Prioritize
Preach
Praise
Pray
The 10 P’s
Permit
…….to a better medical
marriage
(Abide)
Protect
Persevere
Provide
Prevent
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January 3, 2004
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Our family
Baelyn (2.5)
Ellis (6.5)
Benson
Miller (4.5)
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How do the 10 P’s connect?
Prioritize
draws us to
Pray and Permit
equips us to
Protect, Prevent,
Persevere, (Abide) and Provide
prompts us to
Praise and Preach
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Prioritize
ME
your relationship with Christ
MEss
JesUS
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Prioritize
your relationship with Christ
“Let the children come to me. Don’t stop
them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to
those who are like these children. I tell
you the truth, anyone who doesn’t receive
the Kingdom of God like a child will never
enter it.”
Luke 18:16-17
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Prioritize
your relationship with Christ
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Prioritize
your relationship with Christ
“…it doesn’t have to be well with your
circumstances to be well with your soul.”
Jennifer Rothchild
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Pray
confidently, without ceasing for your husband and your marriage

"...many people struggle to learn how to pray
because they are focusing on praying, not on
God.“
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“The criteria for coming to Jesus is weariness.
Come overwhelmed with life. Come with your
wandering mind. Come messy. Don't try to get
the prayer right; just tell God where you are and
what's on your mind. In bringing your real self to
Jesus, you give him the opportunity to work on
the real you, and you will slowly change."
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Pray
confidently, without ceasing for your husband and your marriage

