Relationships
Dating, Communications, Sexuality
Studies Show
 Early teens tend to focus on outward qualities
like appearances and popularity
 Older teens tend to focus more on deeper
qualities like personality characteristics and
life goals.
 But all healthy relationships will develop a
similar growth pattern.
 Opposites can attract but may not hold a
relationship together.
♥ Most People are unaware of where
their ideas come from.
♥ Some expectations are
unreasonable.
♥ Expectations must be spoken to be
understood by others.
Where do our Expectations of what
makes a healthy relationship come from?
In your Journal:
List 4 influences that have shaped your
expectations about relationships
People
Groups of people
Organizations
Types of Media
Influences
 Family
 Role models
 TV/Movies/Books
 Friends
Expectations
It takes time to develop
relationships? How long
do you think high school
relationship last?
High School Relationships:
New:
1-8 weeks
Average: 2-6 months
Long Term: 7 months or
longer….
Are you ready to Date?
Your Partner’s
 Do I have the time Maturity Checklist
Ask Yourself
 What are your
expectations
 Recognizes own
Strengths &
Weaknesses
 Do they get mad
easily.
 Keeps promises.
 Thinks about needs
of others.
 Can ask for help.
 Respect your
boundaries
ie: willing to wait.
Questions
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In Your Journal:
List 5 qualities you have to offer someone you are
dating?
What do you need to work on to have good
relationships?
What things do you like to do on a date?
List some benefits of your family liking the person
you are dating.
What are some advantages of having common
interests/background with the person you are
dating.
Questionaire
“What Do I Expect When Going Out”
New relationships
 Exciting time with wide range of emotions.
 Group dating is a safe way to find out if you
want to spend more time with someone.
 5 areas of growth:
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Knowledge
Trust
Reliance
Commitment
Physical Attraction
Heart Activity
1. On the 1st heart, write a list of 20
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5.
characteristics that are important to you in a
dating relationship
Next, identify whether each trait is a P for
physical and a C for character
Circle the most important 10 traits
Write your name on the back of the 2nd heart
and glue this heart to the back of the 1st
Set the hearts out to dry for the relationship
activity for next class
Breaking Up
 Tear the two hearts
apart
 What happens to
each side of the
heart?
 What does this
represent?
What guys & girls think????
In groups of 4-5 of same gender
 List 3 Advantages & 3 Disadvantages your gender has
 List 3 Advantages & 3 Disadvantages opposite gender has
 What qualities would you like to see the opposite gender
posses more of?
 Misconceptions about your gender….
SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS WITH THE REST OF THE CLASS
Communication
Communication is Key
(in all relationships)
 Two parts to
communication –
giving & receiving.
 Lack of
communication
skills can ruin
relationships.
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THINK before you speak.
THINK before you answer.
SPEAK when it is your turn.
LISTEN when it’s your turn.
Allows others EQUAL
TIME.
 PAY ATTENTION to both
verbal and non-verbal
cues.
Your Contraceptive Choices
History of Birth Control
 Infanticide, herbal medicine, withdrawal,
inserted items, coitus interruptus.
 Abortion – why, accepted prior to 19th
century, medical attacks & moral
condemnation late 1800’s early 1900’s
 1960 pill - 1840 condom
Contraceptive Method Review
Method
Perfect
User
Hormonal
99%
Method
Condom
98%
Abstinence
100%
Typical
User
98%
88%
Factors to
Consider
No protection from STD/I’s
Some protection from STD/I’s,
Lot of Improper Use
Must define abstinence
concerning STD/I transmission
Male Condom
 Keep sperm from entering the vagina during intercourse
 It is a thin layer of latex (plastic) that covers the penis;
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polyurethane and tactylon (plastic) are available as well.
Rolled onto an erect penis
Once man ejaculates, must hold on to base of condom
and remove himself from woman; gently pull off condom
and discard
Removal must be done immediately before penis
becomes soft (flaccid) to prevent spilling of semen.
A new one must be used before next sex act.
3 types – latex, lamb skin, poly.
Cost…
Need to be comfortable with body
Condoms:
Advantages & Disadvantages
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Advantages
Easy to buy
Inexpensive
Full personal control over
use; no special
procedures or exams
Side effects uncommon
Helps prevent pregnancy
and most STDs
Can be used with other
methods
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Disadvantages
Can sometimes break
Need to plan ahead; have
available when you have
sex
Latex and/or Spermicide
Allergies – other brands
or types of plastic
available for those who
suffer
Loss of sensation
Pill
 A combined oral contraceptive pill that
releases the hormones estrogen and
progestin
 The pill is taken once a day
 Helps to stop the release of the egg, stops
sperm from entering cervix, and
implanting.
