The effects of
parenting on
society
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The Cross of Christ
Over-emphasis
On the Vertical
Relationship
Over-emphasis
on the Horizontal
Relationship
They Work Together
The managers, teachers, curators,
CEO=s of the home:
PARENTS
The Role of Parents
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Bible Teachers
Carpenters
Chiefs of Police
Detectives
Doctors
Entertainers
Executive Chefs
Faith Healers
Gardeners
Guardian Angels
Hotel Managers
Lawyers
Librarians
Massage Therapists
Mechanics
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Miracle Workers
Nurses
Ophthalmologists
Pastors
Philosophers
Politicians
Psychologists
Referees
Sex Educators
Social Workers
Standup Comedians
Surgeons
Tile Layers
Watchmen
Weird
It’s an awesome responsibility
The church
preaches
the gospel,
but it’s in
the HOME we
LIVE the gospel.
“Every family is a church
over which parents preside.
The first consideration of
parents should be to work
for the salvation of their
children.” Child Guidance 549
“The greatest evidence of the
power of Christianity that can
be presented to the world is a
well-ordered, well-disciplined
family. . . . Adventist Home Page 31
“One well-ordered, welldisciplined family tells
more in behalf of
Christianity than all the
sermons that can be
preached . . .” Adventist Home page 31
Bahamian Families 2000 Statistics
87,742 Households in the Bahamas
37,321
Take off 20,000 homes with absentee parents
42.5%
Bahamian homes where married parents live together
50,140
57.5%
Bahamian homes where no married parents live together.
7, 342 Common Law Households
87,742 Households in the Bahamas
17,321
19.7%
Bahamian homes where married parents live together
70,140
79.3%
Bahamian homes where no married parents live together.
7, 342 Common Law Households
What kind of parent are you?
If your children were asked to pin a TITLE on you, your
children will most likely label you as:
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Helper
Thinker
Boss
Talker
Sweet
Generous
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Okay
Stubborn
Troublesome
Cantankerous
Grouchy
Military Leader
Task Master
Pleaser
Proverbs 22:6
King James Version
“Train up a child in the way
he should go: and when he
is old, he will not depart from it.”
New Living Translation
“Teach your children to choose
the right path, and when they
are older, they will remain
upon it.”
Deuteronomy 11:19-21
19. Teach them to your children. Talk about them
when you are at home and when you are away on
a journey, when you are lying down and when you
are getting up again.
20. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on
your gates,
21. So that as long as the sky remains above the earth,
you and your children may flourish in the land the LORD
swore to give your ancestors.
What are parents to teach?
Deut 11: 1 & 8
1. You must love the LORD your God and
obey all his requirements, laws, regulations,
and commands
8. "Therefore, be careful to obey every
command I am giving you today, so you may
have strength to go in and occupy the land
you are about to enter.
Rules
or
Relationships
Rules
without relationships
breed
Chaos
Four Parenting Styles
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AUTHORITARIAN
Little love, plenty rules.
National Results:
Violent Society, unsafe communities.
Four Parenting Styles
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PERMISSIVE
High on love and low on limits.
National Results:
Permissive society. Anything goes.
Four Parenting Styles
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REJECTING
NEGLECTING
Low on love and limits.
National Results:
Cold and indifferent society.
Four Parenting Styles
4.
DEMOCRATIC
Balanced parenting style
High on love and high on limits.
National Results:
Responsive, caring, non-violent, and
educated society
Dr. Martin Luther King
“Those we must
change we must
first love.”
Discipline
or
Punishment
Discipline is a
PROCESS
not a single event.
Discipline is an
ENVIRONMENT
not just a
circumstance.
Discipline is a
LIFESTYLE
not just a one-shot
deal.
Punishment is correcting a
specific wrong.
Discipline is the building
of lives.
Parents’ primary
responsibilities are to teach
their children to act
responsibly, and to think
independently and critically.
Basic Individual Values Needed for
Healthy Nation Building
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Literacy
Community
Equality
Faithfulness
Friendliness
Industriousness
Integrity
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Loyalty
Justice
Mercy
Reliability
Selflessness
Sobriety
Righteousness
Ten Basic
Principles of
Family Life
that Affect
Nation
Building
Respond to your handout
The Brennen's 1 Corinthians 13
"If I speak in tongues of nations and of
angels, but have not a loving attitude, I am
only a resounding gong or a clanging
cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can
fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and
if I have a faith that can move mountains, but
have no love in my heart, I am nothing.
If I am a vegetarian, and do not eat dairy
products to reduce my sinus problem, and I
cannot share lovingly with others, my diet is
in vain. If I exercise five times a week at
the gym or on sports track, and I cannot
share my energy in a loving way, my
walking and running will be in vain. I can
still die of a heart attack.
If I am financially independent and able to
give to all church projects but I have not love,
my giving will be in vain. If I eat lots of
broccoli soup to reduce the cancer risk,
make my own gluten, or eat only boiled fish
for meat, and refuse to share in loving
relationships, my life will be meaningless. I
can still die prematurely.
Love never fails. College degrees, beautiful
houses, gorgeous clothing, speaking in
tongues, evangelistic crusades, and health
seminars, will all pass away.
Now these five remain: financial
independence, a healthy lifestyle, faith, hope,
and loving relationships. But the greatest of
all of these is
LOVING RELATIONSHIPS."
Go and change the nation