“We look at the inadequacy of our praying and
give up, thinking something is wrong with us.
God looks at the adequacy of His son and
delights in our sloppy, meandering prayers.”
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"At the center of self-will is me, carving a world
in my image. At the center of prayer is God,
carving me in His son's image."
A Praying Life by Paul Miller
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Pray
confidently, without ceasing for your husband and your marriage
“Submitting yourself in prayer for your
husband means ducking low enough so
that God can reach Him.”
Lysa Terkeurst
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Pray
confidently, without ceasing for your husband and your marriage
“Your will be done”
Brian
mom
dad
“help me”
“show me how to love”
Megan
“be still and know”
Lauren
“peace”
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Pray
confidently, without ceasing for your husband and your marriage
Between you and God, prayer is a
permanent connection with a constant
dialogue.
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Permit
yourself and your husband to experience Sabbath rest
“You don't create intimacy. You make
room for it.”
A Praying Life, Paul Miller
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Permit
yourself and your husband to experience Sabbath rest
We both need to intentionally slow down,
to say to God, “You are way more
important than all I have going on here.”
It’s realizing, we don’t need anything but
Jesus.
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Permit
yourself and your husband to experience Sabbath rest
“Most people mistakenly believe that all
you have to do to stop working is just not
work.”
Gospel in Life, Tim Keller
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Permit
yourself and your husband to experience Sabbath rest
“Sabbath is the deliberate limitation
of productivity, as a way to trust God and be a
good steward of yourself and your resources. The
purpose of the Sabbath is to enjoy
God, life in general, what you have
accomplished in the world through
His help, and the freedom you have in the gospel –
the freedom from slavery to any material object or human
expectation.”
Gospel in Life, Tim Keller
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Permit
yourself and your husband to experience Sabbath rest
“Only when we have identity, meaning and
significance based in Jesus – something
beyond our work – will we find deep rest
for our souls, a rest that will abide with us
in our work. Why? Only Jesus offers us
a finished work to rest in. A Christian is
someone who rests in Jesus’ finished work
instead of his or her own.”
Gospel in Life, Tim Keller
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Permit
yourself and your husband to experience Sabbath rest
“We must have this deep spiritual rest, or
else we will experience a weariness that
vacations can’t cure.”
Gospel in Life, Tim Keller
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Prioritizing draws us to pray and permit
The more I seek you,
the more I find you
The more I find you, the more I love you
I wanna sit at your feet
drink from the cup in your hand.
Lay back against you and breath,
hear your heart beat
This love is so deep,
it's more than I can stand.
I melt in your peace, it's overwhelming
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The More I Seek You, Kari Jobe
(Abide)
in God’s perfect plan while living in parentheses
“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch
cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides
in the vine, neither can you, unless you
abide in me.”
John 15:4
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(Abide)
in God’s perfect plan while living in parentheses
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Protect
your husband’s reputation
“Those who guard their lips preserve their
lives, but those who speak rashly will
come to ruin.”
Proverbs 13:3
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Protect
your husband’s reputation
Choice A?
OR
Choice B?
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Prevent
your own struggles from harming your marriage
“But for the grace of God”
Alcoholics Anonymous
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Prevent
your own struggles from harming your marriage
“From the end of the earth I will cry to You,
When my heart is overwhelmed;
Lead me to the rock that is higher than I.”
Psalm 61:2
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Prevent
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your own struggles from harming your marriage
“Who I am and what I struggle with are
not the same thing.”
Jennifer Rothchild
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“Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be
clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than
snow.”
Psalm 51:7
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Prevent
your own struggles from harming your marriage
“I’m learning things I never knew before.
I’ve started to pray again. I have found
my true joy.”
Dan Cauble
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Prevent
your own struggles from harming your marriage
Seems like all I can see was the struggle
Haunted by ghosts that lived in my past
Bound up in shackles of all my failures
Wondering how long is this gonna last
Then You look at this prisoner and say to me
“son stop fighting a fight that’s already been won”
Redeemed, Big Daddy Weave
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Prevent
your own struggles from harming your marriage
I am redeemed, You set me free
So I’ll shake off theses heavy chains
Wipe away every stain
now I’m not who I used to be
I am redeemed
Redeemed, Big Daddy Weave
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Prevent
your own struggles from harming your marriage
All my life I have been called unworthy
Named by the voice of my shame and regret
But when I hear You whisper,
“Child lift up your head”
I remember oh God, You’re not done with me yet
I don’t have to be the old man inside of me
Cause his day is long dead and gone
I’ve got a new name, a new life I’m not the same
And a hope that will carry me home
Redeemed, Big Daddy Weave
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The 10 P’s
Prioritize
draws us to
Pray and Permit
equips us to
Protect, Prevent,
Persevere, (Abide) and Provide
prompts us to
Praise and Preach
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
To Jen: “Ahhh! Please pray for me. I just
totally blew it with Brian. In a matter of 20
minutes, I think I just failed at pretty
much all of the P’s that I’m writing about
in my message to share with SBS.”
 To Beth: “Sometimes our actions show
what we truly believe. Your actions have
to be rooted in belief, and this belief is a
gift of the Holy Spirit.”
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
“I do believe, help me overcome my
unbelief!”
Mark 9:24
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
Love is patient, love is kind, it is not
envious. Love does not brag, it is not
puffed up. It is not rude, it is not selfserving, it is not easily angered or
resentful. It is not glad about injustice,
but rejoices in the truth. It bears all
things, believes all things, hopes all
things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
“We love because He first loved us.”
1 John 14:9
“Love is not a fight, but it’s something worth
fighting for.”
Warren Barfield
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
“We instinctively know that love leads to
commitment, so we look away when we
see a beggar. We might have to pay if we
look too closely and care too deeply.
Loving means losing control of our
schedule, our money and our time. When
we love we cease to be the master
and become the servant.”
Love Walked Among Us, Paul Miller
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress
others. Be humble, thinking of others
as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only
for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have
the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God, he did not
think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up
his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born
as a human being. When he appeared in human form, he humbled himself
in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross.”
Philippians 2:3-8
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
Hey honey, how’s your day going? I just wanted to check in
with you. We have been so busy already today! Even
though Benson was up every 2 hours last night, I got up
before the sun and spent an hour doing my Bible study
then I did 45 minutes of the “lose your mommy pooch”
cardio and abs video. I’m getting the kids ready for school
now – it was really hard to butter everyone’s toast this
morning with one hand while standing and nursing Benson
with the other arm, but I managed. The windchill is -25
degrees, so shopping the sales at both Target and Hyvee
with 3 of our kids this morning will be tricky….but I’ll
manage. I will be doing 6 loads of laundry today,
interspersed with baking the meal for a SBS friend who just
had a baby. I won’t forget that you need 5 shirts ironed for
this week or that you are out of deodorant. I love you!
Have a great day!
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
“Then Jesus told this story to some who had great confidence in their own
“Two men went to the
Temple to pray. One was a Pharisee, and the other
was a despised tax collector. The Pharisee stood by
himself and prayed this prayer: ‘I thank you, God,
that I am not a sinner like everyone else. For I don’t
cheat, I don’t sin, and I don’t commit adultery. I’m
certainly not like that tax collector! I fast twice a
week, and I give you a tenth of my income.’ “But the
tax collector stood at a distance and dared not even
lift his eyes to heaven as he prayed. Instead, he beat
his chest in sorrow, saying, ‘O God, be merciful to
me, for I am a sinner.’ I tell you, this sinner, not the Pharisee,
righteousness and scorned everyone else:
returned home justified before God. For those who exalt themselves will
be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
Luke 18:9-14
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
“The first step toward God is realizing you are on
the wrong path going the wrong way. Knowing
we are inadequate before God and other
people leads to compassion, but thinking we
are good before God and others makes us
self-centered and difficult to live with. The
better we think we are, the less we can love.
Love Walked Among Us, Paul Miller
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Provide
for your husband through loving service
 “You hypocrite, first take the plank out of
your own eye, and then you will see
clearly to remove the speck from your
brother’s eye.”
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Matthew 7:5
 “For all have for all have sinned and fall
short of the glory of God”
Romans 3:23
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Provide

