EMPOWERING
WOMEN
Dr. Martin Sanders
October 19, 2013
MARK 1
Ministry Jesus’ Style
I. Spiritual Formation (9-13)
Face Your Temptation
Hear the Voice of Your Father
Receive Affirmation
II. DISCIPLESHIP (14-20)
The process by which a Christian with
a life worth emulating/modeling after
commits himself/herself for an
extended period of time to a few
individuals who have been won to
Christ, the purpose being to aid and
guide their growth to maturity and
equip them to reproduce themselves in
a third spiritual generation.
III. AUTHORITY (21-28)
Jesus gave authority to:
The 12
The 70
The 120
The Church
“The gates of hell shall not
prevail against you.”
AUTHORITY (cont.)
Jesus had authority in
teaching over disease and
demonic forces.
IV. Priorities/Passion (29-39)
1.
2.
3.
4.
Relationships
Soul Care, Prayer
Everyone is looking for you!
Keep going to those who
have never heard!
V. COMPASSION (40-42)
Do not go week after
week or month after
month without
intentionally expressing
the compassion of Jesus
Christ!
MARK 8:27-38
Empowered to Lead
Introduction
Overview of Mark’s Gospel
Be Empowered to Lead
INVEST YOUR LIFE
I. Know what you are investing in
(verses 27-30)
Elementary Logic: Called disciples, Discipled
disciples, Disciples make disciples
Christ’s primary purpose for the Church:
Disciple-making
Objective: Who do people say that He is?
Subjective: Who do you say that He is?
Discuss Issues vs. Understanding Implications
Become a Disciple of Jesus Christ, skillfully
disguised as a ________________.
(Your Vocation)
II. Know the Right Questions to Ask
(verses 31-38)
Who’s in control of your life? (vv. 31-33)
(Note the exchange between Jesus and Peter)
What are you doing with your life? (vv.35-37)
(Invest your gifts, resources, life)
Where are you going with your life?(vv.34,38)
Deny Self vs. Self-Denial
Take up your cross
Follow Him
Honestly Address self-will issues
Application: Life-Change Process
Seeking
Conversion
Discipleship
Mentoring
Leadership Development
Conclusion
Invest what you have, not what you wish
you had!
Invest your life
Make it count
Pass it on to the next generation
Pass it on to the next generation:
Ed Kimbal
Dwight L. Moody
F.B. Myer
Wilbur Chapman
Billy Sunday
Mordecai Ham
Billy Graham
Leighton Ford
Martin Sanders
Bo Sanders
Wanda W.
Lisa P.
Betzi S.
You
MARK 16
Empowering
Others to Lead
The Next Generation
Make Disciples (v. 15-16)
Receive the Power of the Holy Spirit (v.17-18)
See People Saved, Healed, Set Free,
Empowered! (v. 18)
Focus on the Giver rather than the gifting.
Go Be a Disciple who makes disciples
(v.19-20)
Reflection on Mark 16
1.
2.
3.
4.
My life mission and purpose statement
A statement of mission for my ministry
My approach to empowerment
My plan to develop the Next Generation
Reflections
1. Am I a disciple of Jesus Christ, able and willing
to reproduce myself in the next spiritual
generation?
2. If not, what do I need in order to become one?
3. My approach to empowering others is/will be…
4. My plan to develop the Next Generation will
involve…
5. “Lord give me__________, so that I may better
_______________ in the Kingdom of God!”
LEADERSHIP QUESTIONS
Assess your leadership style. (Critical
incident: Describe a time when . . . )
Relationships: How are you doing? -Assess family life, opposite and some
same-sex relationships
PERSONAL &
SPIRITUAL
DEVELOPMENT
DEVELOPMENTAL PROCESS
Moving from where you are to where you need to be:
Moving from
A > D > R > Z
God’s development in your life:
Romans 5
Romans 8
Revelation 19-21
God is forever on a quest. Ever thought about that? His pursuit is
a subject woven through the fabric of the New Testament. The
pattern He follows is set forth in Romans 8:29, where He promises to
conform us to His Son’s image. Another promise is stated in
Philippians 1:6, where we’re told He began His work in us and He
isn’t about to stop. Elsewhere He even calls us His “workmanship”
(Eph. 2:10). He is hammering, filing, chiseling, and shaping us!
