Chapter 6 and 9
Respecting Yourself & Others
- Communication, Conflict, Discrimination, Prejudice,
Sexual Orientation, & Sexual harassment
Do Now
• Write directions from Cherokee South parking lot to your house
Directions Map
Communication- ways of sending and receiving messages
1) Verbal- speaking
2) Non-verbal- body language,
gestures, facial expressions,
behaviors, and posture
Communicating Styles
1) Passive- unable express thoughts
2) Aggressive- try to get way through intimidation
3) Assertive – express views clearly and respectfully
To Communicate effectively you need to learn speaking
skills, listening skills, and nonverbal communication.
SPEAKING SKILLS
Types of Messages
 You messages – blaming or shaming “You never let me do anything”
 I messages – healthful
“I wish you could trust me enough to allow me to do things”
I MESSAGE
I feel ____________________________(be specific) when you
_________________________________ (give details of the behavior
or circumstances)
Because _________________________________
(this is the hard one: the "why")
Mixed Messages – verbal & non-verbal do not match
Listening Skills
Active Listening – pay close attention to what someone is saying and
communicating
TECHNIQUES
• Don’t Interrupt
• Show interest (eye contact, body language, remove distractions)

Empathize

Ask Questions
Active
Listening
Activity
 Man on the left:
1. Hands are clasped and locked. He is defensive
2. Crossed legs. He is defensive.
3. Facial expression. He is not smiling and doesn’t
look convinced. He is directly looking at the woman
on the right who is his main concern.
4. Body orientation. His whole body is directly
facing the woman on the right. He is
confrontational with the woman
Woman in the middle:
5. Gesturing. Heavy gesturing is used to justify a
particular position.
6. Legs apart. Legs are not crossed and instead are
apart. This suggests a threatening posture.
7. Direct eye contact with the woman on the right.
Another confirmation of direct focus and an attack.
Woman on the right:
8. Pointing to self. A classic defensive gesture
justifying a position.
9. Legs are tightly closed. Suggests a defensive
stance.
10. Direct eye contact. She is directly looking at the
person who is attacking her to maintain focus.
Chapter 9
Lessons 1,2,3,
Resolving Conflict & Preventing Violence
- Conflict
- Date Rape
Activator…
THINK, PAIR, SHARE
1. Open your notes to page 2… THINK of
how you can eliminate verbal and non
verbal communication barriers.
2. PAIR up with someone in your
surrounding area.
3. SHARE your ideas with your partner. Ask
each other the question, How can working
on our communication help us avoid
conflict?
Daily Objective: You will be able to identify common
causes of conflict, explain the importance of preventing
conflict, and describe the resolution process.
In your journal, do now…
1. What is conflict?
2. When I think of the word conflict, I think of...
3. What types of conflicts have you experienced in your life?
4. How can social media impact a conflict you are having?
5. Pretend that you are having a conflict with a friend of yours. What are some
different ways the conflict can be resolved?
6. Do the words “conflict” and “violence” mean the same thing to you?
Explain.
Conflict is a normal part of life, everyone is
different so it is inevitable we will disagree
sometimes.
Conflict- any disagreement, struggle, or fight
Interpersonal conflict-disagreement between two or
more people
Internal conflict- struggle within yourself
6 Common Causes of Conflict
 Power struggles –conflict with parent over how late
you are allowed to stay out
 Loyalty –angry at a best friend for taking another
person’s side in an argument
 Jealousy/Envy –upset with a friend if they start
dating someone they like
 Property Disputes – angry for sibling borrowing
phone without permission
 Conflicting attitudes/values – one person might want
to hang with the “cool crowd” while the other wants
to be friendly with everyone
 Lack of respect – rude to classmate for no reason,
prejudice
Escalating Conflict
becoming more serious
What cause conflict to escalate?
Is the result of conflict always negative?
Resolving Conflict
Learning to manage and deal with conflict before it gets out of hand
can help strengthen all aspects of health. It is easier to prevent
conflict than to resolve it!!!
Compromise – give and take
Negotiation – use of communication and compromise to settle
disagreements
- Calm Down
- Explain Side (take turns)
- Understand each others position –ask for clarification if needed
- Brainstorm solutions
- Discuss the advantages
- Agree on a solution – does not always mean everyone agrees
- Follow up to see if the solution still works
Preparing for Negotiation: Choose the time and place carefully,
check your facts, plan what you will say… Stay calm is the most
important thing!
Mediation – neutral third party helping negotiation, if needed... can
be specially trained people.
