Session one
gender
What is Gender?
Gender is:
“the socially constructed roles,
behaviours, activities, and attributes that
a given society considers appropriate for
men and women”
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World Health Organisation
The films and books we read and watch:
“I didn’t know if there
ever was a choice,
really. I was already
in too deep”
Bella Swan, Twilight,
Chapter 7, p.139
The goods we buy
The music we listen to
I'm Dre from back in the day from NWA from black and the
gray from choking a bitch to smacking her face from
Stacking up bodies to racking their kegs up from Racking
a bitch to, stacking them crates up
Eminem 2009
The way we have sex:
Should I be mad at my boyfriend looking at porn?
My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost a year. When we
first got together I noticed that he was looking at porn. I told him
how much I did not like it. It mad me feel as though I was not
attractive. … Well for about 3 months he stop looking at it. Then
he started back. I don't know what to do.. Should I talk to him or
just let it be?
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Let it be. You made yourself feel unattractive by irrationally
telling yourself that him looking at porn means he's not
attracted to you. Stop telling yourself such ridiculous
things. Men look at porn because it's interesting and fun. Do
you also think when he watches football that it means you're not
sporty enough? Of course not, and what you're telling yourself
about porn is just as silly as that would be.
The jokes we tell:
What's the odd thing out: meat, eggs, wife,
blowjob? Blowjob - because you can beat
your meat, eggs or wife, but you can't beat
a blowjob.
Life with a woman is like a pack of cards you need a heart to love one, you need a
diamond to marry one, you need club to
beat her and a spade to bury the bitch
WOMAN
MAN
OR
Male Physical Body
Female Physical Body
Male Gender Identity
Female Gender Identity
Masculine Behaviour
Feminine Behaviour
Gender is a spectrum
MAN?
WOMAN?
Session two
continuum of abuse
Allport’s scale
Session three
Intervention
Intervention is more than do or don’t
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If a friend is unhappy we might ask what’s wrong
If someone has taken their turn out of line we might
stop them
If we see someone struggling with a push chair, we
might ask if they need help
If someone’s being unfair, we might tell them they’re
out of order
We intervene all the time, but we might not
see it as intervention
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RECOGNISE
 Acknowledge the situation is making you
uncomfortable
 ASSESS
 What is happening?
 Is it safe for those involved?
 Is it safe for you? Emotionally and physically?
 RESPOND
 What can you do? Anything? Nothing?
Something in between?
Intervention can mean:
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Directly challenging
 Distracting
 Delegating
 Delaying
Direct
distract
intervention
Your safety is
paramount.
Delegate
Delay
•Directly challenge
•Approach someone directly and challenge their
behaviour
•Distract
•Try to distract the person from the situation
•Delegate
•Contact an authority figure
•Delay
•Look for a time when it’s more appropriate to challenge
Session four
Assertiveness and
intervention
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Passive
Passive people tend to back off until the
situation gets worse
 Aggressive
Aggressive people can often aggravate the
problem
 Assertive
Assertive people often handle difficult
situations and people well
Assertiveness
Assertiveness is the ‘co-operative’
approach to problem solving it takes into
account our needs and the needs of the
other person
Role play
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You’re at the cinema in a really long
queue and you have been waiting for a
while to get in. Someone jumps in front.
What do you do?
Assertive phrases
“when you….
 “the effects on me are…..
 “it makes me feel….”
 “I can hear what you’re saying…”
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Session five
Scenarios and strategies
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You’re at a party, and when you walk outside, you see a friend
of yours trying to get a drunk young woman to leave with him.
She’s really wasted; she’s stumbling over her own feet. You
know the young woman, and she seems reluctant.
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Is this any of my business? Guys and girls who are drinking
hook up all the time.....Then again, she looks really drunk.
Maybe she’s not in a position to make a good decision.....What
about him? Has he been drinking? Is he planning to drive? I
can’t ignore that, either....I know a lot of “date rape” involves
alcohol. Could this be one of those situations? But what if I’m
overreacting?
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Won’t my friend be mad at me? Will he even listen to me? But if
I don’t do something, I might be letting her down.
What should I do?
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You’re at a football match with your family and your
team are losing-badly. When the star player falls
over, you hear a close relative shouting “Get up you
fairy!”. Their homophobic abuse gets worse and
worse and you’re feeling pretty upset by all this. You
know this relative is a kind person normally.
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Should I say something? I know they’re normally
really kind hearted, they probably don’t mean it? But
what they’re saying isn’t ok.
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What should I do?
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You’re walking home and a young
woman is walking in front of you, you
stop at the traffic lights. A car pulls up
and three men lean out and start
shouting at her. She is clearly upset.
What do you do?