Johari Window Model speech ff ff fi fi Imagine a wheel in which you are at the hub or centre and each spoke represents a relationship with another person. It does not mean that you are being egoistical.It takes a lot of spokes to hold the wheel together. We can build strong relationships and have the spokes really strongly held when we build trust and be authentic. We all want to build relationships that done demand us to prove our worth and sit in anxiety. We all crave for natural connection where we can speak our heart out and the relationships that allow us to be us without being questioned.How does all this come to you? Ofcourse, by building trust and being authentic. I have a big arena or open area. Whenever I have a conversation with somebody they know that I am very open and friendly.I wouldn’t hesitate to start a conversation and I am strong and independent.Everybody know that I am easy going. You might put all the possible e orts in a relationship and It might still end or you may put al your heart and soul to prepare for an interview and still get rejected, you might work really hard for a test and you might still fail. Some people get sad and never get over such things but I am really positive. I may feel sad for a moment but I always emerge as a winner.Everybody know I am dedicated, tough and consistent. My hidden areas are the things that I hide from others. This includes some of my secrets, past experiences, feelings and a lot more. One think I would share is that I always prioritized my studies more than anything. I am a bookworm seriously. I used to spend about 19 hours of my day studying for an exam I really wanted to ace. I worked so hard but in January I got my visa for USA and I had to come here. Also, while I was studying I didn’t have time for my boyfriend which created space and we broke up. Now during this time I lost touch with my boyfriend and all other friends. I felt isolated ad fell into the web of depression. I didn’t feel like eating because I was someone who loved to be social and now I had not met anybody for the 2 years. I lost 12 kilograms of my weight in few days. Everybody felt like I had some blood infections or something but nobody tried to look at the pain behind my smile. I felt useless. I felt very isolated and stressed. This is something I never discussed with anybody yet but I chose to share this. The blindspots are the areas that I don’t know about myself but others know. These are the qualities that I have unconsciously demonstrated to other people. As we continue relating we tend to understand others more through the blind quadrant as we become aware of others and what they don’t know about themselves. This forms this base of understanding them well. Then the closeness grows and we move information from our blind quadrant to the open and we share it with others. Now that I know what my blindspots are , I have a greater insight into how others perceive me and it helps be communicate more e ectively and build relationships.I asked 5 people for feedback and describe me using 5 adjectives. Once somebody asked me for help but I couldn’t do that and they gave me the feedback that I am mean. Ok, yes I am mean. I don’t care. The described me as bold, con dent, intelligent, happy, trustworthy, proud and sympathetic.One of them described me as easy going. I have a weakness that I can never say no to anybody and due to this sometimes people take advantage of me and I knew that.One of my friends describes me as dominant and frank. I never knew this but now I know that this person perceives me like this, it will help me have a better relationship with her and now it is a part of my open arena. Unknown area is the fun zone. Time is always going to pass whether you do something or not.SO I would consider doing something challenging and have a routine for this because this will make your time, day more meaningful.Also, the more challenges you accept, the more con dent you will be and this will help you know a lot many things about you that nobody knew. You will realize your potential and you will make the best use of it and this way people will know about your potential. Then this become a part of the open area pushing the arena vertically (vertical push) and people will know you better. We need to communicate. When people don’t have enough time and communicate and have bigger hidden areas and blind spots, misunderstandings can occur and tensions can occur. Communication has to be disciplined regularly, just as we take vitamins regularly.Also, we need to have some friends who persuade us to stretch ourselves beyond what we think we can do.This is how we build better relationships. Back each other when things get tough. Expand the arena. Have healthier relationships. It takes time but its worth it. Whether it is a relationship or friendship, all bonds are based on trust. Without it, you have nothing. If you have trust and you are authentic, distance, time or space can not destroy this authentic connection. I would leave you guys to think about a question to my question that “ How much stronger your relationships could be if your blind spots and hidden areas were a part of open arena and if you worked together to build each other up. fi Feedback ; Feedback #1 (AK):- Bold, con dent, courageous, knowledgable, intelligent and happy. Feedback #2(RS):- Dominating, approachable, easy going, emotional, cheerful. Feedback #3 (HS):- Loyal, independent, bold, aware, happy and risk taker. Feedback #4(BU):- cheerful, Trustworthy, Proud, Self conscious and simple. Feedback #5 (JG):- Frank, Loving, Patient, Sympathetic, easy to take advantage of.
