Relationships Dating, Communications, Sexuality Studies Show Early teens tend to focus on outward qualities like appearances and popularity Older teens tend to focus more on deeper qualities like personality characteristics and life goals. But all healthy relationships will develop a similar growth pattern. Opposites can attract but may not hold a relationship together. ♥ Most People are unaware of where their ideas come from. ♥ Some expectations are unreasonable. ♥ Expectations must be spoken to be understood by others. Where do our Expectations of what makes a healthy relationship come from? In your Journal: List 4 influences that have shaped your expectations about relationships People Groups of people Organizations Types of Media Influences Family Role models TV/Movies/Books Friends Expectations It takes time to develop relationships? How long do you think high school relationship last? High School Relationships: New: 1-8 weeks Average: 2-6 months Long Term: 7 months or longer…. Are you ready to Date? Your Partner’s Do I have the time Maturity Checklist Ask Yourself What are your expectations Recognizes own Strengths & Weaknesses Do they get mad easily. Keeps promises. Thinks about needs of others. Can ask for help. Respect your boundaries ie: willing to wait. Questions 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. In Your Journal: List 5 qualities you have to offer someone you are dating? What do you need to work on to have good relationships? What things do you like to do on a date? List some benefits of your family liking the person you are dating. What are some advantages of having common interests/background with the person you are dating. Questionaire “What Do I Expect When Going Out” New relationships Exciting time with wide range of emotions. Group dating is a safe way to find out if you want to spend more time with someone. 5 areas of growth: Knowledge Trust Reliance Commitment Physical Attraction Heart Activity 1. On the 1st heart, write a list of 20 2. 3. 4. 5. characteristics that are important to you in a dating relationship Next, identify whether each trait is a P for physical and a C for character Circle the most important 10 traits Write your name on the back of the 2nd heart and glue this heart to the back of the 1st Set the hearts out to dry for the relationship activity for next class Breaking Up Tear the two hearts apart What happens to each side of the heart? What does this represent? What guys & girls think???? In groups of 4-5 of same gender List 3 Advantages & 3 Disadvantages your gender has List 3 Advantages & 3 Disadvantages opposite gender has What qualities would you like to see the opposite gender posses more of? Misconceptions about your gender…. SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS WITH THE REST OF THE CLASS Communication Communication is Key (in all relationships) Two parts to communication – giving & receiving. Lack of communication skills can ruin relationships. THINK before you speak. THINK before you answer. SPEAK when it is your turn. LISTEN when it’s your turn. Allows others EQUAL TIME. PAY ATTENTION to both verbal and non-verbal cues. Your Contraceptive Choices History of Birth Control Infanticide, herbal medicine, withdrawal, inserted items, coitus interruptus. Abortion – why, accepted prior to 19th century, medical attacks & moral condemnation late 1800’s early 1900’s 1960 pill - 1840 condom Contraceptive Method Review Method Perfect User Hormonal 99% Method Condom 98% Abstinence 100% Typical User 98% 88% Factors to Consider No protection from STD/I’s Some protection from STD/I’s, Lot of Improper Use Must define abstinence concerning STD/I transmission Male Condom Keep sperm from entering the vagina during intercourse It is a thin layer of latex (plastic) that covers the penis; polyurethane and tactylon (plastic) are available as well. Rolled onto an erect penis Once man ejaculates, must hold on to base of condom and remove himself from woman; gently pull off condom and discard Removal must be done immediately before penis becomes soft (flaccid) to prevent spilling of semen. A new one must be used before next sex act. 3 types – latex, lamb skin, poly. Cost… Need to be comfortable with body Condoms: Advantages & Disadvantages Advantages Easy to buy Inexpensive Full personal control over use; no special procedures or exams Side effects uncommon Helps prevent pregnancy and most STDs Can be used with other methods Disadvantages Can sometimes break Need to plan ahead; have available when you have sex Latex and/or Spermicide Allergies – other brands or types of plastic available for those who suffer Loss of sensation Pill A combined oral contraceptive pill that releases the hormones estrogen and progestin The pill is taken once a day Helps to stop the release of the egg, stops sperm from entering cervix, and implanting. Changes lining of the uterus to prevent egg from Advantages and Disadvantages of Birth Control Pills Advantages Disadvantages