Peter’s second letter goes so far as to list some of the things included
in this quest – diligence, faith, moral excellence, knowledge, selfcontrol, perseverance, godliness, kindness, and love (2 Peter 1:5-7).
In a word…character.
Character qualities in His children – that’s God’s relentless quest.
His strobe light will continue to penetrate our darkness. He won’t
quit His quest until He completes His checklist. And when will that
be? When we rest in peace… and not one day sooner. Only then will
His mission be accomplished in us. We have Him to thank for not
giving up as we go through the process of developing character.
Thanks, Lord.
LIFELINE
DEVELOPMENT
PHASES
18
30
40
55+
Learning Years
Building Years
Focusing Years
Investing Years
Critical Question
Critical Question
Critical question
Critical question
•Who am I?
•Where is my place?
•Why am I here?
•How do I finish well and leave an
enduring legacy?
Characteristics
Characteristics
Characteristics
Characteristics
•High activity
•Intense schedule
•Changing schedule
•Focused/looser schedule
•Broad Learning
•Narrow learning
•Targeted learning
•Selected learning
•Hopeful/anxious
•Tyranny of the urgent
•Uncertain/weary
•Anxious
•Searching verifying
•Dealing with baggage
• Questioning/adjusting
•Accepting
•Accomplishing
•Achieving/ making it
•Contributing>influencing
•Influencing>contributing
•Gathering
•Improving
•Mastering
•Converging
•Self oriented
•Work oriented
•Purpose oriented
•Others-oriented
•Survival
•Success
•Significance
•Significance
Dangers
Dangers
Dangers
Dangers
•Bad life decisions
•No anchors, life structures
•Mid-life melt down
•Stop learning/growing
•No mentors
•No mentors/peers
•No mentors//peers
•Security driven
•Weak inner life
•Doing overrides being
•Dabbling
•Lack of purpose
•Little concern for inner life
•No intimacy
•Plateauing
•Not finishing well
•No meaningful connections
Key Ingredients
Key Ingredients
Key ingredients
Key ingredients
•Exposure/experience
•Developing life structures
•Clarifying purpose
•Making final years count
•Understanding self
•Applying self
•Focusing self
•Investing self
•Faithfulness
•Stewardship
•Stewardship
•Generosity
•Feedback/adjustment
•Feedback adjustment
•Feedback adjustment
•Feedback adjustment
•Inner life growth
•Inner life growth
•Inner life growth
•Inner life growth
•Ministry participation
•Identifying ministry
•Intentional ministry
•Identifying your legacy
Key element
Key element
Key element
Key Element
•Mentors
•Mentors and peers
•Mentors and peers
•Peer and mentorees
Discover Why You Are The
Way You Are
Congruence
Emotions
Assessments
Profile
Heart and Soul
Leadership
Congruence
HEART
FOR
IMAGE
IDENTITY
-faith
-public persona
-deprivations
-significance
-external goal
-hidden side
-passion
-projected image
-dark spot
-ministry
-what we show
-what we are
GOD
Deprivations
Essential components of human
development
Security
Love
(Emotions, Confidence)
Intimacy
Significance
Affirmation
Resolving Identity Issues
Deprivations: Essential Components of
Human Development
Security
Love
(Emotions & Confidence)
Intimacy
Affirmation
Significance
Additional Issues
Fears
Traumas
Childhood Issues
Character Issues
Unresolved Issues
Analogies: Cleaning out a closet;
updating file system
How Big is the Hole?
Annoying
Nagging
Gnawing
How Do I Address the Issue(s)?
