Strong programs addressing sexual integrity or sexual addiction issues must involve at least three fundamental components: 1). Social support and accountability, 2). a proactive and deliberate pursuit of a spiritual life as an end in itself (not just to overcome sexual addictions), and 3). a knowledge base of how to live our lives based on the three core theological virtues of faith, hope and love.
1. Support partner(s) and Prevention Plan - Well-thought-out plan for encouragement and accountability with at least one trusted support partner.
2. Abiding in Christ - Deliberate well-thought-out moment-by-moment plan to Abide in Christ as an end in itself, and not merely used as a tool to overcome lust, but rather, joyfully abiding in the freedom of God’s love in and through us.
3. Spiritual Formation through Faith, Hope and Love - Centering your life through Faith,
Hope and Love in an atmosphere of Grace.
As you walk through this program, your therapist may recommend that you complete the following tasks in a different order than how they are presented below. In order to keep track of your progress, simply print off the following list and place a check-mark beside each item as you complete them.
___ Read and implement with support partner and therapist the document online entitled “Airtight Accountability plan
”. (holleycounseling.com, click on the “sexual integrity link”).
___ Participate in Celebrate Recovery - Celebraterecovery.com

___ Read and process with an accountability partner, the book
Every Man’s Battle
by Stephen
Arterburn
The following curriculum can be accessed at holleycounseling.com. Then click on the “Sexual
Integrity” link. You are encouraged to read and discuss the following items with an accountability partner if possible, but certainly with your therapist.
___ Read and discuss “Necessary Revolution”
___ Read and discuss “Abiding in Christ vs. Sin Management”
___ Read and discuss “Sin as Parasite”
___ Read and discuss “The Human Condition”
___ Read and discuss “Abiding in Christ”
1. Morning - Lectio Divina and Centering prayer
2. During the day – Mindfulness, periodic prayers/reading, and creating a mantra
3. Evening - meditation/reinforcement
4. Establishing a Rule of life
___ Faith – Part I
___ Faith – Part II
___ Hope (Letting go)
___ Love
___ The duel of guilt and grace
___ Desire (The Weight of Glory)
___ Sex and the Kingdom of God

Since the victory over sexual addiction depends on the mastery and commitment to the following areas of concern, it is recommended that you check-in with your accountability group, partner and/or therapist on a weekly basis to address accountability and integrity questions regarding your utilization of the following resources and spiritual disciplines to encourage your growth in
Christ. Address the following areas on a scale of 1-10. 1 means you spent little or no time or effort regarding the area of concern. 10 means you engaged deliberately with no lapses. The issue of perfect performance is not in view here. Rather the concern is deliberate pursuit. For instance, “on a scale of 1-10 how much did you practice lectio divina and centering prayer the past 7 days”? If you did it each day with complete devotion, your answer will be “10”. If you did only a day or two, your answer may be “1” or “2”. If you did it daily, but they were brief and your heart was not in it, you may give yourself a “3”, for example.
Clearly, since the Christian life begins and ends with grace, the purpose of this weekly check-in is not to make anyone feel guilty or to burden anyone with undue self-criticism. Rather, the purpose is to reinforce the notion that all these elements are necessary for living an effective and powerful Christian life. Therefore, if you find yourself struggling tremendously and failing with regard to sexual addiction, chances are, you are not doing so well with the check-in items. If you are deliberate and focused about these, you will see the victory becoming greater and greater and the intensity of the battle loosening its grip on you over time.
1. Morning - Lectio Divina and Centering prayer – 1-10
- Did you daily participate in lectio divina and centering prayer?
2. During the day – Mindfulness and periodic prayers/reading – 1-10
- How well did you take breaks during the day for brief prayers/reading?
- How well did you utilize mindfulness (or contemplation) to refocus when you noticed you were distracted with unhealthy thoughts during the day?
3. Evening meditation/reinforcement – 1-10
- Did you spend 10-15 minutes every evening before bed time meditating/reinforcing your intent to live out of faith, hope and love moment-by-moment?
4. Support/Accountability plan – 1-10
- How well did you utilize your support group and accountability plan this past week?

5. Accumulation of lust – 1-10
- How well did you refocus in the moment when you noticed your mind and heart becoming captivated with lustful or otherwise unhealthy thoughts and desires?
6. Understanding how to filter all experiences through Faith, Hope and Love – 1-10
- How well are you beginning to understand how to filter all of your experiences through the theological tool the Bible gives us in faith, hope and love? What questions do you have about how to do this? Note: It will become clearer how to do this as you progress through the curriculum. If you are unsure now, don’t be discouraged.
- Mere Christianity – C.S. Lewis
- The Great Divorce – C.S. Lewis
- The Weight of Glory – C. S. Lewis (specifically the sermon entitled “Weight of Glory”)
- The Problem of Pain – C.S. Lewis
- The Christian’s Secret to a Happy Life - Hanna Whitall Smith
- No Man is an Island – Thomas Merton
- Of the Imitation of Christ – Thomas a’ Kempis
- The Politics of Jesus – Howard Yoder
- The Ascent to Truth – Thomas Merton
- With Christ in the School of Prayer – Andrew Murray
- Celebration of Discipline – Richard Foster
- Prayer: Finding the Hearts True Home – Richard Foster
** Contemplative or Centering Prayer
- Open Heart and Open Mind – Thomas Keating
- Invitation to Love – Thomas Keating

- Thoughts in Solitude – Thomas Merton
- Experiencing the Depths of Jesus Christ – Madame Guyon
- The New Seeds of Contemplation – Thomas Merton
** Reading the bible
- Opening the Bible – Thomas Merton
- Lectio Divina (practice of spiritually reading the Bible) – Basil Pennington
- How to Read the Bible for all its Worth – Gordon Fee
** God and His attributes
- Basic Beliefs (a helpful book for beginners) – Donald Demaray
- The Knowledge of the Holy – A.W. Tozer
** For Advanced Readers
-The Subversion of Christianity – Jacques Ellul
- Christian Spirituality – Wolfhart Pannenberg