Studied for over 30 years – Must be taken daily; hard to long-term safety well known Periods become more regular Less menstrual cramping, facial hair, acne, and menstrual flow Reduces risk of ovarian and womb cancer and infections of tubes and ovaries Strengthens bones by regulating hormones remember to take Side effects include irregular bleeding, weight gain or loss, changes in mood, nausea, breast tenderness and headaches Increased health risks when used with smoking Slight increase in the risk of blood clots Does not protect against STDs Birth Control Pill: Not Recommended for Women who: Cannot take estrogen due to current health status Smoke Over age 35 Have blood clots, impaired liver function or liver tumors, known or suspected breast cancer, vaginal bleeding, high blood pressure, gallbladder disease or severe headaches in their medical history Do not have access to health care provider – requires a prescription from the provider Pregnancy 1. Preparation for Pregnancy (care / eat / drink / smoking & drinking) 2. Prenatal Care (follow doctors instructions) 3. Birthing Dilation Delivery After birth 4. Parenting Sexually Transmitted Diseases & Infections (use the STD PPT) Sexually Transmitted Diseases & Infections Many are passed unknowingly Viral vs. Bacterial Think through protection of STD, not just pregnancy. Routine exams do not cover this – need to ask. Some tests need to be redone Gonorrhea Symptoms (begin 2-21 days after infections) Most women & men show no symptoms Discharge Burning/Pain while urinating/bowel movement Pain in pelvic area Increased pain during menstrual period Consequences Can give to sexual partner Damage reproductive organs Cause heart trouble, blindness, skin disease, arthritis Passed from mother to childbirth Herpes Symptoms (begin 2 to 30 days after infection) Flu like Feeling Small, painful blisters on mouth or sex organs Itching & burning prior to blister Blisters last 1-3 weeks Blisters disappear but virus is still in the body Blisters can recur Some do not have symptoms Consequences Passed to sexual partner Cannot be cured Passed from mother to child during childbirth Syphilis Symptoms 1st Stage Symptoms begin 1-12 weeks after infection Painless, open sore on the mouth or sex organ Sore goes away after 1-5 weeks 2nd Stage Symptoms begin 1-6 months after sore appears Rash anywhere on the body Flu like symptoms Consequences Pass onto sexual partner Can cause heart disease, brain damage, blindness, death Passed from mother to fetus during pregnancy Chlamydia Symptoms (begin 7 to 21 days after infection) Most women & men have no symptoms The most common STI Discharge and Burning or pain while urinating Unusual bleeding from vagina Pain in pelvic area Consequences Pass on to sexual partner Damage reproductive organs Sterility Passed from mother to child Hepatitis An inflammation of the liver caused by a number of viruses often causing jaundice which is yellowing of the skin & eyes. Hepatitis A: Spread by fecal matter usually by people not using good hygiene practice. Outcome: People usually improve on their own. Hepatitis B & C: B and C can be transmitted by sex or sharing needles, razors, or toothbrushes with someone who has the disease. Hep C is usually more difficult to recover from. Genital Warts - HPV Symptoms (begin 1-6 months after infection) Small bumpy warts on and around sex organs Itching & burning around sex organs Some do not notice or have symptoms Consequences Pass to sexual partner More warts can grow May signal precancerous condition-cervical cancer Passed from mother to child during childbirth Scabies Symptoms (begins 2-6 weeks after infection) Itching due to scabies burrowing into skin Pimple like irritations Consequences Create further irritation until treated Crabs Symptoms (begins 2-4 weeks after infection) Itching due to crabs burring head to hair follicles to feed on blood Few may not have or notice symptoms Consequences Create further irritation until treated Trichomoniasis Caused by infection with a protozoan parasite called Trichomonas vaginalis. Infection that causes a green frothy discharge Mild irritation to severe inflammation of the genitals. Some people with symptoms get them within 5 to 28 days after being infected Anatomy and Sexulatity Male Care Reproductive System Good hygiene Problems STD’s STI’s Testicular Cancer Sterility Female Care Good hygiene, self-breast exam Problems STD’s STI’s Cramping, PMS, TSS, fertility Speaker Conclusion Take out your journal & write a reflection Interesting pieces of information you learned. Your opinions and thoughts about the topic (was it relevant and useful)? The quality of the speaker (did you enjoy listening to the presentations)? Invite back – yes or no??? Goals & Protecting Them (be in relationships for a lifetime) Levels of Intimacy Paperclip Trunk Monkey (can stop) Truth in Dating/Rape & Risk Story (relationship continuum) where to draw the line – levels of arousal Leave a piece Appoint. w/ love