BULLYING AND ITS EFFECTS Officer Gilbert School Resource Officer SFMS SFES PKES WHAT IS BULLYING? • Bullying is a form of abuse. It is comprised of repeated acts over time that involves a real or perceived imbalance of power with the more powerful individual or group abusing those who are less powerful. The power imbalance may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target. • Bullying in school and the workplace is also referred to as peer abuse. EFFECTS OF BULLYING • The effects of bullying can be serious and even fatal. • The study of bullying has shown over the years that victims of bullying are at a greater risk of stress related illness which can sometimes lead to suicide. EFFECTS OF BULLYING • Victims of bullying can suffer from long term emotional and behavioral problems. Bullying can cause loneliness, depression, anxiety, lead to low selfesteem and increased susceptibility to illness. • There is a strong link between bullying and suicide. Bullying leads to several suicides every year. It is estimated that between 15 and 25 children commit suicide every year WHY DO PEOPLE BULLY? • Psychologists believe that people bully others because of their own self-esteem issues, and that most often, those who grow up to be bullies are or were bullied at home as children. • Bullies are both boys and girls that seek attention. They pick on others to make themselves feel better about themselves. By teaching awareness in schools and at home we can put an end to bullying. DIFFERENT TYPES OF BULLYING 1) PHYSICAL BULLYING includes any physical contact that would hurt or injure a person like hitting, kicking, punching, etc. Taking something that belongs to someone else and destroying it would also be considered a type of physical bullying. For example, if someone was walking down the street and someone came up to them and shoved them to the ground, that would be physical bullying. 2) VERBAL BULLYING is name-calling, making offensive remarks, or joking about a person's religion, gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or the way they look. For example, if there was a group of kids who made fun of another kid because he couldn't run as fast as everyone else, it would be an example of verbal bullying. Verbal aggression is when a bully teases someone. It can also include a bully making verbal threats of violence or aggression against someone's personal property. Continued…. 3) INDIRECT BULLYING includes spreading rumors or stories about someone, telling others about something that was told to you in private, and excluding others from groups. An example would be if you started a rumor that a boy in your class likes playing with dolls, and if the reason that you made up the story was because you thought it was funny. This would be indirect bullying. 4) SOCIAL ALIENATION is when a bully excludes someone from a group on purpose. It also includes a bully spreading rumors, and also making fun of someone by pointing out their differences. DIFFERENT TYPES OF BULLYING 5) INTIMIDATION is when a bully threatens someone else and frightens that person enough to make him or her do what the bully wants. 6) CYBERBULLYING is done by sending messages, pictures, or information using electronic media, computers (email & instant messages), or cell phones (text messaging & voicemail). For instance, if you sent a picture of a snake in an email to a person because you know that they are afraid of snakes, that would be an example of cyberbullying. Numbers that make you Wonder • According to Bullying Statistics, thirty-two percent of parents fear for their child’s physical safety when the child is at school. Thirty-nine percent of parents with a child in grade six or higher are more likely to say they fear for their child’s safety. Twentytwo percent of parents whose children are in grade five or lower fear for their child’s safety. • 282,000 students are physically attacked in secondary schools each month. • 90% of 4th through 8th graders report being victims of bullying • Thirty-nine percent of middle schoolers and thirty-six of high schoolers say they don’t feel safe at schools, according to bullying statistics. “Being bullied is not just an unpleasant rite of passage through childhood,” Duane Alexander, M.D., director of the NICHD RYAN HALLIGAN Consequences of Bullying • Children who bully others also experience many short term and long term consequences of their bullying behavior. They are more likely to get involved in other harmful activities, both as a child and as an adult. While they are still young, they may steal or vandalize property, start or join in on physical fights, become injured in a fight, skip school, carry a weapon in order to scare others, or use alcohol and other drugs. They are also five times more likely to be taken to criminal court and to be found guilty of a crime than are their peers who do not participate in bullying behavior. • Most bullies do not just "outgrow" their bullying behaviors when they get older. Instead, the aggressive behavior continues into adulthood. A study conducted by psychologist Dan Olweus of Norway found that 60% of students in Scandinavian countries who were classified as bullies in 6th through 9th grade had one or more incidents of being convicted of a crime by the time they were 24 years old. Also, these bullies were four or more times as likely as non bullies to be involved in numerous convictions of crimes. Another study showed that by the time they were 30 years old, one out of 4 bullies had a criminal record. Finally, victims aren't the only ones who may become depressed, think about suicide, or carry out suicide; in some cases, the same can be true for bullies. EASY SOLUTIONS TO BULLYING Bullying and harassment thrive on silence. Parents can break the silence by listening and talking with their children about strategies for dealing with bullies. Kids can be encouraged to practice looking assertive and confident, to speak firmly and to practice comeback lines that are short and funny. With their parents' help, kids can develop alternate routes to bus or school, avoid places where bullies hang out, sit near the bus driver or walk with friends. Kids should also be encouraged not to give up and to join clubs and other social groups to widen their safe social circle. WAYS YOUR TEACHER MAY HELP Teachers can be encouraged to involve students in creating classroom rules against bullying. Teachers should have a serious talk with the bully, explaining such behavior is not acceptable and explaining the negative consequences. Involving the bully's parents in these discussions can be very helpful. Of course, teachers also should listen to the victim's concerns and document episodes of bullying. There are many creative classroom solutions that will ease children's fear of retaliation, including anonymous drop boxes and surveys of bullying and harassment among the student population. JUST FOR YOU • Don't ignore the problem! Leaving young adults alone to deal with bullying doesn't make them tougher, it makes them more vulnerable. • Look for the signs of harassment because young adults may be too emotionally overwhelmed or frightened to tell. • Work with teachers, administrators, and/or school resource officers directly so that everyone can become more aware of the problem. WHAT YOU CAN DO TO LEND A HELPING HAND If You Feel Safe • • Don’t just stand by and watch….SAY SOMETHING!!! Do not bully back. Bullying back could make the situation worse for you and for your friends. If You Do Not Feel Safe • • • • It’s alright, do not put yourself in a situation where you do not feel safe. Be sure to say kind words to the individual who was bullied, such as “I’m sorry about what happened…” and “I don’t like that that happened…” Help them realize and understand that it isn’t their fault. Tell the individual that they should tell someone about the situation and offer to go along with them for support. Don’t be a bystander and watch and do nothing Tell An Adult • Chances are, the kid who is being bullied needs help from an adult. The kid who is doing the bullying probably does, too. Often, the bullying does not get reported. But, who should you tell? Think about who you could tell in your school Quiz Time!!!!!!! 1. Do you make mean faces or bad hand signs to others? 2. Do you spread rumors or say mean things about others behind their back? Do you make fun of or tease other teens often? 3. 4. Do you whisper secrets to a friend in front of another person and then not share the secret with him or her on purpose? 5. Have you purposely not invited someone to hang out with you and your friends? 6. Have you ever threatened to hurt someone? More ?’s 7. Have you been or are you currently part of a clique that is exclusive about whom you can and cannot be friends with and has not let others join? 8. Do you often make fun of others because they are "different" from you or your friends? (Example: they have glasses, ugly clothes, bad hair, or a different race/ethnicity or religion). 9. Have you ever punched, shoved, or hit another boy or girl? IF YOU ANSWERED YES TO AT LEAST 1 QUESTION…. You have bullied another person. You may have hurt someone’s feelings or hurt them physically, but you are not alone. Many young men and women have bullied others and hurt others’ feelings. Being mean and hurting others is not cool. DON’T BE A PART OF THE PROBLEM……… BE THE SOLUTION!!!