Bible 101
Dean Biebert, Pastor
Shepherd of the Hills Church
Lesson Fourteen:
Christian Marriage
and Family
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
God has always wanted stability for humanity.
When He first created the universe and people,
He created with the intent that there would be
stability. He accomplished this by creating the
male and female gender and establishing the
basic building block of every society, marriage
and the family that springs from it.
Nothing has been so misused, abused and
misunderstood as the marriage and family. The
destruction of family life is a consequence of sin.
Let’s look at God’s plan for marriage and family,
and see how God wants to help sinners have the
stable life He intended.
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
What is God’s design for marriage?
The creation account shows
Genesis 2:18-24:
how God created men to correspond to women.
He has needs that only she can meet. She has
needs that only he can meet. God’s design for
marriage is Genesis 2:24:
“That is why a man will leave
his father and mother and will
be united with his wife, and
they will become one flesh.”
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
“That is why a man will leave his father and
mother and will be united with his wife, and
they will become one flesh.”
From this verse we learn the three
ingredients that make a marriage valid:
man and one ___________.
woman
1. One ______
(From the beginning God intended marriage to be heterosexual.)
leave his father and mother”:
2. “A man will ________
God intends that both the man and the woman are of age to
establish a home independent of their parents. He intends
that they be free to marry (not illegally divorced, not still
married to someone else).
NOTE: The fourth commandment requires us to ask our
parents’ blessings for the marriage.
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
“That is why a man will leave his father and
mother and will be united with his wife, and
they will become one flesh.”
From this verse we learn the three
ingredients that make a marriage valid:
wife and they will become
3. “Be united to his ________,
one flesh
____________.
Marriage is the public promises couples
make to each other to keep their marriage
vows until death separates them.
COMMITMENT is the glue of marriage.
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
What needs does marriage address?
1. Genesis 2:18-24: Mutual Companionship
• God designed them to need each other.
• God designed them to meet each other’s
needs.
1. She is soft where he is rough.
2. She is emotional where he is
logical.
3. He is strong where she is weak.
• God gave us perfectly coordinated
genders to meet those needs.
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
What needs does marriage address?
2. Genesis 2:24c and 1 Corinthians 7:3-4:
Sexual Satisfaction
• Marriage is a gift that God designed
as the right way to satisfy our sexual
needs.
• Sex is giving as much as it is
getting.
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
What needs does marriage address?
3. Genesis 1:28 and Malachi 2:15:
Children
• Children are a blessing.
(Psalm 127 & 128)
• Children are an asset.
(Psalm 127 & 128)
• Children are a responsibility
that God may give.
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
Does God allow a Christian
to get a divorce?
Malachi 2:16: God Hates Divorce
However, God allows divorce if a spouse
has destroyed the essence of marriage. A
marriage is not ruined unless one of the
partners destroys its essence. This is
important to remember, especially when
a marriage is falling far short of what
God intended. God allows a spouse to
divorce if the other has already destroyed
the essence of marriage. God doesn’t
permit divorce just because the marriage
is falling short of what God intended.
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
Does God allow a Christian
to get a divorce?
Matthew 19:3-9: God permits divorce if a
adultery
spouse has committed _________.
1 Corinthians 7:12-16: God permits divorce
deserts
if a spouse ___________
the marriage.
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For a happy marriage and for help
overcoming marriage troubles, God gives:
forgiveness is the key
Ephesians 4:32: ____________
to a happy marriage.
1 Peter 4:12-19 & 1 Peter 5:7-11:
__________
strength to hang in there when times
are tough.
Christian
Hebrews 10:23-25: _________
friends give encouragement
________
to support us when we are
struggling.
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For a happy marriage and for help
overcoming trouble in marriage God gives:
Ephesians 5:22-33 & 1 Peter 3:1-7:
God’s Word guides you to be the right
___________
kind of role model as a husband or wife.
A. Husbands are the lead role model
for Jesus’ loving service and
sacrifice in the family.
(Ephesians 5:25)
B. Wives role model Jesus’ serving
and submitting example.
(Ephesians 5:22)
Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Family
Additional Comments on the
Roles of Men and Women:
1. Galatians 3:26-29:
Men and women enjoy equal status in their
re-established relationship with God. He
promotes them to identical positions in His
family of believers.
2. Genesis 2:7,18,22:
God established the roles for men
and women in a perfect world.
3. 1 Corinthians 11:2-16
1 Timothy 2:12,13
These roles also apply as we do
God’s Work in church groups.
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Jesus wants to be the head of the house.
He is the invisible third party in Christian marriage.
It is a healthy marriage when He gets top priority.
The closer we get to Jesus
the closer we get to each other.
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Homework:
Read 1 Corinthians 13 (the
entire chapter). Be ready to tell
how you would answer a friend
who said she was divorcing her
husband because she didn’t love
him anymore.