Identify Available Human Resources
God to God (Deeply) for the Rest
Make Responsible Adult Decisions
Heart & Soul Questions
Loving God
How do you best commune with God:
listening, talking, reading, writing, walking,
sitting, etc.?
Are you more comfortable loving God, or
being loved by Him?
Are you more comfortable loving God, or
serving Him?
What hinders you from meeting with God,
or receiving from Him?
Spiritual Gifts Overview
Passion, Experiences, Integrative Model
Personal Strengths vs. Weaknesses
Package: spiritual gifts - natural abilities
Identifying Your Gifts
Assessments & Tests
Ask friends
Networking, Uniquely You, IDAK,
Strength Finders, Temperament Analysis
Utilizing Your Gifts
Confidence & Courage
Assessment & Feedback
Taking Risks
Learning from Experiences
Q&A
DISCIPLESHIP, MENTORING,
COUNSELING, COACHING,
SOUL CARE,
SPIRITUAL DIRECTION
DISCIPLESHIP QUESTIONS
How do you spend your best time with God?
What 5 Scriptures you have memorized have
been most meaningful to you?
What areas have you been challenged by the
Spirit to trust Him more? Which areas are the
toughest to turn over?
What temptations have you encountered
recently? Did you overcome or yield?
DISCIPLESHIP QUESTIONS
Identify steps you are taking to actively yield to
the Holy Spirit.
What does God’s Spirit want you to do about
________?
Accountability Questions
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
How is your relationship with God right now?
What have you read in the Bible in the past week?
What has God said to you in this reading?
Where do you find yourself resisting Him these days?
What specific things are you praying for in regard to
others?
6. What specific things are you praying for in regard to
yourself?
7. What are the specific tasks facing you right now that
you consider incomplete?
8. What habits intimidate you?
Accountability Questions
9. What have you read in the secular press this week?
10. What general reading are you doing?
11. What have you done to play?
12. How are you doing with your spouse? Kids?
13. If I were to ask your spouse about your state of mind,
spirit, energy level, what would the response be?
14. Are you sensing any spiritual attacks from the enemy
right now?
15. If Satan were to try to invalidate you as a person or a
servant of the Lord, how might he do it?
Accountability Questions
16. What is the state of your sexual perspective?
Tempted? Dealing with fantasies? Entertainment?
17. Where are you financially right now? (things under
control? Under anxiety? In great debt?)
18. Are there any unresolved conflicts in your circle of
relationships right now?
19. When was the last time you spent time with a good
friend of your own gender?
20. What kind of time have you spent with anyone who is
a non-Christian this past month?
Accountability Questions
21. What challenges do you think you’re going to face in
the coming week? Month?
22. What would you say are your fears at the present
time?
23. Are you sleeping well?
24. What three things are you most thankful for?
25. Do you like yourself at this point in your pilgrimage?
26. What are your greatest confusions about your
relationship with God?
MENTORING QUESTIONS
What key character issues are you addressing?
How are you interacting with: God, self,
spouse, family, work, other relationships?
What is the best way to address the key issue
you are facing right now?
How are you doing with the opposite sex this
week?
MENTORING QUESTIONS
On a scale of 1-10, how loved does your spouse
feel by you today?
What are your three greatest strengths you can
pass to the next generation?
Feedback Questions
What are some challenges you have faced recently?
What is the biggest problem you have faced? How
did you resolve it?
What areas are you intentionally developing, and
why?
COACHING QUESTIONS
What are your dreams?
What would you really love to enjoy in life?
What aspect of your life would you like to improve?
What would you like to work on?
On a scale of 1-10 how motivated are you to reach this objective?
How would your life be different if you achieved this goal? Paint
me a picture
What would it be worth to you to get this accomplished?
If you had all the money you would ever need, what would you
do?
If you had all the time, energy and money to achieve your goal,
what would you do?
COACHING QUESTIONS
What is missing from your life?
What is your self-concept?
Who are you and what do you want?
