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Unit 3
Marriage across nations
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Meaning Guess
Discussion
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I. Meaning Guess
Guess the real meanings of
husband, wife and family.
For example
w-washing
i-ironing
f-food
e-entertaining
Reference
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HUSBAND
H — housing 有房子
U — understanding 有心灵相通
S — sharing 有分享的喜悦
B — buying 有钱买想要的东西
A — and 还有
N — never 绝对不
D — demanding 要求太高的
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WIFE
W — witch 美女
I — intelligent 聪明伶俐的
F — faithful 忠实的
E — everyday 每一天
FAMILY
F — father
A — and
M — mother
I—I
L — love
Y — you
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II. Discussion
Watch the movie clips
and discuss what the
problems a crossculture couple may
face and give some
suggestions.
Listening tips
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Listening Tips
1. …everybody is in each other’s lives and business all
the time.
2. …over who eat the lamp brain. My aunt Woola forks
the (lamp) eye ball and chases me around with it, trying
to get me to eat, because it can make me smart.
3. The only people we know are Greeks because Greeks
marry Greeks...
4. But I just don’t see how this is going to work out.
5. I’m not a different species.
6. You’ve got a weird family. Who doesn’t?
Movie clips
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Greek Wedding 1
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Tips
The obstacles come from family, friends,
personal values, expectations, … Some
of the problems these relationships face
include:
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language barrier
differences in values
religious conflicts
economic adjustments
fear of abandonment by family, friends,
spouse
• political issues
• legal complications
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To overcome these barriers, intercultural
couples need to:
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Learn about one another's cultures;
Communicate well in at least one language;
Be open and honest with their families;
Accept that cultural roots go deep and that
people don't change easily or quickly;
• Focus on the positives.
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Text Study
Notes to the Text
Words and Expressions
Idea Sharing
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Understanding
Structure Analysis
Summary
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Text Study—Understanding
I. Understanding
Gail and I decided to get married. But Gail’s
father and mother …
Fill in the blanks with the information given in
the text.
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Text Study—Understanding
Why did we decide to get married?
Gail and I had experienced ups
___ and downs
_____
in two years, now we come to _____,
know
_________
each other.
understand and _________
respect
weaknesses and ________
strengths
We confronted __________
of each other’s character. We have learnt to
open The
compromising and _____.
be tolerant
______, ____________
source of our strength was our mutual trust
____
and _______.
respect
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Text Study—Understanding
What did her mother think?
When Gail’s mother heard the news, instead
congratulations she _________
of ____________
counseled Gail to
reconsider our marriage. Though she
regarded me as ________
charming and _________,
intelligent
she was afraid that Gail may be marrying me
for ______
wrong reasons.
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Text Study—Understanding
What was her father’s response?
When Gail’s father heard the news, he
approached our decision with _______
a fatherknows-best attitude. He doubted that I
__________
was marrying in order to ______
remain in
the USA , for I had problems with the
Citizenship Department. So, they all
___________
that Gail be sure that
suggested
she was doing the wrong thing
___________________________and
she may _______________.
change her mind
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Text Study—Structure Analysis
II. Structure Analysis
A. The Way to Develop This Passage:
Narrations combined with quotations
How do the parents react to their
daughter’s wedding plans to a guy
from different cultures and racial
background? The writer narrates this
story with quotations.
Can you identify the quotations from
the narration?
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Text Study—Structure Analysis
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Paragraphs
Ways of Development
1~5
Narration
__________
6~9
___________
Quotations
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Narration
11~13
Quotations
___________
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15~21
Narration
Quotations
___________
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Text Study—Structure Analysis
B. The Way to Develop Paragraphs:
Denial of Some Opinions + Some Other Opinions
One of the common ways to present
opinions is first to reject or correct some
opinions and then on the basis of that, we
have the opinions that are intended to be
conveyed.
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Text Study—Structure Analysis
Make an analysis of Paragraph 7 and find out how
the mother presents her opinion in this way.
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Text Study—Structure Analysis
The mother’s original opinion:
To start with I must admit that at first I
harbored reservations about a mixed
marriage, prejudices you might even
call them.
The mother presents others’
opinion: Yes, my friends talk.
Some even express shock at
what you’re doing.
The mother corrects her original
opinion: But when I met Mark I found
him a charming and intelligent young
guy. Any mother would be proud to
have him for a son-in-law. So, color
has nothing to do with it.
Then the mother rejects that
opinion, too: But they live in a
different world. So you see,
Mark’s color is not the problem.
The mother presents her opinion: My biggest worry is that you may be
marrying Mark for the same wrong reasons that I married your father.
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III. Summary
Gail and Mark had been together for two years and
understand and respect each other.
had learned to ____________________
Recently they decided to get married and they told
the news to Gail’s parents. To their surprise, they
resistance Gail’s mother was
met with some _________.
worried that they might be marrying for the wrong
wait Gail’s
reasons and advised her daughter to ____.
opposed the marriage because he
father also ________
thought that Mark was marrying her daughter so
that he could remain in the United States. Such
concerns
_______ are understandable. After all, marriage
problems of one kind
across nations may have its ________
or another.
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Text Study—Reproduction
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IV. Reproduction
Work in a group of 3 to have a talk show.
One works as a host, the other two are
Gail and Mark. Gail and Mark are being
interviewed by the host on the topic
Marriage Across the Nations. The rest of
the class may act as audience and ask
some questions.
A sample beginning
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Text Study—Reproduction
A sample beginning
Host: Welcome to People Around You. Join us
today are a mixed would-be-couple from
the United States and Africa. So …
Mark: Hello, everyone. I am Mark from Africa.
