Abdullah ibn Mas’u d asked the Prophet (saws): O
Prophet
Allah,to
which
deed is the
best deed
the
A manofcame
the Prophet
(saws)
and insaid:
sight
of Allah,
the Prophet
(saws) replied:
“The prayer
‘Shall
I participate
in Jihaad?
The Prophet
which
is offered
at the
appointed
Ibn Mas’ud
(saws)
said: Are
your
parentshour”.
still alive?
The
asked for the next best deed. The Prophet (saws) said:
man said, ‘Yes’. The Prophet (saws) said:
“Being kind towards your father and mother”. Ibn
‘Looking
is the
yournext
Jihad’.
Mas’ud
thenafter
askedthem
the for
best deed
and the Prophet (saws) replied:
“Jihad in the way of Allah”.
The Prophet (saws) said: “Should I inform you of
Thegreatest
Prophetof(saws)
said:sins?”
“There
aresaid,
three“Yes,
the
all major
They
people
whom Allah He
willsaid,
not look
at on
the
O
Allah’stoMessenger!”
“To join
others
Day
of Judgement:
the one
disobedient
in worship
with Allah
and who
to beisundutiful
to
to one’s parent,
a woman
who imitates men
one’s
parents...”
and an husband
who“Allah
agrees
to commit
The Prophet
(saws) said:
curses
whoever
adultery”.
curses his/ her parents...”
[An-Nisa’i’]
[Sahih al-Bukhari]
• It means that When his father or mother asks him to
keep a promise, he does not fulfil it; when they order
him to do something, he disobeys their order; when
they ask him something, he refuses to give it to
them; and when they trust him with something, he
betrays them.
[Ad-Dahabi, “The Book of Al-Kabaair”]
2. Never raise your voice in front of them and
1. Talk to your parents politely with full
never give them an angry look.
devotion and always try to make them happy.
As
Allah commands us in Suratul Isra :23
The Prophet (saws) said: Allah is pleased with you if
...your
If one
or both
of them
oldAllah
age isin your
father
is pleased
withattain
you. And
displeased
with
father
is displeased but
with
life,
say not
to you,
themif your
a word
of disrespect,
you. [Tirmidhi]
speak to them a gracious word.
4.
3. Never
Discussliewith
to them,
themnor
in every
blame
matter.
them if they do
something that you do not like.
5. Answer their calls quickly, if they call you,
6. Apologize
to them
if you have disobeyed your
with a cheerful
smile.
Parents.
7. Treat your mother with best companionship,
then your father; because Paradise is under
the mother’s feet.
Allah (swt) says in the Qur’an:
“And We have commanded man to be kind towards his
parents. His mother bears him (in the womb) with pain and
gives birth to him with pain. And bearing him (in the womb)
and weaning of him (i.e. the period of pregnancy and feeding)
is (spread over) thirty months...”
[Suratul Ahqaf: 15]
8. Never make them angry, otherwise you will
live a miserable life in this world and in the
Hereafter and your children will treat you
likewise.
As the Prophet (saws) said: “Allah delays the punishment of all
sins until the Day of Judgement except for the disobedience of
parents. Allah punishes the one who is undutiful to his
parents before his death.
[Reported by Al- Hakim and Al- Asbahani]
9. Beg Allah to forgive your Parents.
O Allah, have mercy on them as they have brought me
up from childhood. O Allah, forgive me, my parents and
fellow muslims in the hereafter.
Example
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Continued
Example
Umar (r.a) then said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws)
say, 'Uways ibn Aamir will come to you with the delegations
Whenever
would
fromthen
Yemen,
(r.a)
ask
frompeople
Yemen,
fromcome
Muraad,
fromUmar
Qaran.
Hewould
was once
them,
"Isafflicted
Uways
Al-Qaranee
amongst
you?"
until,to
one
with leprosy
and his skin
healed
except
forhe
a
The
best
example
of showing
kindness
theyear,
parents
met
Uways. and he treats her kindly. If
dirham's
area.
He
has
a
mother,
was our great prophet. Muhammad (S.A.W.S). Even
he was he
to ever
swear
by Allahin(for
something)
Allah
would
though
lost
his
parents
the
early
age
but
still he
He
said,
"Are
you
Uways
Al-Qaranee?"
He
said,
"Yes."
fulfill his oath. If you can, request that he ask forgiveness for
showed
the "From
same Muraad,
kindnessthen
to his uncle, Abu Talib.
`Umar
continued,
you." Qaran?" He said, "Yes."
`Umar`Umar
then asked,
"Were youfrom
onceUways,
afflicted
with
leprosy and
then requested
"Ask
forgiveness
foryour
me."
skin healed except for
dirham's
area?" Uways
Anda Uways
Al-Qaranee
did. said, "Yes."
`Umar finally asked, "Do you have a mother (that is alive)?" He
said, "Yes."
Example # 3
The Prophet (saws) said: I entered Paradise and
heard someone reciting, I asked: Who is
reciting? It was said to me: ‘Haritha Ibn an
Nu’man’. The messenger of Allah then said:
“That is because of his kindness to his
mother”.
O Allah, You know that I had old parents whom I
kepttowaiting
had
become
dawn.every
O
used
provideuntil
withitthe
milk
of my sheep
Allah!
If You
that I so
didbythat
the
night.
One
nightconsider
I was delayed,
thefor
time
I had
fear
you,
then please
remove
the rock.
...Continued
Example
# of
4 my
come,
parents
were already
asleep,
whileSo
my
the
shifted
they
could
see the
wiferock
and was
children
wereand
crying
with
hunger.
But I
The entrance
Prophet
(saws)
said: and
Once
The
wastoclosed
these
sky.
decided not
let them
drink
until my parents had
three
people
were
and
itmy parents us from
three
people
could
not find
their
drunk
first.
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disliked
waking
started
they
decided
to
way raining.
out... SoSo
one
oftheir
them
said...
sleep.
So I...
take a shelter inside a cave.
Misconceptions about Parents!!!
The
• Itmost
is not
common
permissible
misconception
to celebrate
about
the so-called
parents is
Mother’s
the Day
celebration
and similar
of Mother’s
innovated
Day.
festivals
It is a because
The
Prophet
(saws) (SAWS)
said:
“You
will certainly
follow
the ways or
of
misconception,
the Prophet
which
limits
said:
“Whoever
the rights
of
innovates
Parents
to
those who came before you, handspan by handspan, cubit by
adds a new thing just
in Islam
one will
day.have it rejected.” He
cubit, until even if they entered the hole of a lizard, you will
(SAWS)
celebrate
Dayofand
neither
do
so too.”did
Thenot
Sahabas
asked,Mother’s
“O Messenger
Allaah,
do
did any
of hisand
companions
(r.a)He
ofsaid,
this “Who
ummah.
you mean
the Jews
the Christians?”
else?”.
Rather it is an innovation (bid’ah) and imitation of
the kuffaar.
The Story of a Father & Son