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 Patient or Edgy?

 Relaxed or Uptight?

 Permissive or Strict?

 Orderly or Messy?

 Fearful or Content?

 Active or Slow Paced?

 Task or Process

Oriented?

• What's Important to You?

• What "Pet Peeves" Do

You Have?

• What Values do You Lead

By?

• What's Your Greatest

Fear(s)?

• What are Your Struggles?

 Sleep

 Friendship

 Fun

 Medical/Physical

Health

 Exercise

 Quiet

 Intimacy

• Your Children

Cannot Rise Above

Your Health

• Put Your Oxygen

Mask on First

 Your Family of Origin

 Your Parents Style

 Your Birth Order

 Your Family Wounds

 Your Personal Traumas

 Your Unmet Needs

 Your Shame or

Failures

Our Past Has an

Influence on Us- Like it or

Not- But Don't Let it

Determine Our

Parenting

Your Happiness

Your Friendship

Your Intimacy

Your Conflicts

Your Parenting

The Family Can Be No Better

Than The Marriage Within It

Children are Barometers of the Family Atmosphere

 That You are Not Enough?

 You are Not a Good Mom?

 A Bad Parent?

 Have to Have the Answers?

 You Have to Fix It? Control It?

 You Don't Have a Voice?

 It's Your Fault?

You Have Made

"Agreements" with "The

Father of Lies"… When

We Come to Believe the

Lies About Ourselves,

Life, & God- We are

Comfortable with Them

The Truth About Us is

Found in Scripture- So

Make Agreements with

God http://youaremygirls.com/

31-days-made/

 Who Do You Lean

On?

 Where is God in Your

Struggle?

 In Your Joy?

 In Your Parenting?

You Can't Parent

Alone

A God-Centered

Perspective Leads

Parenting in Healthy

Ways

Children are Gifts and

Opportunities for

Personal Growth…

Teaching

Unselfishness (I

Tim.2:15), Deference

(Eph.5:21), and Love

(Titus 2:4)

 Traits inborn- not the result of parenting

 Traits that are clear by 1 st grade remain for life (typically)

 Some traits clear from 1 st week of life

• Rhythmic or

Haphazard?

• Active or Relaxed?

• Sensory Sensitive or

Not?

• Persistent or Give Up?

• Intense or Easy Going?

• Negative or Positive?

• Introvert or Extravert?

• Slow to Warm or

Quick?

1. Cognitive

(Piaget)

2. Moral

(Kohlberg)

3. Faith (Fowler)

Talents

Gifts

Interests

Skills

Weaknesses

Special Needs

• An Honest

Acceptance of Your

Child’s Uniqueness

Foster Greater

Nurturing & Growth

• Tend to Special

Needs…

• Nurture What is

Already There…

• Find “Island of

Competence”

a. Grace

• There is no rulebook

• There are guidelines-

Prov.22:6:Training

• We all have wounds… you can’t stop your child from experiencing them

• You have influencenot ultimate power

• Kids grow up in spite of you

• Safety- Security

• Love- Relationships

(I Cor.13)

• Food, clothing, shelter

• Rules- Expectations

• ??

(Basics)

• Truth in love (Eph.4:15)

• Speak to their level

• Speak truth about success

• Speak truth about love

• Speak truth about weaknesses- Failures

• Speak truth about God

b. Truth

Use words wisely

Timing

Level

Silence

Directness

More than Words

Model it-Your Life Says

More than Your Words

• You can’t force maturity

• You can’t skip stages of growth/development

• You can’t stop failure

• Teach/Train delayed gratification

• Teach/Train ability to adapt to change

c. Time

We Learn By Living:

• Watching you model

– providing an example

• Experiences teach us

– over and over and over again

• We need a coach more than a dictator

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