Dealing with Emotions
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What are emotions?
Emotions=Feelings
that are experienced
Emotions are
experienced and
expressed differently
by individuals
Discussion:
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How would you define
emotions? Feelings?
Can you think of a
time that you
experienced a similar
event differently than
another (a movie with
a friend, witnessing a
tragic or funny event)?
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Characteristics of Emotions
Common characteristics:
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Physiological or Internal
changes
Behavioral expressions
Cognitive interpretations
Motivational tendencies
Mood:
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Effect how we respond
emotionally
Discussion:
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What common
characteristic do you notice
first for yourself (happy
feeling, sweaty palms,
thought, etc.)?
Can you think of a time you
responded differently to a
person or event than you
might normally due to a
“mood” you were in?
Provide an example.
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Types of Emotions
Primary Emotions
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Joy
Acceptance
Fear
surprise
Sadness
Disgust
Anger
Anticipation
Mixed Emotions
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Combination of primary
emotions
Discussion:
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Note Table 4.1. What
emotions have you felt
during class? Today? This
week?
How did these emotions
impact your interactions
with others? Your work?
Studying?
What was the cause of
some of your stronger
emotions that you’ve
experienced?
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Living with Problem Emotions
Fear
Anxiety
Anger
Guilt
Grief &
Bereavement
Love
Discussion:
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Read section “How to Face
Your Fears and Anxieties”
in your text. Which of
these strategies have you
used? Be willing to try?
What are your reactions to
the four psychological
reactions to anger?
Aside from those provided
in the text, what
recommendations do you
have for living with problem
emotions? What works for
you?
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Emotions
Development of
emotions
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Heredity
Learned behavior
Emotional intelligence
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Emotional abilities
Four essential abilities
Emotional and rational
balance
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What are your
reactions to the text
discussion regarding
men and women and
emotions?
How would you rate
your EI? What are
your strengths related
to EI? Needs?
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Emotional Cost
Cost of denying
emotions
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Repression
Suppression
Getting out of
emotional debt
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Condition of imbalance
Feelings are trapped
instead of expressed
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Can you think of a time that
you repressed or
suppressed your
emotions? How did this
impact your mental or
physical health?
How do you set your “limit”
to your emotional debt?
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Guidelines for Dealing with Your
Emotions
Decide when & how
to express your
emotions
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Listen to your body
Identify your feelings
Personalize your
feelings
Own your feelings
Decide what you will
do with your feelings
Discussion:
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Think of something
that is currently
“weighing” on you.
Think through the
guidelines
recommended in the
text for dealing with
emotions. Which
section do you think
will be the most
challenging for you?
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Culture and Emotion
Universal emotions
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Happiness
Sadness
Surprise
Anger
Disgust
Fear
Different cultures
have different display
rules
Discussion:
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What is the “culture” of
your family related to
how emotions are
shared (ex. Is your
family “touchy” with
each other, likes to
hug, hold each other,
kiss on the cheek,
etc.)?
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Expressing Your Feelings
Benefits:
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You will develop positive
feelings about yourself
Your relationship will grow
stronger
Pressure is relieved
Discussion:
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Think of a time that you
shared feelings with
someone that you had
been “bottling up”. How
did it feel to share these
feelings?
What are the pros/cons of
expressing feelings?
How do you decide which
feelings to share?
Should all feelings be
shared? Why or why not?
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Forgiveness
Most of us have
experienced some
hurts or a painful
experience
Sometimes it’s difficult
to forgive
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Forgiveness has
nothing to do with
them
Benefits of forgiveness
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Discussion:
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Is there someone in
your life that you have
not forgiven?
In what ways does this
impact you physically
and emotionally?