“The Love and Logic process includes sharing control and decision-making, using empathy with consequences, and enhancing the selfconcept of children.
"The Love and Logic philosophy teaches character. Character is built out of a formula that involves three things: A child making a mistake, an adult feeling empathy and compassion for the child, and the child learning from the consequences of his or her actions.“
Jim Fay has become one of America's most sought-after presenters in the fields of parenting, positive discipline, and classroom management.
Co Founder with Foster W. Cline, M. Dr of The Love and Logic Institute and co-author of the bestseller Parenting with Love and Logic.
Jim Fay has over 30 years of experience in education, serving in public, private, and parochial schools in a variety of roles, including elementary education, art and music teacher, school principal, and administrator.
He has been consulting and speaking about parenting and education for more than 30 years, founding School Consultant
Services, the sister company to the Cline-Fay Institute, in 1977.
Dave Funk has been an educator since 1969
Taught in both regular and special education classrooms.
He is responsible for participating in the evaluation and placement of disabled students, coordinating a number of special programs, and serving as liaison to parent groups.
He is the co-author, with Jim Fay, of Teaching with Love and Logic, and the author of Love and Logic Solutions for
Kids with Special Needs.
The love and logic philosophy states the importance of adults providing limits in a caring way.
• Discipline is maintained with compassion and understanding. Jim Fay and David Funk describe childhood misbehavior as an opportunity for helping children grow through their mistakes.
• Their methods help children learn to be responsible and gain selfconfidence.
• They assert that sharing control and stopping undesirable behaviors early are most effective, and that getting to know students on a personal basis can have many benefits.
How It Helps Educator
Provide underachiever’s hope and willingness when the going gets tough.
Manage disruptive students.
Make teaching and learning more fun and productive.
Get and keep students' attention.
Build positive student-teacher relationships.
Help students own and solve their own problems.
Why It Works
When adults take care of themselves, they hand the problem back to the student who created it.
When the student has to solve the problem, they have to think.
When students have to think, they learn that decisions have consequences.
When we allow the student to deal with the consequences, they learn to think before they cause a problem.
When the student learns to ask themselves, "How is my behavior going to affect me?" they have learned self control.
Open your books to page 54.
Don’t be bothering your neighbor.
Turn your assignment in on time or you’ll get a lower grade.
I’ll be working from page 54.
You’re welcome to stay with us as long as you and others are not bothered.
I give full credit for paper turned in on time.
“Would you rather work quietly with us, or would you rather be in the time-out area?
It’s really up you. If you decide to go to time-out, please come back as soon as you can handle it. I’d love to have you back.
“That’s too bad! That zero will have to be averaged with your other grades.”
When a teacher displays anger. The child gets caught up on the anger. The result is that the consequence does not register in the child’s mind the way it should.
When the teacher uses empathy in describing the consequence, the child’ mind tends to focus on the mistake with more intensity. This leads the child to build a thought process about the mistake.
Some thoughts on changing behavior in the classroom
Change takes time.
Everyone's experience is different. We must attempt to understand a student's perception of events before we can affect real change.
Nonverbal language speaks loud.
Self-worth is to be encouraged.
Use a lot of questions.
Eliminate power struggles. When we offer kids a choice instead of making a demand, no power struggle ever begins.
One of the rules of the psychology of selfconcept states, "Human beings will perform for the person they love." If a person loves himself, he will do it for himself. If he does not have that high self-esteem or belief in self, he will have to do it for someone else until the time comes that he does love himself.
• If you are having trouble connecting with a student, try the following: Go to the student six times over three school weeks and use a "one-sentence intervention".
• The sentence should start with the work, "I noticed..." Then, you fill in the blank with something personal about the student - something positive and true
• Make it something personal and not school related.
• Spread these interventions over three weeks. After the three weeks, check to determine if the student is more cooperative than before you started asking by going to the student at an appropriate time and asking, "Will you try that just for me?" Or, "Will you stop doing that just for me?"
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R E F E R E CN C E
Fay, Jim, and David Funk (1995). Teaching With Love And Logic:
Taking Control Of The Classroom. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic