The Pattern of Family Life Dallin H. Oaks Quorum of the Twelve (Ensign, Nov. 2013) “[T]he pattern of marriage … originated with Adam and Eve and has continued through the ages as God’s pattern for the procreative relationship between His sons and daughters and for the nurturing of His children.” Richard G. Scott Quorum of the Twelve (Ensign, Nov. 1996, p. 73-75) “You can learn how to be more effective parents by studying the lives of Adam and Eve.” The Pattern for Men & Women The Roles of Adam The Roles of Eve • Moses 4:22 • Moses 4:23-25; 5:1 • Moses 4:22 • Moses 4:26 • Moses 3:18 The Roles of Husband & Wife Together • Moses 2:28; 5:2 • Moses 3:24 • Moses 5:1 • Moses 5:12 Spencer W. Kimball President (Ensign, Oct 1975, 2) “Certainly it is not easy for the woman to bear the child in distress and discomfort, but still her desire should be to her husband, for he will preside over her. And surely it is not easy for the man who must provide for his family by the sweat of his face, but it is the true plan. (See Gen. 3:16– 19.) Great blessings come from it.” From The Family: A Proclamation to the World God • Moses 4:22 • Ephesians 5:22-33 Husband Wife Patricia T. Holland Wife of Elder Holland (On Earth as it is In Heaven, p.72) “[W]e come together as equal, whole, developing, and contributing partners. Most of our movement together is in a lateral relationship. We move side by side, together, simultaneously, much like doublyyoked oxen. But there are times when, for the sake of godly progress and development, I follow my husband in a vertical relationship. A house of God is a house of order. We all fall in line behind someone in that straight course that leads to eternal bliss. I am so grateful that I fall in line with Jeff. Patricia T. Holland Wife of Elder Holland (On Earth as it is In Heaven, p.72) “Much of the time I act autonomously and independently. In fact, Jeff will agree that I am about the most independent woman he knows. But when we make major moves, and even some minor ones, and when I'm concerned about the children or my church assignments, or when I experience weakness and pain, I listen to and obey his counsel because I know he obeys our Father's counsel. I know that is the order of heaven.” God • Moses 4:22 • Ephesians 5:22-33 Husband Wife The Pattern for Men & Women The Roles of Adam The Roles of Eve • Moses 4:22 • Moses 4:23-25; 5:1 • Moses 4:22 • Moses 4:26 • Moses 3:18 The Roles of Husband & Wife Together • Moses 2:28; 5:2 • Moses 3:24 • Moses 5:1 • Moses 5:12 From The Family: A Proclamation to the World Quentin L. Cook Quorum of the Twelve (Ensign, Nov. 2013) “There are many voices now telling women how to live. They often contradict each other. Of particular concern are philosophies that criticize or diminish respect for women who choose to make the sacrifices necessary to be mothers, teachers, nurturers, or friends to children.” “A pernicious philosophy that undermines women’s moral influence is the devaluation of marriage and of motherhood and homemaking as a career…. They ridicule what they call ‘the mommy track’ as a career. This is not fair or right.” D. Todd Christofferson Quorum of the Twelve (Ensign, Nov. 2013) Spencer W. Kimball President (Ensign, Oct 1975, 2) “Let no carnal mind decide in his or her feigned brilliance or pretended wisdom that a mistake was made. The whole program was intelligently organized…. Had the superficial ideas of many mortals of today prevailed, the world, the human race, and all proper things would long ago have come to an end.” The Pattern for Men & Women The Roles of Adam The Roles of Eve • Moses 4:22 • Moses 4:23-25; 5:1 • Moses 4:22 • Moses 4:26 • Moses 3:18 The Roles of Husband & Wife Together • Moses 2:28; 5:2 • Moses 3:24 • Moses 5:1 • Moses 5:12 Who’s Better? Boys or Girls? Eve, a “help meet” for Adam Moses 3:18 Help meet is translated from the Hebrew, “Ezerkenegdo,” which conveys the sense of “an equal but opposite helper to him.” Text Manhood M A R R I A G E Womanhood The natures of male and female spirits complete and perfect each other, and therefore men and women are intended to progress together toward exaltation. David A. Bednar Quorum of the Twelve (Worldwide Leadership Training on Family) “The Lord intended that the wife be a helpmeet for man (meet means equal)— that is, a companion equal and necessary in full partnership.” Howard W. Hunter President (Ensign, Nov. 1994, 50–51) “The Lord intended that the wife be a helpmeet for man (meet means equal)— that is, a companion equal and necessary in full partnership.” Howard W. Hunter President (Ensign, Nov. 1994, 50–51) From The Family: A Proclamation to the World M. Russell Ballard Quorum of the Twelve (Campus Education Week, 19 