What do you do for fun?
How can you reframe that to help you move on?
What works well?
What do you think the main challenge is?
What do you want to experience?
What’s stopping you?
What does your intuition (inner voice) tell you?
If that doesn’t work, what else could you do?
What are you tolerating?
COUNSELING QUESTIONS
What is the key issue(s) you are facing this
week?
Describe ways you are responding to others.
Do you find yourself being more defensive,
critical, blaming, self-accusing, or taking
appropriate responsibility in conflicts at this
time?
How do you feel about that?
Can you identify key issue(s) of the past that
are affecting you?
COUNSELING QUESTIONS
Variety of relationship, feeling/frustration, past
and current impact issues
Outcome Frame Questions:
What is the goal or desired state: Describe what you
want your life to be. Paint a picture with broad
sweeping strokes.
When and where and with whom do you want it?
How will you know when you get it?
In what way/how will your life be different?
What stops you from getting it? What do you need
in order to get it?
SPIRITUAL DIRECTION
QUESTIONS
What would you like your relationship/
connection with God to be like? Has it ever
been like that?
Can you identify any blocks/barriers that
currently (or past) get in the way?
Have you been honest about your
disappointments with ________?
Are you able to freely express to God what you
want, need, feel, etc.?
Soul Questions
Loving God
How do you best commune with God: listening,
talking, reading, writing, walking, sitting, etc.?
Are you more comfortable loving God, or being
loved by Him?
Are you more comfortable loving God, or
serving Him?
What hinders you from meeting with God, or
receiving from Him?
Soul Questions
Knowing His Grace
Describe ways you currently embrace God’s
grace.
Describe ways you may abuse God’s grace.
Describe ways you simply enjoy God’s grace.
Soul Questions
Hearing God’s Voice
Describe a scenario in which you typically make
your best connection with God.
When you “hear the voice of God” is it most
often through: reading the Bible, a still small
voice, circumstances, other people, a
perception, specific events, an audible voice,
you just know, or what?
Describe how you receive affirmation from God
or His Spirit.
Describe how conviction comes to you.
Soul Questions
Covenant
Describe an agreement you made with God
when you committed something to Him.
Describe an agreement with God when you
asked Him to provide something for you and
you promised something in return.
Reflect upon any part of an agreement with
God where you have not kept up your end of
the agreement.
Thank Him today for…
SOUL CARE QUESTIONS
Describe ways you are dealing with your
shadow/dark side.
Are you being distracted or fixating on the
wrong aspects of your life?
Are you clearly identifying attacks of the
enemy and ways he/you are sabotaging your
growth?
APPROACHES
Discipleship – Personal & Spiritual
Development
Mentoring – A developmental approach in a
relational context
Coaching – Forward action through dialogue
APPROACHES
Spiritual Direction – Connecting people to God
Counseling – Objective & Reflective
Soul Care – Assists in uncovering any barriers
and assist in becoming full and free in Christ
K.A. COACHING
When counseling is therapeutic and slow…
When mentoring is too relational and
imprecise…
When classic coaching is too analytical and
behavioral…
When discipleship and soul care are too
religious and spiritual…
YOU WANT K.A. COACHING!!!
COACHING QUESTIONS
If you could change any two things about your
life right now, what would they be?
What’s the most important step you could take
right now to move toward your destiny?
What one obstacle would most transform your
life if you over came it?
ASSESSMENT
Feedback is crucial in your 20’s and 30’s
Feedback is breakfast of mentors
Learn how to listen and ask good
questions
Help people learn from their own
experiences
FEEDBACK QUESTIONS
What are your responsibilities?
What are some challenges you have faced
recently?
What is the biggest problem you have
faced? How did you resolve it?
What areas are you intentionally
developing, and why?
If you could re-do something, what would it
be? Why?
FEEDBACK QUESTIONS
Assess your leadership style. (Critical
incident: Describe a time when . . . )
Relationships: How are you doing? -Assess family life.