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TOPIC: Self- Disclosure
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SUBTOPICS:
a. Definition of Self-Disclosure and
its distinction from SelfDescription.
b. Factors Affecting SelfDisclosure
c. Risk of Self-Disclosure
d. Benefits of Self-Disclosure
Name:
Marren D. Arienda
Year & Section:
II-10
Grade:
e. Guidelines for Self-disclosing
Objectives: At the end of the report,
participants are expected to:
1. Know Self-Disclosure and its
context.
Strategy or activity related to the
topic:
Complete the sentence:
My classmates don’t know that I
_______________.
2. Engage their selves in an
appropriate ways of self disclosure in
order to achieve improved
communication and increased self
awareness.
3. Strengthen interpersonal
relationships through becoming an
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Hindi alam ng mga kaklase ko na
_______________.
*Note: this should be a personal
experience.
For example:
open, social and friendly person.
Hindi alam ng mga kaklase ko na,
naoperahan ako nung last vacation.
References:
Questions to ask after the activity:
1. Effective Human Relations:
Interpersonal and
Organizational Applications
https://books.google.com.ph/bo
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1. Is it easy to tell something
personal about you to the crowd?
2. Did you consider the weight of the
personal thing you have disclosed?
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3. Why do you think is it necessary
to disclose personal matters to
people although you know there
might be risk/vulnerability?
2. Self- Disclosure
http://www.slideshare.net/juspc
h/self-disclosure-10461665
3. Self-Disclosure and
Interpersonal Relationship
http://2012books.lardbucket.org
/books/a-primer-oncommunication-studies/s06-04self-disclosure-andinterperso.html
Self-Disclosure
 The intentional sharing of personal information about oneself..
Self-Disclosure
Self-Description
 Often involves some
degree of risk
 You reveal private,
personal information that
cannot be acquired from
another source.
 Involves disclosure of
nonthreatening
information
– age
– favorite food
– where you went to
school
 Information that can
usually be acquired in
some other way
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Factors Affecting Self-Disclosure
1. Who We Are – our personality ex. introverted/extroverted, confidence - the
more social a person is, the more likely they will self-disclose
2. Culture – different cultures have different views on self-disclosure and the
topics you disclose about
3. Gender – the male and female psyche are inherently different ex. women
tend to disclose more than men
4. The Listener – the no. of listeners (generally, the more listeners, the less
willing to self-disclose)
- The relationship with the listener/listeners
- Liking those with whom you self-disclose
- The dyadic effect
5. Topic – certain topics are more “taboo” than others
6. Channel of Communication – actually affects our willingness to selfdisclose
Risks of Self Disclosure
a. Revealing too much
-“knowledge is power”
-people can use information for other purposes
b. Rejection/Loss of Self-Confidence - people might not support or like what
you disclose about yourself
c. Material Loss - sensitive information, if revealed, can cause a person to
lose his job, status, ranking, etc.
Benefits from Self-Disclosure
1. Increased Accuracy in Communication
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People cannot read minds
Take the guess work out of the process
Reporting both facts and feelings improves accuracy
2. Reduction of stress
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Emphasis on privacy and concealment of feelings creates stress
Sharing inner thoughts and feelings usually reduces stress
Stress symptoms can include
o high blood pressure – perspiration
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o decline in immunization – rapid breathing
3. Increased self-awareness
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Self-awareness
o The ability to recognize and understand your moods, emotions,
drives and their effect on others
o The foundation on which self-development is built
Increases as you receive feedback from others
4. Stronger relationships
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When two people engage in an open dialogue, they often develop a
high regard for each other’s views
Enhances awareness of common interests and concerns
5. Repair Damaged Relationships
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Many relationships are unnecessarily strained
People refuse to talk about real or imagined problems
Self-disclosure can be an excellent way to repair damaged
relationships
The Art of Apologizing
- A sincere apology has healing power
- Can improve communication in the future
- Apologize if actions caused hurt feelings, anger, or deep-seated
ill will
- Apologize in private so that feelings can be exchanged in
relative comfort
- Apologize completely—should include:
- Regret
- Responsibility
- Remedy
- Avoid the “I am sorry for what happened, but you shouldn’t
have….”
The Art of Forgiveness
- To forgive means to give up resentment and anger
- Forgiveness heals, and liberates energy and creativity
Guidelines for Self-disclosing
Making Disclosures (RAB-OP)
Reason – examine own motivations
Appropriateness – is the context, relationship, time and place appropriate?
Burdens – consider the burdens the disclosure might cause you or the listener
Other Person - give others a chance to reciprocate with their own disclosures
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Responding to Disclosures (HELBR)
Hush – keep disclosures confidential
Encourage – express support for the person
Listen – listen actively, with empathy and with an open mind (don’t) Blackmail
– don’t use disclosure against the other
Respond – reciprocate by also disclosing
Resisting Pressure to Self-Disclose (RIA)
Resist – don’t get pushed into saying something you don’t want to Indirect –
change the topic and avoid questions that prompt you to self-disclose
Assert Position – directly but respectfully refuse
“Vulnerability is often seen as a weakness; it’s actually a sign of strength.
People who are genuinely open and transparent prove that they have the
confidence and self-esteem to allow others to see them as they really are,
warts and all”
– Patrick Lencion