The Ethics of Coaching and
Mentoring
Česko-anglické gymnázium
České Budějovice
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Renata Lukášová
Board member
Anthony Achmat
Coaching and Mentoring
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How do you build trust?
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Ways to build trust
Listen
Wear their shoes
Keep Commitments
Apologize
Do the little things
Trust can look like this!
To Hear vs. To Listen
What is the difference?
To listen in Chinese symbols
What is Coaching and Mentoring?
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Coaching and Mentoring
Coaching and Mentoring are processes that help
individuals achieve their full potential.
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Differences between Mentoring and
Coaching
Focus
Role
Relationship
Source of
influence
Personal returns
Arena
Mentor
Individual
Facilitator with no agenda
Self selecting
Perceived value
Coach
Performance
Specific agenda
Comes with the job
Position
Affirmation/learning
Life
Teamwork/performance
Task related
Where do you find a Coach or Mentor?
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Real life Organization
Immediate
Family
Society
You
Extended
Family
Close
Family
Mentoring
"off-line help by one person to another in
making significant transitions in knowledge,
work or thinking"
History
Who can be a mentor?
Anyone! It depends…
So, again…
Who can be a mentor?
“Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.”
John C. Crosby
Choosing my Mentor
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Be clear on why you want a mentor.
Define your personality and communication style.
Explain why you’re asking and what you’d expect.
Choose a mentor you truly respect.
Ask for input on a single specific topic.
Look for ways you can reciprocate.
Show gratitude.
Think beyond former bosses and professors.
Mentoring can take many forms.
This is your path, not theirs.
Don’t become too dependent on your mentor.
Have more than one mentor.
Good mentors are very busy people.
Who can be a mentee?
The best mentees are those who:
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Want to proactively advance in their careers
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Want to proactively look at their strengths,
weaknesses and opportunities for improvement
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Are willing to share their mistakes and failures in
order to learn from them
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Are willing to listen to the advice of others and
act upon it
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Can be honest with themselves and introspective
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Have the ability to hold themselves accountable
and be self-disciplined
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Are open to new ideas and opinions
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Have a good sense of humor with the ability to
take situations seriously but be able to laugh at
themselves
"If you don't like something change it.
If you can't change it, change your
attitude. Don't complain."
Maya Angelou
Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach
a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.
Chinese proverb
Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to
person.
Mother Teresa
Coaching
“Is a process that enables learning and
development to occur and thus performance
to improve”.
Why Coaching?
• The relationship skills learned through
coaching benefit relationships throughout the
organization.
• The learning that results from coaching
creates value for the entire organization.
Coaching focuses on...
The person and their roll in the
organisation
Psychological, person oriented coaching
Five right attitudes of a Coach
Esteem
Interest
Empathy
Coach
Clarity
Trust
The toolbox of a Coach
Toolbox
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Clarity about the role / when to choose the role
6 steps of a coaching process
Active listening
Effective questions
Feedback
Work solution oriented
Six Step Model for Coaching
Watch this…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hnsz8Uc3enE
What excuse do you have?
Do you have any
questions?
Thank you.