August 2003) “As clearly stated in the proclamation on the family, men and women, though spiritually equal, are entrusted with different but equally significant roles. These roles complement each other. M. Russell Ballard Quorum of the Twelve (Campus Education Week, 19 August 2003) “Men are given stewardship over the sacred ordinances of the priesthood. To women, God gives stewardship over bestowing and nurturing mortal life…. Each stewardship is essential for the spiritual progression of all family members—parents and children alike.” M. Russell Ballard Quorum of the Twelve (Campus Education Week, 19 August 2003) “Men are given stewardship over the sacred ordinances of the priesthood. To women, God gives stewardship over bestowing and nurturing mortal life…. Each stewardship is essential for the spiritual progression of all family members—parents and children alike.” Sheri Dew Relief Society 2nd Counselor (Ensign, Nov. 2001, 12) “Satan seeks to confuse us about our stewardships and distinctive natures as men and women. He bombards us with bizarre messages about gender, marriage, family, and all male-female relationships. He would have us believe men and women are so alike that our unique gifts are not necessary, or so different we can never hope to understand each other. Neither is true.” “[C]oncerning marriage and the roles of man and woman, let no man defy God or set aside his divine program…. Spencer W. Kimball President (Ensign, Oct 1975, 2) “Why do some allow themselves to criticize— criticize God’s plan? Why can’t they accept their roles in life and be grateful for them?” Text Moses 6:59 Manhood • Spiritual Rebirth M A R R I A G E Womanhood • Physical Birth “We know that … we must experience both a physical birth and a spiritual rebirth to reach the highest realms in God’s celestial kingdom.” ~Elder Christofferson (Ensign, Nov. 2013) Text The Pattern of Parenting Richard G. Scott Quorum of the Twelve (Ensign, Nov. 1996, p. 73-75) “You can learn how to be more effective parents by studying the lives of Adam and Eve.” What are parents to remember about their children? Moses 6:55-56 What are parents therefore to teach their children? Moses 6:57-62 D&C 68:25 Faith in Christ Grow in Christlike Attributes Repentance The Law of the Gospel Covenants Purified/ Sanctified Making, Renewing, & Keeping Receive the Holy Ghost How did Adam & Eve’s children react to their teachings? Moses 7:1 The Good The Bad Moses 6:1-4 Moses 5:13, 55-57 Generational Effects: Generational Effects: Moses 6:13, 21-23 Moses 6:15 The Ugly Moses 5:16-41 Jeffrey R. Holland Quorum of the Twelve (“A Prayer for the Children,” Ensign, May 2003) “Even then we know that some children will make choices that break their parents’ hearts. Moms and dads can do everything right and yet have children who stray. Moral agency still obtains. But even in such painful hours it will be comforting for you to know that your children knew of your abiding faith in Christ, in His true Church, in the keys of the priesthood and in those who hold them. Jeffrey R. Holland Quorum of the Twelve (“A Prayer for the Children,” Ensign, May 2003) “It will be comforting then for you to know that if your children choose to leave the straight and narrow way, they leave it very conscious that their parents were firmly in it. Furthermore, they will be much more likely to return to that path when they come to themselves and recall the loving example and gentle teachings you offered them there. “Live the gospel as conspicuously as you can. Keep the covenants your children know you have made.” How did Adam & Eve’s children react to their teachings? Moses 7:1 The Good The Bad Moses 6:1-4 Moses 5:13, 55-57 Generational Effects: Generational Effects: Moses 6:13, 21-23 Moses 6:15 The Ugly Moses 5:16-41 Cain and the Curse of the Broken Covenant Bruce R. McConkie (Mormon Doctrine, p.108) “Though he was a rebel and an associate of Lucifer in pre-existence and though he was a liar from the beginning whose name was perdition, Cain managed to attain the privilege of mortal birth. Under Adam's tutelage, he began in this life to serve God. He understood the gospel and the plan of salvation, was baptized, received the priesthood, had a perfect knowledge of the position and perfection of God, and talked personally with Deity. Then he came out in open rebellion, fought God, worshiped Lucifer, and slew Abel.” Joseph Smith (Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, p.58) “Cain offered of the fruit of the ground, and was not accepted, because he could not do it in faith.... with an eye looking forward in faith on the power of that great Sacrifice [of the Son of God] for a remission of sins.” What was the Curse of Cain? End