for your husband through loving service
Pic of glasses
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Persevere
in the hard times, being strengthened by faith
“When God believes in you, your situation
is never hopeless. When He walks with
you, you are never alone. When God is
on your side, you can never, ever
lose.”
Barbara Johnson
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Persevere
in the hard times, being strengthened by faith
Kara
Robin
Brooke
Tracy
Jaci
Jessica
Anna
Steph
Jodie
Rebecca
Betsy
Tricia
Bethi
Beth
Katie
Nicole
Julie
YOU?
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Persevere
in the hard times, being strengthened by faith
“Fear tells us that life is unpredictable,
anything can happen, but faith replies
quietly, “Yes, but God is in control.”
Sheila Walsh
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Persevere
in the hard times, being strengthened by faith
“Yet I am not alone because the Father is
with me. I have told you all this so that
you may have peace in me. Here on earth
you will have many trials and sorrows.
But take heart, because I have
overcome the world.”
John 16:32-33
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Persevere
in the hard times, being strengthened by faith
“God never gives strong faith without
fiery trial; He will not build a strong
ship without subjecting it to very
mighty storms; He will not make you a mighty warrior
if He does not intend to try your skill in battle…. If we have
sharpened our swords on the cross, we have nothing whatever to
fear ……”
C.H. Spurgeon
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The 10 P’s
Prioritize
draws us to
Pray and Permit
equips us to
Protect, Prevent,
Persevere, (Abide) and Provide
prompts us to
Praise and Preach
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Preach
God’s Truths and Goodness
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Preach
God’s Truths and Goodness
A witnessing life is wholly enabled by
God’s spirit, willing to self-sacrifice in
loving others, quick to admit its faults,
and constantly calls out to God for help
and grace.
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Preach
God’s Truths and Goodness
“But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord.
Always be prepared to give an answer to
everyone who asks you to give the reason
for the hope that you have. But do this
with gentleness and respect.”
1 Peter 3:15
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Preach
God’s Truths and Goodness

“The joyful effects of the gospel in our
own lives must give us an enormous
energy for witness. How can we keep
quiet about such a great wonder?”
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“We are freed from the fear of being
ridiculed or hurt by others, since we
already have the favor of God by grace.”
Gospel in Life, Tim Keller
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Preach
God’s Truths and Goodness

“There is humility in our dealings with
others, because we know we are saved
only by grace.
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“We are courteous and careful with
people. We don’t have to push or coerce
them, for it is God’s grace that opens
hearts, not our eloquence or persistence…”
Gospel in Life, Tim Keller
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Preach
God’s Truths and Goodness
“And let us consider how we may spur one
another on to love and good deeds.”
Hebrews 10:24
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Preach
God’s Truths and Goodness
Verse 1:
When I lose my way,
And I forget my name,
Remind me who I am.
In the mirror all I see,
Is who I don't wanna be,
Remind me who I am.
In the loneliest places,
When I can't remember what grace is.
Chorus:
Tell me once again who I am to you.
Who I am to you.
Tell me must I forget who I am to you.
That I belong to you.
To you.
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Remind Me Who I Am, Jason Gray
Preach
God’s Truths and Goodness
Verse 2:
When my heart is like a stone,
And I'm running far from home,
Remind me who I am.
When I can't receive your love,
Afraid I'll never be enough,
Remind me who I am.
If I'm your beloved,
Can you help me believe it.
Chorus:
Tell me once again who I am to you.
Who I am to you, Whoah.
Tell me lest I forget who I am to you.
That I belong to you.
To you.
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Remind Me Who I Am, Jason Gray
Preach
Bridge:
I'm the one
I'm the one
That will be
I'm the one
God’s Truths and Goodness
you love,
you love,
enough,
you love.
Chorus:
Tell me once again who I am to you.
Who I am to you.
Tell me must I forget who I am to you.
That I belong to you, Whoah.
To you. To you. To You.
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Remind Me Who I Am, Jason Gray
Praise
God, with gratitude, for all the good in your life
Sure deodorant commercial
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tFZ21uDKeQ
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Praise
God, with gratitude, for all the good in your life
“faith is being sure of what we hope for”
Hebrews 11:1
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Praise
God, with gratitude, for all the good in your life
“Whatever is true, whatever is noble,
whatever is right, whatever is pure,
whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable
– if anything is excellent or praiseworthy,
think about such things.”
Philippians 4:8
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Praise
God, with gratitude, for all the good in your life
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The 10 P’s…..
Submit your life to Christ. Draw close to Him
through prayer and rest. Rely upon the Holy
Spirit as you provide, protect, prevent, abide in
parentheses, and persevere.
When you recognize God’s work in your life, give
Him all of your praise, and in all things, preach
the truth of God’s amazing love.
But when you fail, let grace be your redemption and
humility be your friend.
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The 10 P’s….
I’m forgiven because You were forsaken,
I’m accepted, You were condemned.
I am alive and well, Your sprit is within me,
Cause You died and rose again.
(Repeat x2)
(Chorus)
Amazing love,
How can it be?
That You, my King would die for me?
Amazing love,
I know it’s true.
It’s my joy to honor You,
In all I do, I honor You.
I’m forgiven because You were forsaken,
I’m accepted, You were condemned.
I am alive and well, Your sprit is within me,
Cause You died and rose again.
You are my King
(Repeat)
Amazing Love, Billy James Foot
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