FEMALE SUBMISSION, RELATIONAL AUTONOMY, AND BELONGING Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy THE FEMINIST FEMALE SLAVE: FEMALE SUBMISSION, RELATIONAL AUTONOMY, AND BELONGING By JOANNA ZASLOW, B.A. [H], M.A. A Thesis Submitted to the School of Graduate Studies in Partial Fulfillment of the Requirements for the Degree Doctor of Philosophy McMaster University, Copyright © Joanna Zaslow, July 2015 ii Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy DOCTOR OF PHILOSOPHY (2015) (Philosophy) McMaster University Hamilton, Ontario TITLE: The Feminist Female Slave: Female Submission, Relational Autonomy, and Belonging Author: Joanna Zaslow B.A. [H] (Carleton University), M.A. (McMaster University) SUPERVISOR: Dr. Elisabeth Gedge NUMBER OF PAGES: vi, 163 iii Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Abstract This project introduces the case of the Feminist Female Slave [FFS], a female submissive in a BDSM relationship with a male Master. This case is used in order to strengthen discourse in three main areas: feminist relational autonomy, BDSM theory, and feminist community politics. I argue that the FFS offers a case in which feminist autonomy theorists can serve to grow and develop their own approaches in a way that is inclusive of the diversity of women’s sexual expression, as she challenges our narrow notions of female subservience and asks us to rethink what it means to express an autonomous women’s sexuality. In BDSM theory she asks us to reflect upon our reliance upon superficial notions of consent and the lack of space for a critical dialogue, and finally, in feminist politics she asks us to consider what it means to belong to feminist communities, or what it means to feel as if one can lay claim to a feminist identity. Each of these considerations is brought to light in this project because of the interesting balance that the FFS’s relationship holds between her feminist identity, sexual politics, and sexual and romantic practices. iv Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Acknowledgements To my supervisor, Elisabeth Gedge: thank you for your unconditional support and encouragement. You have made me a stronger, more confident academic, and never sought to limit my academic path. You have supported this unconventional project from day one, and I always felt that you were in my corner, even when we disagreed. Your amazing support is what every PhD student deserves and I am incredibly lucky and honoured to have had the privilege of working with you. To my readers, Stefan Sciaraffa and Amber Dean: thank you for always encouraging me to think beyond my comfort zone, and for challenging me. Your support has made this project far better than it would have been without either of you. To my friends and family: To Jen for her always-upbeat and positive influence; To my parents for always encouraging me to dream and shoot for the stars, and for loving me even when I missed; To my sisters for reminding me how to have fun. Most importantly, to my husband, Josh: thank you for being in my life and for letting me be a part of yours. You mean the world to me. v Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Table of Contents Introduction……………………………………………………………..Page 1 Chapter 1: “Autonomy and Submission”...……………………………..Page 12 Chapter 2: “The Feminist Female Slave”..…………………………...…Page 40 Chapter 3: “Feminist Relational Autonomy and Female Submission”…Page 69 Chapter 4: “Autonomy and Consent in BDSM Theory”……..…………Page 91 Chapter 5: “Autonomy, Belonging, and the Value of Feminism”...........Page 128 Conclusion……………………………...……………………………….Page 153 Bibliography……………………………....………………...…………..Page 159 vi Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Thesis Introduction “As long as you wear this collar, you are mine to command. And until I remove it from your neck, I will consider you my responsibility, my possession, my slave” -Miss Abernathy, Erotic Slavehood (10) This project focuses on the relationship between autonomy and women’s sexual freedoms, particularly in the case of female sexual submission. Relying on a hypothetical case, I tell the story of a woman who takes on the role of a “slave” to her male “Master” in a consensual, long-term, BDSM relationship, with uneven power dynamics. She is expected to serve her Master, to be at his whims, to put him first in all points in her life. She derives great pleasure from serving him, from meeting his sexual and emotional needs before her own (if hers are met at all). What is important to note in this case (and this case will be outlined with much greater detail in later chapters), is that not only is she a Female Slave, but she is a Feminist Female Slave [FFS]. She identifies as a feminist, and holds that her submissive relationship falls in line with her feminist ideals. Through the use of this case, I aim to show that both our discussions of female autonomy from a relational account, as well as our discussions of autonomy in BDSM theory, have a blind spot in regards to the characteristics brought up by the FFS. What does it mean for a woman to identify as a feminist while consciously taking a submissive role to their male partner? Does her feminist identification affect our response to her relationship? Does BDSM theory think any external influence can limit our expression of autonomy? Does the dominant method of consent in BDSM theory apply well to relationships like that of the FFS? Does the case of the FFS require us to reconsider our 1 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy current approaches to female submission? In creating this project, I do not aim to diminish the value or importance of feminist approaches to autonomy, like relational autonomy, but I instead aim to encourage a more fruitful discussion of women’s sexuality, one which expands with the growing diversity of women’s sexual lives and which addresses and acknowledges the real influence of the social sphere in these same sexual practices. This project serves a double-purpose: to both defend and strengthen our engagement with the feminist submissive. I aim to not only provide a defense for feminist submissives against those who challenge the possibility of their autonomy, but also to advance criticisms of the philosophical justifications they provide when defending their relationships. The first part of this project serves to evaluate the way feminist philosophers have responded to the relationship between autonomy and female submission. I will show that the representation of female submission within these texts is quite narrow, thus limiting the depth of our possible discourse. In order to correct this limitation, I offer the case study of the FFS. This relationship requires the explicit and continual use of the dominant/submissive power structure and is commonly found in the BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism) community1. The Master/slave relationship and the Feminist Female Slave found within it provide an alternative discussion of female submission that counteracts the portrayal 1 It should be noted that while I refer to the overall population of participants and practices that fall under the umbrella of BDSM as the “BDSM community”, I do not intend to present it as if this is one, single community in solidarity with each other. There are many sub-communities and groups within the realm of BDSM, but for the purposes of clarity I refer to it as a BDSM community. 2 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy found in contemporary feminist philosophical discussions of female submission and autonomy. In the second part of this project, I attempt to strengthen the philosophy that serves the Feminist Female Slave in her BDSM community. I show that BDSM theory offers an individualistic account of autonomy, which fails to take into consideration the concerns raised by feminist philosophers in the first part in their discussion of female submission. Although I argue that feminist philosophers fail to take into account the breadth and diversity of the expression of female submission, the concerns that they raise have not been adequately addressed by contemporary BDSM theories, and remain valuable and necessary contributions. This means that not only do I offer a defense of a feminist submissive, showing how her role can be autonomously chosen; I also provide a way to strengthen her feminist and BDSM philosophy. Feminist Accounts of Autonomy and Female Submission Feminist discussions of autonomy and submission frequently make use of case studies that invoke a traditional housewife, whose duty is to serve her husband and place his needs before her own.2 These cases are common, whether feminist scholars seek to defend her freedom to choose such a role, or to chastise her for falling prey to misogynistic or harmful notions of femininity. Regardless of their conclusions, these discussions represent submissive women narrowly, such that they all share common characteristics. As a result, discussions of the relationship between female submission and 2 See Meyers (1987), Friedman (1983), Westlund (2003, 2009), and others 3 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy autonomy have been restricted to examining a singular form of submission, thus limiting our engagement with the diversity of women’s sexual lives and experiences. The singular representation of the female submissive in feminist work on autonomy is quite similar to the depiction of traditional housewives. In these discussions, the female submissive is often presented as having: (i) some sort of religious affiliation, (ii) a gendered ideology that all women take (or ought to take) the same subservient role to their male partners, and a (iii) lack of feminist identification (or are anti-feminist)3. It would be naïve for me to claim that these characteristics are present in all women who take submissive roles in their relationships. Women’s expression of submission, as with all relationships, takes a variety of forms, with different motivations, expressions, and contexts. However, in spite of diversity in the expression of submission, the representation of female submission in feminist philosophical discussions about female submission is quite limited. Against this tendency, I will introduce the case of the Feminist Female Slave into our discussions of autonomy and submission in order to go beyond the limiting representation of submission as solely concerned with religious, traditional housewives. Although their representation of submission is homogenous, feminist scholars have varied responses to female submission in general. Sexual and romantic relationships, where women take a submissive role to more dominant male partners have at times been characterized in some philosophical works as problematic, harmful, or even abusive. Texts, including Thomas Hill’s “Servility and Self-Respect”, Sonya Charles’ “How 3 See Charles (2010), Hill, (1973), Meyers (1987), Christman (2009), Snyder-Hall (2008), Chambers (2008), Westlund (2003). 4 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Should Feminist Theorists Respond to the Problem of Internalized Oppression?” and Anita Superson’s “The Deferential Wife Revisited: Agency and Moral Responsibility,” among others, allege that voluntarily subservient women may be lacking in self-respect, are victims of social or individual coercion, or are misinformed about their value and roles as women. It should be noted that even when authors defend the autonomy of submissive women4, the question of whether submissive or subservient women could be autonomous raises what I call the problem of female submission: due to the influence of patriarchy or other sexist and misogynistic influences in women’s lives, the freedom for women to choose to submit romantically and sexually to a male partner is often distrusted or disbelieved. It can be difficult for some scholars to imagine that women could truly desire to take on such a role without harmful external influences. However, not all feminist scholars hold this same concern. Authors including Diana Meyers and Andrea Westlund have defended the female submissive in their work on autonomy. In the process of establishing the case of the Feminist Female Slave, this project will bring to light the diversity in response to female submission by feminist scholars. This means that even though I hold that the representation of feminist submission is limited in these discussions, the responses by these scholars still vary. I will show that even when operating from within the same schools of thought, many scholars disagree as to whether or not women can autonomously submit to their male partners. The problem of female 4 See: my discussion of Meyers and Westlund, in Chapters 2 and 4. 5 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy submission, then, raises the difficulty scholars have in providing a consistent or clear response to female sexual submission. The response by feminist philosophers who find female submission to be inevitably coerced or influenced by harmful external forces is a troubling response for submissives like the FFS. For those women who truly desire to be sexually submissive to their partner, the fear of being labeled as a victim of a romantic or sexual partner is distressing. This can be especially difficult for those who take a submissive BDSM role, as even taking a BDSM role is difficult to share with others because it is so far outside mainstream sexual relationships. Added to this concern is the fear by female submissives that they will be viewed as the victim of coercion—that their autonomy has been compromised. This perspective casts suspicion on a woman’s sexual expressions not because of who she is, but because of the role she has chosen. In response to this problem, I aim to indicate ways in which feminist discussions of autonomy can be strengthened through a more thorough engagement with female submission. I argue that examining cases including the Feminist Female Slave allows for the possibility that women could legitimately choose to enter into romantic and sexual relationships where they take a submissive role while their male partner takes a more dominant role. The FFS will assist in my aim to move away from more traditional representations of submissive women in order to provide a more nuanced, diverse representation of women who choose to submit. Primarily, this movement towards a more diverse understanding of female submission will be accomplished through an examination of feminist relational autonomy theorists, and their response to the relationship between female submission and autonomy. 6 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy BDSM Theory and Autonomy While my primary purpose in this project is to defend a more nuanced engagement with female submission, I will simultaneously argue for a more nuanced account of autonomy within BDSM theory. This more nuanced understanding of autonomy is one that the FFS can use to justify her position as a slave, and I argue that it can strengthen the use of autonomy within BDSM communities by accounting for the feminist considerations I outline in Part 1. The Feminist Female Slave is a member of a primarily heterosexual BDSM community and identifies with a feminist perspective that is consistent with the liberal thought that is present in BDSM theory. From this theoretical approach, she defends her role as a slave as one that is consistent with her feminist identification, claiming that she made the decision to become a slave and that her choice was a free one. Her reliance on consent, choice, and free sexual expression is consistent with a broader BDSM approach to sexuality, as well as a liberal approach to sexuality. In this project I argue that her defense of her autonomy (and from this, the BDSM community’s defense of sexual autonomy) ought to incorporate greater discussions of the influence of the social sphere upon our sexual expression, as well as other external influences, in order to ensure that the requirement for autonomy involves more than a mere verbal expression of consent. I will show that these considerations are similar to the feminist accounts of relational autonomy found in Part 1, and will add a much more nuanced understanding of sexual autonomy than what is currently used by the BDSM community and the FFS. 7 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy In this project I aim to provide a multi-pronged approach to the discussion on the relationship between female submission and autonomy. Not only do I aim to problematize the limited representation of female submission by feminist philosophers, but also to scrutinize the incomplete philosophy used by BDSM theorists to defend relationships like that of the FFS. The goal of both arguments is positive: to expand feminist discourse in order to adequately address the real lives and sexual expressions of female submissives, and to provide a more philosophically rigorous account of autonomy for BDSM communities and theories. Thesis Structure: In this project I draw upon a diverse body of scholarship in order to address the often-difficult relationship between autonomy, submission, BDSM, and the influence of the social sphere. I aim to bring together a variety of approaches to autonomy in order to show what can be improved for establishing a stronger, more realistic representation of and engagement with women’s diverse sexual expressions. The goals of this project are not to discredit relational autonomy, or dismiss the liberal influences of autonomy found in the BDSM community, but rather to show how these accounts of autonomy can be strengthened, can learn from each other, and can learn from the different ways in which women’s sexuality is expressed. It is important for feminist and BDSM communities to reflect upon the practices they endorse and require, in order to ensure that they are theoretically robust and do not create unintended harms. As well, through this project, I aim to establish the value for the FFS to lay a claim to the feminist identity, or for her to have a sense of belonging in the feminist community. 8 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Chapter 1 asks whether autonomous submission is possible, particularly given the influence of harmful social forces on one’s autonomy. Using Natalie Stoljar’s account of the Feminist Intuition, I argue that harmful norms of femininity must be taken into account when evaluating the autonomy of submissive women. I will show that relational approaches to autonomy are much better suited to the reality of women’s lives than traditional accounts, especially for evaluating the case of the Feminist Female Slave. Chapter 2 introduces the case of the Feminist Female Slave and provides greater context to who she is and the structure of her relationship. I will show that the FFS is an individual who submits to a male Master, identifies as his Slave, and nonetheless holds that she is an active feminist. While I do not endorse this as a relationship structure that is suitable for everyone, or claim that this is a relationship structure that all feminists will endorse, I show within this project that the FFS’s feminist commitments are nonetheless legitimate and worth serious consideration. In particular, the FFS’s self-understanding of her sexual life comes from the tradition of liberal feminism5 prevalent in some BDSM communities. Chapter 3 presents the ways in which relational autonomy theorists have previously responded to cases of female submission. I argue that the construction of the submissive woman in feminist relational autonomy overlooks the crucial case of the FFS. As a result, the way feminist relational autonomy theorists engage with the submissive woman has become homogenized. This chapter will show how the case of the FFS It should be noted that the FFS and others like her refer to their feminism as “sex-positive”, but this is not interchangeable with the more predominant version of sex-positive feminism found in contemporary feminist communities. I will therefore refer to it as a liberal sexual feminism because of its focus on individual freedom, consent, and a diversity of sexual expression. 5 9 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy expands and challenges our understanding of the submissive woman by showing how the characteristics that she possesses (namely, as a feminist submissive who does not hold universal or essentialised views regarding her sexual role) conflict with or are in opposition to the general representation of female submission by relational autonomy theorists. This chapter, then, brings the work of relational autonomy theorists together with the case of the Feminist Female Slave to show the gaps in our current approaches to female submission and to show the way the case of the FFS contributes to our conversations in this area. Chapter 4 takes a step away from evaluating the use of autonomy in feminist circles, and evaluates the use of autonomy and consent in BDSM communities. The purpose of this chapter is to show that even within the framework used by the FFS and other female slaves to justify their relationship and their autonomous choice to enter into it, theoretical problems exist. These problems are represented in the way that the primary community mantra, “Safe, Sane, Consensual” (SSC), fails to clearly articulate what it means to consent, does not allow room for a critical dialogue to take place surrounding practices that have been declared consensual, and employs a structure for consent that is based on an immediate, episodic account of autonomy which is not truly applicable to the relationship structure used by the Feminist Female Slave. I also reintroduce Andrea Westlund’s dialogical account of autonomy in order to show how some of the components in her account can help to make the use of SSC more realistic and more fitting to autonomy and consent in BDSM. 10 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Chapter 5 begins by asking a question that this project began with: is the Feminist Female Slave autonomous? It also aims to determine why it is so important to establish the FFS as autonomous, not only to her, but to other women who may benefit from an increased diversity of possible sexual and romantic relationships for women. Using the work of Joel Anderson and Judith Butler, I argue that even if the FFS meets the criteria set out by relational autonomy theorists for autonomy, she nonetheless fails to be considered an autonomous person by feminist theorists and communities, which restricts her relationships with and her sense of belonging to feminist communities. This exclusion has an impact on her relationship with other feminists, as well as her visibility within these communities. This means that merely meeting the conditions for autonomy is not enough for the FFS and her relationship to be welcomed by other feminists and that this has an effect on the expression of her autonomy. Feminist theorists and communities must begin to expand their understanding of female submission in order to better reflect the expression of women’s sexuality (even when submissive). 11 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Chapter 1: Autonomy and Submission On a basic level, the question of autonomy is straightforward. Being autonomous generally requires that an individual possess the capabilities to make decisions over their own actions, develop their own life goals, and lead a life that is of their own volition. Diana Meyers expands upon this description when she claims that a moral agent is someone “who is capable of choosing and acting in accordance with judgments about what is right, wrong, good, bad, worthy, or unworthy. Such individuals are thought to be free and hence responsible for what they do” (1998, 372). As she notes, questions of agency invoke discussions of responsibility, particularly when agents make poor decisions or commit wrong actions. The purpose of this chapter is to introduce the philosophical problem that arises by the Feminist Female Slave’s [FFS] declaration that she has autonomously chosen her submissive role. Such a declaration is seen as problematic by some philosophers due to the conscious submissive role that she takes in her relationship to her male partner6, also known as her Master. The roles for the FFS and her Master are designated as continuous, on-going, and have very rigid responsibilities and expressions for each partner7. While I will go into greater detail in the next chapter about the nature and daily activities of a M/s relationship, what is important to note at this time is that the Feminist Female Slave is in a committed romantic and sexual relationship in which she has chosen to take a submissive 6 It should be noted that while women do participate as slaves in Master/slave relationships, the case of the Feminist Female Slave is hypothetical, and will be more fully elaborated in chapter 2. 7 It should be noted that Master/slave relationships are not restricted to pairings with a male dominant and female submissive. These relationships can have female Masters (or Mistresses) and male slaves, and can be same-sex or opposite-sex. For the purpose of this project, I focus solely on the Male/female Master/slave [M/f M/s] pairing. 12 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy role to her male partner, to such an extent that she views herself as the property of her partner. It should be noted as well that in this case, the FFS is imagined to be a while woman8. To claim to have autonomously chosen a role where one submits so fully to another person raises a potential tension between what it means to possess autonomy and to what extent one can follow the will of another while still maintaining that autonomy. While I argue that the case of the FFS raises new areas of discussion for the problem of female submission and autonomy, the debate over the relationship between autonomy and subservience is not new for philosophy. This chapter explores some of the different approaches that philosophers have traditionally taken in this area, and will also explore what it means for women to submit autonomously to male partners, and whether it is even possible to do so given the influence of harmful social conditions that naturalize women as inferior to men. Throughout this project I refer to this tension as the problem of autonomous submission. In this chapter I aim to show that the traditional accounts of autonomy fail to account for some of the more complex problems that arise from the case of the Feminist Female Slave and will show that feminist relational approaches to autonomy offer the most suitable response when evaluating whether the FFS’ decision to become a slave can be made autonomously notwithstanding the social considerations surrounding such a decision. I begin this chapter by outlining the problem of oppressive socialization and how it can have an impact on one’s decision-making capabilities. I do this by introducing 8 It is important to highlight the whiteness of the FFS, as the issue of race, particularly in the BDSM community, is important. Discussions of race and racialization would complexify this discussion in very significant ways, but an adequate discussion of it is beyond the scope of this thesis. 13 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Natalie Stoljar’s concept of the Feminist Intuition to highlight the difficult relationship between gender, socialization, and autonomy. Next, I introduce various accounts of autonomy that address the problem of autonomy and submission or obedience. I will explore accounts of autonomy such as those developed by Thomas Hill Jr, RP Wolff and Claire Chambers, who provide traditional philosophical responses to the problem of maintaining autonomy while giving oneself to another. I will show that these accounts fail to fully consider the problem of pernicious or oppressive socialization, and thus their responses to the concerns raised by Stoljar are lacking. In contrast, I will show that the work of Diana Meyers, Marina Oshana, and Sonya Charles explicitly incorporate this problem into their work on autonomy. This group, alongside other relational autonomy theorists, provides accounts better capable of responding to these problems. It should be noted that while I claim that relational autonomy provides the most appropriate approach to this case, this does not necessarily mean that all relational accounts of autonomy hold that women can autonomously submit to their male partners. In fact, several of them may hold that it is not possible to choose to do so autonomously, or that it could only be done under very rigid conditions. But, it is their explicit consideration of the social sphere in the analysis of autonomy that is of great importance to the evaluation of the case of the Feminist Female Slave, and for that reason I argue that a relational feminist approach is a more appropriate and suitable approach to her case. The Feminist Intuition: When we ask whether an action was chosen autonomously, we aim to determine whether that action was chosen freely—meaning, was this decision free from coercion, 14 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy force, or some other external influence? To ask whether the man who robbed another did so autonomously may be straightforward, but when we ask whether his choice was free when the safety of his family was threatened if he failed to commit this robbery, we add another layer to our considerations of autonomous choice and action. While this example shows a very explicit case of coercion or force, when we ask whether someone made an autonomous choice we also have to ask how we account for subtle, but ever-present forms of socialization that can alter our behavior or decision-making capabilities. The Feminist Intuition aims to raise awareness of the problem of socialization and its effects on women’s autonomy by asking us to consider the role that oppressive socialization plays in our decision-making processes. At the heart of the Feminist Intuition is the question: what does it mean if women make decisions that reflect problematic or harmful notions of womanhood or femininity? For Natalie Stoljar this dilemma became apparent in her analysis of Kristin Luker’s work on young, pregnant women in California in the 1970s. Luker interviewed a select group of women in order to determine why “women who can presumably use freely available methods of contraception end up having unwanted pregnancies which result in induced abortions” (Luker in Stoljar, 96). Stoljar notes that the women interviewed were not ignorant of contraceptives, as many had previously used them. Nonetheless, she found that many of them had failed to use their contraceptives properly or failed to use them at all before becoming pregnant (96). While Stoljar notes that Luker considers her subjects to be rational, Stoljar claims that they are nonetheless non-autonomous. Luker’s subjects, she claims, rely on 15 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy oppressive norms of femininity in their decision-making processes, because of which their decisions should be considered non-autonomous. These oppressive norms became clear through the interviews, in which the women often justified their failure to use birth control through claims that pregnancy enhanced their worthiness as a woman, that women ought not to initiate or plan sex, and that women are only worthwhile partners for marriage if they can bear children, amongst others (99). For Stoljar, the oppressive assumptions found in these justifications for misusing or failing to use birth control are at the heart of the feminist intuition: these norms are not only false, but also reinforce women’s oppression. Uncritical acceptance of these norms results in an inability for Luker’s subjects to see that their perspectives on femininity, women’s sexuality, and reproduction are false. Stoljar claims that this “lack of normative competence” (109) is a result of the way in which the subjects have been socialized. Luker’s subjects’ inability to realize that the norms they hold about womanhood, sexuality, and pregnancy are harmful, and their inability to see the way these norms influence their actions, puts into question whether their decisions were truly made autonomously. While Stoljar uses Luker’s subjects as an example of women who fail to satisfy the conditions for the Feminist Intuition, I think another example could be made, namely that of women who attend Purity Balls. I argue that women’s participation in such events fails to satisfy the same conditions for the Feminist Intuition. Purity Balls are formal dance events attended by fathers and their daughters, in which daughters publicly pledge their chastity to their fathers (Frank). While many of the attendees are quite young, others can be as old as those who are in college. It is those women (rather than children who 16 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy may have a more difficult time traversing their authentic desires and the wishes of their parents) that I focus on in this example. The Purity Ball requires women to commit their chastity and their virginity to their fathers, who pledge to protect it (Frank). For many women (if not all), this decision is closely tied to their devotion to particular kinds of Christianity. While it is possible for women to commit to a life of celibacy in an authentic manner, the structure of the Purity Ball fails to satisfy many requirements for the Feminist Intuition, thus calling into question whether women’s decisions to participate in these balls is autonomous. Their public vow for celibacy is supposed to reflect their value as young women–by making a public pledge to remain abstinent, they are publicly reaffirming their role and value as those who are sexually pure, those who follow the desires of their fathers (or who rely on their fathers to protect their chastity), and those who follow Christian tenets. This case offers an example of female sexual expression which would fail to satisfy the Feminist Intuition: one is concerned that their sexual expression is not the result of their own autonomous expression, rather it is influenced by oppressive socialization, which places a restrictive notion of sexuality upon them. It should be noted that in Chapter 3, I will show how the case of the FFS challenges these assumptions regarding female sexual submission. Let’s imagine a young woman, named Candice, decides to attend a Purity Ball with her father. Perhaps he has not told her that he expects her to attend this Ball, and has not demanded that she take part in such a ceremony; so, we can imagine that Candice has come to this decision herself. Were a friend to ask her why she would make such a 17 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy commitment, Candice might respond that women ought to remain sexually pure, and that such sexual purity is an expression of women’s virtue, or that her sexual purity creates a better relationship between herself and her father. She could also claim that women’s sexual purity shows a devotion to her religion. Beyond this engagement with her friend, Candice fails to question her role in the Purity Ball, as she views it as just what good women do. What is important to note is that each of these commitments are particular to women: Purity Balls are only for women committing their chastity to their fathers. Candice’s participation in the Purity Ball is an expression of what she thinks it means to be a daughter and to be a young woman, and is greatly influenced by social norms that place the value of chastity in women’s hands. Women are assumed to not only be the gatekeeper of sex, but young women’s sexual expressions are considered to be the property of their fathers (and requires their fathers protection). Her reasons for participating in the Purity Ball reinforce harmful norms of femininity as they limit women’s sexuality, demanding an ideal of sexual purity that is limited just to women, and controlled by men. This case offers a very limited, narrow representation of what a “proper” expression of women’s sexuality looks like, and failing to live up to this representation is reflected as a failing of character on such women. Her decision to participate in the Purity Ball is heavily influenced by these oppressive norms, and she fails to look outside them or question them. It is for this reason that she fails to satisfy the Feminist Intuition and is thus non-autonomous. The Feminist Intuition attempts to determine whether oppressive norms or socialization, such as we see in the case of Luker’s subjects or in Candice, have been 18 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy perniciously influential in women’s decision-making processes. For Stoljar, the influence of oppressive norms is so harmful that she argues that decisions made by women that are influenced by these norms cannot be autonomous. In questioning the autonomy of women who by many appearances seem to be autonomous, the Feminist Intuition asks us to take into account the way in which social and cultural norms can influence our lives and the way we make decisions. The Feminist Intuition thus raises concerns that theories of autonomy must address when we consider how our accounts of autonomy engage with the problem of oppressive socialization (if they address it at all). Traditional Accounts of Autonomy and Submission: While Stoljar’s feminist intuition asks us to determine the influence that social norms have upon women’s understanding of femininity, she does not explicitly address the problem of submission and autonomy (although, as I will show later, other philosophers have later applied her feminist intuition to this area). In this section, I will introduce three different ways in which traditional accounts of autonomy have explored the relationship between submission (or subservience) and autonomy. What will become clear is that traditional accounts of autonomy (primarily those which are not feministidentified, and mainstream accounts like liberal accounts of autonomy) fail to adequately consider the feminist intuition regarding the influence of the social sphere and oppressive norms upon the expression of autonomy. To begin, this section will look at Claire Chambers’ liberal account of autonomy, R.P. Wolff’s anarchistic account, and Thomas Hill Jr’s Kantian account of autonomy. Chambers and Wolff both focus on the interaction between the (potentially) autonomous individual and an institution (the convent and the 19 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy state, respectively). Thomas Hill Jr, on the other hand, evaluates the impact that subservient or, as he calls it, servile relationships have on individual autonomy. In my evaluation of these accounts I will show that they are lacking in some important considerations found in the feminist intuition, and I will then introduce several accounts of relational autonomy to show how we can incorporate concerns regarding the influence of the social sphere into our discussions of autonomy and subservience. Claire Chambers and Liberal Autonomy: Claire Chambers’ work on autonomy and restricted lives focuses on the role that individuals have in the decision-making process, as well as the control they have once these decisions are made. In her chapter “Liberal Perfectionism and the Autonomy of Restricted Lives” from her book Sex, Culture, and Justice: the Limits of Choice (2008), Chambers distinguishes between what she calls first and second-order autonomy, a distinction she shares with other liberal accounts of autonomy, such as those of Joseph Raz and Marilyn Friedman. First-order autonomy takes place “when one leads a daily life of active questioning, following only those norms one actively endorses” (233). In contrast, second-order autonomy occurs “when one chooses one’s overall way of life” (233). Chambers notes that one can claim that lifelong obedience is compatible with autonomy by “ignoring the idea of first-order autonomy and defining autonomy per se as second-order autonomy” (235). Chambers claims that such a view would allow someone to live a restricted life, ignoring their daily active questioning, while focusing on the overall direction of their life. Although liberal accounts of autonomy value both first and 20 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy second order autonomy, they allow that autonomy can persist in the absence of first order autonomy. What is important in this distinction is the way it allows for one to experience certain restrictions within one’s daily life while still maintaining their autonomy. One can follow the will of another while keeping one’s autonomy intact. Chambers uses the example of a nun living in a convent to show how living a restricted life does not necessarily conflict with one’s autonomy. She cites the example of Eva Heymann, a sixty-three year old nun who joined a convent at the age of thirty, and discovered while living in the convent that her mail was read by the convent leaders (237). Heymann describes experiencing a great discomfort in having her mail read, linking it to her previous experience of fleeing Nazi Germany as a Jewish child before her later conversion to Catholicism. She recounts that “…our letters were opened, and I thought it was horrendous. The incoming letters were read, and it smacked to me of the Nazi regime where letters and phone calls were intercepted. The whole business of somebody invading your life, your person, seemed to me appalling” (Heymann in Chambers, 237). Chambers uses the distinction between first- and second-order autonomy to show how Heymann can still be autonomous in her overall decision to become a nun even if she does not endorse the required practice of having her mail read (238). Chambers notes that while the first-order wishes of the nun are not satisfied, as her mail is read against her wishes, we must take note of how her second-order wishes are satisfied. Other liberal approaches to autonomy claim that both first-and second-order autonomy can be satisfied by the nun’s convent life, even when she is dissatisfied with particular rules (238). 21 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy While much of Chamber’s paper is devoted to evaluating the ways in which different accounts of liberal autonomy justify the choice of the nun to enter the convent, it is important to take from her paper that the nun provides us with an example of an individual who submits their will to another (that being a convent, or to serving God), while still maintaining their autonomy by exercising her second-order autonomy. This means that, for Chambers, obedience in general can be justified if one’s dedication to obedience falls in line with the overall direction or path that they wish to take with their life. One can freely choose to give up their daily freedoms, so long as doing so is in line with their long-term, deliberately chosen, goals. R.P. Wolff and Anarchism: Unlike Chambers’ emphasis on the importance of distinguishing between firstand second-order autonomy for individuals, R.P. Wolff’s work focuses on the relationship between the individual and the state. Wolff asks whether one can be obedient to the authority of others while remaining autonomous. In contrast to Chambers, who claims that one can maintain their autonomy so long as their second-order autonomy is expressed, Wolff holds that it is never justified for an individual to submit to a greater authority in any way. Wolff is concerned with the way the state’s claim to authority interacts with one’s own individual autonomy. In particular, he is concerned with the question of whether or not a state can claim legitimate authority over an individual— “a matter of the right to command, and of the correlative obligation to obey the person who issues the command” (24, italics in original). For Wolff, this obligation amounts to obedience as someone does 22 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy more than merely follow an order that has been given to them. Obedience itself entails “doing what he tells you to do because he tells you to do it” (24, italics in original). Obedience thus requires individuals to follow what is asked of them, putting another’s wishes first even if they contradict your own, and this is troubling to Wolff because of how obedience interacts with his understanding of autonomy. While states require obedience from their citizens for actions such as paying taxes and following laws, one wonders how the obedience required by such authorities impacts one’s individual autonomy in general. Wolff views one’s autonomy as deeply integrated with their moral responsibility. He claims that it is a “fundamental assumption of moral philosophy that men (sic) are responsible for their actions” (25). The responsible man is one who is able to not only take responsibility for his own actions, particularly when there are negative consequences to such actions, but also attempts to determine what makes an action right (26). What is important to take from this is that, for Wolff, moral responsibility is deeply connected to one’s autonomy. The autonomous individual makes their own decisions and can be held accountable for those same decisions. Wolff claims that the autonomous individual is self-legislating, in that while others may offer advice on how he ought to act, his actions are ultimately up to him. As Wolff notes, the autonomous individual learns about moral obligations “in the sense that a mathematician learns from other mathematicians – namely by hearing from them arguments whose validity he recognizes even though he did not think of them himself. He does not learn in the sense that one learns from an explorer, by accepting as true his accounts of things one cannot see for oneself” (26). The autonomous individual must learn for himself what 23 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy encompasses the right actions, and cannot rely on the authority of others. The selflegislation of the individual—the one who “gives laws to himself”—is that which makes the individual autonomous and makes them “not subject to the will of another” (26). The autonomous individual is one who takes responsibility for their actions. But what about those instances in which we must do what others ask of us? Could there not be moments where we commit autonomous actions because others have asked or demanded it of us? Wolff claims that “even after he has subjected himself to the will of another, an individual remains responsible for what he does. But by refusing to engage in moral deliberation, by accepting as final the commands of another, he forfeits his autonomy” (27). Following the commands of others requires obedience. Obedience goes beyond merely doing what others ask of you, it requires following the actions of another merely because they declared such to be the case, not because an individual has thought critically and determined on their own that such an action was the best to take. Failing to take responsibility for our actions and deliberations is what nullifies an individual’s autonomy. As Wolff notes, “the primary obligation of a man is autonomy, the refusal to be ruled” (29). The primary obligation of man conflicts with how Wolff views the citizen’s relationship with the state. He claims that an individual’s sense of autonomy necessarily conflicts with the defining mark of the state, that being “authority, the right to rule” (29). Wolff does not think that there can be a way to reconcile these two desires in such a way as to maintain one’s autonomy while succumbing to the authority of the state. He claims that “insofar as a man fulfills his obligation to make himself the author of his decisions, 24 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy he will resist the state’s claim to have authority over him. That is to say, he will deny that he has a duty to obey the laws of the state simply because they are the laws” (29, italics in original). Wolff’s conception of autonomy requires that an individual function as the sole moral author of their actions. Thus solely following the will or the deliberations of another removes one’s autonomy. Wolff sees obedience, deference, or any action that places one in a subservient position where they follow the demands or desires of another, as incompatible with autonomy and therefore problematic. This means that in instances where one must defer to another, especially over a long period of time, such as in the case of a military soldier, a nun, or any other form of restricted lives, the individual sacrifices their autonomy. When one fails to have ownership over their own actions, they fail to live autonomously. While Chambers and Wolff come to different conclusions, their papers both ask whether it is possible to maintain one’s autonomy while still serving or following the will of another. Their concerns about autonomy and obedience focus not on interpersonal relationships, but on relationships in which the individual gives themselves to a larger organized group or structure. For Chambers and Wolff this involves the convent and the state, but their considerations can equally be extended to the military or other groups that restrict the lives of their followers. These accounts, while concerned with how autonomy can be potentially hindered by the decisions we make, fail to take into account the concerns laid out by the Feminist Intuition and thus are ill-equipped to discuss the problem of the Feminist Female Slave. 25 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Wolff, with his focus on maintaining authority over your own self above all others, would never find the FFS to be justified in her decision to submit to her Master. Chambers, on the other hand, could possibly consider her position justified, so long as the desire to be in her relationship corresponds with her second-order autonomy. But, even if we were to declare the FFS autonomous based on Chambers’ approach, it is just not a satisfying response to this case. When we see a woman being led on a leash by her Master and we ask whether she is comfortable with this treatment and she responds “why yes, it satisfies my second-order autonomy. I freely chose this”, I doubt many feminist theorists would be satisfied with such a cavalier response. The gut response, or the instinctual concern, that would be raised at this response is where the feminist intuition is borne—do we know that this decision was truly made autonomously? Or is her apparent satisfaction at such an explicit form of submission based on something else? Chambers work, while receptive to justified obedience, fails to take the problem of oppressive socialization into account and therefore has little to add to the discussion of autonomous submission and the case of the FFS. Thomas Hill Jr and Kantian Autonomy: Thomas Hill Jr’s work differs from Wolff and Chamber’s in that his focus is directed towards interpersonal relationships and subservience, rather than to the individual’s relationship to the state or an institution. However, he is similar to Chambers and Wolff in that Hill’s work also fails to take into account the concerns raised by the feminist intuition. Although Hill addresses some interesting cases in which individuals act deferentially to others, he fails to truly get to the heart of the way that oppressive 26 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy socialization can factor into their deferential behaviour. Hill takes a Kantian approach, focusing on three cases, through which he seeks to establish what he calls “the problem of deference”. He provides three examples of what he sees as deference in action: the case of the Uncle Tom, the Deferential Wife, and the Self-Deprecator. Hill claims that none of these individuals is autonomous, due to their lack of self-respect. In all three cases individuals view themselves as subservient to others and this is acted out in their daily lives. The case of the Uncle Tom refers to an extremely deferential black man who always defers to white men. He holds contempt towards other black people, and feels that he is owed less than white people due to the colour of his skin (88). The Deferential Wife is a woman who is devoted to serving her husband, and believes that the proper role of a woman is to serve her husband. She is aware that equal rights exist for women, but claims that her rights are not being infringed. She is perfectly happy to take a role that places herself below her husband (89). Finally, the Self-Deprecator is similar to the Uncle Tom, in that “he is reluctant to make demands. He says nothing when others take unfair advantage of him” (88). Unlike the Uncle Tom, the problem for the Self-Deprecator is not based in an internalization of racism; he merely thinks very little of himself, and feels that nothing is owed to him due to his apparent inadequacies and failures. In the three cases, Hill claims that each individual “reflects the attitude which I call servility. It betrays the absence of a certain kind of self-respect” (89). He claims that such servility betrays a moral defect. The moral defect is found in that the aforementioned individuals each possess a “failure to understand and acknowledge one’s own moral rights” (93). Hill notes that there may be situations in which someone must fall back into 27 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy a servile position in order to save themselves, such as the black man who acts in a deferential way to “keep the Klan from killing his children, to save his own skin, or even to buy time while he plans the revolution” (96). This instance presents us with a case of situational servility where the individual does not fail to understand his own moral rights. For Hill, the reason why someone is deferential is of great importance. In the instance of the individual who becomes deferential in order to save himself, he acts in order to protect himself or others. He can still see himself as a valuable human being, but must place himself in a certain position for a period of time. For the Deferential Wife, or the other standard cases that Hill presents, servility comes from individuals thinking very little of themselves in general. When a servile person either acts from a misunderstanding of their rights or by placing a low value on their rights, their servility is seen to manifest in an absence of self-respect and they are thus lacking in autonomy. Hill’s understanding of servility and the value of self-respect are based within a Kantian framework of autonomy. He claims that “Kant held that servility is contrary to a perfect nonjuridical duty to oneself” (97) and that a failure to understand the rights that one owes oneself can, in fact, result in a failure to “appreciate the rights of others” as they can either “underestimate the rights of those with whom he classifies himself [or], if he plays the servile role knowingly, then… he displays a lack of concern to see the principles of morality acknowledged and respected and the absence of one motive which can move a moral person to respect the rights of others” (104). Thus, the failure to respect one’s own value and rights does not simply affect the individual who is servile as it additionally diminishes their ability to respect the value of others. This is important because it shows 28 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy how Hill views subservience and deference as being not only harmful to the individual who submits, but affects others as well. While Hill’s work on servility differs from that of Chambers and Wolff in that he focuses on interpersonal relationships, he still fails to adequately take into consideration the way that institutionalized racism, sexism, and other forms of oppressive socialization permeate our identities and how we feel we are valued, which then impacts how we respond to others. Hill does reflect upon certain forms of social coercion that could influence the Deferential Wife, in that she may have few options or may have experienced “socially fostered ignorance of her own talents” (94). But these considerations would result in the Deferential Wife being viewed as ignorant and thus lacking in responsibility for her moral defect, rather than autonomous. It appears as if the impact of the social sphere on autonomy is all-or-nothing: if one is free of the effects of oppressive socialization then they are responsible for their actions and are autonomous, but if they have been affected by such conditions, then they lose that responsibility and, in turn, their status as autonomous. While this account at least acknowledges some understanding of the existence of pernicious socialization, it lacks the subtlety and nuance that is necessary for acknowledging the real influence of oppressive norms on women. The situation cannot be binary, that we are either influenced by social norms or we are not, that we are either fully responsible for our actions or not. A theory of autonomy that addresses social influence must address the push and pull between socialization and individual desires with greater care and nuance. Hill’s account of autonomy and deference fails to truly address this, and thus, like Wolff’s and Chambers’, his account of 29 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy autonomy is insufficient for addressing the concerns brought forward by the feminist intuition. Relational Autonomy: In order to effectively understand the case of the Feminist Female Slave, I hold that this project requires an engagement with feminist relational accounts of autonomy as they offer a more realistic account of the influence of pernicious socialization than the traditional accounts previously presented. Relational autonomy was developed as a response to traditional accounts of autonomy (by which I mean those based in Kantian or other mainstream approaches) for their assumption that individuals are independent beings in their decision-making processes. Non-relational accounts are said to be “atomistic” in that they are “abstracted from the social relations in which actual agents are embedded” (Stoljar, para. 2, 2013). In response to these concerns, feminists have attempted to “reconceptualize autonomy from a feminist perspective” (Stoljar, para. 1, 2013). As part of this reconceptualization, feminist theorists began to develop what are now known as relational accounts of autonomy, which see the self as inherently social, and, as such, place greater importance on the role of our social interactions in our ability to make autonomous decisions. Relational accounts of autonomy share the underlying belief that: Persons are socially embedded and that agents’ identities are formed within the context of social relationships and shaped by a complex of intersecting social determinants, such as race, class, gender, and ethnicity (Mackenzie and Stoljar, 4). 30 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy This acknowledgement of the social-embeddedness of agents differs from the traditional accounts of autonomy we already explored, as such accounts often fail to address the influence of social relationships and power dynamics on agents’ identities. Stoljar and Mackenzie continue their description of the underlying beliefs of relational autonomy: Thus the focus of relational approaches is to analyze the implications of the intersubjective and social dimensions of selfhood and identity for conceptions of individual autonomy and moral and political agency (Mackenzie and Stoljar, 4). It should be noted that while relational autonomy has been developed as a direct response to the atomism found in traditional, liberal accounts of autonomy, feminist theorists like Judith Butler have offered their own criticisms of relational autonomy. While Butler acknowledges the necessary interaction that people have with each other (“Let’s face it. We’re undone by each other. And if we are not, we’re missing something” [2004, 19]), she claims that she does not promote a relational view of the self (2004, 19). She argues that “the term ‘relationality’ sutures the rupture in the relation we seek to describe, a rupture that is constitutive of identity itself” (2004, 19). Butler’s work problematizes the ability for individuals to be fully transparent to themselves, to be fully knowledgeable of their desires, motivations, and reasons for acting (2005, 66). In effect, she questions whether an authentic self can ever be fully authentic, given our inability to know everything about ourselves. Butler’s criticism highlights the limitations of some models of relational autonomy: relying solely on an authentic self as the arbiter of autonomy can be difficult when it is nearly impossible to disentangle that authentic self from the influence of the external world. This is an important criticism to make of 31 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy relational autonomy, or of accounts of relational autonomy that rely solely on individual, internal self-knowledge. However, it is also important to note that the concerns raised by Butler do not conflict or impact the relational theory that I hold to be the most suitable to the case of the Feminist Female Slave. In fact, I will show in Chapter 5 how this theory speaks nicely to Butler’s concerns. The following section will introduce three specific accounts of relational autonomy in order to show their suitability for evaluating whether the role of the Feminist Female Slave is justified, namely, those developed by Marina Oshana, Diana Meyers, and Sonya Charles. While these accounts differ quite greatly in terms of how they spell out the conditions of autonomy, what is important is the role of social considerations used by these accounts in evaluating autonomy. Marina Oshana and Strong Substantive Autonomy: Marina Oshana offers an account of autonomy that is quite possibly the most stringent of the relational accounts to be presented in this chapter. Oshana’s account is similar to that of Wolff, in that her primary concern for autonomy is that an individual maintains authority over their actions. For a person to be considered autonomous, she needs to be considered self-governing, which means she is “in control of her actions and… that the person’s actions coincide with preferences or values that are her own” (82). This means that the individual must possess a certain level of control in that they are the one who has authority over their own actions and that the actions they perform are those which are in line with their own desires. The autonomous individual is not dependent upon others, which requires “control over one’s external circumstances” (82), including 32 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy possessing economic and emotional independence, and this independence provides them with freedom in their decision-making. Autonomy, according to Oshana’s theory, requires an individual to have some degree of control over their internal desires as well as the external circumstances in which they live. She claims that autonomy takes place when an individual “is able to meet her goals without depending upon the judgments of others as to their validity or importance” (82) and that “being autonomous is not simply a matter of having values that are authentic, but of directing one’s life according to those values” (82). Autonomy is thus determined both by the level of independence one possesses in their daily lives, along with requirements for certain social conditions. What differentiates Oshana’s account from the work of Wolff and other traditional accounts of autonomy is her emphasis on the social conditions that exist outside the individual. She claims that we can’t just evaluate autonomy based on the individual’s desires or history (95), as being autonomous is partly based on our social relationships (95). For Oshana, these social relationships must allow the individual to be in a position where they are able to “pursue their goals in a context of social and psychological security” (94). This social and psychological security includes the ability to defend oneself against physical and psychological harm if necessary, to not be required to take care of others’ needs unless agreed to, the ability to defend oneself against economic or civil harms if necessary, and the ability to pursue their own values and interests that may differ from those who have authority over her (94). As a result, the autonomous 33 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy individual must not only have authority over the overall direction of their life, they must be socially-positioned such that these choices are secure. It should be noted that Oshana requires that the individual express critical reflection and have access to a wide range of possibilities in making decisions as necessary conditions for autonomy (93, 94), but the most important characteristics in her account include the procedural independence and the socio-relational security she encourages. Although Oshana’s work shares characteristics with the traditional accounts we have seen, her work provides an important transition away from traditional accounts of autonomy towards relational accounts. Diana Meyers’ Procedural Relational Autonomy: In contrast to Marina Oshana, Diana Meyers emphasizes the process that an individual takes in making their decision while agreeing with Oshana on the impact of socialization on autonomy. Meyers claims that autonomy is “impossible without socialization”, and that socialization itself is inescapable (1989, 135). Meyers’ approach to autonomy thus differs from many traditional accounts at a fundamental level, as the focus of the latter is directed towards the expression of individual free will. She claims that, instead, personal autonomy is expressed through living in harmony with one’s true self, which she sees as not only “compatible with the civilizing influences of socialization, but it depends on socialization to cultivate the requisite skills” (1989, 20, emphasis added). Meyers moves away from the idea of a ‘free agent’, such as we have seen in traditional accounts of autonomy, because she claims that this notion problematically (and perhaps impossibly) requires an individual who is ‘untainted” by 34 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy socialization (1987, 42). We must then acknowledge the impact and influence of socialization upon our desires and selves. While Meyers addresses the realities of socialization, and notes that autonomy is impossible without it, it is important to note that socialization can work in certain ways to hinder autonomy, particularly the autonomy of women. Meyers notes that women are often socialized to be less independent than men, but that this does not necessarily mean that autonomy is impossible for women (1989, 136). Meyers’ account of autonomy centers around what she calls autonomy competencies. These competencies, without which an individual cannot act autonomously, include self-discovery, self-definition, and self-direction (2004, xvii). Meyers claims that each of these skills must be developed for an individual to “become aware of their actual affects, desires, traits, capacities, values, and aims, [and] conceive realistic personal ideals” (2004, xvii). This means that autonomy requires an individual to be aware of their own wants, needs, goals, and other desires. The autonomous individual ought to try to become aware of who they are. As well, she notes that “autonomy competency sets in motion a piecemeal, trial-and-error process of self-understanding and self-reconstruction that underwrites a provisional authentic identity” (2004, xvii). The autonomous individual does not always make the right decisions and may not always immediately know how they ought to respond in situations. Meyers’ use of autonomy competency shows that the process of becoming autonomous can be a long one, and isn’t necessarily perfect. As Meyers notes in Self, Society, and Personal Choice (1989), autonomous people are those who “possess and exercise skills that maintain a fluid interaction between their traits, their feelings, their 35 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy beliefs, their values, their extended plans, their current possibilities for realizing these plans, and their conduct” (58). Because these competencies are contextual and individualized, they allow for a diverse set of beliefs, values, and practices and imply a wide range of options for various agents to be autonomous. The final account of relational autonomy that I will present in this chapter is that of Sonya Charles. Charles’ work is of particular interest because of how she explicitly builds upon the work of Natalie Stoljar and the feminist intuition in order to determine whether women’s choices can still be considered autonomous if they express harmful notions of femininity or internalized oppression. Charles notes in her paper, “How Should Feminist Autonomy Theorists Respond to the Problem of Internalized Oppression”, that when Natalie Stoljar first introduced her concept of the feminist intuition, she did not outline what a theory of autonomy needed to include in order to satisfy the concerns brought forward by the feminist intuition, except to say that it would have to be a strong substantive account of relational autonomy. This means that, in order to satisfy the concerns laid out by Stoljar, the most appropriate approach to autonomy would require that decisions have a certain external or non-subjective content in order to be autonomous—content following certain rules or norms that exist outside of the agent (411). This requirement for non-subjective content is expressed through the claim that an autonomous decision cannot be influenced by harmful feminine norms. Charles claims that oppressive socialization can result in internalized oppression in women, which muddies the water in terms of what it means to make an autonomous 36 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy choice. Internalized oppression is harmful because of the way it “undermines a person’s sense of self-worth, and thereby makes her complicit in her own oppression” (423). For Charles, this means that when we ask whether the submissive woman has chosen her role autonomously, we should ask whether her decision reflects a lack of self-worth, or a devaluation of the self overall (413). The focus on the value of the self and respect for the self builds on the work of Hill, as Charles offers the case of the Deferential Wife as an example of an individual with false beliefs who perpetuates her own oppression (416). She argues that “false beliefs that rely on subordinating reasoning and perpetuate oppressive systems are forms of internalized oppression, and therefore decisions that result from these beliefs should not count as autonomous” (416-7). Charles, then, allows for the possibility of an individual taking a subservient role autonomously, but it must be done under certain circumstances: the individual must have made their decision free from the confines of pernicious socialization, and they must do so while maintaining a sense of self-worth and self-valuation. Charles’ account is especially valuable to this project and the question of autonomous submission because of how she is able to explicitly balance the concerns raised in the Feminist Intuition alongside the harmful effects of internalized oppression on our decision-making capabilities, with the individual’s desire to be submissive. Charles asks us to consider the concerns raised by traditional accounts like Hill’s alongside the issues brought forward by the feminist intuition. This gives us an interesting insight into the considerations required to determine whether the Feminist Female Slave can be 37 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy autonomous. We must determine whether her decision to submit to her partner is based in an internalized oppression that she is unable to or refuses to see. This section aimed to introduce three separate approaches to relational autonomy in order to establish that the relational account of autonomy provides a superior approach to evaluating the autonomy found in the case of the Feminist Female Slave due to its inclusion of the social sphere in its evaluation. When we ask whether a woman who submits to a man, to such an extent that she declares herself to be his property, has made this decision autonomously, we must make fuller considerations of the social conditions that surround her and influence her decision-making capabilities. The three accounts of relational autonomy that I laid out in this section have done just that, though their considerations of what it means to make an autonomous decision differ. These accounts are valuable because they balance the way in which the social sphere can influence our decisions without assuming that it solely determines us. Each account allows us to evaluate the considerations or steps that would need to take place in order for a woman to justifiably take the submissive role, balancing the influence of patriarchy with individual choice, to varying degrees. For Oshana, the autonomous individual must ensure that they maintain the authority over her life, while Meyers is concerned with the individual’s expression of autonomy competencies and Charles claims that the autonomous individual is one whose decisions express self-respect and selfvaluation while remaining free of concerns raised by the Feminist Intuition. Beyond these considerations, each account incorporates an explicit discussion of the role of socialization and relationships with others into their accounts. This is what differentiates 38 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy them from the traditional accounts of autonomy, for when we evaluate the case of the Feminist Female Slave, it will be necessary to evaluate her role in relation to oppressive socialization, the influence of gender norms, and internalized oppression. These relational accounts of autonomy will be valuable in our later discussions of the FFS. The primary purpose of this chapter was to outline the requirements for female submission to be seen as an autonomous choice while simultaneously accounting for oppressive socialization. It is important for a project such as this one to not merely rely on simplistic accounts of autonomy, which have a blind spot in terms of how socialization can potentially impact our decision-making capabilities, as was seen in the work of Chambers, Wolff, and Hill. However, there is more that can be brought out in our discussions of autonomy and female submission beyond whether or not a woman can freely choose to take such a role. What must be considered (and what will be considered later in this project) is whether or not the role of the female submissive can be seen as legitimate in the eyes of other members of the feminist community. To declare the choice to submit to another as a justified one merely allows for it to be seen as a choice that was made autonomously, one which was made without coercion. But this does not mean that these same accounts see it as a good choice or a respectable choice. I will explore further in this project in greater detail what the Feminist Female Slave looks like and how she lives, how her case differs from the way that we have previously looked at the problem of autonomous submission, and what she means for feminist engagement with submission overall. 39 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Chapter 2: The Feminist Female Slave In the previous chapter I argued that relational accounts of autonomy provide the most appropriate approach to autonomy for evaluating whether an individual like the Feminist Female Slave is autonomous in making her decision to become subservient to her partner. This survey was not done merely to establish the possibility of autonomous submission, but to highlight the importance of the social sphere when evaluating cases of female submission to men in romantic and sexual relationships. While I briefly outlined the case of the FFS, this chapter will provide a more detailed account of the case, primarily providing theoretical and historical background for her role and relationship. The Feminist Female Slave presents a case in which a woman declares that she has chosen the life of submission to a male romantic and sexual partner; however, she differs greatly from the cases of female submission that have been explored by feminist philosophy. For the Feminist Female Slave, the possibility of autonomous submission is quite important as it implies recognition of her choice in entering into the Master/slave relationship. I aim in this chapter to not only outline the case of the FFS but to also provide context surrounding her role as a slave and the philosophy that subtly influences the underpinnings of the BDSM community. The chapter aims to flesh out the case of the FFS after her brief introduction in the previous chapter: I will establish the FFS as a committed submissive whose daily practices are performed in service to her Master, and yet she simultaneously identifies as a feminist. I will show how these two commitments can be theoretically coherent. In particular, I will show that her justifications and 40 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy reasoning for entering into a Master/slave relationship are consistent with common justifications by female slaves, who are influenced by sex-liberal feminist9 characteristics, such as the focus on individual sexual liberties. I will also explore other concepts found in the BDSM community that have been influenced by such sex-liberal characteristics, including the valuation of diverse sexual practices, the division between public/private or real/performed sexual acts, as well as the central tenet of Safe, Sane, Consensual. These components influence the way the FFS views her identity both as a submissive and as a feminist. My discussion of the influence of liberal philosophy on BDSM theory and the feminist identification of the FFS is intended to provide a general overview of how philosophy has been influential to BDSM tenets and the FFS overall. It is not meant to provide a critical perspective to these theoretical influences. This discussion will come in Chapter 4, in which I examine these concepts in order to raise my own concerns about BDSM’s liberal assumptions and provide my own alternative, grounded in the work of relational autonomy theorists. This means that this chapter is not intended as an endorsement of sex-liberal feminism or other concepts found in the BDSM community and its practices, but is rather meant to provide an overview of the philosophies that are and have been influential to this community. It should be noted that I use the term “sex-liberal feminism” to refer to a feminist approach that takes a liberal perspective on sex and sexual expression. While some women who take the same role as the FFS refer to themselves as “sex-positive”, I argue that this differs from contemporary sex-positive feminist philosophy, and thus use “sex-liberal feminism” as a more accurate descriptor. 9 41 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy The Master/slave relationship falls under the umbrella of relationships and practices found in the BDSM community and requires one partner fully giving themselves over to another. Thus, these relationships go beyond a merely dominant/submissive relationship, in which limits are often established before scenes begin and such roles are removed after the end of such scenes. The Master/slave relationship is long-term, committed, is not restricted to scenes, and explicitly asks one partner to have ownership of the other. This chapter begins by providing an overview of the BDSM community and its beginnings, and then provides a more in-depth explanation of the structure and expectations of the Master/slave relationship. I outline the components of sex-liberal feminism, bringing to light some of the broader concepts found in this theoretical approach, in order to show how its influence is present in the BDSM community. This discussion will establish the influence that sex-positive feminism has had on the Feminist Female Slave. The concept of autonomous submission is important for the Feminist Female Slave because considering her role to be autonomous opens up the possibility for her to lay claim to the feminist identity, or belonging to the feminist community. It can be difficult for BDSM participants to establish that their sexual practices are autonomous to those who practice more mainstream sexual expressions. This difficulty is exacerbated in cases where women take roles such as the FFS has taken, as her subservient position raises concerns regarding the level of influence surrounding her choice. Because of the role that she has taken, she is often depicted as a victim, rather than that of a free agent. BDSM Practices and Community: 42 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy In order to have a full understanding of the FFS and her relationship it is important to possess some knowledge of the BDSM community, including its history and contemporary structure. This section will provide a background to BDSM concepts, the development of the BDSM community, as well as the roles and procedures found in the Master/slave relationship. BDSM, as a set of practices and sexual acts, came to the attention of sexual researchers in the Victorian era due to their increased focus on researching human sexuality (Brame et al, 21). Advances in science and philosophy provided an avenue for new areas of research in the field of sexuality. At the forefront of this research was Richard von Krafft-Ebing, who is widely regarded as having first labeled the identifications of sadism and masochism (SM). While this work was ground-breaking in that it gave name to specific practices that already took place, Brame et al. note that Krafft-Ebing’s work on sadomasochism was also laced with moralisms, as “Victorians appreciated science so long as it supported and confirmed their social ideals" (23). From the initial development of the concepts of sadism and masochism, these concepts were conceived of as referring to sexual deviance. According to Brame et. al, for Krafft-Ebing, this entailed the identification of reproduction as the “benchmark of sexual normality. Psychiatry was the heir of moral theology. Sex was a biological mechanism devised by God or Nature to ensure the production of offspring” (24). From this perspective, any sexual practice that took place outside a merely reproductive context meant that this sexual act was one that was sinful or deviant. 43 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Krafft-Ebbing’s work continues to be incredibly influential today, even though his work was developed during a time with very different understandings of sexual practices. As quoted in Brame et al. “‘Krafft-Ebing provides testimony for his view that unbridled sex can undermine the health and honour of individuals as well as the very foundations of society… He gives the overall impression that all sex is dangerous’” (Frayser in Brame et al. 24). Sadomasochism, along with homosexuality (another medicalized sexual term that he coined), functions as one of the ‘dangerous’ manifestations of human sexuality. As Michel Foucault claims in The History of Sexuality: An Introduction, Volume 1, “For a long time, the story goes, we supported a Victorian regime, and we continue to be dominated by it even today. Thus the image of the imperial prude is emblazoned on our restrained, mute, and hypocritical sexuality” (3). Victorian sexual culture was one that outwardly expressed approval for heterosexual, procreative sex, and looked down upon whatever fell outside of it. It was in this environment that an initial academic interest in SM was born, and against which much of the current SM community has structured itself in response. In “Psychopathis Sexualis” Krafft-Ebbing introduces his research on the practice of sadomasochism. He differentiates between two separate modes of sadomasochism: the sadist and the masochist. The sadist is the one who finds the pain of others to be sexually pleasurable. While Krafft-Ebing claims that certain forms of pain can be pleasurable for many (he provides the example of wrestling between “young married couples” and other forms of horseplay), they can take on a sadistic tone, and are described as “the most monstrous acts of destruction of the consort’s life” (25). He claims sadism is actually a 44 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy common occurrence, that entails an “experience of sexual [sic] pleasurable sensations (including orgasm) produced by acts of cruelty, bodily punishment inflicted on one’s own person or when witnessed in others….” (25). He counts this orientation as “among the primitive anomalies of the sexual life. It is a disturbance (a deviation) in the evolution of psychosexual processes sprouting from the soil of psychical degeneration” (26). The sadist is one whose cruelty extends to his sexual life. In contrast to sadism, Krafft-Ebbing developed the category of masochism to describe those who “wish to suffer pain and be subjected to force” (27). He describes the masochist in greater detail: By masochism I understand a peculiar perversion of the psychical sexual life in which the individual affected, in sexual feeling and thought, is controlled by the idea of being completely and unconditionally subject to the will of a person of the opposite sex; of being treated by this person as by a master, humiliated and abused. (28) While the sadist is one who enjoys humiliating and causing pain to others, the masochist enjoys experiencing such pain. Masochists completely succumb to the will of the sadist and are submissive to their power and their influence. Krafft-Ebing’s work functions as the foundational scientific examination of the sadomasochistic identity and what he, and others, view as the problematic expressions of sadomasochism in general. Even though his influence continues through the terms he coined, and in the fact that his work is still seen as the starting point for examining sadomasochism, aspects of his work are now regarded as problematic due to their medical, pathologizing nature. For some scholars, Krafft-Ebing’s focus on 45 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy sadomasochism is regarded as being “constructed out of medical discourse as a method of social control. Each word was meant to categorize, and thus pathologize, aspects of human sexual experience that had been eternally known” (Thompson, xiv). Even though her book aims to move individuals away from SM, in her introduction to Against Sadomasochism: A Radical Feminist Analysis, Robin Ruth Linden acknowledges this history when she claims that the diagnostic criteria used by Krafft-Ebing “cannot be value-free or objective: they are constructed by the psychiatrists who have explicit interests and commitments of their own which are reflected in their professional judgments” (6). Krafft-Ebing’s research was meant to pathologize non-normative sexual expression. The contemporary usage of ‘sadomasochism’ as a sexual categorization has undergone a vast transformation since Krafft-Ebing’s publications were released. Modern participants in sadomasochism have come to view it as a sexual identity willingly, if not enthusiastically, adopted, and consider themselves to be part of a greater BDSM community rather than a medically ascribed categorization. BDSM, in its contemporary usage, describes a range of practices and activities that are performed by individuals, both on their own and in a community setting. It is an umbrella term that can include bondage (tying people up, using restraints), discipline (spanking), dominance and submission (power play, where one partner takes a much stronger role than the other), and sadomasochism (where partners derive pleasure from either giving or receiving pain). Many of these designations overlap, in that individuals may use multiple forms of BDSM 46 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy within one scene, or event. This project, however, focuses on one specific component of the wider range of BDSM practices: Dominance and submission (or, Dominance/submission, D/s). Dominance and submission is characterized primarily by what is known as “power play”— the focus of the interaction is not necessarily based on physical sensations (such as the feeling of being bound in bondage, or the sensation of physical pain in sadomasochism), but is centred on a psychological interaction, that being an uneven distribution of power. Classifications and identities in this community can include both BDSM identities with sexual orientation, “relationship style or dynamics, and interests” (Weiss, 11). BDSM orientations include designations such as “top”, “bottom”, “switch”, “dom(inant)”, and “sub(missive).” This means someone can identify as a ‘bi poly switch’–they identify as bisexual, as polyamourous or open to multiple sexual partners, and as willing to switch between dominant and submissive roles, or as a ‘bondage bottom’— they are interested in bondage and have the activities performed on or to them (Weiss, 11). While gender and sexual orientation still have value in these communities (i.e. a person could identify with a combination of the three, such as a switch bisexual woman, or a submissive gay man) it is not merely one’s gender or sexual orientation that determines how one will act in a sexual situation. For D/s a hierarchy of power or an inequality between players is a necessary component, where the roles that participants enact are in no way equal. As Miss Abernathy describes, D/s takes place in a “consensual arrangement in which one partner takes the lead and the other follows the lead” (12). The complementary, but inegalitarian, roles of the person leading and the other following are 47 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy such an integral part of a D/s relationship that without them, “the D/s aspect of the scene [loses] its meaning entirely, leaving [participants] without a clear sense of how, or even whether, to proceed” (Newmahr, 70). Without explicit power roles that give one power over the other, D/s participants cannot act and do not know how to perform their scenes. As the uneven distribution of power holds such high value for those who assume the roles of D/s, this relationship structure can at times extend beyond the confines of a scene. With most BDSM activities, a scene has a specific beginning and an ending agreed to by the partners. An example of this can include a bondage scene in which one partner acts as a pirate and the other acts as their captured prisoner who is bound and gagged. Once the scene ends, both parties go back to the roles they held before their role-playing began (presumably, as a non-pirate and a non-prisoner). These roles can be repeated and played more than once, but they generally only exist while participating in SM scenes. In contrast, for D/s, roles tend extend beyond the confines of a specific scene and can sometimes carry over into daily or community events. As Newmahr states, the construction of these roles holds such importance that at times “the dynamics that players create and maintain through these strategies during play are carried through to community interaction” (70). The concretization and extension of these chosen roles isn’t necessarily reflected in the expression of purely bondage or sadomasochistic roles. While D/s can and does include bondage and SM at times, there is an emotional and psychological element that must be present in order for the scene to have an impact. As Miss Abernathy describes, D/s is like a kind of brain play: Unlike S/M or B/D, D/S is essentially a question of mind over matter. No elaborate dungeons or sex-toy collections 48 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy are necessary. Instead, both the dominant and the submissive bring their intelligence and will into play. Submission depends on the individual’s ability to align his will with that of the dominant and to use his intelligence to fulfill her wishes gracefully and efficiently. The dominant, for her part, must be ready and able to direct the submissive’s will with her own (13). Dominance and submission operates as a form of BDSM that intentionally creates an uneven power structure between participants. Its activities primarily include psychological components, though it can also incorporate physical ones, and these activities are generally confined to being expressed during scenes, or previously agreedupon times and settings. Master/slave: Some D/s participants may choose to engage in what is known as “lifestyle D/s” or “24/7 D/s”, in which the roles that are enacted within sexual scenes are extended and maintained throughout all aspects of one’s relationship (Brame et al. 165). This is often known in the community as a Master (or Mistress)/slave [M/s] relationship and one partner is declared the “owner” of the other. A good way to think about the difference between D/s and M/s is that D/s often incorporates role-play into its activities, whereas M/s enacts these roles into one’s daily life. Because Master/slave incorporates explicit forms of ownership and control and maintains very rigid roles (i.e. parties will not “switch”— one partner is always the Master/Mistress and the other is always the slave), Master/slave is seen to embody a serious level of commitment by both the involved parties and the larger BDSM community. While many BDSM practitioners may participate in activities that use general expressions of dominance and submission for a 49 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy set length of time (for example, for one event or one scene), it is important to note that the Master/slave relationship extends to all facets of one’s life. The present project focuses on this specific relationship found in the D/s community, and in particular the question or concern over whether women can autonomously choose to enter into slavehood with a male Master. Master/slave is an interesting relationship because of the way in which ownership of the individual is handed over to another. In M/s, the submissive party is expected (as outlined through previous negotiation between both parties) to fulfill the desires and duties that are laid out by their dominant partner. These activities can include performing certain sexual acts, or even performing household duties, or other daily tasks as demanded by the Master/Mistress. Frank W. (a Master) details some of the practices that he and his slave, Lisa W, partake in. He claims that their D/s play takes place “out of the bedroom but not the front door” (171), meaning that it is not merely confined to the bedroom but also does not take place in fully public spaces. He describes their practices, stating that “I’ll have her undress in the evenings, and she’ll wear the collar and a leash, and she’ll sit or kneel at my feet when we’re answering the messages on CompuServe [a computer messaging program]. Or we will go out for a walk in the woods [and] bring along a leash; we’ll stop and cut a switch, and I’ll tie her to a tree” (171). Bambi Bottom, in another interview, claims that her practices as a slave require her to serve her Master, getting him food and drink at the end of the night, but also require her to wear her collar to bed, asking permission to eat and use the restroom and make purchases. She is also 50 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy required to exercise in order to keep in shape and her sex life is controlled and determined by her Master (181). Miss Abernathy, an author of instructional BDSM guides, describes the roles of Master and slave as focusing on the role of service. She claims that the Master not only enjoys the “simple act of commanding obedience, but also has specific needs. Floors to be swept. Meals to be prepared. Boots to be polished, or worshipped, or both” (13, 14). She also describes the process that one ought to take in finding a Master or a slave. Of particular importance is that Miss Abernathy describes the negotiation process between Master and slave as being almost like an interview; this process is used to determine whether or not the Master and slave are suited to each other before embarking on what she describes as a training process. She claims that the Master ought to ask their potential slave about medical conditions, emergency contacts or any other necessary information in case of emergency, psychological limitations (such as a history of abuse), as well as any fantasies or desires that the slave has, along with their understanding of what slavehood and service entails (16, 17). This process is done in order to ensure that both parties are well-suited to each other, as well as to ensure that they are both well-informed of what their partnership will entail. Once interviews have been conducted successfully, a contract (whether verbal or written) will be made between both parties. Entering into a Master/slave relationship is seen as a thorough process, in which both parties must be open and honest about their expectations, and both partners must be satisfied with the conditions that will be laid upon them once the relationship begins. Negotiation is a necessary part of this process, ensuring that both Master and slave are satisfied. 51 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy As M/s is a more serious and committed form of D/s, submissives will often wear symbols in order to indicate their relationship to others within the community. The use of the collar or some other symbol not only indicates to the Master that the slave has entered into a relationship and has become their property. It also “alerts other players [in the community] that the slave is unavailable and that the dominant should be approached before any contact is made with the slave” (Abernathy, 31). The collar is not only an indication of when a player is unavailable for play, but also can be used to indicate when a relationship has ended. As Miss Abernathy notes “Should the slave choose to lay aside the collar without warning or explanation, the dominant may reasonably assume that the slave has broken the contract and no longer wishes to be in service” (32-3). The returning of the collar as an expression of leaving their relationship indicates that the Master/slave relationship, while allowing one partner to have ownership over the other, also allows for the submissive partner leave the relationship when they are no longer satisfied by it. The specific practices of Master/slave can vary from relationship to relationship. Some Masters require their slaves to perform a variety of household in addition to sexual tasks (for example, a slave may be required to serve meals to their Masters at a set time, to clean after their Master, to provide sexual services when asked, to wear certain outfits or costumes). What is important to note is that the common element of this relationship style is the subservience of one partner to another, where one agrees to follow the will and the desire of the dominant partner. In the case of the Feminist Female Slave, she has agreed to enter into such a relationship and explicitly takes a subservient role to her sexual and romantic partner. 52 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy It should be noted that although both parties are given equal value within the M/s relationship (as one cannot exist without the other), they would never have equal power or consideration within the confines of that relationship. While the partners both have equal say in negotiating the terms of their relationship before it begins, once the relationship commences one becomes the clear servant of the other. They are expected to follow orders otherwise they face punishment. The M/s relationship will never be a sexual structure in which both partners have equal roles. But practitioners argue that this does not mean that it is a relationship where the submissive party is a victim, is an unwilling partner, or is misguided in their value as a human being. The slave possesses the power to enter into the relationship, to negotiate with her partner about what the relationship will look like, as well as to leave it if she chooses. Although both partners are necessary for the relationship, and they are each able to end it, their roles will never be interchangeable. Sex-Liberal Feminism and BDSM The BDSM community has changed drastically since Krafft-Ebing first coined the terms sadism and masochism. In addition to moving from a forced, medicalized categorization to a self-identification with community membership, as the BDSM community developed, it has (intentionally or unintentionally) incorporated influences from other sexual theories and philosophies into its own central tenets. This section will introduce components of sex-liberal feminism in order to show how influences from this approach, in particular, are reflected in BDSM community structures, practices, and justifications used by participants. This is done in order to establish how the FFS can coherently identify both as a feminist and as a slave. 53 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy This section will outline several foundational components of sex-liberal feminism, primarily those which have become enshrined in BDSM practices. This will include a broad overview of what I characterize as sex-liberal feminism, including a brief history of its development and predominant characteristics such as an emphasis on individual freedom in sexual expression, the distinction between the public and private spheres, the transgressive power of BDSM, and the therapeutic value of BDSM practices. Each of these components will be outlined in this chapter in order to give a full account of the feminist philosophy that is followed by and influences the FFS. It should be noted that within this section I will explore an approach to feminism which has been given multiple names by feminist theorists, but shares similar concepts. These different labels include sex-positive feminism (Dymock), the pro-sex movement (Weiss), liberal feminism (Chancer, Weiss), libertarian feminism (Zita), and even sex radicalism (Queen). In my discussion, I am not conflating these approaches, but attempting to illustrate the underlying assumptions shared by many of these theoretical commitments. These assumptions, I argue, are rooted in a liberal individualism applied to sexual practice and sexual identity. When describing the feminism that has been most influential to BDSM practices and regulations, I employ the term "sex-liberal" because the approach used by the FFS and other women in similar relationships involves an individualistic focus on expression and diversity, maintains a distinction between the public and the private, and views consent as being of paramount value, and is primarily focused on sexual practice. These components all come together in the FFS’ view on sexual expression: a valuation of diverse sexual expression, of individual choice in sexual 54 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy expression, of sexual practices that take place within a scene or in the private sphere, and of the requirement for informed consent to such sexual practices. History of BDSM and Feminist Politics: The development of a positive feminist approach to BDSM began in the 1970s and 1980s, when lesbian feminist sadomasochists opposed the predominant feminist thought (known as the radical feminist perspective) at the time. According to this theory, BDSM practices necessarily perpetuated violence and oppression, particularly against women. At the Barnard Conference in 1982, a now-notorious feminist conference, it became clear that some feminists "regarded sadomasochistic practices as inseparable from patriarchal hierarchies based on relations of dominance and subordination" (Chancer, 79). The radical feminist perspective held that the practices found in BDSM, even when practiced by lesbian couples, continued to perpetuate violence due to their reliance on uneven power between partners. However, those who practiced BDSM were unhappy with their characterization as either victims or perpetrators of violence, and argued that the radical feminist position characterized women as disempowered actors and failed “to see women as sexual subjects in their own rights” (Glick, 20). In response to these dismissals, feminist lesbian sadomasochists formed groups such as Samois, in order to publish books such as Coming to Power: Writing and Graphics on Lesbian S/M. This book offered the space for women to write on their positive experiences of S/M and to express their disillusionment or discomfort with radical feminist approaches or understandings of S/M. Pat Califia, a transgender man who formerly identified with and wrote extensively about lesbian sadomasochism, wrote that: 55 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy The women’s movement has become a moralistic force, and it can contribute to the self-loathing and misery experienced by sexual minorities. Because sexual dissenters are already being trampled on by monolithic, prudish institutions, I think it is time the women’s movement started taking more radical positions on sexual issues” (1996, 231). Califia was not alone in his concern with the radical feminists’ response to S/M and other sexual practices, as many other feminists were frustrated by what they saw as an attempt to “deny the possibility of individual or collective resistance through sexuality, even as they prescribe the parameters for a properly ‘feminist’ sexuality” (Glick, 22). Queen notes in her paper “Sex Radical Politics, Sex-Positive Feminist Thought, and Whore Stigma” the dismay she felt when encountering a feminist account of sexuality that failed to include or reflect her own understanding of sexuality: “I had now learned that a key point in my understanding of feminism – that it is my and all women's right to explore and define our own sexuality – was not universally accepted in the community of women who called themselves feminist" (Queen, 127). While radical feminists viewed their approach as part of an attempt to raise awareness of the overarching influence of social power, sexliberal feminists were dissatisfied with such an understanding. As a result, sex-liberal feminists developed their own approach, emphasizing the importance of sexual freedom for women. There is an obvious tension between the radical and sex-liberal accounts of feminism and sexuality at a fundamental level, as both sides view the operation of power in very different ways. This differing perspective greatly influences how both feminist philosophies approach women’s sexuality in general. In a very basic sense, for radical 56 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy feminists, power cannot be avoided or separated from our interactions: it influences or affects all facets of our lives, including our sexual practices. In contrast, for sex-liberal feminism, power is limited in the crucial sense that our exercise of autonomy and freedom can overcome the constraints placed upon us by social structures. Many BDSM practitioners, or practitioners of non-normative sexualities, found sex-positive feminism to be well suited to their practices due to its focus on freedom in sexual expression. As Queen notes: I learned that there is indeed a community of people who are sex-positive, who don't denigrate, medicalize, or demonize any form of sexual expression except that which is not consensual. In our general society -- where sex is sniggered at, commodified, and guiltily, surreptitiously engaged in -- being outspokenly sex-positive is sex radical indeed, for even those of us who love sex are usually encouraged to find someone else's preferred sexual expression abhorrent (Queen, 127). Over time, due to the compatibility between sex-liberal feminism and the BDSM community, sex-liberal attitudes have become enshrined in BDSM practices as well as in the justifications provided by BDSM practitioners. What this section has established is that there is a history of feminist activists and BDSM practitioners working within feminist frameworks to defend their ability to participate in BDSM as autonomous beings, not as victims or perpetrators. As well, it establishes the development of a theoretical and political approach to sexuality, which allows for the freedom to participate in BDSM. The next section will outline the relationship between sex-liberal feminism and the liberalism of BDSM theory, including its approach to autonomy and consent, its valuation of transgressive sexualities, and its approach to power, showing how the 57 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy components of sex-liberal feminist philosophy are consistent (if not overlapping) with the defining theoretical components of BDSM as a whole. Feminism, BDSM, and Liberalism: While sex-liberal feminism emphasizes the value of choice in one’s sexual life, it is important to note how the feminism found in sex-liberal feminism has interacted with BDSM. In interviews with BDSM practitioners it appears that there is a discomfort felt by female submissives in their attempts to reconcile their feminism with their sexual practices. Many female submissives thought there was a difficulty for women to simultaneously operate as a feminist and a BDSM practitioner, and some female submissives struggled with resolving this tension (Weiss, 163-4). On the face of it, sexliberal feminism offers women (and other participants) a way to justify their practices, as it emphasizes individual autonomy and respect for diverse sexual practices. In a sense, sex-liberal feminism provides a way for BDSM practitioners to comfortably identify as a member of the BDSM community as well as a feminist. In Brame et al’s book Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission, the authors conducted interviews with numerous BDSM participants, describing their practices, motivations for participating in BDSM, and their involvement in BDSM communities. In some of the interviews with female slaves, the participants described a tension between their feminist beliefs and their response from the feminist community overall. In the interview with “Bambi Bottom”, a permanent slave to her husband, Bambi describes the conflict she feels as both a feminist and a slave: I used to consider myself to be a [committed] feminist… I [now] consider myself to be a true feminist. I have made 58 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy my own choices about my life. I have chosen what I know and believe makes me the most happy… If someone chooses to see this as giving in to the patriarchal society, she is seeing me on a superficial level and is being purposely obtuse (179). Bambi’s narrative describes the way that sex-liberal feminists attempt to resolve the issues raised by radical feminists: they, as individuals, have made the free choice to participate in BDSM and for that reason it is not oppressive, and it is not the result of oppressive social forces. For others to claim that her choice has been unduly influenced is both insulting and belittling to her agency. As Victoria notes in the same book, “For me, feminism is extremely important, but the word that we use most in feminism is choice. I’m choosing to submit to a man because I want to. When I stop wanting to, I can walk out the door. I can tell him to go sit on it and rotate if I want to” (54). Both interviewees see their roles in these relationships as the result of their own, individual choice, independent of anything that takes place outside of their BDSM communities. As the authors of Different Loving note, “our female interviewees agreed that real sexual freedom implies freedom of choice: One should be free to decide for oneself what kind of sexual activity affords the maximum of sexual pleasure” (54). Brame et al’s interviews bring forward the important characteristics of feminism for feminist BDSM practitioners: choice, freedom, and individuality. The tension between differing feminist beliefs is not only found in Brame et al.’s interviews. In her paper “Thoughts on Rope, Submission, and Feminism,” Madison Young argues that sexual freedom is a necessary component of many kinds of feminism, such as sex-positive feminism, and because of this feminism and submission are 59 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy compatible. She claims that this is because sex-positive feminism “bases itself on the idea that sexual freedom is an essential component of women’s freedom” (55). Although she uses the phrase “sex-positive”, Young’s account falls in line with what I call sex-liberal, due to its focus on individual choice and individual sexual freedoms. She views her role as a submissive not as one where she is a victim, but rather as a true expression of taking control and embracing her sexuality (55). Young doesn’t see herself as falling in line with normative requirements for women’s sexuality, but rather sees her sexual relationships as an expression of her authentic self. Similar to Brame’s interviewees, Young emphasizes the importance of individual and sexual freedom as a necessary part of feminism. In her research, Margot Weiss also acknowledges the difficulty some women face reconciling their feminist politics and BDSM practices, and how they often rely on liberal political components in order to justify their positions: “the majority of my interviewees resolved any potential conflict between feminism and BDSM with a liberal analysis, arguing that SM is consensual, that SM practices and roles are freely chosen, and that SM is empowering, and thus compatible with feminism” (164). Her own interview with Teramis, a female slave, reveals the same logic: “I see no conflict at all between being a slave and being a feminist. Slave is about choice. Feminism is about choice” (164). The pattern that emerges from these interviews and research is the incorporation of a sexliberal logic into a feminism that is commonly articulated by female slaves. Such an approach to feminism and sexuality allows their roles as female submissives to not be seen as necessarily in conflict with their feminism, even in cases where they submit to 60 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy male dominants, so long as the submissive role is one that they truly desire and have freely chosen through an expression of their individual autonomy. Safe, Sane, Consensual The justifications that we have seen used by many female submissive BDSM practitioners are expressions of the sex-liberal logic that defends the freedom of individual choice, and the freedom of sexual expression. Sex-liberal feminism, then, aims to provide a freedom for women to choose their own sexual expression. It does not wish to rely on heteronormative scripts, and it does not wish to provide rigid ideals of feminist sexualities, as is claimed to be found in radical feminism. Rather, sex-liberal feminism focuses on the value of consent and negotiation, which coincides with the BDSM community mantra of Safe, Sane, Consensual. Safe, Sane, Consensual [SSC] is quite possibly the most important mantra found within the BDSM community and is described as the “philosophical core” of BDSM practices (Brame et al, 49). The mantra was designed in order to ensure that BDSM practices do not cause unnecessary or unwanted emotional and physical pain. ‘Safe’ refers to the use of safe words or the discussion of limitations for both or all participants. These are negotiated before the event begins, with all parties coming to a full agreement. Safe words are words or phrases that are used by the submissive to indicate that the play has gone beyond the limits of participants’ comfort (Brame et al, 50). It is the phrase that forces the play to stop immediately. ‘Sane’ refers to the fact that the activities are “done for the pleasure of everyone involved. Erotic play should not cause emotional anguish; it should not abuse the 61 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy submissive’s vulnerability or subject a submissive to unreasonable risk. And a submissive should not have to worry that the dominant will exceed his or her personal limits” (Brame et al, 51). Limits are incredibly important for BDSM practitioners and it is important that these practitioners negotiate them in advance of play in order to ensure the happiness of all involved. Going beyond these negotiated limits can lead to trauma and other kinds of harm and thus it is very important that all practitioners respect them (Brame et al, 51). Sane also is seen as referring to a knowledge of all the potential risks and harms that could come from the activities: “activities are considered sane when participants are informed of the risks and in full control of their faculties when making the decision to take them” (Newmahr, 146). It is often claimed that consent is that which differentiates violence from BDSM. As Brame et al note, “clear, informed, and verbalized consent is the moral dividing line between brutality and D&S” (52). There is a common thread that runs through SSC which requires that parties are fully informed of the practices taking place, are in a space where they are able to make reasonable decisions regarding their own actions, and do not feel pressured into agreeing to certain practices. SSC allows parties to make decisions for themselves about what they wish to do, what their limitations are, and allows them to have the ultimate authority over practices they participate in. SSC possesses the same liberal logic that Brame’s interview subjects mentioned, as it emphasizes individual choice, individual freedom, and individual agency as foundational and necessary for good sexual practice. SSC gives the individual, even the individual in a submissive position, the power to decide what practices to participate in or to be a part of. They are not 62 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy powerless, but agents who choose to give their power up to another under circumstances that are thoroughly negotiated in advance. Scenes and the Public/Private Divide BDSM theory and sex-liberalism share a similar perspective on the way in which the public and private are used in BDSM. These approaches both view the operation and expression of BDSM as taking place within specific, concrete locations, known as ‘scenes’. Scenes are specific in that they have an explicit beginning and ending, and concrete in that they take place in particular locations (such as a BDSM party, community event, or bedroom). These scenes allow for BDSM practices to take place in a context that is supposed to be insulated from larger social forces and isolated from public consumption. Robin Bauer notes in his paper “Transgressive and Transformed Gendered Sexual Practices and White Privileges: the Case of the Dyke/Trans BDSM Communities” that the existence of a separate, safe space is what gives BDSM communities the opportunity to transgress and transform social taboos and boundaries (234), and Margot Weiss reinforces this when she notes that this reliance on a separation between the public and private means that “all private (coded as consensual) decisions have no effects on others or on the social world” (166). The separation between public and private creates a separation that practitioners feel grants them the freedom to act out certain sexual practices that may not be acceptable (or are seen as taboo) in public forums. The private sphere grants participants the freedom to express their sexual desires without fear of judgment. 63 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy The scene is of the utmost importance for the practice of BDSM. It is both the primary form of expression for BDSM practitioners, as well as the primary moment of analysis for those who write on BDSM. The scene offers a unique location, as it is not only treated as separate from the real world: it is also viewed as that which is pure fantasy. As Hopkins claims: The use of the term ‘scene’ exposes a critical, central aspect of SM culture. SM is constructed as a performance, as a staging, a production, a simulation in which participants are writers, producers, directors, actors, and audience. Importantly, this is a simulation recognized as such. Participants know they are doing a scene. They have sought out other performers (123). Weiss also emphasizes the distinction between the public and private that exists for many BDSM members. She notes that the way in which BDSM communities justify themselves emphasizes the role of “consent, negotiation, and free choice”, which then come together to create “an unbreachable boundary between the private, consensual scene, and the public, social world” (166). The use of scenes as a requirement for SM activities implies that these actions do not take place in the “real world” – they instead occur in a separate location where patriarchal violence does not exist in the same way that it does in the broader social sphere. The separation between the scene and the general world reinforces SM’s location as a site of fantasy, rather than reality. Pat Califia advances this thesis when he claims: The key word to understanding S/M is fantasy. The roles, dialogue, fetish costumes, and sexual activity are part of the drama or ritual... A sadomasochist is well aware that a role adopted during a scene is not appropriate during other interactions and that a fantasy role is not the total sum of her being (Califia, 1996, 232). 64 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy The words used to describe S&M activities reinforce the separation that exists between the BDSM world and the “real world”. Fantasy cannot exist (or be acted out) in all facets of one’s life, otherwise it ceases to exist as fantasy. Califia’s representation of BDSM utilizes a kind of containment for these practices. While a female slave might not feel comfortable going grocery shopping in her collar, it does not mean that the part of her being which identifies with BDSM is not present or not represented (for example, perhaps her Master tells her what to buy, or what to wear, or gives some other order that is still based in the power imbalance of their relationship). For Califia, though, BDSM is restricted to the scene and particular events and does not belong elsewhere. As Weiss notes: “In this fantasized split between the ‘real world’ and the scene, SM’s paradigmatic theatricality becomes important: sexual encounters are called ‘scenes’; one ‘plays’ with one’s SM partners; and roles, costumes, and props are a crucial part of SM play” (17). The scene gives SM practitioners a specific location where their actions and activities are confined – the practices are said to not extend beyond the scene, and power imbalances enacted by performers within this scene are consciously created and maintained by them for a specific period of time. The scene operates as a site of ultimate freedom in which one can act in ways they have only dreamed of, and without judgment. The Feminist Female Slave The diverse concepts from this chapter come together to give context to the case of the Feminist Female Slave. But it is still important that, as we outline the theories and concepts that surround the FFS, we also describe her and her particular relationship. We can imagine that the Feminist Female Slave is a woman who discovered the BDSM 65 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy community on her own. It is through this community that she developed a relationship with the man who became her Master. What is important about this component of her case is that the FFS had previously discovered the BDSM community before being part of her relationship. She was not introduced to the community through her Master, but rather discovers him through her community. This pursuit shows that the FFS was not indoctrinated into taking on her slave role through her relationship with her Master, rather she discovered her own desire for that particular relationship style outside of the relationship she has with her Master. This is not meant to imply that she is necessarily autonomous because she had a previous interest in Master/slave, rather it is meant to emphasize the individual desire and interest she held in this relationship before meeting her Master. It should be noted that even if he had entered the community through her Master, it does not necessarily mean she is non-autonomous, but I think if that were the case it would cast another layer of concern on her by other feminist community members regarding the influence of others on her choice to become a slave. The FFS’ duties with her Master require household tasks, such as cleaning and preparing meals, and also those that are sexual in nature. While she is required to perform tasks to please her Master, he also ensures that she receives pleasure in those tasks as well. She is expected to perform all tasks as he demands, and faces punishments for failure to perform them. These punishments can include light spankings, or some other sexualized discipline. The FFS identifies as a feminist in the same way that many of the slaves in this chapter have done. She feels that she has made the autonomous choice to enter into her 66 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy relationship, and that it reflects who she truly is, and does not feel that she is oppressed by her Master. She also feels that her relationship might not be best for all women, and that she, in fact, thinks that everyone ought to follow the sexual relationship that suits them best, so long as it is consensual. She believes in a sexual freedom that allows sexual expression for all, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, and kink orientation. Her feminist identification is quite in-line with a liberal perspective on sexuality, and fits in quite nicely with the predominant philosophy of the BDSM community. Her viewpoint is quite feminist in nature because she acknowledges how dominant social forces, like misogyny or sexism, can limit women’s sexual expressions, but is adamant that her sexual relationship has not limited her and is rather an expression of her sexual freedom. The Feminist Female Slave, then, found her role as a slave after coming to be a part of the BDSM community on her own, holds no predominant religious affiliation, and views her role as expressive of her feminist beliefs in a wide range of sexual diversity and sexual freedoms for individuals. This chapter has aimed to introduce the community and philosophy surrounding the Feminist Female Slave, in order to provide greater context to her case. Philosophically, the case of the Feminist Female Slave centres on the use of sex-liberal feminism, as its tenets find expression in the BDSM community both in its practices as well as its foundational tenets. Sex-liberal feminism, as an account of autonomy, however, has tensions with the relational accounts of autonomy described in the previous chapter, due to its emphasis on individual choice and freedom as being separate from the 67 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy external world. This tension will be explored more fully in the next chapter. As we saw in the way that the female submissives, such as Bambi Bottom, justified their chosen roles as submissives, their justification is based within a sex-liberal approach to autonomy, whereby individual choice is of the utmost importance, and the justification does not take into account the operation of social powers in the way that relational autonomy does. This leads to a tension between the two feminist approaches to autonomy, which we will see when we compare their responses to the problem of the Feminist Female Slave. The Feminist Female Slave, as briefly introduced in this chapter, provides feminist accounts of autonomy with a problematic case not merely because she aims to submit autonomously to another, but because she aims to submit autonomously to a man while within the confines of a romantic and sexual relationship. The uneven power structure between partners, with the woman in this relationship on the bottom, is discomforting for many feminist accounts of autonomy, and raises particular concerns for relational autonomy (especially the Feminist Intuition), as the interaction between social power structures, such as patriarchy, and women’s autonomy is of concern for them. This tension will be explored in the next chapter, as we look at the way in which relational autonomy theorists respond to the problem of female autonomous submission, and provide a much more detailed outline of the case of the FFS, showing how she challenges the assumptions found within those accounts of autonomy. 68 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Chapter 3: Feminist Relational Autonomy and Female Submission To this point, this project has aimed to establish: 1) that feminist relational accounts of autonomy offer the most suitable approach when evaluating women’s claims to submitting autonomously to male partners, and 2) the case of the Feminist Female Slave, a woman who simultaneously identifies as a feminist and as the submissive partner in a Master/slave BDSM relationship. In this chapter I provide an overview of the way feminist discussions of autonomy frame the problem of autonomous submission— whether an individual can maintain their autonomy while submitting to another. I argue that even though their responses to these cases may differ greatly, feminist relational accounts of autonomy often rely on a similar, limited, representation of the submissive woman in their discussions. I will establish that there is a tendency to view submissive women as possessing similar characteristics, particularly regarding their religious or community affiliations, their endorsement of restrictive and essentialist gender roles, and their relationship with feminism. These common characteristics, I argue, result in a representation of female submission as largely homogenous, and thus ignore the diversity of women’s sexual lives and expressions. As noted in Chapter 1, “relational autonomy” is a broad term, which encompasses a variety of approaches to autonomy that acknowledge the social-embeddedness of persons. It is not my purpose to declare that any particular form of relational autonomy covered in this chapter is more valuable or appropriate than the others. I do not endorse one form of relational autonomy to the exclusion of others. Rather, the purpose of this chapter is to establish a pattern in how these accounts represent female submission and to 69 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy show that they rest on assumptions that limit their engagement with female submission in general. It should also be noted that by claiming that there is homogeneity in the representation of female submission, I do not imply that the cases of female submission used by relational autonomy theorists are entirely interchangeable. These authors I discuss do no discuss identical cases. However, I argue that the underlying characteristics of these cases are similar enough that their engagement with female submission has failed to move substantially beyond the considerations and concerns first outlined by Thomas Hill Jr. in the 1970s. The cases that I present in this chapter often offer a combination of some of the following characteristics: the submissive woman is often described as following a restrictive religious or community order, she views her role as following a particular gendered ideology, she is viewed as a puppet of men rather than an agent in her own right, and there is a failure to consider her as either following feminist ideals, or she is decidedly against what she views as feminist values. For the sake of brevity, I will refer to this general description of the female submissive in these cases as the Relational Autonomy Female Submissive (RAFS). It could be argued that these characteristics are necessary to include in our discussions of women’s autonomy because these characteristics are what really gave rise to many feminist debates regarding the insufficiency of non-feminist accounts of autonomy. For that reason, these cases are quite valuable. However, they still fail to provide a full story of female submission and for that reason discussions of the RAFS cannot exhaust our discussions of female submission and autonomy. 70 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy I introduce the case of the Feminist Female Slave (FFS) as an instance of female submission to challenge the assumptions found in the general framework provided by relational autonomy theorists. I argue that through the FFS’ participation in the BDSM community, she challenges each of the assumptions found in the case of the RAFS: the FFS identifies as a sex-positive feminist, she pursues non-normative sexual expressions, and she discourages gender essentialist or universalized gender expressions. The representation of a self-identified feminist and proponent of diverse gender and sexual expression directly challenges the contemporary representation of female submission in feminist discussions of autonomy. The Feminist Female Slave advances discussions of female sexuality by encouraging a wider representation of a variety of women’s sexual lives. Relational Autonomy and Female Submission While theories of relational autonomy have common concerns regarding the influence of the social sphere on individuals’ autonomy, each responds differently to the possibility of autonomous submission in general. The work of Diana Meyers, introduced in Chapter 1, is categorized as a procedural account of autonomy. This means that on her account, actions are considered autonomous if they result from a particular decisionmaking process. This means that, for her, questions of autonomy are not determined by the content of the decision. The focus is rather on the process undertaken by an individual in making the decision. Meyers’ proceduralism can be seen in her identification of selfdiscovery, self-definition, and self-direction as necessary competencies in autonomous decision-making. In contrast, the procedural account provided by Andrea Westlund 71 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy requires autonomous individuals to partake in a dialogical reflection: they must possess the skills to respond to critical feedback from others. John Christman’s work focuses on the history of the individual agent and requires that an individual not feel alienated from decisions that they make. While this is a very brief overview and does not do justice to the subtleties of the theories developed by Meyers, Westlund, and Christman, it is important to establish that these theories, though varied in the requirements they set for autonomy, each focus on the importance of the underlying procedure to be taken in autonomous decision-making rather than the particular content or results of the decision-making process. This means that procedural accounts of autonomy could be amenable to declaring an individual’s submission as autonomous, so long as one follows the proper procedure. For example, if a submissive woman were to submit while satisfying Meyers’ requirements for selfdiscovery, self-definition, and self-direction, her submission could be considered autonomously chosen. Procedural accounts of autonomy do not declare female submission to be non-autonomous merely because of the kind of relationship it entails. In contrast to the proceduralism found in the work of Meyers’, Westlund, and Christman, other relational autonomy theorists like Marina Oshana, Sonya Charles, and Natalie Stoljar endorse what is known as a strong substantive account of relational autonomy. This form of relational autonomy requires that a decision possess a specific characteristic or satisfy an external criterion—i.e., a criterion that is not based in the internal deliberations of the agent—in order to be considered autonomous. One prominent example, introduced in Chapter 1, is Natalie Stoljar’s Feminist Intuition. According to 72 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy this criterion, to be autonomous, one’s decisions must be free from the influence of oppressive norms of femininity. Hers is an explicit case of strong substantive autonomy, as the process taken in one’s deliberation is not relevant to considering questions of autonomy: the focus is instead on the content of the decision made—on what kind of decision is being made. As a further example of strong substantive autonomy, Marina Oshana argues that autonomy requires an individual make decisions as an independent individual. This means that they should not have been influenced by social, psychological or physical restraints which would limit the realization of their goals, and that their decisions can be made without relying on both the “judgment and the will of others” (95). Sonya Charles builds upon the work of Natalie Stoljar and her notion of the Feminist Intuition in arguing that autonomy requires that we ensure that our decisions are not influenced by internalized oppression. Unlike proceduralist accounts, which allow for a variety of expressions of autonomous actions, strong substantive accounts of autonomy are more restrictive in which actions are considered autonomous. This means that the theories developed by Oshana, Charles, and Stoljar may not necessarily consider female submission to male partners to be autonomous, regardless of whether that same decision would meet the requirements for autonomy set out by procedural theorists. It is important to introduce this brief overview of the terrain in feminist relational approaches to autonomy because it needs to be made clear that while many theories fall under the same umbrella of relational autonomy, and even though they share the same commitments of incorporating social-embededness into discussions of autonomy, they do 73 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy not necessarily respond to questions of autonomy in the same manner. This is especially true in the case of female submission. These theories emphasize different components when evaluating questions of autonomy, which means that different theories of relational autonomy can result in conflicting responses when evaluating the same cases. Although I have briefly sketched some of the differences above, these will become more pronounced as I present the case studies. My purpose in providing these explanations is not to declare one theory as superior to others, but to highlight the theoretical distinctions found in similar case studies in spite of the similar frameworks they construct of the female submissive. Rather than presenting either strong substantive or procedural accounts of relational autonomy as superior, I hold that they are both guilty of overlooking considerations of the female submissive that go beyond the standard representation of female submission. I build on this by introducing the Feminist Female Slave in order to expand the characteristics attributed to female submissives. The Gendered Role of Men and Women: One of the more predominant characteristics of the representation of female submission by relational autonomy theorists is the reliance on separate (though not necessarily unequal) roles for men and women in their family lives, interpersonal relationships, and social interactions. Women are represented as puppets of men, whereby their role exists primarily to support them, rather than as agents in their own right. This gendered ideology is predominantly represented in case studies developed by John Christman and Sonya Charles. 74 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy John Christman introduces the case of Faiza X in The Politics of Persons: Individual Autonomy and Socio-Historical Selves, in order to highlight feminist responses to what he claims is a voice amongst the moral landscape. Faiza’s role as a submissive woman is heavily based on a cultural prescription of very particular and rigid roles for men and women. As is described in her case, Faiza X is a North African woman whose attempt to apply for French citizenship failed based on her subservient religious practices. These practices are based in a “particularly rigid form of Islam (Salasm), in which she dresses in full-body veil, obeys her husband and other male members of her family in all important matters, and rarely leaves the house except to bring her children to school” (176). Ultimately, Faiza X was unsuccessful in her attempt to gain French citizenship as the court considered her to have “adopted a radical practice of her religion incompatible with the essential values of the French community, notably with the principle of equality of the sexes” (176). As Christman notes, the French court claims that Faiza’s life was one in which she lived almost as a recluse, where “‘she lives in total submission to the men in her family… and the idea of contesting this submission doesn’t even occur to her’” (Associated Press in Christman, 176). Christman notes that this lack of reflection may mean that she fails to satisfy the requirements for autonomy, but he argues that accounts of autonomy themselves must also include a wide variety of capacities for “care, intimacy, social interaction, and the like that will be crucial for socially embedded persons to flourish” (177). Given that she is so dependent upon the male members of her family, Faiza’s role both inside and outside the house are very different from those of her husband and other 75 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy male family members. Decisions regarding her dress, her actions, and other matters in her life are left up to her husband and other male family members, and this very rigid gendered division of responsibilities and expressions is what resulted in the denial of Faiza X’s application for French citizenship. These requirements and restrictions are placed on her because of her gender, which is seen as violating the equality of the sexes espoused by the French government, and thus limiting her ability to assimilate into French culture (176). Faiza’s role as a woman requires that she work to support or follow the men in her life, rather than following her own unique desires and needs. Sonya Charles builds upon the work of strong substantive theorists who hold that normative, or external, conditions should be present within one’s decision in order for it to be considered autonomous. In her paper “How Should Feminist Autonomy Theorists Respond to the Problem of Internalized Oppression?” Charles uses the case of the Surrendered Wife to elaborate Natalie Stoljar’s Feminist Intuition (409). As described in Chapter 1, the Feminist Intuition claims that decisions that are influenced by oppressive norms of femininity cannot be autonomous. The Surrendered Wife is part of an organized movement for women, which claims more than 100 000 women in their program (417). The Surrendered Wife movement claims, “‘the control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage to revitalize intimacy’” (Doyle in Chambers, 417). Laura Doyle, who developed the Surrendered Wife movement in her book of the same name, claims that surrendering is not necessarily about subservience, but about giving up “control (specifically of the finances and her opinions) and learn[ing] to trust her husband” (417). Couples have described their practices as including wives 76 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy drawing their husband’s baths, “having him approve her list of daily chores, [and] giving him complete control over when they have sex” (417). The roles that are expressed by the Surrendered Wives differ greatly from their husbands. Surrendered Wives are expected to provide a supportive role to their husbands when in the home, ensuring that husbands maintain control. As in the case of Faiza X, the division between partners is not based on individual skills or preferences; rather rules are rigidly prescribed for all, based on gender. The role of the female submissive in both cases is not negotiated, but rather is embedded in the universalized, gendered vision of the practice. The women in these cases are expected to enact roles that support or serve their male spouses, or other male family members, whereby they act as agents of these men, rather than agents in their own right. All Women Should be Submissive: Along with separate roles for men and women, female submissives in relational accounts of autonomy are often presented as advocating that the role of a female submissive is not merely correct for the individual women that are the focus of these case studies, but that all women ought to take these same roles. They follow a particular gendered ideology that prescribes roles for all men and women, and thus assume that other women should act the same way. This is similar to the previous characteristic, in that there is an explicit ascription for submissive roles based on gender, but it also builds on the previous example by showing how the role of the female submissive is seen as the proper role that all women ought to take. 77 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Thomas Hill Jr’s Deferential Wife offers an example of a submissive woman who views her role as universal for women. While the focus of this paper is primarily directed towards feminist relational accounts of autonomy and their responses to female submission, it would be remiss of me not to include Thomas Hill Jr’s work on the Deferential Wife in this discussion. Hill’s case study has been very influential, and feminist philosophers have been engaging with it since its publication in the early 1970’s (see: Superson 2011, Charles 2010). Hill’s work on female submission and autonomy come together in his discussion of the Deferential Wife. Hill describes the Deferential Wife as a woman who “is utterly devoted to serving her husband. She buys the clothes he prefers, invites the guests he wants to entertain, and makes love whenever he is in the mood” (italics in original, 89). She puts her husband’s interests and career desires before her own, as she “willingly moves to a new city in order for him to have a more attractive job, counting her own friendships and geographical preferences insignificant by comparison” (89). The Deferential Wife responds to concerns outlined by feminists by asserting her belief that the submissive role of women is universal. As Hill describes her, the Deferential Wife: “readily responds to appeals from Women’s Liberation that women are mentally and physically equal, if not superior, to men. She just believes that the proper role for a woman is to serve her family” (89) She is capable of responding to the concerns raised by feminists about her choices, but these do not change her perspective, as “no one is trampling on her rights, she says, for she is quite glad, and proud, to serve her husband as she does” (89). 