Self Esteem and Bullying
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has the power to change
your life
What is self esteem?
We use the phrase self-esteem to talk about the beliefs you have about yourself –
• What you think about the type of person you are
• Your abilities, the positive and negative things about you
• What you expect for your future
If you have healthy self-esteem, your beliefs about yourself will
generally be positive. You may experience difficult times in your life,
but you will generally be able to deal with these without them having
too much of a long-term negative impact on you.
If you have low self-esteem, your beliefs about yourself will often be
negative. You will tend to focus on your weaknesses or mistakes that
you have made, and may find it hard to recognise the positive parts of
your personality. You may also blame yourself for any difficulties or
failures that you have.
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http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/self-esteem/watch-self-esteem-video
In Short, Bullying is any action that deliberately attempts to reduce
another persons Self esteem.
What is bullying?
Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:
• Teasing
• Name-calling
• Inappropriate sexual comments
• Taunting
• Threatening to cause harm
Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves
hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes:
• Leaving someone out on purpose
• Telling other children not to be friends with someone
• Spreading rumors about someone
• Embarrassing someone in public
Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical
bullying includes:
• Hitting/kicking/pinching
• Spitting
• Tripping/pushing
• Taking or breaking someone’s things
• Making mean or rude hand gestures
Cyber Bullying involves all of the above, but by electronic means and is
often the most damaging. Includes
• Posting inappropriate comments online and send texts and emails
• Making threats via electronic communication
• Releasing material to humiliate someone
#4
How often is someone bullied in England?
A: Every 6 seconds
B:
Every minute
C: Every 10 minutes
D:
Every hour
#5
What fraction of pupils are bullied?
A: 1/2
B:
1/3
C: 1/4
D:
1/5
Every six seconds someone in
Britain is being bullied
Sarah Lynn Butler 1997-2009
Sarah Lynn Butler, a seventh grader from Hardy, USA, committed
suicide on September 26, 2009. Sarah, who had just been voted
Queen for her upcoming Fall Festival, was teased at school, and later
on received bullying messages on her My Space page.
Sarah’s mother says she often checked her My Space page to make
sure there wasn't anything inappropriate being sent or received, and
she noticed that she was getting some bad messages about rumours
at school saying she was a slut, and talked to her about it. But then
Sarah removed her from her list of friends and she was no longer
able to read her page.
On the morning of her suicide, Sarah stayed home while her family
was out, and logged on to her My Space page. The last message she
read said that she was easily forgotten, and that she was just a stupid
little naive girl and nobody would miss her.
When her parents returned home they found that Sarah had hanged
herself. She left a suicide note that said she couldn't handle what
others were saying about her.
A recent Child line report estimated that one
pupil in 12 is bullied so badly that it has a
detrimental effect on his or her education and
self-esteem.
Ryan Halligan 1989 – 2003
John and Kelly Halligan lost their thirteen year old son, Ryan, to suicide on
October 7, 2003. At the time of his death, Ryan was a student at a middle school
in Essex Junction, Vermont.
After Ryan’s death, it was revealed that he was ridiculed and humiliated by
peers at school and on-line.
Ryan father writes: “A few days after his funeral I logged on to his AOL IM
account because that was the one place he spent most of his time during the last
few months. I logged on to see if there were any clues to his final action. It was
in that safe world of being somewhat anonymous that several of his classmates
told me of the bullying and cyber bullying that took place during the months that
led up to his suicide. The boy that had bullied him since 5th grade and briefly
befriended Ryan after the brawl was the main culprit.
My son the comedian told his new friend something
embarrassing and funny that happened once and the
friend (bully) ran with the new information that Ryan
had something done to him and therefore Ryan must
be gay.
The rumor and taunting continued beyond that school
day … well into the night and during the summer
of 2003.”
Grace K. McComas 1996-2012
Grace McComas, a 15-year-old Glenelg High School sophomore
from Baltimore, whose favorite color was blue took her life on
Easter Sunday, to end the pain of a cyberbullying campaign against
her.
According to her father, Chris McComas the cyberbullying had
lasted for months and was carefully documented by the family. As
blue was her favorite color, a social media event — blue4grace —
was begun by friends and quickly went viral. The mourners at her
funeral wore blue nail polish, blue-striped ties, blue jewelry, and
blue dress shirts.
Kenneth Weishuhn Jr. 1997-2012
Kenneth Weishuhn, a gay high school freshman
from Paullina, Iowa, took his own life after being
bullied by classmates at school and online, and with
death threats by phone.
The bullying began with an anti-gay Facebook group,
created by Kenneth’s classmates. His mother, Jeannie
Chambers, said she knew her son was being
harassed, and said that her son told her, "Mom, you
don’t know how it feels to be hated."
According to his sister Kayla, the abuse that started
after he "came out" was from people he had trusted:
“People that were originally his friends, they kind of
turned on him. A lot of people, they either joined in
or were too scared to say anything.”
Would you want to be responsible…………………………………..
• The last comment you made to
someone was to make them feel bad
• You posted something online about
someone to humiliate them (What
does humiliate mean?)
• You deliberately cussed someone in
front of class
• You sent inappropriate
emails/communications to someone
wishing them harm
• You posted something on their face
book page
• You threatened/carried out physical
violence against someone
• You saw someone being bullied but yet
didn’t tell anyone about it
• You don’t know how people will react
• You don’t how many times they have
been told that same thing
• You don’t know how they feel about
themselves already (self esteem)
Bullying and the Law
Assault can constitute punching, kicking, slapping, or even spitting at someone.
Harassment is a course of conduct (i.e. once is not enough to constitute
harassment) which could include calling someone names, making abusive phone
calls, sending abusive emails or text messages, issuing threats or putting derogatory
or abusive messages on the Internet.
Threatening to kill someone is a criminal offence, although in practice it is usually
only adults who are prosecuted for this.
The Public Order Act 1986 applies to public places so is not for use in schools or on
other private property, e.g. within a home environment. However, it would apply
for example to a park, road, shopping centre or other public place. Under section 5
of this Act, it is an offence to use threatening, abusive or insulting behaviour in a
way likely to cause harassment, alarm or distress. Under section 4 of this offence
(which is more serious than section 5), if someone intending to cause harassment,
alarm or distress uses insulting words or behaviour or acts in a disorderly
way, or displays any writing or other visible representation that is
threatening, abusive or insulting, they are guilty of an offence.
The only person responsible
for your actions is you- One
decision can change your
life and others around you
We are all different but we
are all equal!!!!!
We should take every opportunity to
build some ones self esteem by
showing:
As a community we do not tolerate
bullying under any circumstances. We have
zero tolerance in all forms of bullying.
• Resilience
If you witness it, see it, heard it,
• Compassion
experienced it report it straight away by
speaking to any adult , friends, parents,
system (via school website), tutor, BFL
• Understanding sharp
Leader, PC Marcus
• Tolerance
• Respect for equality
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