Kids Who Start Ahead, Stay
Ahead
Parental Workshop
Huge potential of our children are remaining
untapped and getting wasted because of lack of
knowledge and understanding of the possibilities;
those lie hidden within our children.
Learning is for building character – learning is not for
earning.
We, as parents, teachers
and community members,
need to wake up and
shake up. We need to, as a
‘learning community,’
hand over the
responsibilities of their
learning to the children.
Awaken the fire to keep
on and going on till the
goal is reached.
Six vital and most valuable
facts for parents to know: The brain of a new human being grows explosively, but
less quickly each succeeding day, from conception to 6
years of age.
 When does the heart form and when does the brain?
 On conception 50,000,000,000,000 and after 30 days
1,25, 000,000,000,000 brain neurons
 The brain grows by use, every minute 2,50,000 brain
neurons; which are 360,000,000 per day.
 The brain runs everything
Six vital and most valuable
facts for parents to know: The potential of our human brain
is unimaginatively great.
 We can increase the possibility of attaining ever-higher
levels of potential by starting early in the life of a
young child. While the brain is growing at a fantastic
rate.
 This early start is most effective when carried out and
initiated by the tiny child’s mother and father. And
only when applied with joy and love.
Every child has, at birth,
a greater potential
intelligence
than
Leonardo Da Vinci, Isaac
Newton, Einstein
ever used.
Glenn Doman
Author of Teach Your Baby To Read
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All children are born geniuses, and we
spend the first six years of their lives
degeniusing them.
-Buckminster Fuller
The deepest desire in a parents heart is
to see one’s child achieve success.
Most People Assume
• That success is essentially
material. That it can be
measured in money,
prestige, or an abundance
of possessions. These
certainly can play a role; but
having them does not
guarantee of success.
Copyright © 2012 NATCA Voice
• The success we
want our children
to achieve has to
be defined in
many non
material ways as
well.
It Should Include
• The ability to love and have
compassion.
• The capacity to feel joy and
spread it to others.
• Learning to give first and not take.
• The security of knowing that one’s
life has a purpose, and there is a
divine influence leading us
towards a particular direction.
• A sense of connection to that
creative power of the universe –
“We belong to this Universe.”
What Do We Teach Our Children?
• How to survive.
• How to behave in order to
earn our approval.
• How to defend themselves.
• How to compete.
• How to persist against disappointment, obstacles and
setbacks!
• Although believing in God is often considered a good
thing, spirituality has been kept traditionally far apart
from success in life.
This Is A Mistake
• Keeping “Spirituality away from our
daily lives and away from success; has
been a mistake and has profound
effect”.
• The parody is we spend years, from
child hood on, on hard work so as to
earn lots of money and have physical
possessions. But loose our physical
health and our emotional wellbeing
and bliss. And then spend the money
earned to recover our health through
treatments.
The Spiritual Dimension That Brings Inner
Fulfillment
• If the meaning of your life unfolds to you
everyday, in simplicity and wonder, you have
achieved success – which means in a profound
way, that every baby/ every God created
Human being; is a born success.
• Every child’s & once in a while; ours ability to
feel wonder in the face of everyday existence is
the surest proof we have ; that Nature wants us
to be successful.
The Seeds Of God Is Within Us
• Nature wants all of us to be
successful
• When we make this journey of spirit,
we water these divine seeds inside
us.
• The good life merely reflects our
inner intention.
• In time the flowers of God bloom
within us and around us, and we
begin to witness and know the
miracle of divinity all around.
The Teaching Of
Innocence
•Success, therefore, is
supremely natural
Let us have a look at how is
our future ‘learning world’
of children going to look
like? This learning world,
already is with ‘unlimited
potential’!
• It’s GLOBAL
• Unlimited
scope
‘All of us are surging through the most profound revolution in human history. Its impact is personal, national,
global—and, in many ways unlimited. At its core are seven catalysts, now converging and fusing to change the
way we live, work, play, learn, teach, think and create—at any age. The keys to unlock that future are simple
but revolutionary. Once unlocked, that revolution has the power to unleash the combined talents of millions.’
• It’s INTERACTIVE
• Unlimited
discovery
It’s INTERACTIVE
Unlimited discovery
For decades most school students have learned about subjects such as history, space travel and science. Now
they can actually rebuild ancient Rome and Athens (with SimCity); create their “own universe” (with Spore);
and actually become a scientist. Brigham Young University’s Virtual ChemLab provides a working classroom
of the future, for some 150,000 online science students. Now: the new cyberspace university.
It’s EASILY SHARED
Unlimited partnerships
Amazingly, 59 million school teachers around the planet work in isolation, mostly in chalkboard classrooms—as if the Web
didn’t exist. But at Singapore’s Overseas Family School (in photo) 3,500 students from over seventy countries not only cocreate their vision of the future—they help their teachers digitize lesson plans with Macromedia Flash and computer
animations. Now those brilliant lesson-models can be shared free.
It’s PERSONAL
Unlimited future
‘Everyone has the potential to become talented and successful, but in different ways. Every healthy baby is
born with 100 billion active brain cells. Each has the ability to sprout at least 10,000 learning-branches. That
learning ability soars most from birth to four.’ And that is why, at Mexico’s world-leading Thomas Jefferson
Institute (in photo), psychologists help parents to work out a specific learning plan for every child.
It’s CO-CREATIVE
Unlimited innovation
When tens of thousands of passionate people who have never met can write ten million articles and
together co-create the planet’s biggest-ever encyclopedia, something magic is stirring in the world.
When Wikipedia is available instantly and free to 1.4 billion people, the magic glows. When four billion
will soon have that encyclopedia in their pocket, the world is surging into a new Renaissance: the one
we will co-create
It’s INSTANT
Unlimited mobility
Even by 2000 half the people on earth had never placed a phone call. Only 12 percent owned mobile phones.
Now over half own them: 3.3 billion. By late 2009, 4 billion will be in use, for the planet’s 6.6 billion people. But
now they are becoming ‘teleputers’ more than phones. And soon you’ll be able to have Google on tap in your
pocket, too. Google’s new Android software platform will be available for any manufacture to use in its
cellphones.
It’s OFTEN FREE
Unlimited choice
In China, students can now buy low-cost computers without an operating system—and download that
free from the Web. Then they can use it for free international phone calls with Skype. Many teachers
use the same tools to teach Mandarin each day around the world. Google’s climb to several fortunes
has been spurred by the simple idea: give away information free and “make a billion one 5-cent click at
a time”.
QuickTime™ and a
decompressor
are needed to see this picture.
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What we need to do?
• Learning how to learn needs to
take priority over what we
learn…
• Learning how to think logically
and creatively is critical if we
are to solve complex personal
and social problems effectively.
• There are thousands of buildings in
this country where country where
millions of people in them have no
telephones, no cable television, and
no reasonable prospects of
broadband services.
•They’re called schools.
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How Parents Can Prepare their
Child for the future
• Every parent need to do the
very best job we can in
helping our children.
• We must start early and utilize the immense
potential of a child’s brain
• We need to bring in the spiritual dimensions in
their life to make them truly successful
• Every Parent must work in helping out our
children master the very basic skills in life. We
need to make our kids Emotionally intelligent.
The Teaching Of Innocence
SEVEN PRINCIPLES
1. Everything is possible
2. If you want to get something, give it.
3. When you make a choice, you
change the future.
4. Don’t say no, go with the flow.
5. Every time you wish or want, you
plant a seed.
6. Enjoy the journey.
7. You are here for a reason.
The Teaching Of Innocence
1. S/he will be free of crippling fear and anxiety about
the meaning of life, which is the secret dry rot,
inside the hearts of most adults, whether they
admit or not.
2. She will understand the source of creativity, both
within and outside in the universe
3. She would be able to practice nonjudgmental,
acceptance and power of truth of surrender.
How to Start – Remember That
• Anyone can count the seeds in an apple, can you
count the apples in one seed?
• Have absolute faith in your child - s/he is God’s
gift..
• What this divinity, God can give us, is limited only
by our ability to appreciate His gifts.
• From the day the baby is born, you are a teacher.
You create an atmosphere of trust, openness, nonjudgment and acceptance.
HOW TO START
Creating Balance in Your Child’s Life
• Be only love, show only love.
• Children grow up with much nonloving behavior – may be primarily
outside – but unknowingly many a
time from within the home as well.
• Rather than worrying, qualify as a
spiritual leader for your child
embodying only love and trust.
INFANT : 0 - 1 YR
• Key words – Love, affection, attention – Fortunately
for our generation – the misconception that our
babies need to be trained and disciplined from the
cradles; has been discarded.
• An infant is pure spiritual gold. Cherishing her
innocence is the way for us to reach our own.
• Just as a flower deprived of sunlight, an infant will
wither without the spiritual bonding through
touching, playing, hugging, paying attention – not
primitive pampering though.
TODDLER – 1 - 2 YRS
• Key words: Freedom, encouragement, respect – This is
the age the child is first getting “Ego”. In simplest sense
“Self” or I- ness; “I AM”.
• Falling down is not the same as failing. Being hurt is not
the same as deciding that the world out there is
dangerous. Hurting is nothing more than Nature’s way
of telling a child – where the boundaries lie
• Pain exists to show a toddler, to help a child avoid
potential dangers like burning.
• This is a very precarious & trying time. Toddler is
testing detachment from the parents for the first time.
The lure of curiosity and freedom pulls on one side; but
there is fear and insecurity given by the parent
PRESCHOOL 2 -5- YRS
• This stage is building a child’s self esteem. Self
esteem is readiness to go out of the family, in to
the big wide world.
• It is identical with tasks and challenges. Until this
age, a toddler has no responsibility for tasks –
simply to play was enough.
• With toilet training and learning to feed herself, a
toddler begins to experience the exhilarating
feeling that “I AM”, can extend to “I CAN”.
• So rather than try to curb the child’s rush for , you
need to channel it into ‘tasks and challenges’. This
brings balance.
KINDERGARTEN – EARLY PRIMARY SCHOOL
5–8YRS
• Key words – Giving, sharing, non judgment, acceptance,
truth – all these can be before this age too.
• The brain is so complex and powerful – the earlier abstract
concepts can now blossom into a capacity for accepting
results beyond “I AM”, “I WANT” and “I COME FIRST”.
• Giving is how, at any age, we show that we empathize with
needs outside of ourselves. If giving is seen as loss – the
spiritual lessons has not been taught.
• Children do not just want to share,- they love to share.
Sunday Everything is possible
• Our source, within everyone is the source of creativity - which
can grow to any heights - any direction.
• Silence is the home of spirit.
• Look within for guidance – self referral.
• The reason we want success, is to reach our potential for
happiness and wisdom, not just our potential to earn and
acquire.
• Children using the vocabulary of heart – listen to your heart, your
heart knows, in your heart everything is possible, things will work
out, if your pure in heart – you can bring anything to you. Heart
contains silence , wisdom
• Seed of inspiration.
• No one is a success, who does not feel successful in his or her
heart of hearts.
Sunday with the Children
• Silent meditation.
• Nature breathes the breath of spirit - What God,
this divinity, can give us, is limited only by our
ability to appreciate His gifts.
• Every second of time is a doorway to unbounded
possibilities. If you are not open to them, these
possibilities shrink.
• Is there another way to look at this – a dinner
story. Without noticing we are imposing limits on
the way perceive the world. Our minds say: I don’t
like it, I can’t understand it, I already know all
about it, It is wrong, bad boring, Nothing can be
done about it. Being non-judgmental to a situation
on a Sunday.
Monday with the Children
Is the day of Giving
• Observing minutes of silence and meditation.
• Every member give something to someone. Give a smile, a hug,
an appreciation, help with a chore. Children are not born selfish.
• Inspire them to “Receive gracefully” – giver is never the giver –
every breadth - every time we receive we are given a glimpse of
divine love. Giving is the secret of abundance. Taking &
hoarding.
• Ritual of gratitude – thankful for seeing the butterfly, for us all
being well, lovely menu. Life itself is a divine gift.
• No grudging “Thank You”. Gratitude and warmth.
• The joy you feel – reflects back on to you.
• Everyone has already received God’s greatest gift –”The
potential to grow”.
• We can only keep what we give away.
Tuesday with the Children
Is the day of “Making choices”
• Observing minutes of silence and meditation.
• Every choice changes the future. Talk to your child one choice s/he made today- cause & effect. Do not
control their choices or choice of friends, toys,
hobbies. The Universe listens to your choices you
make in your heart.
• Talk about choices you had made in your life. How
these have changed your own life. Regret
• How it feels about one choice over the other. Your
feeling about the choice you made in not cleaning
your room, not putting your toys back.
Wednesday with the Child
Is the day of “Least Effort”
• Do not say “No”, go with the flow. Vacuuming and finding the
“Ghosts”.
• Ancient Greek philosopher Heraclites had said that life is like a
river – you can not step into it in the same place twice.
• Look for nature’s help.
• Player and the commentator
• Nature operates through least effort – technical complex
machines?
• Put every effort in organizing your life, but remember that the
ultimate organizer is “Nature”.
