjs clds and bu.hed rhe
liy6 ofnmr- people.Erh spoke{ a difGrent rine. Bet!, undersoi,g chemotleap/ ar
rhedmqwor rs{fand bEv€b'spokaboutler ownfeelings,
hq dtit"de bw,;d hs
lamilj- and school m*6 ad peopleslle ner d Sid6id. Shews,eq- i,iidate and hon6t
abour h* Gelinss.Shew$ very clearand brougLt a
lqenc ofa appre.idion oftife. i
nrve kepr m appliadon fom wirh her pictuF. . .,,
Alother wrole wowITlank you s nlch for choosingne b be rhe iecipient ofBdht
rholaBhipl I've neverwon r scholaship before.r v6 sodcit€d when r aeived
iour
lctt{ rhar I c,ll.d weryore I knowt
Sa6I choseto haveno maid ofhonor { her wedding. she alwats saidifsh€ couldn t lave
Bdh rs h{ dddanr, sheAhaveno one. rn$ead sheAtred]ohn st€novi.h ro eacquaint
or innodMe Beth b wedding guss. He giae . poighnr klk rhar he had pElal
in
Amongoth{ dings, h€bld rheweddinggu6u, "hadBethbee! physicaltyprsrt bdan
shewould bevivrcioc, gorseous,
chaming.rfter rhe6mon)-you volld have6und
shehadr ks ror fife,ws connnred to idqs with r yisionofqaking th€wodd a bder
plae b live.cu$s wodd hayesnsd i{ toveofh{ famity,rcutJhave feh i, the
pr$enceot a pesotrwhowoutdhavemde a goodfdend,dd would havefound h{
poliriel conm€ntsro b. veryincisiveandson*hd ir{treni B{h did not sutrcr6ots
vell. shetovcdtheourdooisandwodd hayeapproyedof sahh andEdtj choiceofa
weddingsire[aprkl andth. sinpliciq, ofrhewhoteatrairla picnic].Strewodd have
dhcusedolI{hore oil driUing,thened ro pbect dr evjronmei rheN{ft Consets
ucy,Amnery Inemational
andju$whd isceorseBNh iI about.._."
Y.lile Johnws spakjng at thewddin& w couu nso hed lte consenrchaeriry of
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Beth lftd b wd!€. One ofmr mos vivid inages ofBdh is ny*"lkin€ ilro her loom md
seing hr bent ovd hd d6le riring. SheMotc imgrhy iefts wher slc B ftvettilg
md wote voldne ofjoutuals.5!e wouldwdr p.Ron,l Gelings,lhoughts,od @narN
d weil s dtly lappcnings.S[e Jso includedh ]E jounaL hoysong lrri6, po€msand
sayirys.I found rhn "old lrish blBsing'miaen h oneofher joftnals.
May rhewind b€ alwair at )'ou brct,
May ihe sun shineram upo! your jic,
Ard lhe Bins fall soft upon you n€1&,
And until we meci again,
Mar- God hold /ou jn the palrn of Hii hdd.
I felt the ldsh bl6in8 m an llpropiac wa)' to dd dii lefts ro you bor, assomething
spdal &om Beth, dd 6 Jan$ Hdris, a childlood friend, speakingar Bct$ rn-)€ar
'B erhLnrs o n :et . ll. s h e : s o , r injng o u r h e m '
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