Objective:
•Discuss what constitutes helpful and harmful
relationships in your life.
•Determine what actions need to occur for a
healthy relationships.
•Apply skills learned this lesson to successfully
complete the ‘dinner party’ activity with
classmates
•
 Group
of people who are related to you by
blood, adoption or marriage
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Families relationships influence you and your
behavior. Parents and adults who raise you have
greatest influence
 Dysfunctional
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Family
Family that lacks skills to be successful and
function in healthy ways
 Ideal
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Family that has all the skills to be successful and
function in healthy way
 Family
Continuum
 Where would these families be on the
continuum????
 Action

Choose actions that promote healthy family
relationships
 Commitment

Make a promise to be a loving family member
 Time

Spend time with your family
 Healthful

Promote self respect promote productivity and
health is free of violence and/or drug use and
abuse
 Harmful
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One that harms self respect, interferes with
productivity and health and includes violence
and or drug abuse
 People

Seeks approval, do anything to be liked, like a
doormat
 The
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Pleaser
Enabler
Supports harmful behavior of other, makes excuses
for behavior of others, denies their own feelings
advice, takes over other peoples responsibility
 The
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Needy and dependent, chases and clings,
suffocates others
 The
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Clinger
Fixer
Fixes other peoples problems, quick to give
advice, takes over other peoples responsibility
 The
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Emotionally unavailable, avoids sharing feelings,
keeps people at arms length
 The

Controller
Possessive, jealous, domineering, does not
respect the will of others, demands on way
 The

Distancer
Center
Self centered, talks but does not listen, ignores
the needs of others
 The

Abusive, puts down others, threatens and
harms others
 The

Liar
Does not tell the truth, builds relationships on
lies, and manipulates others into responses
they want
 The

Abuser
Promise Breaker
Unreliable, makes plans and cancels them,
agrees to change behavior and does not do so.
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Dr. Phil http://www.youtub
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Mean Girls http://www.youtub
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related
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What did you see in
this clip?
Are there harmful
relationship profiles
in these clips? What
are they?
Did this ever
happen to you
before?
 On
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the back of your notes sheet:
Write down FIVE people that you would like to
have dinner with.
Must be able to explain why you choose these
five people.
The people –

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Can not be a relative or friend
Can be alive or deceased
 Within
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Compromise on five people to invite
to your dinner.
Your final 5 should be easy to defend
in front of the rest of the class
 On
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the paper provided –
Create a seating chart


your group –
five people invited with every group
member for dinner.
IF TIME PERMITS – create a dinner
menu…
Commitment
Communication
Compromise