Wednesday with the Child
Is the day of “Least Effort”
• Do not try to steer the river of life
• When “Nature” is most productive & creative,
it does not work it plays.
• The best work flows from its nature of
effortlessness.
• Allow the gift from “Nature” to come to you.
Do not struggle.
THURSDAY is the day of Intention and
Desire
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Every time you wish or want you plant a seed
List our desires for the week.
Release our desires for Nature to fulfill.
Be alert in the present moment, where all
fulfillment occurs.
• Wishes must not be weak, contradicting and
unfocused.
Thursday with the children
• Observing minutes of silence and meditation.
• Make a list of desires for the coming week and post these on the
refrigerator.
• Encourage children to want happiness and fulfillment. Absence of
conflicts and struggle.
• Help a seed to grow.
• Patient expectation. Success comes from any and all directions. Stay
relaxed. Putting demands on others to keeping a wish within your
heart – which comes true faster?
• Notice when something nice you wanted did really happen.
• Desires did not have to be chased in the outside world. It is close to
your heart.
• Divine intentions align with human intentions, when they are
focused and in the best interest of one’s spiritual growth.
FRIDAY
is the day of detachment
• The real you
• Uncertainty is good – no one has to have all the
answers.
• Feel balanced about loss and gain.
• Everyone has an invisible friend – who looks
after everything they do.
Friday with the children
• The real you.
• The loss of a doll.
• You are here for a much more important
reason – not just for what you do own or what
you do not.
• Your problems do not get solved by having
enough of material things
• Look at the nature.
Saturday
• Detachment is the quality that makes a person
feel unmoved by loss or gain.
• You are here for a reason.
• Where are you right now?
• Encourage their unique talents
• Invite them to do an act of service.
Saturday With The Children
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Where do I think am I going?
How do I plan to get there.
How far have I gone?
What is holding me back? This is my present
challenge.
• Where are you right now? – “Exactly where I
am supposed to be!”
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You are what your deep, driving desire is.
As your desire is, so is your will.
As your will is, so is your deed.
As your deed is, so is your destiny.
• Brihadaranyaka Upanishad IV. 4.5
Emotionally Intelligent Parenting
• To be emotionally intelligent our children
must:
• Be aware of one’s own feelings and those
of others
• Show empathy and understand others’
point of view
• Regulate and cope positively with
emotional and behavioral impulses
• Be positive Goal- and Plan-Oriented
• Use positive social skills in handling
relationships
How Parents Can Help
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Set aside specific times and smile often.
Short work period, smile and touch.
A table with a series of activities.
Be loving, objective & patient.
Small directions and give time to react.
Too difficult – move on.
Finish what you start.
Praise, smile and listen – really listen.
Relax and have laugh time.
Be easy on yourself.
• The Chill Out Process
How children can be less impulsive
• Be Aware of your Feelings
– Our feelings are the signals that let us know when
we have problems. It is important for children to
learn to be aware of their feelings
– Develop a feeling vocabulary. Talk about feelings
– It is important to ask how children felt about what
happened.
• Learn to Keep Calm in difficult situations
– You cannot calm down others, they can only calm themselves
down.
– Take a deep breath
• Keep Calm Activity
– When you feel hassled
1. Tell yourself, “Stop and take a look around”
2. Tell Yourself, “Keep Calm”
3. Take a deep breadth through your nose while you count to
five, hold it while you count to two, then breathe out through
your mouth while you count five.
4. Repeat these steps until you feel calm
• Communicate Confidently
– Body posture (stand up straight, be confident in
yourself, but not arrogant)
– Eye Contact (Look at the person approprieately)
– Speech (Use appropriate language, say what you
really feel, but don’t be insulting, no put-downs)
– Tone of Voice (Use a calm voice, no whispering or
shouting)
Become Less Impulsive, Build Self
Control and Social Skills
• Use Trouble Trackers
– Worksheet for children to complete
– It encourages them to think about the problem and
how to solve it before discussing with you
– After a bad incident, ask the child to Chill Out.
Encourage him to use Keep Calm Activity Then give
the Trouble Tracker to complete.
– Discuss
The Steps of a Child
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… Criticism, He learns to condemn.
… hostility, He learns to fight.
… ridicule, He learns to be shy.
… shame, He learns to feel guilty.
… tolerance, He learns to be patient.
… encouragement, He learns confidence.
… praise, He learns to appreciate.
… fairness, He learns justice.
… approval, He learns to like himself.
… acceptance and friendship, He learns to
find love in the world.
• - Dorothy Law Nolte