Objective:
•Discuss what constitutes helpful and harmful
relationships in your life.
•Determine what actions need to occur for a
healthy relationship.
•Apply skills learned this lesson to successfully
complete the ‘dinner party’ activity with
classmates.
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In
your own words,
what would be your
definition of “family?”
 Group
of people who are related to you by
blood, adoption or marriage
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Family relationships influence you and your
behavior. Parents and adults who raise you have
the greatest influence.
 Dysfunctional
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Family
Family that lacks skills to be successful and
function in healthy ways
 Ideal
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Family that has all the skills to be successful and
function in healthy ways
 Family
Continuum
 Where would these families be on the
continuum????
 Healthful
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Promote self respect, productivity, and health
Free of violence and/or drug use and abuse
 Harmful
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Harms self respect, interferes with productivity
and health
Includes violence and or drug abuse
 Action
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Choose actions that promote healthy family
relationships
 Commitment
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Make a promise to be a loving family member
 Time
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Spend time with your family
 People
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Seeks approval
Does anything to be liked
Acts like a “doormat”
 The
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Pleaser
Enabler
Supports harmful behavior of others
Makes excuses for behavior of others
Takes over other peoples responsibilities
 The
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Needy and dependent
Chases and clings
Suffocates others
 The
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Clinger
Fixer
Fixes other peoples problems
Quick to give advice
Takes over other peoples responsibilities
 The
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Emotionally unavailable
Avoids sharing feelings
Keeps people at an arms length away
 The
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Controller
Possessive, jealous, and domineering
Does not respect the will of others
Demands one way
 The
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Distancer
Center
Self centered
Talks but does not listen
Ignores the needs of others
 The
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Abusive
Puts down others
Threatens and harms others
 The
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Liar
Does not tell the truth
Builds relationships on lies
Manipulates others into responses they want
 The
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Abuser
Promise Breaker
Unreliable
Makes plans and cancels them
Agrees to change behavior and does not do so
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Dr. Phil http://www.youtub
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Mean Girls http://www.youtub
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related
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What did you see in
this clip?
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Are there harmful
relationship profiles
in these clips? What
are they?
 On
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the back of your note sheet:
Write down FIVE people that you would like to
have dinner with.
Must be able to explain why you choose these
five people.
The people –
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Can not be a relative or friend
Can be alive or deceased
 Within
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Decide on five people to invite to
your dinner.
Your final 5 should be easy to defend
in front of the rest of the class
 On
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your group –
the paper provided –
Create a seating chart for dinner
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Includes the five people your group invited
and every group member.
Create a dinner menu
o Include appetizer, main course, and
dessert.
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Commitment
Communication
Compromise
(Cooperation)