Healthy
Relationships
Objectives:
To understand components of a healthy
relationship
State what is important to YOU in a
relationship – values and opinions
Articulate concrete ways to improve
upon negative situations and improve
relationships.
DHQ – Lesson 1:
• Besides a romantic relationship,
list 3 different types of
relationships…
Relationships
When I am with someone
else I need to feel:
________________.
A relationship is a bond or connection you have
with other people.
Evaluating a Relationship
Activity
•
The purpose of this activity is to heighten
awareness of what constitutes a good relationship
and to help you learn how to evaluate your own
relationships.
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Use this worksheet to evaluate any type of
relationship including a romantic relationship,
friendship, or family relationship.
•
Think of a relationship, past or present, that is
important to you and use this worksheet to
evaluate that relationship.
Scoring Your Worksheet
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One point for each “yes” response to questions 2,
3, 4, 6, 9, 11, 12, 13 and 14.
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One point for each “no” response to questions 1,
5, 7, 8 and 10.
What does the score
mean?
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1-3:
o
•
4-6:
o
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This relationship has problems that might be
resolved by working on honesty and
communication.
7-10:
o
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There are few constructive elements in this
relationship. You may want to think about your
reasons for continuing the relationship, or work
toward improving it.
There is the basis for a good relationship. Focus
on the positive elements and work on
improving the destructive ones.
10-14:
o
You're doing well and have what it takes to
build a successful and satisfying relationship.
Traits of a healthy
relationship
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Mutual respect
Caring
Honesty
Commitment
Three C’s of healthy
relationships
• Communication
• Cooperation
• Compromise
Codependent
Relationships
Codependency – making the relationship more
important to you than you are to yourself
• Trying to make the relationship work with someone
else who’s not trying
Behaviors of codependent people:
• Low self esteem
• Fixers
• People pleasers
• Fear abandonment
Relationships
• Healthful
o Promotes mutual respect, productivity, and health
(physical, emotional, mental and social)
o Free of violence, harmful behaviors, and drug use
Jim and Pam <3 (From The Office)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADgjbXzRNbg
• Harmful
o Harms self respect, interferes with productivity
and health (physical, emotional, mental, and
social)
o Includes violence and/or drug abuse, harmful
behaviors
Harmful Relationship
Profiles
• People Pleaser
o Seeks approval
o Does anything to be liked
o Acts like a “doormat”
• The Enabler
o Supports harmful behavior of others
o Makes excuses for behavior of others
o Takes over other peoples
responsibilities
Harmful Relationship
Profiles
• The Clinger
o Needy and dependent
o Chases and clings
o Suffocates others
• The Fixer
o Fixes other peoples problems
o Quick to give advice
o Takes over other peoples responsibilities
Harmful Relationship
Profiles
• The Distancer
o Emotionally unavailable
o Avoids sharing feelings
o Keeps people at an arms length away
• The Controller
o Possessive, jealous, and domineering
o Does not respect the will of others
o Demands one way
• The Center
o Self centered
o Talks but does not listen
o Ignores the needs of others
Harmful Relationship
Profiles
• The Abuser
o Abusive
o Puts down others
o Threatens and harms others
• The Liar
o Does not tell the truth
o Builds relationships on lies
o Manipulates others into responses they want
• The Promise Breaker
o Unreliable
o Makes plans and cancels them
o Agrees to change behavior and does not do so