Goals Value = Goals = Behavior = Self-esteem “If I had 8 hours to chop down a tree, I’d spend 6 sharpening my ax” Abraham Lincoln What is a goal? • Discussion • Activity: Shrinking Circle – Discuss outcome of the Shrinking Circle • What happened when the circle got smaller and harder to fit? • How does this relate to our lives? • What are some things that prevent us from reaching our goals? Long vs. Short A short term goal is achieved quickly (finish term paper, wash dishes, mail Christmas cards by Friday, etc.). They help you achieve your long term goals. Long term goals will take months, years, all your life. For example: graduate from college, become a pilot, lose ___ pounds, etc. Do you believe you can achieve? • We need to learn how to dream. • Keep the dream alive, reach your goals • Some people don’t decide or have a vision of what they want out of life. NO GOALS!! • People with goals can see what they eventually want to achieve and they can see just how to get there. Things to remember: • Goals must be realistic – you can’t lose 40 pounds in one month • Must prioritize – rank in order of importance you, can’t accomplish it all at once. • Do you have the resources you need to reach your goals (money, information, health, energy, skill, etc.). Individual Assignment: • Write a long list of the goals you think would be important and worthwhile for you to accomplish. (a dream list) • Now have them look at their list and ask themselves the following questions: – Does it fit your values? – Is it realistic? – Is it flexible? – Does it fit in with your other goals? – Will the rewards be worth what you put in to it? – Is it what you want? Belief Activity: The “I can’t funeral” write down on a piece a paper everything you can’t do. Next write a list of ‘I CAN’. Keep this in your note book/journal. Play song: “I Believe I Can Fly” “Success is in the bag”. • You need purse-severance • It requires the same amount of energy to be successful as it does to be unsuccessful. • 99% of your assets are standing in your shoes. • 80% of success is showing up • If you are not working to where you want to be, you are AUTOMATICALLY working to where you don’t want to be. • Keep your most important values in mind at all times when you are making LESS important decisions. • Don’t sacrifice what matters most for something that doesn’t matter that much to you. There are always trade-offs Build a bridge and get over it You will have challenges You will have roadblocks You can have excuses or success but not both Story: “Circus Elephants and Limitations” There are three types of people Ones that make things happen Those that let it happen And the ones that don’t know what happened. What one are you going to be? There is very little difference between mediocre and greatness. The boiling point is only 1 degree different than very warm water. – The difference is tremendous. Steam can power many things. The difference between a race horse that wins first place and a second place is often fractions of a second. Seven goal areas Family/home Social Educational Religious Achievement/recognition Career Physical/health Writing goals – SPECIFIC! written down MEASURABLE TIME FRAME read out loud frequently posted visibly Student Assignment: Set a goal and fill out the goal contract. Show video: “The Blue Vase”