78 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy The Deferential Wife’s role as submissive to her husband is one that is seen by her as having a universal applicability. She does not defend her role as one that suits her best, although she claims she is quite happy in her role, rather she holds that she takes this role because it is the right one for women to take. The range of options for women’s lives is thus quite narrow and limited. This universalization of submission is also seen in the work of the Surrendered Wives, as the expression of the wife drawing her husband’s bath and giving up control to him in the home is seen as the ‘proper’ role of women. These perspectives on subservience are not represented as suitable for the individual female submissive, but are presented as the proper expression of womanhood, of what it means to be a wife, of what it means to be a woman. The universalization of female submission is presented as either explicit in, or as an undertone to many of these cases. The Submissive Woman as Religious: Religious devotion is a common element in the case studies of female submission used by relational autonomy theorists. It should be noted that this does not mean that religious involvements or affiliations necessarily prescribe restrictive roles for women, but merely that some religious communities offer precise roles for women and that submission is frequently religiously motivated in case-studies presented. The women’s communities are often presented as belittling the intelligence of women, limiting their opportunities for growth and independence, and potentially limiting their ability for a fulfilling life. For Faiza X, religion appears to play an integral role in influencing the structure of both her daily life and overall life path. Faiza X leads an extremely restricted life because her religious community prescribes it. In cases such as these, religion is 79 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy presented as the predominant guiding source for submission and for how this submission ought to be expressed. The women’s submission is not presented as a choice they have made; rather their subservience is part of the prescribed role for women in their particular religion. Diana Meyers’ introduces the case of the Housewife in “Personal Autonomy and the Paradox of Feminine Socialization”. The Housewife is described as a traditional woman who “summons the courage to demand that her child’s teacher show respect for values she cherishes” (625). The traditional woman, in this case, is one who is a Christian fundamentalist who is angered by the teacher’s glib dismissal of creationism, and [who] is a fundamentalist preacher’s poorly educated daughter who has never been exposed to less benighted theological doctrines and who has never questioned her faith. Plainly, her conduct is heteronomous to the extent that it voices beliefs that she regards as immune to criticism (626). Meyers’ traditional woman is one who was raised in a religious household and expressed her autonomy through the defense of her beliefs against those who are dismissive of them. The role of religion in her life is quite influential, as it is the source of her belief in, and defense of, creationist doctrines. Unlike the case of Faiza X it is not clear how the religion of the Housewife has influenced her role within her family. However, it is clear that her rigid religious upbringing has influenced her beliefs and has limited her in some way, such as with regard to her education and her lack of critical self-reflection. The Taliban Woman is a fictional case developed by Marina Oshana to demonstrate that just because an individual endorses their role, does not mean they are autonomous. The Taliban Woman “has embraced the role of subservience and the 80 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy abdication of independence that it demands, out of reverence, a sense of purpose, and an earnest belief in the sanctity of this role as espoused in certain passages of the Qu’aran” (104). We are told that she was not always so devoted to her religious community in this way, as she “had previously enjoyed a successful career as a physician” (104). Since then, however, she has chosen to devote herself to her religion, and with that come certain requirements for how her religious devotion ought to be practiced and the impact that it has on her life. As Oshana notes, the Taliban woman “can no longer practice medicine…She is not permitted to support herself financially. She has no voice in the manner and duration of any schooling that her children, particularly her daughters receive” (104). The Taliban Woman is also subject to punishment when she breaks rules, as “she knows that any transgression, any show of independence counts as heretical defiance and invites punishment both swift and harsh” (104). However, she nonetheless endorses and values her life-choices, as they are “consistent with [her] spiritual and social values, [and] provide her with a sense of worth, and satisfy her notion of well-being” (104). We can gather, from Oshana’s description, that the Taliban Woman and her dedication to her role in her community and family are heavily based in religious tradition. This is similar to the case of Faiza X and Meyers’ Housewife, where religion plays a major role in the practices and lives of these women. It is important to note, though, that in these cases the influence of religion serves to limit women’s options for their romantic and sexual relationship structures. Religion is not viewed as providing 81 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy greater opportunities to submissive women, rather it endorses rigid gendered ideologies that are viewed as limiting women’s agency. The Submissive Woman is not a Feminist: The most significant similarity amongst the cases used by relational autonomy theorists is that there is no recognition or acknowledgement of the possibility that the female submissive could be a feminist or could even be committed to feminist ideals. Of the cases presented in this paper, Westlund’s Anti-Feminist case offers us the most explicit reference to the issue, but Westlund fails to explicitly outline why her female submissive is averse to feminist principles. In “Selflessness and Responsibility for Self: Is Deference Compatible with Autonomy?” Andrea Westlund focuses on what she calls self-abnegating deference. Westlund argues that this kind of deference is suspect, because it “expresses an attitude that is more intuitively self-undermining – to abnegate oneself is, in some sense, to deny or to efface oneself” (italics in original, 486). Rather, Westlund claims that individuals are able to “function interpersonally as autonomous agents” through responsibility for self. This takes place when one is able to hold themselves as “answerable, for one’s endorsements, to external critical perspectives” (495). She introduces the case of the Deferential Wife as an example of a self-abnegating individual, but notes that it is not merely the Deferential Wife’s subservient position that renders her non-autonomous. Rather, Westlund claims that it is her inability to respond to the criticism of others that is more deeply problematic. 82 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy In explaining that it is not the case that submissive women are necessarily lacking in autonomy, Westlund introduces the case of the extreme Anti-Feminist (the AF). Like the Deferential Wife, the Anti-Feminist believes that “women ought to put their own interests last and defer to their husbands in all matters relevant to their joint lives” (512). While Westlund doesn’t explicitly outline her religious or community affiliations, she does note that the AF “may place herself within a religious community whose creed she shares and whose lifestyle she values, or she may gesture toward some other, secular account of women’s proper role in the family” (512). As well, Westlund claims she might not be particularly intelligent, as “we needn’t imagine that she is especially sophisticated or subtle” (512). Unlike the Deferential Wife, the Anti-Feminist is able to engage in some “justificatory dialogue about her deference. She is capable of engaging in a form of such dialogue with herself, moreover, and tends to do so in moments of doubt. She exercises, both inter- and intra-personally, a capacity for holding herself answerable to external critical perspectives on her choices and conduct” (512). The Anti-Feminist is able to respond to the concerns and considerations of others. She may not find that such a dialogue sways her resolve, but it is her participation in such discussions that allows her to express her autonomy. Westlund hints that the Anti-Feminist’s role is influenced by normative representations of gender, whether they are based in religious or sexual community traditions, but fails to give an exact description of the motivating factors for the AntiFeminist. We can be quite certain that she does not identify with feminist considerations, 83 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy due to her name, and can see that her dedication to her role is of a universal nature, meaning that she imagines it ought to apply to all women. Hill’s Deferential Wife is one of the few cases, like Westlund’s Anti-Feminist, to acknowledge feminism. However, the Deferential Wife distances herself from feminist concerns. Although Hill claims that the Deferential Wife is aware of the work of feminists, who want to educate her about her worth, she feels that the role she has taken is the one that is best for her and other women. Implicit in this is the belief that her role or viewpoints may be incompatible with feminist commitments (89). Although the Deferential Wife may not be actively opposed to feminism, she sees it as irrelevant to herself. Faiza X’s case also presents a view that sees men and women as expressing very different, fixed roles based on gender. These cases fail to acknowledge the possibility that the female submissive could be committed to any feminist ideals, such as a strong voice and desire for women’s rights and freedoms, including pursuing individual choices for one’s life path. Instead, these cases often present the female subject as operating in opposition to those ideals. In short, none of these cases offers a representation of a female submissive that identifies as a feminist. As we can see in the above cases, the female submissive as represented in relational autonomy is not necessarily a monolithic being. Case studies that engage with female submission are not interchangeable, and often offer different considerations of the female submissive’s motivations, desires, and the context surrounding her submission. However, when looking at the characteristics that are most prominent in the representation of the female submissive in relational autonomy, it becomes clear that 84 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy there are common threads in her representation. Her dedication to religion, her essentialization of female submission, her endorsement of separate gender roles, and her disinterest in or her rejection of feminism come together to present a similar representation of female submission. In the next section I re-introduce the Feminist Female Slave in order to show how her motivations and relationship to her submissive role directly challenges the representation of female submission in relational autonomy. The Feminist Female Slave While the FFS takes a very specific and fixed role in her relationship with her Master, this does not necessarily mean that she views this relationship structure as one that others ought to follow, nor does she claim that it is universal. The FFS views her relationship as suitable for her, but not necessarily suitable for all. This position reflects the FFS’s dedication to individual choice; she sees her role to be the result of her own expression of choice, a choice of sexual expression that ought to be offered to all women. Her position is consistent with the BDSM community’s perspective on choice in sexual roles and expression. Her membership in the BDSM community offers her a wide variety of relationship and sexual structures and expressions, as women are not required or expected to take submissive roles or to participate in heterosexual relationships merely because she is a woman. From this she is not required to take a role as a slave in order to maintain membership in the BDSM community. While several of the theorists provide examples of female submission in which her religious commitments include a rigid understandings of women's roles (especially in marriage) the BDSM female slave is not under those same restrictions because of her own community membership. The Feminist 85 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Female Slave could have been the Feminist Female Dominant or the Feminist Female Sadist while maintaining the same role and value within her community. As well, the Feminist Female Slave does not subscribe to gender essentialism. As she does not belong to any communities that dictate rigid gender roles or gender expressions (it is, in fact, quite the opposite), she views her role as one choice among many as she can freely express herself, sexually and romantically. It was not her “natural path” to take a submissive role to her partner, and nor does she think this is her only available option. To her, this does not mean that it is a better choice than the one that the previous cases made, merely that this was a choice that she either sought out or made later in life. She was not confined by an upbringing that taught that she (or women in general) ought to become slaves. It might be difficult for some to imagine that a feminist identification could be compatible with female submission, particularly in the explicit sense employed by the FFS. However, many female submissives in the BDSM community do explicitly identify as feminists, viewing their sexual practices as an expression of the sexual freedom encouraged by many forms of feminism. As we saw in Chapter 2, interviews with BDSM participants, such as with Bambi Bottom, reveal that many female submissives identify as both submissives and as feminists. As the authors of Different Loving noted after their research, “our female interviewees agreed that real sexual freedom implies freedom of choice: One should be free to decide for oneself what kind of sexual activity affords the maximum of sexual pleasure” (54). In her paper “Thoughts on Rope, Submission, and Feminism,” Madison Young claims there ought to be no conflict between feminism and 86 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy submission as her account of feminism “bases itself on the idea that sexual freedom is an essential component of women’s freedom” (55). Her role as a submissive is not as a victim, but is truly an expression of taking control and embracing her sexuality (55). Female submissives see themselves as expressing feminist sexualities, in that they are making decisions about what is the best sexual expression for their own self rather than relying on dominant gendered scripts about how they ought to express their sexuality. The FFS challenges the construction of the RAFS. The FFS reflects common elements found in the BDSM community’s understanding of sexuality and gender. As was mentioned in Chapter 2, BDSM offers a range of practices that are not based in gender. Men and women can equally take dominant and submissive roles, they can participate in a range of kinky practices, such as bondage or some kind of fetishistic practice. Roles are not ascribed based on gender, but are rather available to all. It is hoped, then, that the FFS partakes in her practices of female submission not because she was raised to become a female submissive, and not because her religion or ideology prescribed it to her, but because after participating in a community where a wide range of options for sexual practices was made available to her, this one role felt best. Importantly, this is the one role which felt best for her. Just as the FFS did not follow this role because it was set out as the only role for her, she recognizes that this role is not one which may be most suitable to other women. She does not expect other women to become female slaves, and is happy for her friends and family when they also follow sexual and romantic roles that seem best for them. 87 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy A question that we might ask is: what difference does it make if we consider the Feminist Female Slave in our discussions of female submission? The answer is that it challenges the fundamental ways in which we view the female submissive. While the female submissive's explicit commitment to feminism does not in and of itself mean that she is autonomous in her decision to become a submissive, it does add another layer of complexity missing from non-feminist cases. Her feminist background indicates some understanding of the concept of patriarchy, as well as some awareness of the way in which gender (and its roles) can restrict others. She might not possess a comprehensive knowledge of feminism, but she has gained some of its tools regarding gender and sex, and she feels able to draw on these in her pursuit of her submissive role. I think that such tools will allow her to challenge some concerns outlined by some of the above case studies. While the case studies discussed in this chapter have focused on women who had taken roles that were either determined for them or fell in line with how they thought women ought to act in general, the FFS follows merely one of many options for a sexual and romantic relationship. The FFS offers us a case where an individual was able to choose from a range of possibilities, chooses to participate in such a relationship not because it was what was expected of her, but because she felt it was that which best suited her, and is not necessarily right for everyone. She holds that men and women are equal and that it is not the proper role of women to submit to men, but that it is up to each individual and couple to determine how their relationship should function. 88 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Taking seriously the case of the Feminist Female Slave expands our discussion of female submission. For feminist philosophers to engage solely with one kind of female submissive, regardless of how the philosopher evaluates such submission, ignores the way in which women lead their sexual lives. To declare submission to either be autonomous or non-autonomous based on a limited representation of submission leaves her in a position where she is unacknowledged as a ‘proper’ kind of submissive or her agency is called into question. From a feminist perspective, the case studies of female submission are not terribly sympathetic—these are women who could be described as naïve, indoctrinated, or just completely unaware of how they are confined by their roles. When we fail to consider the representation of female submission outside of these cases, when we fail to consider what it would look like for women to choose submission while still identifying as a feminist, we reinforce the negative stereotypes and thus apply them to all submissive women. Many of the BDSM interview subjects in Chapter 1 acknowledged the frustration they feel due to the monolithic representation of female submission by feminists. They often claim they have to defend their relationships, making clear that they chose to become slaves, that they do identify as feminists, and that they are happy in their relationships. Because of the way we respond to these cases of female submission, the female slave is on the defensive merely by taking the role that she does. I don't think this provides an adequate representation of female sexuality and for feminist philosophy to reinforce such a stereotypical representation of female submission is problematic. But this 89 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy can be corrected through the inclusion of the Feminist Female Slave within our discussions of female submission and autonomy. I do not offer the Feminist Female Slave as normative for all female submission, and I do not presume that all accounts of relational autonomy will find that her case fulfills their account of autonomy. However, including her within our discussions of women’s autonomy and female sexual submission is valuable because it broadens our engagement with the topic of female submission and allows us to move beyond a restricted engagement to offer a more realistic and representative account of female submission. The purpose of this chapter was to expose some of the assumptions found in feminist literature on women’s autonomy in order to provide a counter-example that offers a more diverse representation of female submission. The cases above, while only a sampling, fall short of being inclusive. The failure to provide a comprehensive representation of women’s romantic and sexual relationships has serious consequences for women’s status as agents. First, to fail to address diverse relationship structures leads us to commit oversights in both our theoretical and political engagements with women’s autonomy. For some relationships to be overlooked in our work on autonomy, risks rendering the women in these relationships invisible to all. We must continue to develop the theoretical tools to address the reality of women’s lives. The case of the FFS provides us with a first step in that direction. 90 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Chapter 4: Autonomy and Consent in BDSM Theory In the preceding chapters I argued that relational theories of autonomy lack diversity in their presentation and treatment of female submission. This, I contend, is problematic because of the way it limits our engagement with women’s sexual expression. Despite my concerns with the representation of submission in general in this approach, my purpose is not to declare relational autonomy as insufficient. I contend that relational autonomy provides important challenges to assumptions found in mainstream accounts of autonomy, and provides a viable alternative to these. This chapter aims to identify the features of relational autonomy that make it particularly well-suited to addressing problems found in the BDSM community’s approach to autonomy. In this chapter I argue that the current approach to autonomy used by many in the heterosexual BDSM community10 possesses severe theoretical gaps, which renders it philosophically inadequate. In order to provide an adequate account of autonomy, the BDSM community must address challenges directed towards its liberal assumptions, particularly as these are considered foundational to the community itself and embedded in the way that BDSM events are structured and the way participants identify as autonomous and evaluate the autonomy of others. Without addressing these concerns, the BDSM community runs the risk of endorsing a practice that is insufficiently theorized, open to abuse, and fails to apply to all members of the practicing community. This chapter will 10 It should be noted that while I speak of the BDSM community in this chapter, I focus on the heterosexual BDSM community in which the FFS is a member. I do not claim that all BDSM communities are interchangeable, and that many different BDSM communities may have different viewpoints and perspectives on autonomy, consent, and other important areas. I focus solely on the BDSM community that the FFS is a member of. 91 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy highlight these areas of concern, showing how it is the BDSM community’s commitment to a liberal account of autonomy that results in its theoretical gaps, and the effect that it has on the BDSM community and its practices. My argument builds upon many of the characteristics of autonomy in BDSM highlighted in Chapter 2. Finally, I will show how important features of relational accounts of autonomy can address these concerns and can be used to supplement this community’s approach to autonomy in order to make it more nuanced and realistic. In this chapter I make two major claims regarding the use of autonomy in the BDSM community. First, I argue that the approach to autonomy used by many BDSM communities relies on problematic assumptions about individual autonomy that fail to account for the breadth of practices used in BDSM communities, fail to provide sufficient room for critical discussion of concepts central to BDSM such as consent, and do not address the influence of the social sphere upon BDSM practitioners and practices. I will show that these limitations are expressed through the foundational BDSM practice of Safe, Sane, Consensual as well as the liberal notion of autonomy endorsed by the BDSM community. Second, I argue that in light of these problems, BDSM communities ought to adopt or incorporate a relational approach to autonomy, as it offers a more nuanced approach to cases of the long-term, romantic relationship with explicitly uneven power dynamics such as the Master/slave relationship, acknowledges the influence of the social sphere, and it offers room for critical engagement of concepts like consent and autonomy. I will show how Diana Meyers’ and Andrea Westlund’s relational accounts of autonomy are able to incorporate the freedom of sexual expression and value of the individual that is 92 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy important to BDSM communities, while still addressing the influence of pernicious socialization and the way relationships with others affect our autonomy. I will conclude by discussing how the characteristics found within relational autonomy can deepen the theory and practice of BDSM. BDSM and Autonomy BDSM communities have been rightly concerned with ensuring the autonomy and consent of all their participants. Responding to accusations that their practices were harmful or abusive, BDSM communities have explicitly incorporated discussions of consent into their community events and practices. The criterion they use is known as Safe, Sane, Consensual [SSC] and has become a general mantra for the community, with many members viewing this standard as a necessary requirement for safe and healthy BDSM. Safe, Sane, and Consensual11 is seen as the “basic moral guideline for contemporary D&S [Dominant and Submissive] relationships” (Brame et al, 49). As Brame et al note from their research on dominance and submission, “[c]onsensuality is really the first law of the D&S communities – and with good reason. Our interviewees incessantly emphasized the consensual nature of D&S, no doubt because of extreme sensitivity over the popular perceptions of sadomasochists” (52). In order to ensure that practices are consensual, BDSM communities advocate rigorous negotiation practices, in which individuals articulate their desires, as well as the practices that make them uncomfortable or that they find undesirable. The goal of this negotiation 11 It should be noted that some BDSM practitioners use RACK (risk-aware consensual kink), rather than SSC, due to the perception that SSC sanitized BDSM (Taormino, 21, 22). Regardless of whether a practitioner subscribes to RACK or SSC as a guiding principle for BDSM practices, my overall concern with the practice of consensuality in BDSM remains the same, as neither practice appears to unpack the meaning of consent beyond allowing practices to be applied to oneself and their body. 93 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy process, along with continuous oversight by participating actors, is to ensure that BDSM practices do not harm individuals in an unintended way, i.e. in a way to which they have not consented. It should be noted that consent and autonomy in BDSM theory can often become conflated: whereby a practice is autonomous if one has consented to it. This means that while discussions may primarily focus on the presence of consent in BDSM, autonomy is still relevant and intertwined with the discussion. Consent is a common theme in BDSM-educational books and is often seen as the starting point for BDSM activities. It is a continuous and always-present component in discussions of safe BDSM play, but what consent means (beyond voluntarily allowing a practice to take place) is not explicitly questioned or unpacked. Texts such as Brame et al’s Different Loving, Tristain Taromino’s The Ultimate Guide to Kink, and Miss Abernathy’s Erotic Slavehood, present consent as an “explicit, informed, verbal approval after negotiation, a confident and secure “Yes!”” (Taormino, 16). Consent requires individuals to have discussed limitations, detailed what the BDSM practices themselves will involve, and make explicit any concerns that partners may have (ibid). Importantly, Taormino notes that the process of giving consent in BDSM is one which gives individuals a time to speak freely, for “when you give consent, you do so willingly, without pressure, coercion, or reservation. You agree to play, communicate during the scene, and stop if you need to” (Taormino, 16). Madison Young, in her paper “Thoughts on Rope, Submission, and Feminism”, views consent as giving legitimacy to kinky sexual practices. She notes “BDSM is based around power and sensation play with a strong emphasis on communication and consent. Submissives engaging in this kind of 94 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy consensual sexual activity are validating their sexuality through the act of their submission” (55). Miss Abernathy notes that the “distinction between BDSM and barbarism can be summed up in one word: consent” (12). She claims that many roles found in BDSM, particularly in role play where participants may play as “the plantation owner and black slave or the Greek prince and captive barbarian warrior,” are “chosen” (12). The expression of choice is the “key word” for Abernathy (12), who argues that in the instance of BDSM role-play and expression “we are talking about consenting adults making rational, informed decisions about their own lives” (13). Consent is clearly seen as the dividing line between abuse and free action for BDSM practitioners. Margot Weiss’s ethnography of the San Francisco BDSM scene addresses the practice or ritual of negotiation in BDSM practices and the arduous lengths to which it asks participants to conform. She notes that due to the widespread use of SSC as a foundation for BDSM practices, the practice of negotiation can be a lengthy process, but it is seen to reaffirm the consensual nature of the BDSM practices that take place after the negotiation process. SSC requires a high level of intimate interaction in order to achieve the community standard for consent. This process is taken as demonstrative of how BDSM practices are consensual, as so much effort is put into communicating one’s desires and limitations. Weiss describes the general process of negotiation in her book, drawing upon the popular SM guidebook SM 101. She claims that individuals are expected to explain their comfort level regarding the persons involved in the activity, along with the “place; how long the scene will last; emotional and physical limits; presence and kind of sex and safe95 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy sex procedures; presence and kind of bondage and pain; what, if any, marks can be left; and safewords” (Weiss, 81). To articulate one’s desires, limitations, concerns, and curiosity for sexual expression occupies a large component of the BDSM understanding of consent. To engage in these negotiation practices ensures that participants are in touch with their inner selves and participating in actions that they truly want, and thus are participating in consensual acts. In the work of Abernathy, Taormino, Brame, and other BDSM scholars, consent appears to mostly be informed by the process of negotiation. BDSM practitioners are said to be aware of their sexual and emotional desires as well as their limitations and able to articulate them clearly to another. The dialogue that takes place between individuals reinforces that these practices are truly desired by those who perform them. However, relying on negotiation and dialogue as the ultimate indicator of autonomy and consent fails to address certain areas of concern, namely the role of the social sphere in negotiation, and the failure of SSC to apply to all BDSM practices. I will show in the following sections how these assumptions, and others, lead to a severe weakness in BDSM discussions of autonomy and consent12. Concerns With The Use of Consent in BDSM: In response to arguments that their practices are abusive, BDSM communities and theorists often argue that their practices are explicitly consensual and thus cannot be abusive. Practices that may seem harmful at first glance are rendered acceptable solely because of the presence of consent. The man who gets lashed by their partner is not 12 For more information on the problematic nature of consent and its historical roots, which is outside the scope of this chapter, see Jeffrey Weeks’ The Language of Sexuality (2011). 