Peer mediation – process in which specially trained students help
other students resolve conflicts peacefully
 Neutrality – must always be an outsider who has no stake in the
dispute
 Confidentiality – respecting the privacy of both parties and
keeping the details secret
 Well-defined ground rules – both parties must agree to the rules
made by the mediator… sometimes may have to sign something
Group Activity
Directions:
Brainstorm ideas to create your specific situation within your assigned
common cause of conflict. Assign roles to each group member.
(narrator, actors/actresses…). You can use your paper when presenting
your skit to the class!!!
Begin creating your skit!!!
Format
Names:
Topic: Jealousy
Specific situation: feeling excluded from friends
Intro roles: Narrator = name Sally = name
Johnny = name Ted = name
Narrator: plot, describe setting, set the tone
Begin lines for skit, use narrator as needed
Present conflict
Don’t forget the resolution!!!
THE END
Class 1 Group Assignments
Power Struggles 3
Harsh, Mia, Katelyn M, Ray
Property Disputes 2
Alex, Chris, Caity, Taylor
Loyalty 6
Kira, Damien, Kyle, Liz,
Brendan
Conflicting Attitudes 1
Brandon, Aiden, Blake,
Kaiden
Jealousy/Envy 4
Michaela, Sufi, Dylan,
Sanjana
Lack of respect 5
Peter, Alexia, Jake, Sofie,
Marissa
Sexual Harassment
 ANY unwelcome verbal or physical advances or suggestions of a sexual
nature.
Non-touch
In groups come up
with examples
Touching
Examples Sexual Harassment
Sexual
gestures
Drawling or
pictures
sexual
obscene
Touches you
&
unwelcomed
Comment
sexual
orientation
Constantly
invite you out
Flirting vs. Sexual Harassment
• Wanted
• Confident Feeling
• Complimentary
• Mutual or shared
• Non threatening
• Builds self-esteem
• Feels equal both parties
• Can be flattering
•Unwanted
•Feels bad
•Is degrading
•Is one sided
•Is threatening
•Builds up ego giver
•One person power
•Demeaning and insulting
Golden Rules
cross out #5 and #6
•Courtesy over contact – (handshake not a
hug)
•Candid camera test – if a camera was on you
would this action be appropriate
•Personal space
•Speak up – if you’re uncomfortable let the
other person know
•http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=euXzkLZ
QPRY
Discrimination & Prejudice
Prejudice – unfair opinion or judgment of a
particular group
(Jackie Robinson )
(Ex: Racism)
Discriminate – treating groups people
differently (Ex: Title IX )
Hate crimes – crimes motivated by prejudice
 Extermination – physical attacks turn deadly
 Physical Attacks – expression of anger or resentment that has
built from the first step (speech)
 Discrimination – Treating someone differently. Many different
forms from denying a job to segregation
 Avoidance – avoiding the people that have
been talked about and stereotyped
 Speech – talking or making fun of a group usually a result of
stereotyping
Stop Discrimination & Prejudice
1) No Stereotypes –exaggerated or oversimplified belief
about group people
- Interrupt behavior
2) Show Empathy- share in others emotions
3) Avoid comments that discriminate
4) Learn about different people
In your journal, write your
reaction…
"Never doubt that a small group
of thoughtful, committed citizens
can change the world; indeed, it
is the only thing that ever has."
— Margaret Mead
•Take out your Chapter 6 note
sheets begin to answer the
questions on the DO NOW side of
the worksheet
Do you think bullying is a serious problem in
your school or community? Why or why not?
What can YOU do to prevent or stop bullying?
Bullying – harming or threatening other people who cannot defend
themselves
My kid wouldn’t
bully
Girls
Boys
1 out of 4
students get
bullied
Types of Bullying: Physical, verbal, Cyberbullying, and hazing.
Battle at Kruger
FACTS
 Eighty-five percent of girls and seventy-five percent of boys surveyed say
they have experienced unwanted and unwelcome sexual behavior that
interferes with their lives.
 One-third of those students who have been harassed first experienced such
unwelcome behavior before seventh grade.
 Studies indicate that there is a 75% chance that the harassment will
continue or escalate if ignored.
Sexual orientation – is recognition of a gender preference with regard to
sexual attraction
- homosexual – attracted to people of same gender
- heterosexual – attracted to people opposite gender
- bisexual – attracted to both genders
? ‘s to answer
1)
How would it feel to hide something as basic as your sexual
orientation?