To Grow Up
It’s Time to Grow Up
“Gifts are free, but maturity is
expensive.”
Bill Johnson, Spiritual Java
10. It’s a Relationship, not a
religion.
9. Whatever happened to rebuke?
8. You must remove the masks to
truly grow and mature!
Genesis 3:7-8 (KJV)
7 And the eyes of them both were
opened, and they knew that they were
naked; and they sewed fig leaves
together, and made themselves aprons.
8. You must remove the masks to
truly grow and mature!
Genesis 3:7-8 (KJV)
8 And they heard the voice of the Lord
God walking in the garden in the cool of
the day: and Adam and his wife hid
themselves from the presence of the Lord
God amongst the trees of the garden.
Brokenness and Vulnerability
It takes a fairly emotionally healthy person
to be reasonably transparent about their
weaknesses. A person who is driven by fear
of rejection, fear of failure, or the need for
approval or control is simply unable to live
like that. They can intellectually agree with
it, but their needs and fears will still
dominate their actions! We put on our mask
of perfection.
Proud & Defensive
Broken & Vulnerable
Proud and Defensive
Broken and Vulnerable
I am guarded and defensive about I am transparent and weak; I
my imperfections and flaws.
disclose myself to appropriate
others.
I focus on the "positive," strong, I am aware of the weak, needy,
successful parts of myself.
limited parts of who I am, and I
freely admit failure.
I am highly "offendable" and
I am approachable and open to
defensive.
input.
I naturally focus first on flaws,
mistakes, and sins of others
I am aware of my own brokenness.
I have compassion and am slow to
judge others.
Proud & Defensive
Broken & Vulnerable
Proud and Defensive
Broken and Vulnerable
I give my opinion a lot, even when I I am slow to speak and quick to
am not asked.
listen.
I don‘t get close to people.
I am open, soft, and curious about
others.
I keep people from really seeing
what is going on inside of me.
I delight in showing vulnerability
and weakness, that Christ's power
may be seen.
I like to control most situations.
I can let go and give people
opportunity to earn my trust.
Proud & Defensive
Broken & Vulnerable
Proud and Defensive
Broken and Vulnerable
I have to be right in order to feel
strong and good.
I understand that God's strength
reveals itself in admitting mistakes,
weakness, and statements that “I
was wrong.”
I blame others.
I take responsibility for myself and
speak mostly in the “I,” not the
“you” or “they.”
I often hold grudges and rarely ask I don‘t hold people in debt to me,
forgiveness.
and am able to ask others for
forgiveness as needed.
Proud & Defensive
Broken & Vulnerable
Proud and Defensive
When I am offended, I write
people off.
Broken and Vulnerable
When I am offended, I ask
questions to explore what
happened.
I deny, avoid, or withdraw from
I honestly look at the truth
painful realities.
underneath the surface, even
when it hurts.
I give answers and explanations to I am present with people in their
those in pain, hoping to fix or
pain, and am comfortable with
change them.
mystery and with saying, “I don‘t
know.”
Proud & Defensive
Broken & Vulnerable
Proud and Defensive
I have to prove I am right when
wronged.
I am demanding.
Broken and Vulnerable
I can let things go.
I am highly self-conscious and
concerned about how others
perceive me.
I assert myself respectfully and
kindly.
I am more aware of God and
others than the impression I am
making.
I see people as resources to be
used for God.
I see people as gifts to be loved
and enjoyed.
Prayer:
Remove the masks, live
vulnerable
7. We all need inner Healing!
What is inner healing?
Why do we need inner healing?
How do I receive inner healing?
Prayer:
Receiving inner healing
6. If love is not growing,
then I am not growing!
Ephesians 3:17-19 (KJV)
17 That Christ may dwell in your hearts
by faith; that ye, being rooted and
grounded in love, 18 May be able to
comprehend with all saints what is the
breadth, and length, and depth, and
height;
6. If love is not growing,
then I am not growing!
Ephesians 3:17-19 (KJV)
19 And to know the love of Christ, which
passeth knowledge, that ye might be
filled with all the fulness of God.
A Maturing Love
A Maturing Love
1 Thessalonians 3:12 (NASB)
and may the Lord cause you to increase
and abound in love for one another, and
for all people,…
A Maturing Love
Matthew 22:37-39 (NLT)
Jesus replied, 'You must love the LORD
your God with all your heart, all your
soul, and all your mind.' This is the first
and greatest commandment. A second
is equally important: `Love your neighbor
as yourself.'
A Maturing Love
Romans 12:9 –
 Let love be without dissimulation. (KJV)
 Let love be without hypocrisy. (NAS)
 Love must be sincere (NLT)
 Let love be genuine (ESV)
 Don't just pretend to love others. Really
love them (NLT)
A Maturing Love
Romans 12:10 (KJV)
Be kindly affectioned one to another with
brotherly love; in honour preferring one
another.
A Maturing in Love for:
Prayer: