why we do what we do
Student Affairs Division Retreat
6 Aug 2013
Sarah Gilbert, Holly Taylor, and Bill DiNome
6 Word Memoir
• WHY do you do what you do?
• What guides you?
• What is at the core of what you do?
• What do you do to stay connected to that core?
• Try not to use the word “student” in your memoir.
“Good
judgment
grows from
bad
judgment.”
6 Word Memoir
Loose examples:
“I love team building and banquets.”
“Eighteen year olds need our help.”
“Better than working in corporate America.”
Wit’s End Discussion
Shielding Yourself:
Activity Instructions
Plan. Work. Repeat.
Incentive!
Self-efficacy
Machiavellianism
Dan Ariely
Is this the fun part?
The misery of victory.
The misery of da feet.
Sisyphus
(Titian, c. 1549. Museo del Prado, Madrid, Spain )
The “Ikea” Effect
The “Ikea” Effect
Decision Time
“Each and every one of us as
individuals has a responsibility
to one another. None of us
would be here without the help of
someone else.”
—Alonzo Mourning, retired center for the
Miami Heat, two-time NBA Defensive Player
of the Year, kidney-disease survivor
"The rewards are going to come, but my happiness is just loving the
sport and having fun performing."
—Jackie Joyner Kersee, US multiple Olympian Gold Medalist in track & field
“Football doesn't build character…
… it reveals
character.”
—Mark Levy, former NFL, CFL coach,
Pro Football Hall of Fame
“Do your job and BELIEVE that
everyone else will do their job. The
selfish players are the ones who blame
other players for making mistakes and
pointing fingers.”
—Anthony Costanzo, 1st-round pick, 2011 NFL Draft,
Indianapolis Colts
“You have to train your mind to
stay positive. For myself, a lot of
positive visualization, a lot of positive
reinforcement will help your mind draw
back on that when you have another tough
time.”
—Mark Herzlich, NY Giants, 2008 ACC
Defensive Player of the Year, cancer survivor
Resilience
“
is accepting your new reality,
even if it's less good than the one you had
before.”
—Elizabeth Edwards
“If you're not having FUN,
then what the hell are you doing? "
—Allison Jones, six-time Paralympian
Medalist skier and cyclist
“To have long-term success as a
coach or in any position of
leadership, you have to be
in some way.”
—Pat Riley, Three-time NBA Coach of the
Year, Miami Heat Team President
“Commit to excellence, not perfection.”
—Brian Cain, mental conditioning coach
"Toughness
is in the soul and spirit,
not in muscles."
—Alex Karras, NFL player, wrestler, actor
"'Breathe, believe and battle.'
“My former coach, Troy Tanner, told us that before each match.
Breathe—be in the moment. Believe—have faith that
you can rise above it. Battle—you gotta be prepared
to go for as long as it takes."
—Kerri Walsh, two-time U.S. beach volleyball Olympic Gold Medalist
“You are never really playing an opponent.
You are playing yourself, your own highest standards,
and when you reach your limits, that is real joy.
—Arthur Ashe, World No. 1 professional tennis player
“Make sure your worst enemy doesn't live
between your own two ears.
—Laird Hamilton, professional big-wave surfer
"'This too shall pass' and, 'All you can do is your best.’
This has been a tough year of injuries for me. I've been saying
these a lot!"
—Susan Francia, 2008 USA rowing Gold Medalist
“Believe me, the
is not so great without the
."
—Wilma Rudolph, American three-time Olympic Gold Medalist, track &
field
"'Keep calm and carry on.'
A challenging time is just that—a period in time. Taking
a few deep breaths and knowing that it won't last
forever really allows me to focus on the present
moment and task at hand."
—Betsey Armstrong, 2008 water polo Olympic Silver Medalist
and goalkeeper for 2012 U.S. Women's Olympic Water Polo Team
“Inside of a ring or out, ain't nothing wrong with going down.
It's staying down that's wrong.”
—Muhammad Ali
Decision Time
MEANING
CHOICE
COMPETENCE
PROGRESS
“In the middle of difficulty
lies opportunity.”