 Changes lining of the uterus to prevent
egg from
Advantages and Disadvantages of
Birth Control Pills
Advantages
Disadvantages
 Studied for over 30 years –
 Must be taken daily; hard to
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long-term safety well known
Periods become more
regular
Less menstrual cramping,
facial hair, acne, and
menstrual flow
Reduces risk of ovarian and
womb cancer and infections
of tubes and ovaries
Strengthens bones by
regulating hormones
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remember to take
Side effects include
irregular bleeding, weight
gain or loss, changes in
mood, nausea, breast
tenderness and headaches
Increased health risks when
used with smoking
Slight increase in the risk of
blood clots
Does not protect against
STDs
Birth Control Pill:
Not Recommended for Women
who:
 Cannot take estrogen due to current health
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status
Smoke
Over age 35
Have blood clots, impaired liver function or liver
tumors, known or suspected breast cancer,
vaginal bleeding, high blood pressure,
gallbladder disease or severe headaches in their
medical history
Do not have access to health care provider –
requires a prescription from the provider
Pregnancy
1. Preparation for Pregnancy
(care / eat / drink / smoking & drinking)
2. Prenatal Care (follow doctors instructions)
3. Birthing
Dilation
Delivery
After birth
4. Parenting
Sexually Transmitted
Diseases & Infections
 (use the STD PPT)
Sexually Transmitted
Diseases & Infections
Many are passed unknowingly
Viral vs. Bacterial
Think through protection of STD, not just pregnancy.
Routine exams do not cover this – need to ask.
Some tests need to be redone
Gonorrhea
 Symptoms (begin 2-21
days after infections)
 Most women & men
show no symptoms
 Discharge
 Burning/Pain while
urinating/bowel
movement
 Pain in pelvic area
 Increased pain during
menstrual period
 Consequences
 Can give to sexual
partner
 Damage reproductive
organs
 Cause heart trouble,
blindness, skin
disease, arthritis
 Passed from mother to
childbirth
Herpes
 Symptoms
(begin 2 to 30
days after infection)
 Flu like Feeling
 Small, painful blisters on
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mouth or sex organs
Itching & burning prior to
blister
Blisters last 1-3 weeks
Blisters disappear but
virus is still in the body
Blisters can recur
Some do not have
symptoms
 Consequences
 Passed to sexual
partner
 Cannot be cured
 Passed from mother to
child during childbirth
Syphilis
 Symptoms
 1st Stage
 Symptoms begin 1-12 weeks
after infection
 Painless, open sore on the
mouth or sex organ
 Sore goes away after 1-5
weeks
 2nd Stage
 Symptoms begin 1-6 months
after sore appears
 Rash anywhere on the body
 Flu like symptoms
 Consequences
 Pass onto sexual partner
 Can cause heart disease,
brain damage, blindness,
death
 Passed from mother to
fetus during pregnancy
Chlamydia
 Symptoms (begin 7 to 21
days after infection)
 Most women & men
have no symptoms
 The most common STI
 Discharge and Burning
or pain while urinating
 Unusual bleeding from
vagina
 Pain in pelvic area
 Consequences
 Pass on to sexual
partner
 Damage reproductive
organs
 Sterility
 Passed from mother to
child
Hepatitis
 An inflammation of the liver caused by a number
of viruses often causing jaundice which is
yellowing of the skin & eyes.
 Hepatitis A: Spread by fecal matter usually by
people not using good hygiene practice.
Outcome: People usually improve on their own.
 Hepatitis B & C: B and C can be transmitted by
sex or sharing needles, razors, or toothbrushes
with someone who has the disease. Hep C is
usually more difficult to recover from.
Genital Warts - HPV
 Symptoms (begin 1-6
months after infection)
 Small bumpy warts on
and around sex
organs
 Itching & burning
around sex organs
 Some do not notice or
have symptoms
 Consequences
 Pass to sexual partner
 More warts can grow
 May signal precancerous
condition-cervical cancer
 Passed from mother to
child during childbirth
Scabies
 Symptoms (begins 2-6
weeks after infection)
 Itching due to scabies
burrowing into skin
 Pimple like irritations
 Consequences
 Create further irritation
until treated
Crabs
 Symptoms (begins 2-4
weeks after infection)
 Itching due to crabs
burring head to hair
follicles to feed on
blood
 Few may not have or
notice symptoms
 Consequences
 Create further irritation
until treated
Trichomoniasis
Caused by infection
with a protozoan
parasite called
Trichomonas vaginalis.
Infection that causes a
green frothy discharge
 Mild irritation to
severe inflammation
of the genitals. Some
people with
symptoms get them
within 5 to 28 days
after being infected
Anatomy and Sexulatity
 Male
 Care
Reproductive System
Good hygiene
 Problems
STD’s STI’s
Testicular Cancer
Sterility
 Female
 Care
Good hygiene,
self-breast exam
 Problems
STD’s STI’s
Cramping, PMS,
TSS, fertility
Speaker Conclusion
Take out your journal &
write a reflection
 Interesting pieces of information you
learned.
 Your opinions and thoughts about the
topic (was it relevant and useful)?
 The quality of the speaker (did you enjoy
listening to the presentations)?
 Invite back – yes or no???
 Goals & Protecting Them (be in
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relationships for a lifetime)
Levels of Intimacy
Paperclip
Trunk Monkey (can stop)
Truth in Dating/Rape & Risk
Story (relationship continuum) where to
draw the line – levels of arousal
Leave a piece
Appoint. w/ love