96 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy viewed as the victim of physical abuse because he has consented to being struck. This section will isolate some characteristics found in BDSM communities’ approaches to autonomy which result in vital theoretical gaps. The theoretical gaps in the use of consent highlights the insufficiency of this use of autonomy and consent, which, in extreme cases, could actually be used to hide abuse rather than serve to eliminate it. In this section I introduce the work of Meg Barker to establish concerns that have been raised regarding the application of consent in the BDSM community. While Barker and I make different arguments regarding how the practice of consent ought to be amended or altered, we both are concerned with the way in which consent in BDSM is solely the domain of the individual, with little room for critical engagement. In her paper “Consent is a grey area? A comparison of understandings of consent in Fifty Shades of Grey and on the BDSM blogosphere”, Barker compares the simplistic use of consent found in the book series Fifty Shades of Grey to discussions of consent in BDSM blogs and practices. While her paper raises some very interesting criticisms of consent in BDSM discourse, it is also very valuable in the way it identifies norms of consent within the BDSM community. Barker claims that most community literature reflects “the kind of sexual consent negotiations presented in Fifty Shades”, despite the attempts from the BDSM community to distance itself from the Fifty Shades phenomena (900). The component she identifies as most important is its emphasis on the individual. The individual is wholly responsible for giving and withdrawing consent (897). Barker claims that in Fifty Shades, and, relatedly, in the larger BDSM community, “consent remains located internally, within the individuals concerned, without the potential for any 97 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy collective element to consent decisions” (898). She identifies the source of this approach to be the result of BDSM communities’ acceptance of “neoliberal understandings of consent whereby those consenting [are] equal and free to do so without constraint” (908). Barker’s arguments are similar to ones laid out by Margot Weiss (2011), who notes that consent and autonomy in BDSM are considered to be individual acts and fail to take into account the very real power imbalances that take place in the social sphere. Barker’s text takes an interesting approach in that it addresses the effects of the failures found in this kind of consent and how it has lead to instances of abuse. Barker describes the abusive practices as follows: “[when] saying ‘no’ or safewording were not respected, [when]dominants used toys or engaged in practices which [she] had not consented to and/or explicitly stated that she did not want, and [where] dominants had continued with play after a scene had ended” (902). In her survey of articles written by other BDSM bloggers on issues of abuse within the community, Barker notes that many take issue with the reliance on consent as the “veneer under which people actually assume that anything is fine so long as the other person enjoys it or doesn’t complain” (904). Barker notes that these bloggers, in order to address their concerns, have proposed incorporating collective responsibility into the notion of consent. This, they feel, challenges the argument that abuse does not take place in BDSM as well as the representation of what abuse looks like. Such bloggers propose that this notion of collective responsibility requires: acknowledging that abuse happens within BDSM communities, including in situations with people who are well-respected or leaders themselves and in various different dynamics; listening to survivors, providing them 98 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy with resources where possible and respecting their choices; taking responsibility for calling people out – and potentially excluding them or listing their names – when they behave non-consensually; providing education – particularly to people new to communities and people who have engaged in non-consensual behaviour (903-4). Such suggestions are helpful for challenging the silencing and erasure of abuse within BDSM communities. However, the solutions offered by Barker’s paper fail to address some of the larger concerns that I hold with BDSM theory. While I applaud the work done by Barker and other BDSM bloggers to raise awareness of the prevalence of abuse in BDSM communities, and support many of her suggested amendments to community education on consent, our work has different purposes. Barker wants to eliminate practices that lead to abuse in BDSM, and I aim to encourage a more theoretically rigorous account of autonomy that takes greater care in addressing the influence of pernicious socialization, which then effects the process taken in acquiring consent. Barker’s suggestions for collective responsibility fail to fully address the effect that the social sphere, power differentials, and interpersonal relationships can have on our autonomy. Thus, this proposal fails to fully address the impact that the social sphere has on our ability to give consent. As well, when BDSM practices take place outside of community events (such as is the case of many Master/slave relationships), the BDSM community cannot just rely on the group to ensure that practices are not abusive. An account of autonomy must be developed or adopted by the BDSM community that balances the dedication and commitment to individual choice in sexual expression, while still acknowledging the very real power and social 99 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy stratifications and relationships that influence our choices. In the next section I will outline how theoretical issues found in contemporary BDSM theories of autonomy and consent hinder the efficacy of these approaches and then suggest ways in which relational autonomy may bridge these gaps. Consent and Autonomy: As was mentioned, consent is seen as “the moral dividing line between brutality and D&S” in BDSM, whereby one must give “clear and informed” consent in order to participate in BDSM practices (Brame et al. 52). But what does the practice of consent entail? What does it mean to consent to BDSM practices, particularly when some BDSM practices can cause (both intended and unintended) harm? Unfortunately, many texts on BDSM, beyond outlining the steps that ought to be taken in order to give consent, fail to offer any further explanation as to what consent entails, or what could diminish one’s ability to consent beyond mental or emotional incapacitation. Some authors, like Weiss, have aimed to describe consent beyond its legitimating role. She claims that in BDSM practices, consent “means more than free from coercion; consent becomes, in these rules, a way to insist on the voluntary participation in, and thus participant’s own responsibility for, SM play” (94). Weiss’ attempts to break down the meaning of consent are far from the norm, as many other authors like Staci Newmahr, engage with the topic of consent only so far as to claim that it is a necessary component of BDSM in general. Such a representation of the relationship between BDSM and consent makes it difficult to problematize consent in BDSM, as all BDSM practices are defined as inherently consensual (18). Newmahr’s incorporation of consent in BDSM defines SM as “the 100 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy collection of activities that involve the mutually consensual and conscious use… of pain, power, perceptions about power, or any combination thereof, for psychological, emotional, or sensory pleasure” (18). Newmahr shares this approach with Abernathy and other prominent BDSM writers, who consider BDSM to be inherently consensual. For consent to be established as an inherent part of BDSM insulates BDSM from practices that may cross the line and may cause moral or political trouble for the BDSM community and practitioners in general. Nonconsensual events are easily separated from the BDSM community, as they can be described as abusive and thus not truly BDSM. Consent is thus the dividing line between BDSM and abuse, as it separates and encourages good BDSM practices, while simultaneously distancing these from unsavoury or abusive, non-BDSM activities. What is troubling about this approach is that while consent is seen as the necessary component for BDSM, very little has been said about it. Beyond describing it as a discussion of limits that take place immediately prior to BDSM events, consent has failed to be unpacked by mainstream BDSM scholars. Of particular concern is the failure of BDSM theories to explore what it means for an individual to be autonomous when consenting to these practices. Failure to Provide Room for Critical Analysis: As detailed in Chapter 2, BDSM communities are influenced by liberal thought, primarily in its use of an individualistic approach to autonomy. The influence of liberal thought on BDSM communities is also reflected in the community’s understanding of what it means to consent to a practice, what conditions are required in order to give consent, and in how the BDSM community itself responds to practices that have been 101 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy deemed consensual. In her paper, “Sex, Law, and Consent”, Robin West argues that liberal perspectives on sex can serve to insulate practices from critical engagement. While outlining the value attributed to consensual sex in libertarian legal theory, Millian liberalism, and liberal feminism, she claims that in these approaches “consent to sex renders the sex that follows victimless, central to autonomy and identity… and emblematic of the equal worth of she who gives it” (223). West claims that for liberals, consensual sex “ought to be left alone: by law, by the community, by various would-be moral censors, and by politically motivated interrogators” (223). The role of consent in sex, according to these accounts, is what renders it legitimate and legitimate sexual acts are those which ought to be free from external scrutiny. Such freedom results in the insulation of consensual BDSM acts from critical engagement. I argue that this insulation is harmful and ought to be reconsidered One of the ways in which liberal thought has influenced the BDSM community’s use of consent in sexual practices is found in how consent renders sexual practices free from moral and political critique. This can be seen in Ritchie and Barker’s study of feminist BDSM practitioners and their responses to sexual practices that they find troubling. Laura, one participant, when asked which BDSM practices might be deemed anti-feminist, claimed that 24/7 female submissive relationships (such as the case of the Feminist Female Slave) might not necessarily be anti-feminist, but that she still finds this relationship structure to be somewhat problematic. She hesitates with this position, though, claiming that “if it’s negotiated, consensual, and everything, I don’t know if I can really say ‘no, sorry, that’s anti-feminist’, if that woman has chosen to be a 24/7 102 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy submissive…” (16, italics in original). Laura’s discomfort at labeling a practice that she felt could be harmful because it met the BDSM community’s requirements for consent falls in line with West’s analysis of liberal perspectives on sex, where it is claimed that consensual sexual activities ought to be free from moral and political critique. Laura knows that she finds something about 24/7 submission to be disconcerting, but she cannot truly offer a sufficient criticism of this practice because it meets the requirement for consent. She has no additional grounds on which to problematize this relationship. Laura’s response to 24/7 submission verbalizes the way in which liberal notions of consent functions in BDSM communities to insulate practices from critique by other community members and outsiders. Other participants in Ritchie and Barker’s study echoed Laura’s position by claiming that choice was key to BDSM practices (16-18). However, this position is problematic because not only is it naïve to claim that practices that have gone through a process of negotiation could not be abusive, it is a faux pas to question the validity of consent once it has been established (as defined by the community). The liberal approach to sex, while valuable in its attempt to ensure that individuals have a freedom of sexual expression free from fear of legal or political persecution, also has other effects which hinder the ability for critical engagement with BDSM sexual practices. Dorchen Leidholt, in a very strongly worded criticism of sexual liberals, claims that this line of liberal thought views sexuality as being “so fragile, that any analysis, criticism, or attempt at change threatens not only the existence of human sexuality but everyone’s freedom” (ix). She claims that there is an underlying position that liberal 103 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy sexual thought distances itself from criticism or critical analysis because such analysis would have a detrimental effect upon sexuality as a whole. This falls in line with West’s representation of liberal sexuality, where sex that takes place between individuals, and anything that is consensual, should be free from critique. This attempt to distance consensual sex from moral and political outrage, also serves to remove it from moral and political critique (223), and from this, the consensual sex is then legitimized (224). The focus on ensuring that BDSM practitioners are informed in their consent to such practices is a laudable practice. However, this does not mean these practices cannot be critiqued, improved, or strengthened. Critical engagement with community practices or regulations does not necessarily mean one is attempting to prove them to be harmful or that one wants them to be removed. Critical engagement serves to make practices better, to ensure that their expression meets the desired effect. Especially in the realm of sexual practice, critical reflection on one’s individual actions and larger community practices ought to be encouraged rather than discouraged and silenced. A valuable account of sexual autonomy ought to allow for space for critical reflection and critical engagement with others. The liberal account of autonomy found in BDSM fails to allow for that to take place. SSC does not fit all Relationships: The practice of negotiation between partners, required to take place before a scene, highlights the centrality of consent in BDSM. However, it is unclear what role this practice ought to take when BDSM events exist outside of the rigid structure of community events. Many guides to BDSM and discussions on Master/slave relationships, 104 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy including ones that we have explored in this project, highlight the requirement that partners make contracts before entering into such relationships, but given that the Master/slave relationship offers a different structure from more general BDSM events, does the standard for consent for BDSM practices still apply to the Master/slave relationship? How does consent operate after the contract has been signed? In this section I argue that Safe, Sane, Consensual as a general community mantra is representative of what Diana Meyers calls ‘episodic autonomy’, as they are both concerned with autonomous expression at a particular time in the immediate future. In general BDSM practices, events have clear beginnings and ends, and partners may participate in events together for the first time. SSC aims to ensure that partners fully negotiate before an event takes place, ensuring that both partners are aware of each other’s limitations and desires, even when they are unfamiliar with each other. However, SSC’s expression of autonomy is quite short-term, as events often last for a few minutes, a few hours, or for an evening. Because of this, I argue that the process of negotiation found in SSC is not well-suited to long-term relationships or partnerships, such as the M/s relationship. This means that SSC is not suited to all relationship structures found in BDSM and is thus fails as a universally valid standard for BDSM practices. This is especially important, as BDSM often defends its practices as legitimate due to its consensual nature. If the account of consent used to evaluate these relationships cannot apply to all of them, is it truly a sufficient account? For Meyers, autonomy is not an “all or nothing” concept. She claims that autonomy may be expressed in a variety of ways, including what she calls “episodic” and 105 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy “programmatic” autonomy. These are two distinct dimensions of autonomy, and are expressed at different times and play different roles in an individuals’ life. Episodic autonomy takes place when individuals ask themselves how they wish to proceed in a particular moment. In contrast, programmatic autonomy is present when that person is able to pose and answer questions like “how do I want to live my life?” (8). Both episodic autonomy and SSC treat autonomy as taking more immediate form than accounts of autonomy which focus on broader issues of life-aspirations and choices. I will show in this section that SSC exemplifies episodic autonomy in its focus on short-term goals and desires. I should note that my concern with the focus on the episodic nature of SSC argues that episodic autonomy has shortcomings only if it is separated from programmatic autonomy. The purely episodic nature of SSC provides a weakness of the BDSM account of autonomy due to its inability to apply to long-term expressions of BDSM practices. An account of autonomy that is used to apply to a variety of short-term and long-term sexual and romantic relationships, as SSC is presented as doing, ought to incorporate both episodic and programmatic components in order to address the full range of dimensions of autonomy in the BDSM community. Understanding and articulating long-term goals is as important as articulating short-term and immediate goals, particularly when relationships like Master/slave are a commonly accepted component of the BDSM community, thus showing a need for long-term instances of autonomy. In Chapter 3, I described Meyers’ use of the Traditional Housewife. Meyers uses this case to show how, in her attempt to defend her creationist beliefs to her daughter’s teacher, she may possess “pockets” of autonomy, even though she may not have control 106 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy over the “basic direction” of her life (8). However, while the overall direction of her life is decided by others, she still is able to express her autonomy at certain times, such as in the case in point. Episodic autonomy can be found in these moments. Meyers notes that the expression of episodic autonomy does not encompass the formulation of a “long-term plan or setting a policy to be applied in other circumstances,” rather the expression of episodic autonomy is “confined to a single action” (8), such as the discussion between the Traditional Housewife and her daughter’s teacher. While one might wonder how one can express autonomy through individual actions, Meyers notes that in this instance: [A]utonomy is enhanced to the extent that the convictions and attitudes entering into the decision have been previously examined and endorsed. Yet, people can gain a measure of autonomy by addressing situation-specific questions that occasion introspective reflection. For they get to know themselves better, and they give greater expression to their own beliefs and desires than someone who mindlessly apes convention or caves in to others’ wishes (8-9). Episodic autonomy has value, as it enables individuals to learn more about themselves and the things or paths they desire. However, cases of episodic autonomy do not necessarily imply an overarching expression of autonomy, as they are confined to particular moments, and thus reflect a situational expression of autonomy, although it is important to note that they still have value as autonomous actions. As an example of how SSC is reflective of episodic autonomy, consider the steps outlined by Tristain Taormino on how to approach events or scenes: Negotiation creates a space for everyone to talk about their needs, wants, limits, fantasies, and fears before they play. One way to begin the negotiation process is to identify what 107 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy role or roles you will take on: top/bottom/switch, Dominant/submissive, sadist/masochist. Together you can go through some possible activities; for each one, you can decide if you are interested in doing it and whether you want to give or receive or both… In addition to negotiating your wants, needs, desires, or limits for BDSM, you should also decide if there will be sexual activity as part of your play… Will there be genital contact and stimulation? Masturbation, How about penetration, oral sex, sex toys, ejaculation?... Now is the time to tell your partner all relevant information he or she should know about you. Is there anything in your medical history that is serious or will affect the type of play you do?... You should talk about medications you take, a sensitivity to hot or cold, if you’re prone to dizziness or fainting, how well you can see without your glasses… This is important information to know as you decide if you’re going to play with someone, what you’re going to do, and how to construct a scene (16-17, 19, 20). The excerpts outlined here express some components of the discussion that is encouraged to take place between partners before a scene begins. The purpose of negotiation is to ensure that partners are able to give informed consent, in that they have informed the other party of all important and necessary concerns, desires, and interests that are relevant to the event. This method of giving informed consent, as we have said, is pursued in such an explicit way in an attempt to distance BDSM practices from abuse and to ensure that partners are autonomous in their decision to take part in such practices. One must ensure that both partners desire the practice that they are about to engage in, and that they are in 108 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy the right space for it (for example, not in a state of anxiety or some other state which may not respond well to certain activities). When expressing the tenets of Safe, Sane, Consensual, and when engaging in negotiation with another, BDSM practitioners follow the same kind of situational autonomy as Meyers’ Traditional Housewife – the individual asks themselves what they want to do in that moment, what they want to perform or experience in that scene, and then act upon it after their own deliberation and deliberation with others. BDSM participants are able to participate in self-reflection when considering what practices they wish to engage with (and those that they do not) as well as their limitations and new areas they may wish to explore. While BDSM practitioners might seem to possess a heightened understanding of autonomy (in that BDSM theorists present practitioners as able to understand and articulate their true sexual desires) the expression of autonomy in BDSM events and scenes, in fact, is quite situational. The question of what an individual wishes to do on a Friday night at a play party may not be reflective of what they wish to do on other days or in other situations or even in future events with the same partner. It therefore seems that the BDSM commitment to SSC require nothing more than episodic autonomy in its practices. While this might be sufficient for participating in many facets of BDSM life (“Do I want to play as a bottom tonight?” or “Do I want to try needle play?”), the momentary nature of episodic autonomy does not appear to be applicable to all forms of BDSM practices. One must ask, how does Safe, Sane, Consensual, as the guiding practice of consensuality and its expression of episodic autonomy, apply to long-term relationships like that of the Master/slave? The 109 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Master/slave relationship is very different from the general practices of the BDSM community, where events may differ (for example, an individual may play as a bottom at one event and a top at another), where they have an explicit start and end point, and where events are confined to BDSM practices. Some Master/slave participants have already voiced their concerns with the rigid nature of consent in Safe, Sane, Consensual. Frustrated with having to negotiate before each event, some BDSM participants have developed what is known as “consensual nonconsent”: …[it’s]an oxymoron and [an] impossibility by legal definitions, but a concept that makes perfect sense to those who subscribe to it. The idea behind consensual nonconsent is that partners don’t want to go through a list and map out each and every thing that will happen or consent to activities individually. Rather, they want to state their limits, turn their will over to a Dominant, top, or sadist, and trust in where a scene goes. They want to waive their right to revoke their consent or stop in the middle of a scene. In fact, they agree in advance that something might happen that they don’t want or enjoy, or they may be forced to do something beyond their comfort zone and they’re okay with that (italics in original, Taormino, 24) While I do not claim that all Master/slave relationships explicitly adhere to consensual non-consent, this approach to consent does fall in line with the relationship structure. For example, when many female slaves describe their roles within their relationship, they rarely (if ever) note that they had negotiated with their Masters beforehand. Rather, they are given roles and rules from their Masters, trusting that their Masters know what is best, know what their limits are, and knowing that their purpose as 110 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy a slave is to please their Master. As Bambi Bottom outlines the level of control in her Master/slave relationship: I have no rights in this relationship. I don’t have safe words. I’m not permitted to leave him, no matter what, unless I clearly and honestly think that I am in danger. I own no property anymore, except for a black leather rose he gave me… I’m told when to wake up in the morning. I’m told when to go to sleep. When I’m not working, he gives me my orders for the day. I’m allowed to make suggestions about what I’d like to get done, but I can’t insist. The final decision about what I do on any day is up to him. But often my suggestions are accepted. In the evening I prepare his bed, get him water to drink, turn off lights, shut the windows… I have to ask permission to eat, to drink anything except water, to use the bathroom, to make purchases. I carry no money except what he gives me… My sex life is completely controlled by him. I’m not allowed to touch myself without his permission. And he gives [it] rarely. I used to masturbate three or four times a day – that was my routine. Not anymore. We do the things that he likes to do and I give my input. He controls what we do during [sex], but the most powerful aspect of that control is the control over my orgasms. If he gives me permission at a time when I’m not particularly in the mood, I [still] must come (italics in original, Brame et. al, 181). Bambi and her Master do not pause before each sexual event in order to negotiate boundaries. If they did, it would be incredibly time-consuming as their relationship seeps into all facets of their lives – from their sexual activities, to the running of their household, to their finances, to her career decisions. To negotiate each of these 111 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy components continuously would take over their lives. Instead, Bambi trusts in her Master to know what is best for her. Describing her relationship and what drew her to it, Bambi states that a Master/slave relationship can be difficult as it requires quite a bit of trust. She says “I’m an extremely suspicious person. I have a hard time trusting men in particular. I was raped as a child, and to this day I haven’t gotten over this… My Master is an exceptional man, and it is through his personality only that I am able to trust him to the degree that I do, which is almost absolute” (Brame et al, 180). Bambi may not always be comfortable or willing to participate in the activities that have been laid out for her by her Master, but she trusts that he knows what is best for her, and she views herself as having consented to him having control over her. This means that an episodic account of autonomy doesn’t fit with the normal expression of autonomy in the Master/slave relationship – the way in which such practices are carried out fails to meet the requirements for episodic autonomy, and to do so would be quite arduous and timeconsuming for both partners. It would appear that the most appropriate approach to autonomy for the Master/slave relationship is found in what Meyers calls “programmatic autonomy”, as it focuses on the overall path of one’s life. Entering into an M/s relationship is a serious commitment, and its effects are spread to all facets of life, much more so than a casual or single BDSM participant may experience. The requirements for programmatic autonomy differ greatly from the requirements set for episodic autonomy. One may argue that the practice of negotiation that is used in creating the Master/slave contract would be enough to satisfy the programmatic perspective of autonomy. This would mean that negotiating 112 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy the formal contract between Master and slave, including the responsibilities, the requirements, and the best way to end the relationship, would need to satisfy the requirements for an overarching life path. However, I do not think that the considerations made through this process of negotiation necessarily satisfy the requirements set out by a programmatic approach to autonomy. It could be possible that some Master/slave relationships have negotiations that include components that could be described as similar to programmatic accounts of autonomy, but it does not appear to be necessary for the negotiation13. Individuals who participate in M/s may, on their own, practice selfreflection in the way that Meyers’ sets out, including the possession of autonomy competencies, but the community mantra of SSC fails to incorporate these components. There is no requirement for an ongoing, reflexive practice of ‘checking in’ in order to ensure that both parties still wish to participate in such a practice. While many long-term commitments fail to incorporate such a reflexive practice (for example, marriage only requires that a person consent to the marriage at the time of the wedding but does not require any other reflection afterwards), given the nature of the Master/slave relationship, I think there is a benefit for the BDSM community to attempt to incorporate long-term reflection and check-ins into long-term practices and relationships. To encourage longterm consent as a standard for Master/slave relationships helps to break down some of the problems that currently exist in the structures of autonomy and consent found in the BDSM community. Such changes would challenge the way in which autonomy and As an example, see the sample slave contract included in Miss Abernathy’s Erotic Slavehood. Miss Abernathy notes that it is not advisable for individuals to have contracts that last more than a year due to the fact that individuals do change (60). 13 113 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy consent are currently structured to respond to momentary BDSM events, rather than longterm life goals. This section, in showing that the focus of consent in the BDSM community is directed towards episodic rather than programmatic autonomy is not meant to diminish the sense of autonomy or fulfillment that the FFS (and others in a similar situation) feel in their partnerships, or to declare them non-autonomous. Rather, is intended to show that the use of consent in BDSM as focused on immediate expression fails to address the realities of long-term M/s relationships and thus does not seem to be a sufficient method of evaluating autonomy. BDSM Fails to Incorporate the Social Sphere: While this chapter has already addressed some areas of concern regarding the use and understanding of autonomy and consent in BDSM communities, of primary importance for my argument is how the liberal ideal of the individual as free and independent has reinforced the failure to incorporate considerations of the social sphere into BDSM’s understanding of consent and autonomy. Margot Weiss’s Techniques of Pleasure: BDSM and the Circuits of Sexuality challenges several foundational conceptions of BDSM. In particular, she problematizes their understanding of what it means to say that BDSM practices are performed, and challenges the BDSM community’s claim that its practices offer a separation between the public and private and the social and economic spheres (6, 7). Part of Weiss’ challenge to the BDSM status quo is her assertion that BDSM practices and practitioners often falsely present themselves as existing outside of the social sphere. As she notes: “BDSM performances produce the SM 114 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy community just as they produce SM practitioners, but not in a ‘safe, sane, consensual’ vacuum – rather, in relation to economic, social, and cultural regimes and embedded systems of privilege and power” (20). There is a common insistence that BDSM practices are not necessarily linked to the events that they parody or represent. However, Weiss argues that there is an explicit link between the performance of BDSM and the structures of power that exist outside of that event. As she realized during her research “I began to understand SM performance as material… [R]ather than allowing for a kind of freedom from racial, gendered, and sexual hierarchies, such spectacular performances work within the social norms that compel subjectivity, community, and political imagination” (6). Weiss views relationships within the BDSM community as a kind of social relationship, which links individuals through “socioeconomics (social hierarchies, communities, and relations of inequality)” (6). As an example to the social relationships and influences within BDSM, Weiss describes her viewing of a slave auction at a BDSM community event. Weiss claims that many BDSM practitioners view their activities and performances as “set apart” from the rest of the world, where the “real world” of their daily lives is wholly separate from the BDSM scene or event (17). But while the separation between BDSM play and the “real world” may be perceived as a real separation by BDSM practitioners, it is not clear whether individuals can actually detach themselves from the world beyond the event or scene. Weiss describes her viewing of a slave auction, in which individuals were auctioned off for the chance to “negotiate with that person for a scene later, at the play party following the auction” (3). Numerous community members were auctioned off 115 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy (about eighty in total). Weiss describes her laughter and enjoyment during several of the auctions, but one appeared to have made both her and the audience uncomfortable: A young African American woman with a round face and closely cropped hair was led up to the stage by a tall, severe-looking white man who held the leash attached to her collar. She was the only person to appear on the stage with someone else, so the man explained that he needed to tell us, the audience, a few things about his slave. As she stood there, back straight, staring straight ahead, her master, addressing us in a tight, steely voice, said that she was fit. As he spoke, he yanked up her dress to display her shaved genitals, and he then turned her around. Still holding her dress above her waist, he smacked her ass so hard she pitched forward; the leash attached to the collar around her neck stopped her fall. Turning her back around, he said she was very submissive and guaranteed to make us happy. As he finished speaking, he stroked her head, petting and smoothing back her short blond hair. The audience was quiet throughout this display. When the bidding started, it was reserved; she did not sell for a lot of money. I was uncomfortable during this scene, and I felt sure that the rest of the crowd was, too. I strained to read the woman’s expression, to see if she was all right at the front of the stage, but I couldn’t tell” (3-4). The discomfort felt by Weiss and other audience members expresses the inability for the BDSM community sphere to truly function as the safe space it presents itself as being. Weiss claims that “the fantasy of the scene as separate, as set off or bracketed from the real world, acts as an alibi that enables practitioners to dramatize – while also disavowing – social hierarchies and institutionalized systems of domination, especially those of race, class, gender, sexuality, and imperialism” (17). But, as the experience of Weiss and other community members at the slave action shows, we cannot simply declare ourselves to be 116 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy insulated from these institutionalized systems of domination because we are in a community, or private, space. The shared discomfort of watching a white Master treat his black slave roughly as he auctions her off makes apparent that we cannot just recreate scenes that incorporate social power differentials while assuming that we are not impacted by those same components. While there is some value in the use of a liberal account of autonomy in BDSM in the way that it encourages a diverse expression of sexual and gender practices, and fosters a sense of sexual freedom, the way in which the scene and the events that take place in BDSM are presented as separate from the ‘real world’ overlooks the ways in which social powers operate. While I think there are ways in which BDSM can meaningfully critique and play with power, to claim that such practices cannot reinforce or perpetuate power differentials because their practices aren’t real, or are just performance, shows a naïve understanding of power and oppression. What the BDSM account of autonomy needs is a way to engage with the operation of social power while still giving room for such practices to take place. Otherwise, the BDSM community runs risk of reinforcing such power differentials in spite of their transgressive intentions. Up to this point, this chapter has aimed to raise several concerns found in the expression of autonomy and consent in the BDSM community. While none of these concerns on its own is severe, when combined, the approach to consent and autonomy by BDSM practitioners does not appear to be adequate. To remedy this shortcoming, I argue that BDSM accounts of autonomy ought to rely less on the liberal account of autonomy it 117 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy has adopted. While liberal accounts of autonomy are valuable because of the defense they can provide for a wide variety of sexual expressions, the narrow focus on individualism makes it difficult to engage critically with BDSM and overlooks some problematic areas that can impact BDSM practitioners. In the next section I argue that feminist accounts of relational autonomy offer an important understanding of autonomy and the influence of relationships and can better address many of the concerns that I have raised in this chapter while still allowing for the individual self-expression that is so important to the BDSM community. Relational Autonomy and BDSM: This chapter has aimed to raise concerns with the way that consent and autonomy are expressed and theorized within BDSM practices and theories. While the BDSM community has made explicit the importance of ensuring that practices are consensual in order to ensure that practices are not abusive, theoretical weaknesses remain within their account of consent and autonomy. While some BDSM theorists like Meg Barker have raised valid concerns regarding abuse in BDSM communities, other areas of concern also need to be addressed. In particular, I have argued that there remains a failure to integrate an understanding and appreciation of the influence of social stratification and power differentials into their analysis of consent, and there is little room for critically engaging with the practice of consent itself within BDSM practices. Finally, the way that consent is used in BDSM is not well-suited to cases of Master/slave relationships. For these reasons, the use of consent and autonomy in BDSM practices and theory ought to be 118 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy strengthened with an account of autonomy which takes these considerations into account. I think that relational autonomy provides grounds for addressing each of these concerns. I should begin by noting that not all accounts of relational autonomy are equally suited to strengthen the BDSM account of autonomy. Particular theories, such as those developed by Marina Oshana or Natalie Stoljar may not necessarily interact well with BDSM practices, due to the rigidity of their strong substantive approaches (see chapter 1). However, proceduralist accounts, such as those developed by Diana Meyers and Andrea Westlund, along with the general tenets and commitments of relational autonomy are suitable to the BDSM community, its practices, and theoretical commitments. I will show how both Meyers and Westlund’s accounts are suitable to the BDSM account of autonomy, but, I argue that Westlund offers the best approach. Meyers’ account is helpful because of its emphasis on the importance of developing competencies, such as selfknowledge and self-reflection in one’s development of individual autonomy, as well as its acknowledgement of both the beneficial and harmful effects that socialization has on autonomy. However, I don’t think that this account provides sufficient grounds to satisfy all of the concerns laid out by the Feminist Intuition; namely, that feminist theorists can’t always trust that female submissives are not dupes of patriarchy. I argue that Westlund’s procedural account offers the best account of autonomy for the BDSM community, because of its internal evaluation along with its external engagement with others, which provides the individual with the ultimate say in whether they are autonomous (like Meyers), but also allows for external checks on their autonomy, through dialogue with others. 