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What is consent?
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consent is about communication.
Consent is an agreement between
participants to engage in sexual activity.
There are many ways to give consent,
and some of those are discussed below.
Consent doesn’t have to be verbal, but
verbally agreeing to different sexual
activities can help both you and your
partner respect each other’s boundaries.
What is sexual assault?
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Sexual assault is a crime of power and control. The
term sexual assault refers to sexual contact or
behavior that occurs without explicit consent of the
victim. Some forms of sexual assault include:
Penetration of the victim’s body, also known as rape
Attempted rape
Forcing a victim to perform sexual acts, such as oral
sex or penetrating the perpetrator’s body
Fondling or unwanted sexual touching
What is Rape?
RAPE – forced sexual intercourse.
“force” can be physical, psychological; or having
sex with a person who is unconscious or
incapacitated for ANY reason including the
influence of drugs or alcohol.
This includes deliberately intoxicating someone
in order to have sex with them is wrong.
Consent HAS TO BE sober consent.
Things in common to all types
of sexual abuse:
Individual is violated
 Boundaries broken
 Person feels victimized/powerless
 Person can go into
shock/denial/repression
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Society may say…
There is a STIGMA –
been ‘touched’; not clean; no longer a
virgin
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 If she presses charges, has to re-live
details when testifying.
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If …
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We assume someone that wearing certain
clothes, flirting, or kissing is an invitation
for anything more
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Someone being incapacitated because of
drugs or alcohol
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Assuming you have permission to
engage in a sexual act because you’ve
done it in the past
Who are the perpetrators?
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The majority of perpetrators are
someone known to the victim.
Approximately 4 out of 5 of sexual
assaults are committed by someone
known to the victim, such as in the case
of intimate partner sexual
violence or acquaintance rape.
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The term “date rape” is sometimes used to to
refer to acquaintance rape. Perpetrators of
acquaintance rape might be a date, but they
could also be a classmate, a neighbor, a
friend’s significant other, or any number of
different roles. It’s important to remember that
dating, instances of past intimacy, or other
acts like kissing do not give someone consent
for increased or continued sexual contact.
In other instances the victim may not know the
perpetrator at all. This type of sexual violence
is sometimes referred to as stranger rape
Unhealed/ Un -dealt with
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Opposites ends of the spectrum
Repression
Promiscuity
How to Respond if Someone Is
Pressuring You
Have a coRemind yourself this isn’t
your fault.
 Trust your gut.
 Develop a code with friends or family that
means “I’m uncomfortable” or “I need
help.” It could be a series of numbers you
can text, like “311.” It might be a phrase you
say out loud such as, “I wish we took more
vacations.” This way you can communicate
your concern and get help without alerting
the person who is pressuring you.
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How can men who do not intend to rape
protect themselves from:
…false accusations of rape?
…“unintentionally” raping?