Gail: Hay, there. …
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Active Expressions
Focus Study
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Notes to the Text—Active Expressions
Find the active expressions:
1. …and being open with each other.
2. We want to avoid the mistake made by many
couples of marrying for the wrong reasons,
3. …really sure she was doing the right thing.
4. …think that waiting won’t hurt.
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• open
Notes to the Text—Active Expressions
• wrong
not closed ; available ; not
decided
not correct; not suitable
• right
correct; suitable
• hurt
to make sb. unhappy; used to
encourage someone
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Notes to the Text—Active Expressions
Translation
1. 她对我坦诚相见。
1. She is very open with me.
2. 你在不合适的时候说了不合适的话。
2. You’ve said the wrong thing at the wrong time.
3. 学学在什么样的时候说什么样的话。
3. Learn to say the right thing at the right time.
4. 听听别处的意见没害处。
4. Another opinion can’t hurt.
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Notes to the Text—Focus Study
II. Focus Study
1. …at first I harbored reservations about a
mixed marriage, prejudices you might
even call them.
an appositional structure (同位结构)
“prejudices” 是 “reservations” 的同位语。
Practice
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Notes to the Text—Focus Study
Translation
• 大学校长唐先生向全校宣布了那个好消息。
• “留下我来做吧。” 值夜班的比尔说。
Key
• Mr. Tang, President of the university, announced
the good news to the whole school.
• “Leave it to me,” said Bill, the man on night duty.
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Notes to the Text—Focus Study
2. “Remember, it’s never too late to change
your mind.”
never too … to … = any time
Practice
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Notes to the Text—Focus Study
Translation
• 活到老，学到老。
• 亡羊补牢，为时不晚。
Key
• One is never too old to learn.
• It is never too late to mend.
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Word Using
Old to New
Chinese to English
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
I. Word Using
1. imagine v.
to think about having
Translation
很难想象生活在一个没有电话、没有汽车的地
方会是个什么样子。
Key
It’s hard to imagine living in a place where
there are no telephones or cars.
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
2. tolerance n.
willingness or ability to accept sth.
Translation
在南方住了几年后，我耐热的能力增强了许多。
Key
My tolerance of heat is greater after having
lived in the south for a couple of years.
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
3. mutual adj.
shared; felt or done by each to the other
Collocation
mutual respect
mutual understanding
mutual interests
mutual efforts
mutual support
mutual hobby
相互信任
相互理解
共同利益
共同努力
相互支持
共同爱好
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
4. overlook v.
to pretend not to notice
Translation
她没有计较他的无礼，并尽量装作没事的样子。
Key
She overlooked his offensiveness and tried to
pretend nothing had happened.
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
5. work out
to happen or progress in a certain way
Translation
他们希望能成功，结果情况大不相同。
Key
They hoped to make it, but things worked out
quite differently.
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6. go through
to experience
Translation
执行这一计划时我们遇到了许多困难。
Key
We went through difficulties while working on
this project.
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
7. prejudice n.
unreasonable dislike of people
Use it
What kind of prejudice is common in the
world?
— Women have to face a great deal of
prejudice in the workplace.
— Prejudice against black people is
common in many parts of America.
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8. confirm v.
to show that sth. is true
Translation
你刚才所说的一切向我们证实了一个观点：
谁都不能信任。
Key
Everything you have just said confirms the
view that nobody can be trusted.
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9. hesitate v.
to pause before saying or doing sth.
Use it
Is there anything in the world that you
never hesitate to pay?
— I never hesitate to pay for
(gift for my mother, CD, etc.)
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
10. cancel v.
to call off
Use it
When do you think a football match will
be cancelled?
— The football game will be cancelled
due to …
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
11. proceed v.
to start to do sth., often after doing sth. else first
Translation
把你的姓名告诉我们，然后再讲讲你的经历。
Key
Tell us your name and then proceed with
your story.
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12. resolve v.
to find a solution to (a problem, crisis)
Translation
他们希望这场危机能和平解决。
Key
They hoped the crisis could be resolved
peacefully.
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
A mini-test
1. They know what is important for them, for ______
they
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have all gone through the war (他们都经历
过这场战争).
I hesitate to ask you (也许我不该问你), but
2. __________________
will you lend me some money?
3. They hoped to be able to move into their new
house at the end of the month, but ________
things did
work out as they had expected (事情进展
_________________________
并不如他们所期望的那样).
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Words and Expressions—Word Using
We’ll overlook your bad behavior this time
4. ________________________________
(这一次我们不计较你的错误行为), but don’t do
it again.
5. After everyone was seated, the chairman
___________________________
proceeded to announce his plan (开始宣布他
的计划).
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Words and Expressions—Old to New
II. Old to New
false impression
suitable
fail to see
advise
later; following
words; sign
cruel
go on
decide
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illusion
compatible
overlook
counsel
subsequent
indication
harsh
proceed
resolve
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III. Chinese to English
宽容
相互尊重
避免错误
不兼容
偏见
女婿
知女莫若父
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tolerance
mutual respect
avoid mistake
incompatible
prejudice
son-in-law
 father-knows-best
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妥协
种族主义者
理想主义的
现实主义的
(状态)最好时
(状态)最差时
怀疑
异族通婚
Words and Expressions—C to E
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compromise
racist
idealistic
realistic
at one’s best
at one’s worst
suspect
mixed couple
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Discussion
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Idea Sharing
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Discussion
Would you like to marry
a man or a woman from
another culture? Why
or why not? Give your
ideas in your group.