119 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Diana Meyers’ Competencies: Diana Meyers’ procedural account of autonomy is one of the foundational contributions to relational autonomy. Meyers’ procedural account encourages individuals to cultivate three competencies, and incorporates the influence of socialization into its understanding of autonomy. As I described in Chapter 1, for Meyers, personal autonomy “is not only compatible with the civilizing influences of socialization, but it depends on socialization to cultivate the requisite skills” (20). Her account of personal autonomy focuses on “living in harmony with one’s true self” (20) but also requires the uses of competencies, including self-definition, self-direction, and self-discovery (2004, vxii). Meyers’ approach not only acknowledges the influence of socialization upon one’s individual autonomy, but also claims that socialization is necessary to the development of autonomy. Her approach, along with that of other relational autonomy theorists, positions the individual not as a solitary person in the world, but as someone whose relationships help to cultivate skills and develop their person. This account thereby challenges the foundational theoretical assumptions of BDSM theory, as the individual found in relational autonomy theory acknowledges the causal nature of their relationships with others, meaning that relational autonomy does more than just acknowledge that individuals have relationships with others. Such an acknowledgement would not be new for BDSM theory, as many components in the BDSM community, such as identities (including Dom and sub), require relationships with others. What separates relational autonomy from merely acknowledging relationships with others is that it acknowledges the way these relationships impact our autonomy, our 120 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy participation in the world, and show that these can both help and hinder the expression of our autonomy. Incorporating components of relational autonomy might not necessarily eliminate accusations of racism or sexism from the BDSM community, but acknowledging the role of our relationships in the development of our autonomous selves implies a fundamental shift away from the individualism found in BDSM theory. As well, it might be difficult to incorporate the use of competencies into the BDSM community practices, but the underlying structure of relational autonomy and of Meyers’ proceduralist account offers a distinct shift from the current expression of autonomy in BDSM. However, her work fails to satisfy those who view BDSM practices as problematic, because it fails to allow others to view the expression of autonomy in that much of the deliberation is internal. Westlund’s account addresses this problem while still holding many of the same commitments as Meyers’ account. Meyers’ foundational contributions to this area are still incredibly valuable, particularly in her development of programmatic accounts of autonomy, and ought to find some larger, more general incorporation into the BDSM account of autonomy. Andrea Westlund’s Dialectical Autonomy: On the face of it, Andrea Westlund’s dialectical account of autonomy might appear to be similar to the use of SSC. As was mentioned in Chapter 3, Westlund’s account of autonomy is one that requires that the individual engage with another in a dialogue in order to determine whether their choice was autonomous. One could argue that the practice of negotiation required for SSC possesses the same dialogical 121 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy component, but I argue that the kind of dialogue required for Westlund’s theory is quite different from the kind of dialogue required for SSC. Westlund’s dialogical account of autonomy requires that an individual be able to declare why they are participating in certain actions. Westlund’s account of autonomy aims to challenge what she calls self-abnegating deference, that which takes place when one participates in “the systematic subordination of oneself to another whose interests, needs, and preferences are treated as pre-emptively decisive in one’s own practical reasoning” (485). She argues that this kind of deference “compromises autonomy by rendering the agent insusceptible to a special sort of dialogical reflectiveness about her action-guiding commitments” (485). Westlund’s account of relational autonomy differs from those of Meyers’ and Christman, who also share procedural approaches, but take into account the history of the individual in evaluating the legitimacy of the decision and also rely on an internal decision-making process in their pursuit and development of autonomy. Westlund instead claims that critical reflection is not used for establishing the coherence of one’s decision with their personal history or their authentic self, but rather that this reflection is required when taking responsibility for the self (494). She argues that individuals “function interpersonally as autonomous agents” through taking responsibility for their commitments, as responsibility requires that an individual hold themselves answerable, “for one’s endorsements, to external critical perspectives” (495). Responsibility for oneself requires that an individual open themselves up to, and are “willing to be engaged in a form of potentially open-ended justificatory dialogue about one’s action-guiding 122 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy commitments” (495). Particularly in the case of self-abnegating deference, Westlund sees the “lack of readiness” to engage with such critical dialogue regarding one’s commitments to imply that their autonomy has been compromised (492). Instances of autonomy require an interpersonal interaction, whereby an individual is required to engage with critical perspectives, where they are able to assert a defense of themselves, which requires an understanding and reflexivity with oneself and the decisions one has made. The ability to reflect upon and answer for one’s decisions, even if the interlocutor does not agree, is how an individual can demonstrate that they have taken responsibility for their actions. In other words, to be autonomous, one must respond to critical perspectives and be prepared to engage with them. Making oneself answerable in this way gives the individual a dimension of autonomy, as “someone who functions interpersonally as her own representative is someone who has a clear grip on her own answerability, and who has a standing disposition to be engaged in defense and/or advocacy of herself” (498). This account of autonomy allows for individuals to stand as their own representatives, and requires individuals to possess and express self-reflexivity and seeks to ensure that they can meet their own requirements for choosing the right relationship or sexual expression. The dialogical engagement outlined in Westlund’s account differs greatly from the process of negotiation found in Safe, Sane, Consensual. In SSC, individuals are asked to articulate their limitations and desires. To articulate whether comfortable participating in a certain practice is not the same as being asked to be held responsible for their decision to participate in BDSM activities in general. 123 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy The process of SSC actually prevents individuals from engaging in a critical dialogue as the liberal influence upon the BDSM community prevents individuals from asking questions such as “was this action really consensual?”, “is this activity appropriate?”. The insulation of BDSM activities from critical engagement, even within the community itself, removes exposure to critical dialogue. While individuals might go through the steps outlined by Westlund and find that they do satisfy her requirements for autonomy, it is important for individuals to continue to maintain a responsibility for self and for their actions, and to encourage the justificatory dialogue as a community practice. As well, while Westlund does not require a consistency in long-term commitments in order to determine autonomy in the manner that Christman and others do (503), she does require that individuals be “in charge” of their practical reasoning and to take responsibility for it on an ongoing basis (505). One doesn’t merely engage in dialogue with another at one instance and thereafter declare oneself to be autonomous; one must continuously hold oneself responsible and accountable in the same way as if one were engaging with another over time. And while some interlocutors will necessarily be satisfied by the answers they receive from others while participating in Westlund’s approach, her approach at least gives additional room for (and encourages) critical engagement between individuals in the BDSM community. The ability to critically engage with concepts such as consent is currently lacking in contemporary BDSM theory. Westlund’s account of relational autonomy provides BDSM theory and practices with a way for individuals to be held responsible for their actions, as well as provide a venue for a critical discussion of BDSM practices and procedures. Westlund’s account 124 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy reminds us that we are not isolated beings, and that our autonomy is expressed through our ongoing interaction with others. Her work allows individuals to make decisions for themselves—allowing them to choose which practices are of greatest interest and desire to them—but nonetheless provides room for other parties to be part of the process of ensuring that parties are responsible for their action-guiding commitments. Westlund’s account of autonomy might not require the FFS to participate in a critical dialogue every day, but it does require that she make herself responsible for her actions by preparing for such a dialogue. This can be done through a genuine self-reflection when contemplating new practices with her Master, or just by checking in with herself regularly. Westlund’s account is quite appropriate, particularly in the case of Master/slave relationships, where individuals participate in a long-term commitment, but which are unsuited for the contemporary use of consent found in SSC. The purpose of this chapter has been twofold: 1) to highlight some areas of concern found within BDSM theory, primarily with respect to its accounts of consent and autonomy, and 2) to show how procedural relational accounts of autonomy, primarily those developed by Meyers and Westlund, offer superior approaches to autonomy which could help the BDSM community. The BDSM community has explicitly heralded the use of consent in order to protect itself from accusations that the community engages in violent or abusive practices. However, in their attempts to concretize the use of consent in BDSM practices, the community itself has left little room for critical engagement with the concepts it relies on. As Meg Barker’s work has shown, even with the mantra of SSC in 125 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy place, abuse nonetheless remains a problem in the BDSM community. In order to try to prevent the abuse that Barker outlines, the BDSM community must begin to ask what it means to consent to a practice, what role the community has in ensuring that consent has been given, and what steps an individual must take in order to be able to give consent legitimately. I also aimed to show how relational autonomy may be helpful to BDSM theory in order to cultivate a more nuanced and realistic approach to autonomy and consent. Meyers, amongst other relational autonomy theorists, holds that socialization is a necessary component of autonomy as it helps us to cultivate our autonomy competencies. But, socialization can also import biases and misinformation, which, in turn, generates inauthentic desires. These harmful effects of socialization can affect both programmatic and episodic autonomy, but the accounts of both Meyers and Westlund show how we can heighten our awareness of socialization and can begin to remedy these problems. The expression of SSC (and other foundational components of BDSM theory) both in theory and in practice has flaws that need to be corrected. Incorporating a relational account of autonomy can begin to correct these issues while maintaining a commitment to sexual and gender expression that is so necessary to the BDSM community. As is evidenced in the work of Weiss and Baker, current approaches to autonomy in BDSM theory are not able to protect everyone. The BDSM community ought to take a critical eye to the way in which their theory can help and hurt their practitioners, and I believe their construction of autonomy and consent is a valuable starting point. 126 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy The accounts of autonomy developed by Westlund and Meyers serve to address the influences of pernicious socialization though the recursive expression of the dialogical exchange or the development of individual competencies. The incorporation of the relational approach to autonomy as seen in the works of Meyers and Westlund into the BDSM community’s approach to autonomy would change the way that BDSM theory views the individual; individuals would no longer be seen as separate from the social sphere when participating in BDSM practices, but would still exist in relation to those forms of social stratification and power differentials. This may seem, in practice, to be a subtle change, but it would truly be a fundamental theoretical shift. Incorporating the use of dialogical engagement provides new avenues of critical analysis to take place between BDSM participants while still respecting the decisionmaking capabilities of the individual. Such a process serves to not only concretize the autonomous decisions made by individuals but also to encourage thoughtful selfreflection and self-reflexivity for those in the community. While this chapter only evaluated the impact that these two relational theories of autonomy could have on BDSM theory and practices, I think that a much stronger account of consent and autonomy could be developed for the BDSM community by incorporating components from other procedural relational approaches to autonomy into this community. 127 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Chapter 5: Autonomy, Belonging, and the Value of Feminism This project began by arguing that relational autonomy provides a superior approach for evaluating the autonomy of women like the FFS over traditional accounts of autonomy due to its acknowledgement of the influence of pernicious socialization and interpersonal relationships. Although I highlighted the problems of the limited representation of female submission in the case studies examined by relational autonomists in Chapter 3, I nonetheless consider relational autonomy to offer the best overall approach to evaluating the autonomy of the FFS. In Chapter 4, I argued that relational autonomy also offers valuable considerations for the way in which autonomy is theorized and practiced by the FFS and her BDSM community in general. What remains to be seen is what, precisely, is required for the FFS to be autonomous. Up to this point, I have focused on ensuring that the relational accounts of autonomy are sufficient and theoretically sound. However, in addition to this, it is important that we determine what it would take for the FFS herself to be autonomous. Can she meet the requirements set out by relational accounts of autonomy, particularly those that I have explored and sometimes advocated in previous chapters? Can she satisfy their concerns about whether her choice to become submissive was truly autonomous? In this chapter I will evaluate the case of the Feminist Female Slave using Andrea Westlund’s dialogical account of autonomy, as outlined in Chapter 4. In addition to determining whether or not she is autonomous, there is another component that is of great importance for a full account of the Feminist Female Slave: the sense of belonging or relationality that she desires with other feminists. In the second part 128 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy of this chapter, I argue that beyond meeting certain requirements for autonomy, it is also important for the FFS to feel as if she can belong as a feminist. In particular, it is important that she feel she is able to lay claim to a feminist identity, as it is so influential to her sexual expression and politics. As I touched upon in Chapters 2 and 3, many female submissives and slaves feel that their relationships have excluded them from feminist membership, despite their explicit identification with feminism. Women like the FFS do not feel as if they belong as feminists, and when speaking about their feminist membership often qualify what it means to be a feminist because of the way in which they have been previously excluded from claiming feminist membership. Using the work of Judith Butler and Joel Anderson, I will argue that perception plays an integral role in the expression of autonomy, as the full expression of one’s autonomy requires that others treat you as such. While other female slaves might view the FFS as autonomous, feminists may not consider the FFS to be autonomous, even on procedural grounds, due to preconceptions regarding female submission. The failure of feminists to view the FFS as autonomous, even if she is able to satisfy Westlund’s requirements for autonomy, only serves to restrict the participation and inclusion of the FFS in larger feminist communities. This means that the FFS needs to do more than just meet the requirements for procedural accounts of autonomy in order to have others acknowledge her autonomy. With the (perceived or real) exclusion of the Feminist Female Slave, and other feminist submissives like her, from the feminist community, one might ask why she desires to be a part of a larger feminist community at all. I will argue that the feminist 129 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy identity is incredibly important to the FFS, as it has greatly influenced her sexual expression, her dedication to sexual freedom, and her rejection of gendered sexual scripts, making it essential to the FFS’ identity and sense of self. Further, her perceived exclusion from feminist identity and relations with other feminists because of her relationship creates a harm for the FFS, in that she feels rejected from a community in which her membership plays an integral role to her sense of self and her own identity. This section will highlight the importance that the feminist identity holds for the FFS and what a relationship like that of the FFS means for feminism overall. This chapter, therefore, aims to bring together the theoretical considerations outlined in the first four chapters in order to show how the case of the FFS responds to them, and then aims to show what importance this case (and this project) has for feminism overall. What is required for the FFS to be autonomous? In this section, I argue that Westlund’s dialogical account of autonomy, as seen in Chapter 4, offers the best approach to autonomy for evaluating cases like the Feminist Female Slave. In the previous chapter, I presented Westlund’s account as an alternative to the use of Safe, Sane, Consensual in the BDSM community. While I argued that her account offered a valuable use of dialogue and required a certain level of self-knowledge and self-reflection, it must still be determined whether the Feminist Female Slave meets those necessary requirements. In Chapter 1, I outlined the problem of autonomous submission14 -- whether it is possible for women to submit autonomously to men in romantic and sexual relationships 14 Page 13 130 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy given the influence of social conditions that naturalize women’s inferiority to men. I argued that relational autonomy provides the best approach to engaging with questions of female submission and autonomy because it accounts for these social conditions and acknowledges other relationships in its evaluation. The problem of autonomous submission is clearly present in the case of the Feminist Female Slave as she has taken this submissive role to her male Master, yet claims, although aware of the influence of oppressive gender norms, her relationship has not been determined by these. She claims that her choice is autonomous despite the existence and influence of gendered scripts that claim women’s proper role is to be subservient to their male partners, and she insists that her subservient role, in fact, falls in line with her feminist political and philosophical commitments. What must be determined is what would be required for her to be autonomous: what criterion must she meet in order to straddle this difficult line of expressing an autonomous choice to participate in a relationship of her choosing, while still balancing (and not being overly influenced by) the social sphere which claims that it is natural, or the proper role of women to take a subservient role to their husbands or male partners. In what follows, I will show how the FFS can meet these requirements by drawing on Andrea Westlund’s procedural account of relational autonomy. In this chapter I primarily rely on Andrea Westlund’s dialogical account of autonomy because it offers a relational account of autonomy that is both proceduralist (in that it focuses on the procedure one takes in making one’s decision, rather than the content of that decision), as well as intersubjective in that it requires (or prepares for) an interaction with others (or a possible interaction with others) in order to ensure one’s 131 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy autonomy. The procedural nature of her account is quite valuable in that she will not be deemed non-autonomous merely because she is a submissive, in contrast to strong substantive accounts of autonomy. Rather, this determination is to be made based on how well the FFS is able to articulate her submissive commitments to another, were she confronted with critical feedback. This account also provides her with the opportunity, and encourages her, to explain her relationship to others in a way that clearly articulates her commitments and how this relationship fits into the life she truly desires. The dialogical interaction is incredibly important to the FFS as it provides a venue in which she can differentiate her relationship from those that are genuinely nonautonomous to feminists and feminist accounts of autonomy, such as the case of the Deferential Wife. Westlund’s account grants a certain amount of freedom of possible actions, due to its focus on procedure, while additionally ensuring that the account is not purely internalist, i.e. an account in which all deliberations for autonomy take place internally, as we may see in the work of Meyers and Christman15. While internalist accounts are quite valuable for autonomy, I argue that in the particular case of the Feminist Female Slave, an intersubjective expression of autonomy is necessary for her to be seen and recognized as autonomous and for her own self-worth. Andrea Westlund’s dialogical account suggests that we consider whether the Feminist Female Slave takes responsibility for her actions through her attempt to respond These accounts are “internalist” in the sense that they do not require an interaction with others in order to establish autonomy. While Meyers claims socialization is necessary in order to learn the skills for autonomy, her focus on competencies and internal deliberation do not require interaction with others. Christman’s focus on the ensuring that one’s actions fall in line with their historical sense of self also has this same approach. I do not claim that these accounts are less valuable because of this, but I do not think they offer the same impact as Westlund’s does for this particular case. 15 132 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy to criticisms or critical feedback she receives regarding the commitments that guide her decision to be a slave. So long as she is able to articulate her reasons for entering into such a relationship, which, for her require articulating the feminist underpinnings of her position in order to justify her submission, then she would seem to satisfy Westlund’s requirements. It should be noted that in her dialogue with another the FFS does not need to necessarily convince those who question her that her decision is correct (for example, she doesn’t need to convince anyone that her relationship is necessarily autonomous), instead she must be open to the possibility of having to engage in a justificatory dialogue about her commitments in order to be held responsible for them. It is the process of evaluating one’s commitments by engaging in a critical dialogue (or preparing oneself for that dialogue) that aims to ensure an individual takes responsibility for their own actions and thus ensures that they are autonomous under this account. Given that BDSM does not fall within the realm of a mainstream sexual expression (and it should be noted that Master/slave relationships compose a small group within the small group of BDSM practitioners), it would be fair to imagine that it could be the case that were she to share details of her relationship with a close friend or a family member, that they may not necessarily agree with or understand her relationship and could pose some critical questions to her. Perhaps the FFS told a close friend about her Master/slave relationship, and that friend expressed some concern regarding it. When the friend asks questions of the FFS, such as “how can you find pleasure in such a harmful relationship?’ and “isn’t he just abusing you?” the FFS is able to take responsibility for her role in her relationship by describing her motivations, the fulfillment she receives in 133 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy her relationship, the role that she played in ensuring that her partner and their relationship structure met her needs, and the way in which her relationship coincides with her feminist beliefs. She is able to articulate how her commitments to feminism and to her BDSM identity influence the actions that she takes in her relationship and her life with her Master. Her ability to critically reflect upon her beliefs and the way they influence her actions, along with her accountability, ensures the expression of her autonomy. If her friend responds by asking how this relationship is not abusive, the FFS might answer that she understands how the relationship looks problematic, but that she pursued her participation in the BDSM community on her own and found a partner that she wished to become her Master. She may outline the process of negotiation that she took before signing a contract with him, claiming that she was able to address areas of concern, and that she is granted the freedom to check in with her Master throughout the relationship to ensure that she is still comfortable and desiring of their practices. She may claim that she feels fulfilled by the relationship in that it fits her needs for stability and support, and that she finds the sexual practices to be very satisfying for her. She may also assert that she understands that this relationship is not for everyone, that she knows it is well-suited to her own unique desires, and that she does not suggest that it is the proper role for women to be submissive to their male partners. Whatever particular details she offers in defense of her relationship, the FFS is able to reflect upon what her relationship means to her, and can delve into her motivations and how her relationship either fulfills them or meets her expectations. These responses would indicate a level of responsibility, 134 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy where she is able to articulate her active participation in the pursuit, development, and expression of her relationship, while addressing the concerns that her friend has. Perhaps her friend then asks, “How do you know that your desire is authentic and not just the product of socialization,” or “Don’t you worry that your desires betray a feminist understanding that we have to abandon culturally normative roles for women?”. Such questions are valid, and are likely to come from feminist communities or feministidentified friends. She may claim that she has had the desire for a Master/slave relationship for quite a while, pursued the relationship herself, and that she has reflected long and hard on her motivations for entering into the relationship and feels that she has satisfied her own concerns that she is not merely a dupe of patriarchy. She may also claim that her feminist commitments encourage women to take all roles that they feel are authentically chosen, even if they fall in line with culturally normative roles for women. In the end, the FFS may not be able to provide an answer that fully satisfies her friend. Perhaps she attempts to articulate a reason that the FFS feels is sufficient and takes responsibility for her actions, but her friend remains unconvinced. It is important to reassert that she does not have to convince her friend, but has to participate in the justificatory dialogue in order to take responsibility for her action-guiding commitments. Were the FFS to merely provide a superficial response to her friend, such an insufficient response would be evidence that she is not autonomous. Were she to respond to her friend’s concerns by merely stating that she is fulfilling a woman’s rightful role, or that her relationship is not abusive simply because she chose to be a part of it, her failure to truly respond or to truly engage with the question would fail to assuage her friend’s 135 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy concerns. Indeed, Westlund notes that in such an instance, a deferential woman “who simply repeats pat responses will not release us from our uncertainty [about her autonomy] in this way, but will instead reinforce it” (513). This means that the way the FFS articulates her commitments (or attempts to) has a great impact on the way in which we gauge her level of responsibility for self. And given the background of the FFS in her independent pursuit of a BDSM relationship, and the self-reflection that she has engaged in in her pursuit of her relationship, I argue that it is unlikely that she would only provide superficial responses to her friend and thus that she would be able to meet the requirements set out by Westlund for autonomy. It is important to note that Westlund’s account of autonomy appears to be consistent with the concerns raised by Judith Butler on the shortcomings of relational autonomy that were mentioned in chapter 1: that one cannot truly be transparent and fully authentic to one’s own self. While some accounts, like Meyers, could be argued to require the development of an authentic self, this is not necessary for Westlund. Westlund merely requires that one takes responsibility for their action-guiding commitments, not that one have a relationship with one’s true self (which Butler also problematizes). Westlund claims that her account differs from those made by Frankfurt and Dworkin, which she views as “marking the boundaries of the self through the endorsement of some motives and the rejection of others” (35). Rather, Westlund’s account focuses on “important conceptual links among responsibility, accountability, and answerability” (35). The focus on being responsible for one’s actions is quite different from an account of autonomy that requires one to lead an authentic life. 136 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Westlund’s account encourages us to attempt to explain our relations, or actions, through dialogue in a way that is similar to giving an account of onseself. Butler describes the process of giving an account as “a kind of showing of oneself, a showing for the purpose of testing whether the account seems right, whether it is understandable by the other” (2005, 131). The FFS’s conversation with her friend is similar to giving an account: she engages with her friend in an attempt to test whether her account of her relationship seems right, she shows herself and her relationship through this dialogue, and her friend’s presence is necessary for her to give her account (Butler, 2005, 67). While the FFS’s answers may not always satisfy her friend, it is the act of the dialogue, or the way in which the FFS prepares for the dialogue, that establishes the responsibility that the FFS takes for her actions, and thus establishes her capacity for an autonomous life (Westlund, 2009, 28). This means that while Butler raises some valuable criticisms of relational accounts of autonomy that rely on the authentic self as a measuring stick for autonomy, Westlund’s account does not rely on those same conditions and can coexist with Butler’s arguments about what it means to give an account of oneself. I think it is important to note that the FFS, in order to meet the requirements for autonomy set out by Westlund, must give a more detailed and more nuanced account of herself than is currently required by the BDSM community itself. In many of the narratives of female submission used in this project, the justificatory dialogue focuses on the use of choice in establishing that the Master/slave relationship is not abusive. Such a justification is sufficient for the BDSM community, in that choice, individual freedom, and consent are of the highest value. Weiss notes that focusing on these characteristics, in 137 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy particular, the consensuality, free choice, and empowerment of BDSM are often used to make BDSM and feminism compatible (164). However, it is important to note that these responses, even though they are common amongst feminist slaves, are not necessarily sufficient for meeting Westlund’s requirements for autonomy – to justify an action by claiming that it was a choice does not necessarily indicate that one has taken responsibility for one’s actions. This, again, highlights some of the concerns found in the BDSM community’s approach to autonomy and consent – defending an action as autonomous because one made the choice to take said action fails to address any concerns related to that choice and fails to offer any sufficient justification for the commitments that underscore or guide that action. Just in the way that a submissive woman defending her submission because it is what the Bible tells her to do raises concerns for feminist scholars, so too should the justification that one’s submission is autonomous simply because one chose it. Both answers fail to truly engage with what makes us want to be submissive, and incorporating accounts of autonomy like Westlund’s offers a step in the right direction where women can begin to articulate these reasons, and in turn can develop a responsibility for self that goes beyond the current requirements in the BDSM community. Even though it is possible for the FFS to provide inadequate reasons for her relationship, I think the FFS would be able to engage in a dialogue with others who offer a critical perspective on her relationship. She would be able to give answers beyond ones that focus on individual choice, or gender norms, and would be able to articulate how the relationship has meaning for her and falls in line with her desired life path and individual 138 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy needs. It is because of her level of self-reflection that the FFS satisfies Andrea Westlund’s dialogical account, along with other procedural accounts of relational autonomy, such as those developed by Diana Meyers and John Christman16. It is important, given the role that the FFS has played in this project, to lay out the requirements that she would need to meet in order to be autonomous, and to show that she could, in fact, meet them. This would mean, then, that the FFS could be considered autonomous in the decision she made to enter her current relationship. However, I argue that meeting this criterion is not necessarily enough for the FFS to feel like a legitimate member of the feminist community, or to feel as if her autonomy is respected. In this next section, I will argue that it is not only the autonomy of the FFS that is important to her, but also establishing the importance of recognition of her autonomy by others. Why does it matter to belong? Along with the desire for the FFS to be recognized as autonomous by other feminists comes the desire to merely belong. One might ask why it is so important for the Feminist Female Slave to want to be a part of a feminist identity, particularly when some feminists have not been very welcoming to her: why does it matter if feminist accounts of autonomy, or feminist scholars and activists themselves, view her as autonomous? Isn’t it enough that she thinks it of herself? While it is important that the FFS is able to reflect upon her relationship and to evaluate whether or not the choices she made are right for 16 I also argue that the FFS would be able to satisfy some strong substantive accounts, including that of the Feminist Intuition, so long as she was able to show her submissive role was not due to an oppressive understanding of femininity. I think that her commitment to non-essentialist gender roles and desire to not prescribe universal gender roles would indicate that it could be possible to make that argument (and I think an interesting discussion could develop from this claim). However, she would fail to satisfy Oshana’s strong substantive account merely because of the structure of her relationship. 139 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy her, there is still an additional value in having her role recognized by others. It should be noted that in many of the first-hand accounts of female slaves found in this project, they address the tension between feminist ideals and their relationships, noting that they feel excluded or belittled by them due to their submissive roles. As Bambi Bottom, a Female Slave interviewed in Different Loving describes, I’ve read lots of things written by feminists against S&M and women submissives in particular. They don’t like the fact that some women choose to give their power completely to another person. That makes me very angry. It seems that some feminists are saying that I must choose their path instead of my path. I have a certain bitterness toward [politically correct] feminists…(179). Bambi’s troubled relationship with feminism is not unique to her position – while many female slaves identify as feminists, and view their relationships as expressing their feminist political beliefs, there remains a sense of discord between the female slaves and the greater feminist political community. I do not claim that the discord felt between feminists and female slaves is one which is intended to demean the female slaves, but it still is one which makes them feel as if they are outside of the feminist community, despite their feminist identifications. I argue that there is value for the FFS to feel like a member of the feminist community, both in terms of its political and individual value. Politically, it is beneficial to the FFS to be seen as part of the feminist community by other feminist scholars and activist because it grants her and her relationship a sense of respect in larger feminist circles. She, and other feminist slaves, can be viewed as members of the feminist community and thus feel a sense of solidarity with others who share their feminist 140 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy identity. It can also grant feminist slaves a chance to help change the politics of feminist communities, in order to expand their understanding of certain political issues, or to just make it more welcoming to non-normative sexualities. Her voice has value. As an individual, to be seen as autonomous grants the Feminist Female Slave a sense of belonging with other women. Her opinions as an autonomous submissive woman have greater weight than those expressed by a non-autonomous, submissive woman. Her relationship structure might differ greatly from other feminists, but to be seen as autonomous grants her a certain stature in the eyes of the feminist community. She will matter to others. Whether it is as a group of feminist submissive slaves (such as in the case of political recognition) or as an individual FFS, it is difficult to deny that being viewed by other feminists as autonomous has a value to that individual. The FFS desires to belong to the community with which she so strongly identifies, but this cannot happen if she is viewed as non-autonomous. Judith Butler: Judith Butler’s “Beside Oneself: On the Limits of Sexual Autonomy” investigates gay and lesbian human rights, offering a valuable discussion of autonomy and sexual rights and recognitions. While her paper focuses on international recognition for the rights of gays and lesbians, her description of the necessity of recognition falls in line with the dissatisfaction of feminist slaves in their relationship with feminism as a whole. While there is a wealth of discussion on the meaning of recognition, as well as feminist challenges to it, my purpose in this section is merely to establish the value that exists for those whose lives and relationships are merely seen, or seen as possible, by others. What I 141 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy argue in this section, is that the lack of recognition, or acknowledgement, of the FFS’s autonomy by feminist communities further results in her inability to belong to those same communities. This harm serves to isolate her from feminism, making it difficult for her to claim a feminist identity. Butler and Anderson’s work serves to establish the important influence that being acknowledged as either living a “possible” life (in the case of Butler) or as an autonomous person (in the case of Anderson) has on the way in which the individual is received by others. In the case of the FFS, this dramatically affects the way they are treated and received by other feminists. In her discussion of non-normative sexualities, Butler notes that those whose relationships fall outside a particular framework, that is, those in non-monogamous and non-marital relationships, are considered to be “unreal”, as their relationships are denied “reality and truth” (26-27). She claims that in developing new understanding of gender complexity, we aim for the “possible”. The purpose of this is not to ascribe new norms or restrictions, but rather that: the normative aspiration at work here has to do with the ability to live and breathe and move and would no doubt belong somewhere in what is called a philosophy of freedom. The thought of a possible life is only an indulgence for those who already know themselves to be possible. For those who are still looking to be possible, possibility becomes a necessity (31). To live a life that is a possible life grants a sense of freedom for living in a way that is understood by others, that is viewed as “real”. The role of recognition works in such a way as to affect how we are received and viewed by others: “norms of recognition function to produce and to deproduce the notion of the human” (31-32). While Butler’s 142 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy argument is intended to apply to lesbian and gay human rights (32), it also applies to the way in which women such as the FFS are viewed as human or recognized as “real” by other feminists. There is a necessary relationship whereby the value of an individual is dependent upon the way in which they can be read, or recognized, or even understood by those who are exterior to them. Butler furthers this interpersonal, or social, process of recognition when she claims that: We come into the world on the condition that the social world is already there, laying the groundwork for us. This implies that I cannot persist without norms of recognition that support my persistence: the sense of possibility pertaining to me must first be imagined from somewhere else before I can begin to imagine myself. My reflexivity is not only socially mediated, but socially constituted. I cannot be who I am without drawing upon the sociality of norms that precede and exceed me. In this sense, I am outside myself from the outset, and must be, in order to survive, and in order to enter the realm of the possible. To assert sexual rights, then, takes on a specific meaning against this background. It means, for instance, that when we struggle for rights, we are not simply struggling for rights that attach to my person, but we are struggling to be conceived as persons (32, italics in original). The struggle to be conceived as a person, to be seen by others, requires that others view one as a person. This is the crux of one’s desire for acknowledgment of one’s belonging within any given community: it is a need to be seen by others as a person, a need to just be seen by others. Butler argues that it is even our “sense of personhood [that] is linked to the desire for recognition, and that desire places us outside ourselves, in a realm of social norms that we do not fully choose” (33). We are at the mercy of others in order to attain 143 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy such recognition, to attain the position of personhood. We are necessarily bound to others in order to be seen as something or someone. Butler uses this argument to transition into discussions of international, legal recognitions for gays and lesbians, but even in the case of the Feminist Female Slave the need to be viewed as a person by other feminists, to be viewed as a person by other feminists drives a very powerful motivation for the need for recognition. For many female slaves feel they are not seen, as they are viewed as lacking in agency, thus removing their status as human, as autonomous, and removing their ability to belong as feminists. When they are seen, it is not as they feel they are: rather than being viewed as the autonomous women they see themselves as, they are viewed as dupes of patriarchy, which further creates a harm; they are not only seen as outsiders to amongst communities of feminists but their agency is also erased by that same community they desire to belong to. There is a failure to imagine the possibility of the autonomous feminist slave, which means that female slaves are reduced to being compared to problematic cases of female submission (such as the common theme of female submission that I outlined in Chapter 3). The FFS and others like her feel they are quite different from the submissives in the problem cases, different in motivations, desires, and commitments in their relationships. While the FFS and other feminist slaves are not fighting for particular rights in the way that gay and lesbian communities are, there remains a strong desire to be seen, to be seen by feminists, and to be seen as expressing legitimate, autonomous sexual desires. In response to this lack of belonging, many female slaves have moved away from feminist communities, thus reinforcing their lack of recognition from feminists. 144 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Joel Anderson: One of the most important reasons for the FFS to desire to be viewed as autonomous by other feministsis that it allows the FFS to be viewed by others as one who is not manipulated by her relationship, who is not oppressed by her relationship, and who was able to make a reasonable decision to become a slave. The process of achieving that acknowledgement is one which necessarily requires that others view her as possessing certain competencies in order to be autonomous, as it is not enough for the FFS to merely claim that she is autonomous in order to be seen as such by others. Joel Anderson’s “Autonomy and Vulnerability Entwined” articulates a necessary link between individual autonomy and recognition, where he claims that an individual cannot be seen as competent unless they are taken as such by others. This necessary acknowledgement is what grants individuals a sense of autonomy, for one must be viewed as competent in order to be treated as autonomous. In the case of the Feminist Female Slave, for her to be viewed as autonomous by other feminists requires that others, including feminist theorists, see her as possessing particular competencies and skills. Anderson argues that autonomy and vulnerability are intertwined, whereby “the acquisition and maintenance of autonomy rely on interpersonal relations in which vulnerability plays a vital role” (135). We are vulnerable in discussions of autonomy because our label as autonomous is reliant upon our relationships with others. Autonomy, for Anderson, is intersubjective as individual autonomy not only requires that we are able to view ourselves “positively by being recognized in [our] interactions with others” (138) but also that there are domains in which “to put it bluntly, one needs a certain level of 145 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy competence as an entry ticket into significant social practices, especially practices within which autonomy is exercised” (139). Anderson categorizes this as a participationaffording competence ascription. He claims that “as in the case of being a chess player, being autonomous is intersubjective in that, for a certain range of autonomy competences at least, one has the competence only if one is taken to have it” (139). This means that even if one were to possess the required skills and competencies for autonomy, unless another takes you to have those competencies, your autonomy will not be recognized as such. Therefore, we are made less capable of exercising our autonomy if others do not acknowledge our decisions or actions as autonomous. For Anderson, autonomy “is bound up with the availability of a sociocultural context within which my actions and choices are recognized as the actions and choices of an autonomous agent” (138). In order to establish the experience of an intersubjective recognition of autonomy, Anderson uses the example of linguistic competence. He explains: Take, once again, the case of a conversation in German (or any other language). It is a necessary condition for you and me to have a conversation in German that each of us takes the other to be able to speak and understand German. Otherwise, we are engaging in a different practice, say, playfully exchanging German-sounding noises with each other, as I sometimes do with my daughter. For a genuine conversation, genuine language skills are required. If you refuse to take me as a German speaker, then the social practice of a conversation in German becomes impossible. This refusal to ascribe competence may be legitimate or illegitimate, but however pernicious illegitimate exclusions are, it is the de facto exclusion that suspends the practice (146). 146 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy For Anderson, one’s individual autonomy depends upon how one is perceived by others, as does one’s admission into certain intersubjective domains and practices. While the Feminist Female Slave may satisfy certain conditions as found in proceduralist accounts of autonomy, there remains a sense of distrust in certain feminist philosophical circles, because of discomfort with the kind of submission found in the case of the FFS. From this, it is difficult for women like the FFS to feel like they are part of the feminist circle. This is seen in many of the first-hand accounts of female slaves used in this project, which have highlighted the way in which female slaves do not feel as if their choice to enter into their relationships are recognized as autonomous or respected by other feminist communities. Anderson’s account of intersubjective autonomy addresses how the failure to see the other person as autonomous excludes them from being recognized as autonomous, regardless of whether or not they possess certain autonomy competencies. This means that even if one were to satisfy Meyers’ or Westlund’s procedural accounts of autonomy, they will, in a sense, be rendered non-autonomous if their autonomy is not recognized. For Anderson, recognition of autonomy is important not only for an individual to feel good about themselves and to possess a sense of belonging, but also to have their autonomy reinforced by others and to feel like someone who matters. For the Feminist Female Slave, in taking a romantic and sexual role that is often viewed by feminists as problematic or the result of manipulation, to be recognized as autonomous requires more than just a declaration that she has fulfilled procedural accounts of autonomy. As valuable as these accounts of autonomy are, it is not always the 147 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy case that merely because one declares themselves as autonomous they are recognized as such. Anderson’s account addresses the reality of the interpersonal nature of autonomy: in order to be fully autonomous one must first have their autonomy acknowledged by others. Butler’s and Andersons’ work offer differing accounts of the importance of having one’s life or autonomy acknowledged by others. Each of them offers something of value to the case of the FFS in highlighting and explaining the necessity of the recognition of her autonomy by other feminist theorists and activists. This is not meant to claim that strong substantive feminists like Oshana must view the FFS as autonomous, but merely that the FFS’s establishing her position as autonomous, particularly in a feminist community, requires more than just meeting the procedural requirements and being happy in her own skin that she satisfies those requirements. As many of the interviews with feminist BDSM practitioners in this work have shown, there appears to be a separation between the female BDSM practitioner and feminist communities. This is reflected in the somewhat defensive position that many of these women take in their justification of their roles. To feel unwelcome in a feminist community, to feel that one is not seen as autonomous, separates and isolates women from their feminist community and identity. There is a necessary interpersonal dimension to autonomy, whereby one must be viewed as autonomous by another, or even just viewed at all, in order to participate in a particular community as an autonomous individual, in order to belong. Why does it matter that she is a feminist? 148 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy One could ask why belonging to feminist communities or holding a feminist identity is so important to the Feminist Female Slave, given the tenuous relationship she has with that community, particularly when she is already a part of another community that is more accepting of her relationship structure. Her relationship with her BDSM community in general does not seem to be problematic (even though some BDSM practitioners have noted that they are distrustful of the 24/7 M/s relationship, as explored in Chapter 4), and it is assumed that they would recognize her relationship as autonomous, given that she has fulfilled their requirements for entering into the relationship, such as the use of the contract and negotiation before becoming a slave. However, both holding a feminist identity and belonging to those communities has a particular value for the FFS and for other women like her, as there is a special connection between the FFS and her feminist identity. On top of this, incorporating the FFS and a more nuanced understanding of female submission into the feminist community has an effect on feminism itself – her relationship with her partner and her relationship with feminist politics can have a great impact on what feminism means in general. Feminism as an identification offers not only a political philosophy, but also offers a sense of solidarity with other women. To be a feminist, to be part of a feminist community, allows women to feel connected with other women, to feel connected with those who have also felt excluded or confined in their lives due to their gender, and to feel as if their lives are of value. While feminism and feminist political philosophies are quite diverse and varied, at a very basic level, the feminist commitment to women’s lives serves to embolden women, to make them feel more confident in their choices, and to feel 149 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy that they are not alone. For the FFS, and other women like her, to identify with the commitment to women’s lives, but to simultaneously feel excluded from larger community participation, almost feels like a betrayal. To receive the acknowledgement of having autonomously entered into a relationship that at first glance appears to be problematic for many feminists, grants a great amount of value to the FFS, for she then has the potential to be included in the community that she feels ought to understand her. For the FFS, feminism encourages women to seek lives that suit them, rather than following particular gender scripts. For her to feel excluded by other feminists due to her relationship, which she feels was autonomously chosen, feels like a mis-application of feminism, particularly from a community that the FFS feels ought to have respected her decision. In terms of the feminist community itself, what it can gain from a greater inclusion of the FFS and other women like her, is a more nuanced understanding of the wealth of diverse sexual expressions that women partake in. As feminist philosophy evolves, so too does the way in which women express their sexual desires; women may negotiate new roles with a feminist perspective, which impacts the motivating reasons why they express their sexuality in a certain way, what roles they take on, as well as the level of reflection they partake in while enacting those roles. The increased diversity of women’s sexual roles and expressions creates a more nuanced expression of sexuality, where we cannot assume merely based on the outward expression of the actors that certain acts are necessarily non-autonomous. It is important to note that such a position does not mean that women in these roles are necessarily autonomous merely because they 150 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy identify as feminist. Rather, if we are to evaluate women’s autonomy based on sexual or romantic practice, we have to use greater nuance and care when doing so. We cannot necessarily exclude women’s participation as fully autonomous or as truly feminist based on certain assumptions about submission, joined to awareness of oppressive norms. This chapter aimed to bring together several major components from this project in order to show the value that the FFS has in not only strengthening feminist philosophy and BDSM accounts of autonomy, but in establishing why feminist identification and recognition matters so much to the FFS herself. I argued that Westlund’s dialogical account provides an interesting, proceduralist account of autonomy that requires an intersubjectivity (or, at the very least, an imagined intersubjectivity) in order to establish autonomy. I argued that the case of the FFS would satisfy these requirements, due to her self-reflexivity and critical engagement with her own relationship. However, I further argued that for the FFS to meet the requirements for autonomy set out by Westlund was not enough to necessarily ensure that she would then be viewed as autonomous by other feminists. From this, I claimed that we must also understand the importance of acknowledging that women like the FFS as autonomous, that their sense of belonging within feminist communities plays an important role in the expression and maintenance of her autonomy. The relationship between feminist-identified women and the feminist community in general is an important one. A feminist identification is highly personal, as it affects the way in which one views themselves, views their politics, and views the world. For the 151 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy FFS, to feel misrepresented by feminist accounts of autonomy, and to feel excluded by the larger feminist community, has a great impact on her sense of self. While I do not argue that the feminist community ought to necessarily include her or welcome her with open arms merely because she is a feminist, I think it is time for feminist communities (and philosophy) to rethink what it means to be submissive, to rethink what a feminist looks like, and to rethink what a feminist sexuality must necessarily look like. The FFS asks us to reflect and to think critically about how we view women’s sexuality and how it may exclude them from being viewed as autonomous and from inclusion within our feminist politics and communities. 152 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy Conclusion In this project I introduced the case of the Feminist Female Slave to bring to light some of the concerns and considerations that must be made in discussions of women’s sexual autonomy. From both a feminist relational autonomy perspective and as a part of BDSM communities, discussions of women’s sexual autonomy do not always take into consideration the reality and diversity of women’s sexual lives. This project has aimed to encourage a greater nuance in how we approach women’s sexual submission, as well as a more realistic approach to consent and autonomy in BDSM sexual practices and communities. In Chapter 1 I introduced the connection between autonomy and oppressive socialization. Using Natalie Stoljar’s Feminist Intuition, I argued that feminist accounts of relational autonomy are rightfully concerned with the impact that oppressive socialization has on our expression of autonomy. Using the work of Chambers, Wolff, and Hill, I claimed that some mainstream accounts of autonomy failed to fully take into account this socialization, particularly when evaluating the relationship between autonomy and submission. I argued that in order to properly evaluate the case of the Feminist Female Slave, a woman who submits to her male sexual and romantic partner, that pernicious socialization must be included in our evaluation of her autonomy. The most suitable approach to evaluating her autonomy, then, I argued, was by using relational autonomy, a feminist account of autonomy which takes into consideration the role that socialization plays in our development and expression of autonomy. 153 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy In Chapter 2 I outlined the case of the Feminist Female Slave. The FFS offers an interesting case of submission (more so than that of the nun or the Deferential Wife as seen in Chapter 1) because of the way in which she submits: her submission is explicit, can require the use of practices which may be uncomfortable to others, and relies on nonnormative sexual expressions. A sexual relationship which explicitly gives power to the male partner and places the female partner as subservient to him, while potentially using physical or emotional discipline and practices, can be uncomfortable to many. For the female submissive in such a relationship to explicitly declare herself to be a feminist and that this relationship is an extension of such an identity can also be troubling to some feminists. She relies on what I called a sex-liberal account of feminism, which is consistent with the foundational tenets and practices of BDSM communities and is used to establish her relationship with a feminist identity and philosophy. This chapter established the practices, commitments, and philosophy of the FFS in order to see how her case disrupts representations of female submission in relational autonomy and BDSM accounts of autonomy and consent. In Chapter 3 I argued that feminist accounts of relational autonomy failed to provide a comprehensive representation of women’s romantic and sexual relationships. I outlined the similarities and limitations found in the way female submission has been represented by these theories in order to establish how the case of the FFS challenged them. I argued that consequences arise from failing to include a comprehensive representation of women’s romantic and sexual relationships in discussions of female submission. Often, this means we overlook particular expressions of female autonomy 154 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy and potentially results in the invisibility or exclusion of women like the FFS from feminist discourse. I argue that we must continue to develop the theoretical tools to address the reality of women’s lives and that the case of the FFS provides us with a first step in that direction. In Chapter 4 I made two separate arguments: the first claimed that the use of autonomy and consent in BDSM theory is insufficient in its theoretical rigor. The second argument claimed that the work of Diana Meyers and Andrea Westlund could resolve some of these problem areas. In the first part I argued that even though BDSM theory has explicitly heralded the use of consent in order to ensure that its practices are not abusive, its attempts to concretize the use of consent in BDSM practices has left little room for critical engagement with the concepts it relies so heavily upon. I introduced the work of Meg Barker to show that even while incorporating SSC as a necessary component of healthy BDSM practices, abuse remains a problem within BDSM communities. I argued that in order to work to combat the abuse that Barker outlines, BDSM communities must begin to ask what it means to consent to a practice, what role the community has in ensuring that consent has been given, and what steps an individual must take in order to be able to give consent legitimately. In the second part of Chapter 4 I aimed to show how relational autonomy may be helpful to BDSM theory in order to cultivate a more nuanced and realistic approach to autonomy and consent. I argued that the work of Diana Meyers, amongst other relational autonomy theorists, offers a helpful approach to autonomy as she claims that socialization is a necessary component of autonomy as it helps us to cultivate our autonomy 155 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy competencies. However, BDSM communities can also use relational autonomy in order to address how socialization may import biases and misinformation, which, in turn, generates inauthentic desires. These harmful effects of socialization can affect both programmatic and episodic autonomy, but the accounts of both Meyers and Westlund show how we can heighten our awareness of socialization and can begin to remedy these problems. In Chapter 5 I brought together several major components of this project in order to show the value that the FFS has in not only strengthening feminist philosophy and BDSM accounts of autonomy, but also in explaining why the feminist identification and inclusion within feminist communities matters so much to the FFS. I argued that Westlund’s dialogical account of autonomy provides an interesting account of autonomy that requires an intersubjectivity (or, at the very least, an imagined intersubjectivity) in order to establish autonomy. I argued that the FFS would satisfy these requirements, due to her self-reflexivity and critical engagement with her own relationship. However, I further argued that the FFS’s meeting the requirements for autonomy set out by Westlund was not enough to necessarily ensure that she would then be viewed as autonomous by other feminists, or that she would feel as if she belonged to these communities. From this, I claimed that we must also understand the importance of acknowledging women like the FFS as autonomous, and that their sense of belonging within feminist communities plays an important role in the expression and maintenance of their autonomy. This project has not necessarily aimed to make the FFS autonomous by merely introducing her case and claiming that she perfectly meets some kind of requirement for 156 Ph.D. Thesis – J. Zaslow; McMaster University - Philosophy autonomy. Rather, this project has brought out the roadblocks that prevent her from establishing her autonomy. From arousing the suspicions of those who think she violates the Feminist Intuition, to failing to conform to more general representations of female submission in romantic relationships, and to the perception that she does not belong in feminist communities, the FFS has a difficult path in her attempt to establish her autonomy to others. Rather than using this difficult experience to retreat from her feminist identity, or to retreat from her pursuit of autonomy, I argue that the FFS offers a case in which feminist autonomy theorists can grow and develop their own approaches in a way that is inclusive of the diversity of women’s sexual expression. The FFS represents a case in which feminist identity is quite central to her own individual identity, and one in which a subject aims to take a submissive role without becoming subsumed by it. Within feminist philosophy, the FFS challenges our narrow notions of female subservience and asks us to rethink what it means to express an autonomous women’s sexuality. In BDSM theory the FFS asks us to reflect upon our reliance upon superficial notions of consent and the lack of space for a critical dialogue. In feminist politics she asks us to consider what it means to belong to feminist communities, or what it means to feel as if one can lay claim to a feminist identity. Each of these considerations is brought to light because of the interesting balance that the FFS’s relationship holds between her feminist identity, sexual politics, and sexual and romantic practices. This project hopes to encourage growth and inclusion in both feminist and BDSM theories and communities. While I doubt that women like the FFS are excluded from either grouping in a malicious manner, the exclusion that women like the FFS experience 157 Ph.D. Thesis – J. 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